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Are you keeping score in your marriage? If you find yourself thinking "I'll do X when she does Y," you're not alone. This transactional approach is common, but it's also toxic. In this eye-opening episode, I reveal why trading contracts for covenant is the key to building a thriving, lasting marriage.

The Hidden Danger of Scorekeeping

I share a personal story about how I nearly sabotaged my own marriage by:

• a) Silently setting unrealistic standards
• b) Withdrawing effort when I felt underappreciated
• c) Treating love like a business transaction

Learn why this mindset is so destructive and how to recognize if you've fallen into the same trap.

Agape Love: The Antidote to Transactional Marriage

Discover the four pillars of agape love and how to implement them:

• a) Covenant identity: Putting "we" before "me"
• b) Self-governance: Owning your inputs and showing up as your best self
• c) Creative service: Anticipating needs without expectation
• d) Radical safety: Creating a zero-sarcasm zone and mastering conflict repair

But what truly sets this episode apart is the breakdown of how to create intimacy without transaction. You'll learn why pressure breaks connection and how to restore it.

Practical Tools for Transformation

Uncover:

• a) The weekly agape audit to keep your love on track
• b) Three powerful scripts to enhance appreciation and connection
• c) The "green light board" concept for a healthier approach to physical intimacy
• d) Why your health is a crucial act of love towards your spouse

Are you ready to retire the scoreboard and build real, lasting love?

Tune in for a 90-day experiment to revolutionize your marriage, starting today. This isn't just about avoiding conflict; it's about creating the kind of covenant relationship that withstands life's toughest challenges.

Referenced Episodes:

· The 5-Minute Marriage Reset: Calm Escalating Arguments Fast

· Why Most Tough Conversations Fail (And the 10-Step Fix That Actually Works)

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