How One Woman Ended Toxic Relationship Patterns for Good

Compassionate Conversations with Esther Kane, MSW

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Esther interviews Tamara about how she used the book, “Dump That Chump: A 10- step plan for ending bad relationships and attracting the fabulous partner you deserve" to end toxic relationship patterns in her own life for good.
Episode Contents:
0:00 Compassionate Conversations Intro
0:24 Introduction of Tamara Wensley
2:40 Why Esther wrote Dump That Chump
3:55 Esther outlines the ten steps in the book and Tamara describes how she worked through each one of them:
4:19 Step One: Make a commitment to yourself
8:43 Step Two: Do some family-of-origin work
11:44 Step Three: Re-examine your beliefs and value systems
13:56 Step Four: Change your “self-talk”
17:00 Step Five: Figure out who you are and what your needs are
21:38 Step Six: Start becoming the kind of person you want to attract
25:53 Step Seven: Create a strong image of your ideal partner
28:07 Step Eight: Study people who meet the criteria of your ideal partner
31:17 Step Nine: Become friends with people who meet your criteria
34:15 Step Ten: Date until you find your ideal partner
Show notes:
You can find Tamara here:
https://www.primalsisters.com
Where to Find Dump That Chump:
https://www.estherkane.com/resources/dump-that-chump/
Book mentioned:
Succulent Wild Woman By SARK
Exact quote: “Marry yourself first -- promise never to leave you!”
https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Succulent-Wild-Woman-(25th-Anniversary-Edition)/SARK/9781668001219
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