On Fantasy, Focus & Feeling Betrayed (Listener Questions)

Sex Chat for Christian Wives

We are down one host with Chris out today, but Gaye, Bonny, and I are here to answer your questions. If you have a question that you’d like us to address, head to our website, click the Ask a Question tab, and shoot us an email.

While we cannot respond to all of your questions, we try to cover a lot of ground and answer what we can. Be sure to go back through our older episodes as well to see if we might have covered a topic you’re wondering about.

1. "[My husband] continues to look at other women and images that are so easily available outside our home. My question is; Am I wrong to be upset by this habit? Are my expectations too high? How do I learn to trust when I feel so betrayed when I see him look? Do I need counseling to truly move past this?"
2. "My husband and I have a great sex life… The problem is that I want sex with him AND I fantasize about other men too.” AND “I have struggled in that last few years with other men popping into my mind during sex… I sometimes just don’t know how to handle a quiet mind so random thing will try to steal my attention/make noise in my mind. Wondering how I can enhance my intimacy with mental focus."
3. "I am definitely the lower drive spouse and I think it’s mostly because I have so much trouble getting turned on. It takes sooo long and we don’t have a lot of extra time with our toddler around. I am struggling the most with talking with my husband during sex… I feel like I’m grasping at that turned on feeling and any little thing pulls me out of it. My husband is very very kind, patient and wanting to do what I need but I feel like I can’t quite do it and I feel like I’m letting him down. I want sex to be good but I can’t get the communication thing down. Any tips?"

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From the Bible

But they delight in the law of the Lord, meditating on it day and night. - Psalm 1:2 (NLT) I belong to my beloved, and his desire is for me. - Song of Songs 7:10 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—for your love is more delightful than wine. - Song of Songs 1:2 His left arm is under my head, and his right arm embraces me. - Song of Songs 2:6, 8:3 Resources Bonny Burns, APSAT trained coaching Mindfulness & Meditation During Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Does Your Husband Look at Other Women? | Hot, Holy & Humorous 4 Ways to Be Present During Sex | Forgiven Wife Yada, Yada, Yada…Talking During Sex | Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 45: Foreplay Episode 77: How to Ask for What You Want Episode 90: Getting Him to Touch You Where You Want Getting in the Mood Webinar – Replay Foreplay Webinar – Replay Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Dear Wife, You Deserve a Great Sex Life Too | Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Visit our website: forchristianwives.com