If You've Sexually Hurt Someone... This is How to Repair - with Papillon DeBoer

Sex Upgraded

This is a serious and sensitive episode... for any man who has ever hurt a woman - accidentally or otherwise. Specifically, for any man who has caused harm (myself included), and who wants to do better... Who wants to heal, offer repair, get humble, grow and become a better version of themselves.
There's no shaming in this episode... Papillon and I wanted to create this for all of the men who want to improve themselves, but don't know where to go or what resources to turn to.
EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:
00:00 Intro
01:28 Opening
03:02 Papillon's Professional Background
03:58 Sexual Assault & Crossing Boundaries
09:35 Self-Reflection on Causing Sexual Harm
14:47 Finding a Therapist to Talk with
17:40 Other Options to Help with Self-Reflection
21:28 Healing Without Contacting the Person You've Sexually Assaulted
29:21 Recognizing When We Have Harmed Another Person
35:56 Finding Space to Share And Reflect
38:25 What to Do If You Realize You Have Assaulted Someone
47:40 Centering The Survivor's Needs
52:56 Facing the Pain of the Realization
54:55 Can a Changed Person Be Seen in a New Light
57:02 Restorative Justice
58:54 Accountability and Developing Self-Awareness
1:05:33 Resources and Materials to Look Up
GENERATED EPISODE DESCRIPTION:
In this episode, Taylor explores how we can prioritize survivors' needs in sexual assault cases, with insights from returning guest, Papillon, a licensed clinical mental health counselor specializing in sexual trauma.
Discover scenarios where boundaries are crossed, emphasizing humility, growth, and understanding survivors' needs before personal desires. Delve into the challenges survivors face, the impact of public disclosure, and the potential for restorative justice processes.
Listen now, as Taylor and Papillon reflect on their past actions, and discuss learning from mistakes with empathy and accountability. The conversation touches on sociopathic tendencies, self-reflection, and finding support in affinity groups, offering condensed insights into the complexities of addressing sexual harm and promoting healing.
🔱 PAPILLON’S WEBSITE & RECOMMENDATIONS
🔸 Papillon's Website
🔸 Consent “Cup of Tea” Cartoon
🔸 Consent “Cup of Tea” Cartoon for Kids
🔸 Consent “Cup of Tea” Cartoon (Clean Version)
🔸 Feel free to send us more resources on this that you recommend.
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🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course
🔸 Semen Retention Mastery
🔱 TAYLOR'S FREE GUIDES:
🔸 Free 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge
🔸 Free Ejaculation Control Guide
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🔸 Website
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