Calmly Coping is an actionable self-improvement podcast for overthinkers with high-functioning anxiety. I'm your host, Tati Garcia, and I'm a licensed counselor specializing in anxiety treatment & a coach specializing in high-functioning anxiety. Do you appear calm and collected on the outside, but on the inside you are struggling, doubting, and overthinking? Calmly Coping is not about fixing you, it's about uncovering the amazing person that is already there (and that you are just too afrai ...
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I’m taking a break from my podcast, and in this episode I explain why. (And there may be some things you can learn from my story!) Mentioned in episode: Anxiety vs Intuition: https://www.becalmwithtati.com/anxiety-vs-intuition/ ——————— Calmly Coping is a self-improvement podcast for high achievers who struggle with high-functioning anxiety to help …
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High-functioning anxiety can show up a lot at work, and it’s important to recognize how to cope with it so you can prevent sliding into burnout, more stress, and frustration. Some of the ways high-functioning anxiety shows up at work that I’ll be talking about include: people-pleasing, overworking, putting too much pressure on yourself, poor bounda…
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On the outside, it might look like you’ve got it all together—work, family, exercise, meditation, the whole 'balanced' life. But what if I told you that balance, the way you’re doing it, might actually be hurting you? In this episode, we’re talking about when balance becomes unhealthy and how striving for perfection in your personal life can leave …
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Did you know you might be recreating your family dynamics at work—without even realizing it? The roles you played growing up could be influencing how you handle authority, conflict, and even your own needs in the workplace. In this episode, we’re breaking down how your upbringing shapes your behavior at work, and what you can do to change it. In th…
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Do you spend more time in your head thinking that you do feeling fully present in your life? Thinking about the future, planning for what’s to come, overthinking what you said during that meeting yesterday, and on and on and on… Thinking is powerful: it helps us reflect, process, and solve problems. But when you have trouble getting OUT of your hea…
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The Balance Between Self-Compassion And Discipline in Getting Things Done
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Getting things done. Many of us have learned to use discipline and tough love to get things done, despite the waning motivation we might experience. However, in recent years, research on self-compassion has demonstrated the benefits of being kind and understanding with yourself and how that can have a positive impact on your mental health, self-est…
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Evening Routine to Calm Your Mind & Disconnect from Work
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Is your mind still racing with work thoughts and to-do’s even after you go home or log off for the day? When your work is stressful and you haven’t set boundaries to not just physically separate, but to mentally separate your work from your personal life it can make it hard to be fully present for your loved ones, sleep at night, and actually enjoy…
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Do you ever find yourself constantly busy, even when you don’t need to be? What if this constant busyness isn’t just about getting things done, but about avoiding something deeper? In this episode, we’ll explore how overworking and constant productivity can be an unconscious form of avoidance, why it feels so rewarding and addictive, and what might…
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Have you ever felt like you’re doing everything right, but still feel like it’s not enough? Quiet quitting has been an increasing trend over the past few years: when employees do the minimum required by their job, without going above and beyond their duties. Are you feeling unmotivated at work: done with hustle culture, burnt-out, or frustrated tha…
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This episode we're diving into a crucial skill for any high-achieving professional: delegation. If you find yourself overwhelmed and stressed with too much on your plate, this episode is for you. I'll be sharing practical tips on how to delegate effectively to free up your time and reduce stress. In this episode, you will learn: 3 key steps to syst…
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How to Stop Seeking External Validation and Increase Your Self-Worth
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When you’re high-achieving, it can be easy to attach your self-worth to your accomplishments, and this includes the external validation you receive as a result of these accomplishments. This can look like only feeling good about yourself when you receive compliments, positive feedback, or any type of validation. The problem with this is that it lea…
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Your intuition is the inner voice that just knows, without having to reason consciously. It’s the gut feeling, the sense that you know what decision to make or when something (or someone) just doesn’t feel right. It’s not magic, but a product of your unconscious mind processing past information and experience. But sometimes anxiety can feel like a …
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If you're feeling overwhelmed, you're in the right place. Overwhelm can be triggered by a high workload, emotional stress, life transitions, information overload, and perfectionism, just to give a few examples. In today's episode, I'm going to share practical tips and insights to help you navigate those intense feelings of overwhelm, regain your ba…
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Burnout Recovery: How I help my clients go from overwhelmed to calm
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Are you feeling emotionally and physically exhausted from work and/or other responsibilities? Burnout can leave you feeling hopeless, drained, and stuck, but it doesn’t have to be that way. I specialize in helping clients recover from burnout so they can stop surviving and being thriving. Today, I'll share the strategy I use to help my clients go f…
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If you've been feeling constantly on edge, overwhelmed, anxious, or just stuck in a cycle of never-ending stress, then you might be functioning in survival mode. This can be exhausting and harmful to your mental and physical health. Stay tuned as I share my top therapist-approved tips to help you heal your nervous system so you can find calm and re…
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I can’t even begin to count the amount of times I’ve heard from people who just found me or are just beginning to work with me, “I’ve tried journaling but I don’t know how to do it!” Or, “Journaling just turns into a giant brain dump and I can write forever but then I feel like nothing changes.” If this sounds like you, then you are absolutely not …
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Imagine waking up every day feeling drained, anxious, and overwhelmed, all because of a tiny device in your pocket. Your phone, a source of constant negativity, comparison, and pressure to always be connected, is quietly destroying your mental health. In the next few minutes, I'll share how these subtle yet powerful effects impact you daily and sha…
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In honor of the 200th episode of Calmly Coping, I recorded this episode to address YOUR questions. During this episode, I’ll be covering: How to deal with constantly replaying conversations in your head How other people can heighten our own anxiety How to manage high-functioning anxiety symptoms for women during their period and coping with PMS sym…
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This is a guided affirmations exercise for perfectionism to help you overcome your all-or-nothing ways of thinking if you struggle with a fear of failure, making mistakes, procrastinating, overthinking things, and being hard on yourself because of the desire for perfection in everything you do. When repeated regularly, positive affirmations help to…
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5 Tips to Stop Rushing Through Your Life (for high achievers)
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If you find yourself perpetually rushing through your life from one task to the next, one event to the next, one milestone to the next, with a constant internal state of urgency and rushing, then this episode is for you. Maybe you look back on your day or on time with your loved ones and wonder: where was I? It’s possible you were so focused on get…
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Your morning can set the tone for the rest of your day. And when you’re feeling anxious and overwhelmed with life, it can be challenging to make time for a morning routine that helps you care for yourself and feel calm, productive, and present. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are my top tips to help you craft an ideal morning routine that …
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I Meditated 15 Minutes a Day for 30 Days: Here’s What Happened
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I have been meditating for the past 10 years on and off, and it is one of the things that has massively reduced my anxiety and improved my relationship with myself. But, for the past few months or so, I have fallen out of the habit of meditation. Because of that, I created a challenge for myself: meditate for at least 15 minutes for 30 days straigh…
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Having a difficult coworker can be challenging and interfere with your work satisfaction and possibly make it more difficult for you to get your own work done. We spend much of our time at work, therefore it can be powerful to know what to do when you have a difficult coworker, because sometimes just ignoring it or hoping it will get better isn’t e…
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It’s possible to transform from feeling overwhelmed with work and never having time to relax or for your personal life (including hobbies, relationships, etc.) to feeling calmer from within and having more time and energy for the things and people you love most. And it doesn’t require quitting your job or making huge external changes. These changes…
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Are you feeling inundated with to-do list tasks, responsibilities, and an incessantly busy schedule? It might feel like you never have time for yourself, and when you do have time, your mind is endlessly swirling with worries, overwhelming emotions, and more. It is possible to get a break from the incessant overwhelm you feel, and in this episode w…
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How to Relax (Without Feeling Like You’re Dropping the Ball)
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We’ve all been there: you know you need to relax and take a step back from work, but it’s so hard to actually put into practice. Your mind won’t stop racing with the tasks on your never-ending to-do list when you try to relax, and you worry about dropping the ball before you’ve even had the chance to step away. It doesn’t have to be this way, and y…
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STOP being so hard on yourself. I know that you think that being hard on yourself is helping you to get things done and is what you need to do in order to accomplish things. However, it's oftentimes the opposite of that. And even if you recognize that being hard on yourself isn't helping you, it can really be hard to get out of that pattern. In thi…
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Managing employees can be both rewarding and difficult; it can be difficult to set expectations, manage team performance, and make tough decisions under pressure, all while managing your own workload and responsibilities. This can lead to heightened anxiety and stress as a leader. In today’s episode, we're focusing on how to navigate these challeng…
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Feeling like the fear of failure is constantly whispering in your ear, telling you you're not good enough or that you're bound to fail? This fear can lead to anxiety, procrastination, and a desire to push yourself too hard or self-sabotage when taking steps towards your goals. In today’s episode, we're diving into this fear that holds us back, and …
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Do you ever find yourself caught in a whirlwind of worst-case scenario thoughts that seem to spiral out of control, especially when you're trying to focus or relax? It's like your mind is speeding on a track of worries, doubts, and what-ifs, making it hard to catch your breath or find peace. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone, and today's ep…
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Affirmations for Confidence and Self-Worth (for High-Achievers)
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Today I want to share a guided affirmations exercise for confidence and self-worth for high achievers to help you reprogram your mind if you struggle with self-doubt, overthinking, comparing yourself to others, and putting a lot of pressure on yourself. When you repeat positive affirmations, you are effectively rewiring your brain and creating new …
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Coping With Stress and Anxiety When You’re Self-Employed
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Whether you are an entrepreneur or freelancer, have a brick-and-mortar or online business, sell products or provide services, or are an influencer or content creator, there are many unique challenges that come with being self-employed. Facing the pressures of customer or client demands, financial uncertainty, and the solitude of working independent…
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Feeling Overwhelmed With Work? Simple Tips To Reduce Work Stress.
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Feeling buried under a mountain of tasks and deadlines? Struggling to catch your breath in the relentless whirlwind of work demands? If you're feeling overwhelmed with work, you're not alone. In this episode of Calmly Coping, we're diving deep into the challenges of work overload and the toll it can take on your well-being. I’ll be giving you a pep…
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Do you feel like your life revolves entirely around your career? Do you find yourself tirelessly working towards success, yet struggle to define who you are outside of your job? If you're nodding along, you're not alone. Many ambitious professionals face the challenge of maintaining work-life balance and discovering an identity beyond their careers…
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In today’s episode, we’re going to talk about why high-functioning anxiety is a breeding ground for burnout, and what you can do about it. If you struggle with high-functioning anxiety and are feeling burnt-out, or fear that you’re heading towards burnout, then this episode is perfect for you. In this episode, you will learn: The warning signs of b…
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Have you been procrastinating going to therapy? Maybe you are in a place where you’re struggling: you’re burnt-out, overwhelmed, anxious, depressed, or all of the above… and you know therapy might help, but you just haven’t taken the leap. It feels hard to take that first step and there are so many fears that arise and rationalizations that make it…
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Have you ever found yourself caught in a cycle of taking out your stress and frustration on the ones you love? Maybe you're familiar with the guilt that follows, yet the pattern seems challenging to break. It's a common struggle—one that impacts relationships and takes a toll on your well-being. In today's episode, we're diving into the intricacies…
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How I Maintain Work-Life Balance As An Entrepreneur Who Works From Home
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As an entrepreneur who works from home, it is very important for me to maintain certain boundaries in order to protect my time, energy, mental health, and relationships and so I can put my best into both my career and my personal life. This is something that I have refined over the years since I started working from home full-time as of March 2020 …
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What To Do When You Can’t Sleep (because of overthinking)
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We all know how important sleep is to help us function better in our daily lives: to have improved focus, energy, and motivation. But did you know that sleep is also incredibly important for your mental health? Sleep deprivation is associated with an increase in anxiety and depressive symptoms, including an increase in expecting the worst-case scen…
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High-functioning anxiety isn’t always just incessant overthinking or sleepless nights; sometimes, it shows up as the constant need to prove your worth, the subtle self-comparisons, or the relentless planning. These, often ever-present, behaviors and ways of thinking can be manifestations of your high-functioning anxiety. I’m a firm believer that aw…
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When It Never Feels Good Enough: The Double-Edged Sword of Ambition
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When you’re ambitious, you can find yourself caught in a perpetual cycle of striving for more, pushing boundaries, and yet, despite all accomplishments, wrestling with a nagging feeling of inadequacy and needing to achieve more. Why does each achievement feel like a fleeting victory rather than a lasting satisfaction? If you’ve ever felt the weight…
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Do You Put Too Much Pressure On Yourself? (Learn how to stop)
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Everybody puts pressure on themselves at one time or another. Pressure to be a better person, be healthier, do more work, be a better wife, husband, parent, the list goes on. But how much of this pressure is healthy, and how much of it just results in more stress, tension, and anxiety? In this episode, you will learn: How to know when you’re puttin…
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Those with high-functioning anxiety wear a mask of calm, perfectionism, success, and busyness on the outside to shroud the torrent of overthinking, self-doubt, overanalyzing, fear of failure, and insecurity on the inside. This mask often stays in place because the fear of “what if’s” keeps it there— what if I’m really not good enough? What if peopl…
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Perfectionism can be a double-edged sword: on the one hand, your high expectations and attention to detail can result in high quality work that is admired by others; on the other hand, your constant need for perfection can be exhausting— resulting in overthinking, overanalyzing, and being extremely hard on yourself. In this episode, I’ll be sharing…
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“I’ll rest when I finish this project… when I’m done with work for the day… when I’ve checked everything off my to-do list…” Sound familiar? You might have learned to believe that you need to EARN rest and relaxation, which can make it difficult to actually relax when you need to. When will you have accomplished enough to actually relax? When will …
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Achieving Success Without Sacrificing Your Mental Health
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Hustle culture. “I’ll sleep when I’m dead.” The expectation to work all hours of the day now that we can access work from anywhere. These are just a few things that have contributed to declines in mental health in workers, whether you are employed or self-employed. It’s the expectation that you must constantly be doing more, working harder, and tha…
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Are you experiencing the incessant internal monologue of self-doubt? It’s those negative thoughts that feed off of your insecurities and make you feel as though you can never do anything good or right. Self-doubt is when you lack confidence in yourself and your abilities, and it can sometimes be hard to ignore, resulting in a negative mindset, dwin…
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Performance anxiety: it’s the psychological and physical nervousness that occurs before and during a performance of any kind that can make it more challenging to focus, do your best, and feel confident in yourself. Performance anxiety affects up to 20% of Americans, including individuals who perform for a living and those who are in positions of le…
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In our hyper-productive culture, it can be incredibly easy to confuse being burnt out for laziness, because they can feel like one and the same. The problem is… it’s okay and necessary to be lazy every once in a while, but being in a state of burnout is NOT okay and is ultimately unsustainable, potentially leading to more serious mental health cons…
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You may be familiar with the fear of failure, but have you ever considered that you could be afraid of success? You might struggle with the fear of success, or "achievemephobia”, if you worry about the potential consequences that come with success: more exposure, more responsibility, more expectations, more pressure, the fear of maintaining it, and…
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