Lighten Your Load: Caring Deeply without Taking on Too Much

Perfectionism Rewired

You know logically it’s not *your job* to fix everything in your orbit yet the moment anything goes awry, you feel like the outcome is all on your shoulders. An overactive sense of responsibility can be a tough habit to rewire when you CARE deeply. Learn how to easily distinguish between CARE-ING and CARRY-ING. Plus practical tips you can use immediately for being empathetic + present without getting bogged down by other people's emotions.

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Listen to the full episode to hear:

• The crucial distinctions between caring for people and carrying their load
• Why an overactive sense of responsibility impacts your peace, presence and growth
• How to be empathetic. (the healthy way)
• Practical tips you can use (today!) to lighten your load and enhance your emotional intelligence

Highly Credible Sources Referenced in Episode 202:

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2. Barrett, L. F. (2017). How emotions are made: The secret life of the brain. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
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Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.