104 Boundaries, Consent and Creating Safety with Touch. A Conversation with a Certified Cuddle Therapist with Keeley Shoup

Unapologetically Sensitive

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Boundaries, Consent and Creating Safety with Touch. A Conversation with a Certified Cuddle Therapist

GUEST

Keeley Shoup

EPISODE OVERVIEW

We underestimate the healing properties of touch, and the limitations of talk therapy. Keeley talks about the professional training to be a cuddle therapist. She rocks at communication, and setting clear expectations. We talk about awkward situations and how Keeley creates safety for her clients. Keeley provides 2 exercises where we can use touch with ourselves or our partners to stimulate our touch receptors and the release of oxytocin.

HIGHLIGHTS

Exercise for touch with a partner

1. set a timer for 3 minutes
   1. low risk
   2. very specific
2. specify where the touch will be

Exercise for touch if you’re alone

1. make an appointment with yourself
2. set a timer for a specific amount of time (3-5 minutes)
   1. the visual representation of touch stimulates touch receptors, which trick the body into activating mirror neurons
3. find a video on YouTube that shows healthy touch

Ways to experience self-love:

• learn your love language and give yourself gifts in your love language
• give yourself the gift of time
• how can you give yourself what you’d like to receive?
• Read a book
• Listen to calming music

GUEST

Keeley Shoup is a certified Cuddle Therapist based in Chicago. She is also a certified Cuddle Party facilitator and a boundaries and consent educator.

PODCAST HOST

Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and Coach. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other HSPs know that they aren’t alone, and that being an HSP has amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors us

LINKS

Keeley’s Links

Website—www.chicagocuddletherapy.com

Instagram—www.instagram.com/cuddlekeeley

Tik Tok--@chicagocuddletherapy

Cuddling programs:

www.cuddlist.com

www.cuddlesanctuary.com

www.cerifiedcuddlers.com

Resources on healing touch— https://bettymartin.org/

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Patricia’s Links

HSP Online Course--https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/

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