Trauma Survivor Vs Victim Vs Acceptance-S03E20

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Recorded: 11/08/2020 / Published to Podcast: 5/17/2021
In this episode of The Krypt Mayfair and I have a very special guest on the show to talk about Trauma and the community. She is a Sr. Producer and the administrator of the Patreon producer’s only Discord Community, xEmeraldxWolfx!
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- “Trauma and Community: Survivor Vs Victim Vs Acceptance-S03E20”
- By xEmeraldxWolfx https://fetlife.com/users/7081106/posts/6698137
- I recently attended a munch where part of the focus of conversation revolved around trauma. How we handle it, the mindset we have, where we can get stuck, and just the general approach different people have. I am sure we can all identify or are familiar with people in the various stages or mindsets of processing trauma. The stages were outlined as victim, survivor, and acceptance. Most of us can look back at our lives and recognize when we have experienced one mindset or another, but for some reason, some people never move on from one or another and get stuck there. I am not an expert and I don’t think I can relate to what was explained in a clear concise manner. That being said, this is my understanding of the 3 stages and I wanted to get them out, get some feedback, and see if others have anything to add.
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- We’ve all experienced some level of trauma: death of a loved one, physical and/or emotional abuse, sexual assault, violation of limits, etc.
- A: What do you think lies within those who are able to move past it and into acceptance?
- B: What do you think it is about the victim and survivor mentalities that cause people to get stuck here?
- Do you think it is possible for people to move forward if they have plateaued in one of those two mentalities?
What is your biggest piece of advice when talking with people that seem to “stuck” as a victim or as a survivor?
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