What Does It Mean to Find Yourself After Getting Out of an Abusive Relationship? [173]

Flying Free

It’s a thief.

Abuse robs us of the truth about ourselves.

Abuse steals our sense of safety.

Abuse consumes our time and energy.

And when we’re overwhelmed by all that abuse has taken from us, we can’t focus on the future or growth or discovery—the things that feed our soul and nurture our lives.

So how do we find that little girl full of dreams again? How do we connect to the young woman who had stars in her eyes? Where’s the door to a sense of belonging and self and fulfillment? How do we build a future on a busted-up past?

I’ve led many women through these questions. And we have to start by getting very precise. Because we don’t find our lives…we create them.

The specifics of this episode:

• Why staying vague with your questions means you’ll never swipe the answers you want
• Which two questions to ask to reclaim what you’ve lost
• The reason “open to interpretation” and “finding yourself” are kissing cousins (ewww)
• How interrupting is a good thing (when it comes to hijacking your thoughts)
• What checking in means and why you should do it (a way to snatch back your reality)
• Why there are so many definitions for who we are (and you get to nick whichever one you want)
• How we can be pickpockets of discovery..for life! (I swear, this is all on the up and up)

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