Time To Talk with Jen - Jennifer Graziano and Tim Judge

Time to Talk with Jen Graziano

(180) Time To Talk with Jen - Jennifer Graziano and Tim Judge - YouTube
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(00:03) foreign good morning Westchester it's 9 A.M on Monday and that means it's time to talk with me Jen Graziano I'm a licensed funeral director who oversees my family's funeral homes Cox and garciano of both Mamaroneck and Greenwich and the Zion Memorial Chapel of Westchester every Monday I come to you discussing important topics and sensitive matters that all of us need to pause and reflect upon at some point and through this show I hope to provide a platform to do so so we hope that you're listening this
(00:44) morning on 1460 wvox Whitney Global Media Station as we will take your questions comments and calls to 914-636-0110 looks like a party in the control room good morning to everybody in there led by Vinnie and good morning Facebook live viewers happy to have you on this beautiful Monday the man in front of the camera today Tim judge Greenwich local.
(01:11) com has come to chat with me a little different format today rather than a guest come on we're going to talk to you about a lot of issues that are impacting the senior community and like I said we want you to join in the conversation so if you're listening on Facebook live share your comments below as Tim will Monitor and we encourage phone lines to call to have people call in good morning Tim good morning and since you gave me this opportunity I'm going to say that we are on Facebook live we're on
(01:39) YouTube live we're also streaming into Twitter on the Greenwich local page um and then we also added podcasts you can find on uh time to talk with jen.com but we added Apple podcast just this weekend so Apple podcast I think we've arrived we're on Apple Apple Amazon music uh all the good ones so if you want to listen in afterward you can always find it on your favorite podcast yes and people can go and sign up for the podcast on time to talk with Jen.
(02:13) com and you know Shameless promotion for the show though we really do talk about issues that will affect everyone at some point and the guests that have come on to discuss those issues have really presented the information in a very clear concise tangible understandable way so we encourage you also to go back and listen to past episodes where you can get great information on health advice Wellness advice legal advice um housing where to live where to downsize there's just been so much that we have spoken about uh over the past
(02:47) it's been almost 10 years here eight years have been a long time I've only probably been doing the video for the last five or so but I learned something every time I come on so I encourage everyone to get on Facebook or the YouTube and watch a past show if you want to see that guest again or you have somebody else you want to suggest just put it in the comments and we'll try and make it happen absolutely I have to tell you I won't uh this story kept coming across the ticker this morning on the Morning Show but New York City is
(03:18) sinking yes not to start this Monday off on a bad news note but New York City is thinking studies say at the same rate as Venice Italy so I'm just hoping the gondola Transportation will be a little easier than driving down the West Side Highway it's a good thing I come from a big family of swimmers no but you know so they attribute the pressure from New York City's massive buildings and skyscrapers is making the city more vulnerable to sinking lower into the ocean according to new research it makes
(03:50) so much sense yeah and but when you see this massive development I'm all for progress and development and forward-thinking but you know look at our Suburban landscape and how that has changed so it's interesting that we're still putting up these skyscrapers these massive buildings at significant rates in New York City but yet when you drive through communities like Mamaroneck they're really unrecognizable and your shell as well I mean this housing boom but the housing of a different nature it's
(04:21) housing that's really looking to attract the Manhattanite to come up and it's transforming these Suburban communities into bedroom communities and we've actually had shows discussing how that impacts our seniors you know these are not buildings conducive to Senior Living these great big skyscrapers um massive structures there are beautiful they're impressive but changing the Suburban landscape for sure Tim you're a lifelong a long-time New Rochelle resident you grew up here born and raised in our show what are what are
(04:52) the differences that you know oh I've been driving around downtown and uh it's amazing how different it has changed I remember the movie theaters that were all along RKO and the Town Theater and all that stuff that went on I went to West Sacramento High School which doesn't exist now um right there so I spent a lot of time downtown it's worlds different than it used to be um and then there's all these you know very large buildings coming up um I hope they don't have to sink problems that's
(05:20) that's true but um you know a good amount of people downtown will help keep that a vibrant downtown I remember you know going to the mall down in New Rochelle when I was young and I remember that everyone closed and it seemed like it was a ghost town down so you need some balance and nurse shell is a good size but then I think you also might be referring to the governor was trying to set the stage for um a lot of development around train stations to get the commuters to be um spread out and then of course you
(05:54) know feeding uh New York City with workers and then being able to you know to get out of the city and then explore these towns up here so um there's there has to be some kind of balance but you started out with thinking we want to make sure they're all built solidly and I'm going to bring up the fact that there was an earthquake uh last weekend cannot believe well actually the epicenter was in um Hastings I think but there is an um I was reading there's a sizable fault line that's right
(06:23) um right on where Dots Ferry is located and it was a 2.2 on the record scale it brought back memories of that 1984 that I remember people I spoke to you know share that equally um that was that was allowed that was the tremble I was very young but I remember my mother very panicked about that um Tim do they say that it's a precursor to more to come I mean do you often have the minor one before a more well uh aftershocks and and some showing something before but we it's very rare for us around here uh we did look that
(07:05) up this weekend with the kids you know how often Westchester has had some uh stuff but there was something in New Jersey which was rated on the Richter scale like 5.0 uh yes back in the 1700s or something like that um after that you know if you don't hit over three it doesn't really last too much doesn't really register too much but 1984 one was significant I would say I was in a bunk bed and uh we I think you have a problem uh is that right um I was in a bunk bed and I was yelling
(07:36) at my brother uh I said what are you doing stop moving around he's like it's not me well the things you remember good morning we have Jim on the line thanks for joining us Jim Lauren how are you oh you should have said just Jim yeah the Earth is always shaking when Graziano was on the radio so that's a good thing so uh anyway yes you know I just on downtown uh there were two cars that flipped over this weekend uh which is uh you know just think of the marines versus downtown no every store is still
(08:15) and not with a high rise and any new building that comes in they should make the developers have a signed retail lease because their bonus was reset will come we had the RPO theater in the Lowe's theater and no one talks about it but that was nothing is going on there and that's you know they again I'm not like that I bring it up but I live in the old Bloomingdale building so ownership the USPS your dollar down in temp for the long-term sake of an intergeneration to Rochelle in New York and why people love the village of
(08:51) America if they do not throw up high rises there were 40 floods in the rxr building on Clinton there was a shooting into the 360 building there's a lot of stuff that um all the Glitters Is Not you know so high rises are uh you know how many high rises you're gonna stuff in and now Manhattan is thinking right before it came out in the time and you know at what point the infrastructure we have a big state so that you know you learn a fancy term called Transit-oriented development you send everybody
(09:22) in you have a pandemic no one wants to go in anymore the gift of Mamaroneck is used in and Tim where you're from and the people and you know that's the uh we're in the middle of uh Main Street is a nightmare to drive so needless to say I have a few opinions uh but I you know that there's going to be five more years of construction there and it's still in the small businesses who've been there for 30.
(09:52) and there's a lot downtown there's a lot of great people that biggest fallacy they say is there's nothing downtown and that's a real slap in the face of all of us so but anyway I I want to throw my two cents in on that and uh I appreciate it Jim I I do and you know it's funny New Rochelle has just this year to my heart as Mamaroneck I actually grew up in New Rochelle but my mother's family was from New Rochelle so I spent most of my childhood on the west end on 7th and Washington and again another area that's unrecognizable and like we say you know
(10:22) everyone's for development and thriving and keeping Communities going but the character of a community has certainly changed I mean the last street fair that I did in Mamaroneck um I was pregnant so 11 years ago and it's a different place and you know even but they've kept that small town feeling charmed I do agree the industry has to build yes and so everyone thinks they have to build Oz for their legacy and you know the legacy of the history we have amazing history from Romantics in our Channel Mount
(10:59) Vernon you know when you knock down historic buildings and created transient population there's no connectivity yeah like the way the West End has connectivity we start throwing up high rises over there all that goes so anyway it's uh you know the uh all the goodness Is Not Gold and I I just said but I think we need a moratorium on buildings I think we have enough and then any new building that comes in should have a signed lease from a realtor otherwise it's all been fake
(11:29) marketing and uh you know that during this time everyone's running for office I think those could be big issues for like if I gave you a small business loan or use him a small business loan in a minute you can fill any store in the Marine up and Rochelle because you know everybody and that's the gift of every unique community building on the talents of the people and not and so anyway enough said God bless you guys thank you for listening and thanks for all that you do as well great guy Jim Floren all
(11:59) right my friends bye-bye you know Jim was instrumental in leading the rebuilding of the Meredith following the devastating flooding in 2007 with his efforts from Habitat for Humanity so just a great guy just Jim you know speaking of local communities there was um an article that I read in the Westchester Rising um really it wrote the other day about a Soundview Summit police providing tips and encouraging protection for residents and communities against local and current scams so we always try to raise awareness to our senior community of
(12:37) wonderful population but a very vulnerable one and what the detectives from a try Municipal effort were addressing or some local scams to be aware of when we want to give mention to this now um and again if not for yourself but for your loved ones people you know who could be susceptible but those phone scams are back and they are Financial scams as well that they're tied in and this is the mo of how they do it um It's usually the phone call advising of a family injury or a family emergency they'll say you know Grandma or Uncle so
(13:13) and so I've been in an accident and they talk about an accident an arrest or an injury something of an urgent nature and then it's accompanied by the Urgent request to send money what they're saying though however is sometimes they're going one step farther to send an Uber to the house or someone in a car to come and collect the money so what they are encouraging this has been a long time problem is just really becoming more intricate in in the you know in the delivery of the scam um if anyone calls with that hang up the
(13:49) phone immediately contact your loved one to verify their whereabouts we've discussed this so many times on the show but scary to think Tim that they're actually sending someone in an Uber they're matching up the address and phone number sending someone to the Uber in an Uber to collect money scary situation it's gotten even worse than that because now with the capabilities of the audio transforming your granddaughter's voice and then having them back it up saying hey we have your daughter or child here yes and they can
(14:24) fake that voice if they've done videos like we're doing right now so we're putting ourselves out there so all they need is three or four minutes of this clip and they can clone my voice or phone yours and uh if your daughter has a tick-tock or anything else like that they can take their voice and then put that on the phone call to you saying oh yeah it's true I you know we need your help Grandma send you to know 500 get me out of this or 2 000 or whatever the crazy people but it's happened it's
(14:52) actually happened where a mother was scammed and the daughter's voice was used and it's incredibly dangerous so you know you Gotta Have a safe word or safe question with your kids so that they understand what's going on but kicking back a generation to grandparents you know you all often you might not have that's a great idea you might not have that safe word so again hang up the phone if something seems suspicious or if somebody's calling you in a panic thinking about it
(15:18) you know if a grandchild was in an urgent situation the grandparent probably wouldn't be the first call they wouldn't be calling the grandparent to help them in a distressful situation well if they fake the voice and it says we can't reach Mommy right well true but hang up and verify independently verified while your children call your grandchildren just verify do not ever give information over the phone don't give your location over the phone don't get whereabouts don't give Social Security numbers everywhere
(15:51) again this Summit that um in The Soundview area was held by police to provide tips on personal protection this was a big thing that came out again scammers are becoming more sophisticated nowadays and artificial intelligence allows them to do just that so they always you know protect your information your identity it's so important um you know they also talk about scams using the internet it's such a ready way for identity theft um and appropriation uh so if you have a computer if you're connected to the internet make sure that
(16:29) someone has helped you put in firewalls and other Protections in there to protect against viruses and scammers you have to protect yourself on all fronts and this is new to all of us even me I didn't grow up in a computer Generation Um so it's something that we all need to learn but it's important to have trusted people around you helping you navigate this so if you're a computer savvy senior that's great but make sure you have the necessary safeguards in place on your devices Tim are there other
(17:00) aside from you know firewall protections um and the virus protectors is there anything that you can do to protect your phone protect tablets to protect the iPads um yes there's one that I use that's called CC Cleaner uh and that would erase a lot of um malware that uh and it's only 20 bucks a year and I run that probably weekly um but definitely a couple of times a month and that just flushes out a lot of things that are monitoring and retargeting you all that kind of stuff that happens when you're online how did
(17:36) they know um you know that you visited a certain website or whatever uh they put cookies on your software but again one of the easiest things to do is if you just if your email gets out there you start getting emails from Home Depot or whatever it is and you know to click on this to get a gift card and yeah all that stuff that stalls the cookies and malware on your system so you really have to flush that out and then don't ever click on all that stuff absolutely and I signed up for something directly from that website if you just
(18:08) get random emails don't go for it at all and that's the message you know not just for our seniors but for our youth as well kids are so susceptible and the way they just Target them I see it myself with my daughter and like you know purchases that she's made through Apple it's they're not easy to undo either so but you know continuing the conversation um of you know challenges for elderly as we talk about these scams being one of them but um an art a Blog online that was uh from a Home Care Agency talked about what are
(18:42) the biggest challenges and problems for elderly people in our society and you know there are some that are so obvious um and some that maybe are not so obvious that we should take a moment to think about and encourage our listeners and viewers to think about loved ones in your circle who might be going through this and hopefully we're raising awareness today but you know the biggest one they say Tim is ageism and a lost sense of purpose it makes so much sense but that's probably not the go-to one well probably if you were thinking about
(19:13) what challenges affect the elderly you're going to think health first and foremost or you know isolation you know as Mobility becomes a little more difficult and friends and loved ones pass away the circle gets smaller but ageism and a lost sense of purpose that's pretty deep um we talk about this a lot on the show as as though age is a blessing and a gift which is certainly is life can take so much away from you and if you don't have that reason to get out of bed in the morning if you don't have that
(19:43) purpose then it starts to create a whirlwind effect it's a physical health decline a mental health decline an emotional health decline um really really some food for thought today um you know and there are the article talks about there are a lot of outdated stereotypes about elderly people which lead to isolation and marginalization in a lot of communities um you know for example elderly people in the workforce there are still plenty of opportunities to stay in an active working situation even a part-time
(20:17) situation following retirement um there are you know but sometimes that stereotype might lead employers to not believe that so that's one example of how that marginalization can happen you know many elderly people are more able and willing to work today past this standard retirement age because the cost of living let's face it is so much higher it often becomes a necessity to work but the opportunities are not there um I think that often contributes to lack of purpose if you want to do something and you're able to do
(20:51) something but you're not allowed to do something that uh again Tim that's just the sad reality of our world today well I think uh you have to be ready to reinvent yourself and that's a big step to do so people analyze you you know what was their past life before they retired and of course taking care of your kids if you were blessed with them and watching them grow up and then you got to reinvent yourself and get out there and try new things and that's so with a daunting task when
(21:26) you're approaching the senior level you know what I think this is but you know to make the seniors feel better I think it's a daunting task at any age it is I think that every decade we're a new version of ourselves and it's hard to start over there's so much comfort and familiarity but what I'm saying is that the wisdom that you have it can be you know when you're young and don't know what you don't know you go and try things with much greater ease yeah and uh I just see that um you know and even
(21:53) for myself you know striking out on New Adventures um you know knowing all the things you know that could go wrong or what could you know you get analysis paralysis and you know yeah so you know you wonder oh do I want to start that do I want to go down that road you know uh how long is that road that kind of stuff is perplexing so you uh you know might catch yourself just waiting rather than diving right rather than doing well I can tell you from an employer perspective um there are often many situations that
(22:27) I would you know rather the wisdom of an older person you know in my line of work and actually we do run the gamut we have um our drivers and the men who open the door and the funeral home are historical of an older generation and I think it's wonderful the work ethic that they have when I pay to tear them up to a younger kid that comes on to do that job the disparity is amazing I mean it's just the attention to detail the focus you know not on the cell phone actually working so you know we do
(22:57) encourage if you can work get out there and work find something and if you're discouraged by the first place you go keep trying there are opportunities out there and that also contributes to cognitive Health staying busy staying active working keeping yourself sharp really contributes to better cognitive health and cognitive Health yields better physical health it goes hand in hand the mind and body are one system so definitely some good food for thought there you mentioned like being a mentor I I think that's a fantastic thing and
(23:32) you know it's very hard to Mentor your own children um take someone else's child yeah just swap kids and say you know do what you can with this one um Rachel I really believe there should be connections between you know schools and Senior Communities because they're you know seniors have great stories to tell and there's so much that can be learned from them um they those who are blessed to be of advanced age now really live in a world and I'm sure they never were able to foresee um I wasn't able to foresee it I'm in my
(24:04) 40s so I I can't imagine people living here 70s 80s and 90s what their perspective might be but share the wisdom with the youth that's my advice today to any seniors who are listening because you certainly need a lot of help in this culture for sure but other concerns that senior have you know finding the right care Access to Health Care Services end of life preparation you know we'll take the final minute or so here we do encourage you to make a plan that's always been the focus of the show and that's a health care plan a
(24:36) legal plan and a final funeral plan as hard as it is to think about your kids and your loved ones will never guess what you wanted so it's so much better if you tell them to take the moment to have that hard conversation and once it's done it's done you put it away you put the discussion to rest but you know it really ultimately is a beautiful thing to leave behind to your loved ones is the gift of clarity and knowing what your intentions are and allowing them to focus on their grief and focus on the
(25:05) loss and not on those decision-making tasks so a little Public Service Announcement absolutely but again the goal of the show is really to raise awareness to educate and to really let you know that making plans and aging well is part of life but the goal is to really bring guests on that will help you age well be at ease think better have more information and education because education is key to making great decisions hi Patty you are on oh thank you, Patty, always great feedback from you and you're wonderful too and I love you
(25:40) and I hope that you and your family are well time flies when you're having fun Tim right thank you for commenting Patty there's always so much to talk about and stay tuned we are so happy to bring this show to you every week and my home on wvox and now we're home on many local podcasts or podcasts in general check us out on Apple and Spotify sign up for the show on time to talk with jen.
(26:04) com Thanks everyone in the control room this is Jen Graziano thank you for taking the time to listen as we took the time to talk thank you very much Tim have a great day everyone bye-bye foreign [Music]