183. Navigate Mismatched Libidos with Mindful Love

The Mindful Healers Podcast with Dr. Jessie Mahoney and Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang

Do you and your partner have different levels of sexual desire? Do libido differences cause tension in your relationship? Do you feel guilt, blame or shame about your desire for sex?

Studies show that a lack of interest in sex is by far the most common and distressing sexual problem. When sex suffers, so do all other areas of life.

The brain is our most powerful sex organ." Take a listen to Episode 88 with Dr. Kelly Casperson to learn more.

As such, mindfulness and coaching are key to finding solutions to different sexual desires in long-term relationships. They help you cultivate desire, increase sexual pleasure, and find connection and joy.

Listen to this episode to hear approaches to navigating differing levels of sexual desires with mindful love.

In brief:

1. Show up with compassion for yourself and your partner

2. Notice the differences without judgment

3. Set an intention to stay out of blame, shame, and guilt

4. Set an intention for connection

5. Accept and allow and/or accept and not like that you and your partner are different in this moment in time

6. Have patience with each other and different life seasons

7. Drop all-or-nothing thinking and any catastrophizing

8. Think generously

9. Practice presence

10. Nourish and replete yourself. Of course, sex is low on the priority list when you are stressed and depleted

11. Take good care of your parasympathetic nervous system by practicing mindfulness and/or yoga

12. Tell good stories and healthy narratives about pleasure, your body, and “the mismatch.”

13. Ask what love would do.

14. Get coached. Getting help helps.

Join Jessie for Mindful Love Small Group Relationship Coaching. It starts in late March and is only offered once a year. This group helps you navigate every issue that comes up in intimate relationships - parenting, bill paying, vacation planning, division of labor, intimacy, and so much more. www.jessiemahoneymd.com/mindfulrelationshipcoaching

Come to the Mindful Healers Connect in Nature Retreat with your partner. Enjoy a long weekend at a beautiful inn, soak up nature, and practice mindfulness together. Non-medical beloveds and welcome and encouraged to join. It's a win-win for everyone.

If you want to work on your relationship before then and/or with literal spaciousness from your home environment, join me for a Sagrada retreat. They are the perfect place to refill your cup, grow a mindfulness practice, and have clarity about how you would like to move forward.

Reach out to either of us to work on building and growing a mindful and self-compassion practice at themindfulhealerspodcast.com

*Nothing in this episode is medical advice.

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