Why Self-Leadership is More Effective Than Being Held Accountable [191]

Flying Free

How do you feel about accountability? Like it, love it, want some more of it?

Or maybe it’s like medicine to you — icky but necessary.

Hold on to your booty, cause I’ve got an opinion on it too.

I think it’s a made-up practice that got a “virtue” sticker slapped on it. I think it arrests our development into emotional adulthood. In fact, I’d say accountability does more harm than good.

And it can never match the power of internal motivation for true, lasting life change.

Christian accountability conditions us to believe:

• We are helpless and foolish
• We don’t have the capacity for self-motivation or self-leadership
• We have to be externally motivated by something outside of ourselves (like pain or the humiliation of confessing our faults/sins/failures)
• We can't make our own decisions
• We have to get guidance from and obey other people (who usually have penises)
• We are flirting with danger if we think independently

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