When You Get Support & It *Sucks* Navigating Advocating as a Perfectionist

Perfectionism Rewired

Sometimes, support sucks. As a perfectionist this gets especially tricky when you're also wobbly on advocating for yourself. If you've ever felt trapped by your own high expectations this episode breaks down the barriers that perfectionists often face when it comes to asking for and receiving support, illuminating the internal struggles and external pressures that's enormously misunderstood by non-perfectionistic people.

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Highlights inside Episode 197 of Perfectionism Rewired:

00:00-Self-Advocacy When Support Falls Short

02:22-Feel like a weirdo when your internal experience is icky and you're still doing phenomenally on the outside

04:00-A Fvck Down vs A Fvck Up

06:10-Going Where Your Perfectionism Growth Area IS

07:22-Empowered Responsibilty + Perfectionist Self-Advocacy IRL

07:40-Perfectionism Leveraged Client Feedback

08:11-Being a perfectionist in public

09:29-What really matters when support fails you

10:35-Two Questions All Perfectionists Need After They Encounter A Mistake

11:05- Why endure perfectionism when you can enjoy it instead?

HIGHLY CREDIBLE SOURCES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:

1. Farmer, J. R., Mackinnon, S. P., & Cowie, M. (2017). Perfectionism and Life Narratives: A Qualitative Study. SAGE Open, 7(3). https://doi.org/10.1177/2158244017721733
2. ‌Johnson, K. M., Slavin, S., & Takahashi, T. A. (2023). Excellent vs Excessive: Helping Trainees Balance Performance and Perfectionism. Journal of Graduate Medical Education, 15(4), 424–427. https://doi.org/10.4300/jgme-d-23-00003.1
3. ‌Steinert, C., Heim, N., & Leichsenring, F. (2021). Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Other Work-Related Mental Problems: Prevalence, Types, Assessment, and Treatment—A Scoping Review. Frontiers in Psychiatry, 12. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2021.736776

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