Ep 257: Shedding Shame: Rules and self-care beyond the good and bad

SelfKind with Erica Webb

Welcome to this episode of Self Kind with me, Erica Webb. Today I’m sharing some personal stories around the impact of rules-driven thinking on self-care. I’m tying this topic into last week’s episode with guest Sam Sellers, who joined us to talk about religious trauma.

I’m sharing:

- my own experiences of guilt and shame that stemmed, at least in part, from my early experiences with religion and fear (and why I left that world in my early 20s)

- why I was nick-named the Fun Police in high school

- the value that lay in moving beyond the black-and-white thinking of good and bad, especially in terms of self-care practices

- the role of values in navigating outside of rule-based thinking.

Mentioned in this episode:

SelfKind with Erica Webb Ep 256: Religious trauma with Sam Sellers: https://www.ericawebbyoga.com.au/podcast/episode/7bd670d7/ep-256-religious-trauma-with-sam-sellers

Counselling with Erica: https://www.ericawebb.com.au/work-with-me

Time Stamps:

00:00 Welcome to Self Kind with Erica Webb

00:05 Exploring the Impact of Rules-Driven Thinking on Self-Care

00:43 Personal Journey: From Religious Trauma to Self-Compassion

04:44 The Lingering Effects of Religious Upbringing

13:34 Breaking Up with Religion and Embracing Self-Care

16:24 The Pseudo Safety of Rules and the Power of Values

24:35 Reflections and Closing Thoughts

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