Shut Up and Listen - Matt Halloran

Your Next: A Guide to Finding Fulfillment After Your Exit Hosted by Jerome Myers

What does it mean to truly listen? In this thought-provoking conversation, Jerome Myers hosts Matt Halloran, author of Shut the F** Up and Listen*. Together, they uncover the transformative power of listening—not just hearing but engaging deeply to connect, persuade, and transform.

They explore the differences between manipulation and persuasion, dive into practical techniques for improving communication, and reflect on how engaged listening can create meaningful relationships, foster understanding, and even combat loneliness. Whether you're a leader, a salesperson, or someone seeking richer connections, this episode offers actionable insights for a more intentional approach to listening.

[00:00 - 05:48] The Power of Listening

• Difference Between Manipulation and Persuasion: Techniques overlap, but intent defines their ethical use
• Listening as a Skill: It’s not just innate-like a muscle, it requires deliberate practice
• Foundations of the Book: Inspired by personal experiences and a passion for communication

[05:49 - 12:15] Archetypes of Listening

• Skydivers vs. Scuba Divers: Depth and style of engagement vary by individual
• Practical Applications: Tailoring communication depth to the audience
• Listening as Observation: Recognizing others' styles to foster better interactions

[12:16 - 18:39] Engaged Listening in Action

• The Concept: Inspired by Thich Nhat Hanh’s engaged Buddhism, applied to listening
• Types of Listening: Understanding and practicing seven styles for fluid communication
• The Power of Presence: Techniques like eye contact, pace adjustment, and active empathy

[18:40 - 26:07] Listening to Persuade

• Persuasion vs. Manipulation: Using listening ethically to guide and inspire
• Stories of Contrast: Lessons from Matt’s manipulative father vs. empathetic mother
• Leadership Implications: Making team members feel heard fosters loyalty and productivity

[26:08 - 34:54] Addressing Loneliness through Listening

• Loneliness Epidemic: Especially among men, due to societal expectations
• Social Media’s Void: The lack of authentic engagement online
• Solutions Through Listening: Building deeper relationships by practicing vulnerability and presence

Key Quotes:

“Listening well is directly tied to the level of self-awareness you have.” – Jerome Myers

“Stop listening to respond and learn how to listen to listen.” – Matt Halloran

Connect with Matt!

Website: https://proudmouth.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthalloranpm/

Book (Shut the F** Up and Listen): https://a.co/d/7H0M452

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