Navigating Relationships with Ex-In-Laws During Christmas with Nancy Diaz

Life After Menopause

In this episode Nancy Diaz, shares her journey of moving to Australia and finding her calling in working with this specific population. Nancy emphasizes the importance of self-care and the challenges faced by women in balancing cultural expectations and their own desires. She also discusses the impact of separation on migrant families and offers advice on how to navigate relationships with ex-in-laws during special occasions. Nancy highlights the power of mindfulness and the effectiveness of brain spotting in trauma therapy.
Nancy is a trauma-informed therapist, speaker, and host of the Global Citizen Therapy podcast. She specializes in working with women of color who are daughters of immigrants. Nancy is originally from the US but has been living in Australia for the past five years.
Key Takeaways:

• Why women of color and daughters of immigrants often feel a heavy burden to repay their parents for the opportunities they have.
• How gender plays a significant role in the responsibilities placed on women from a young age.
• The importance of having an open and empathetic communication with family members about expectations and desires for special occasions.
• How mindfulness can help individuals become more in tune with their bodies and advocate for their own needs.
• What is Brain spotting, a somatic approach can help access and process trauma stored in the body.

Quotes:
" I realised that gender played such an important role, especially across different cultures, across different countries."
"Just because it was like that in the past, sometimes we just have to grieve and realize that's how it used to be and those memories will always be with us."
Timestamps
03:27 Common experiences of women of color and daughters of immigrants
08:11 Impact of family separation on migrant families
13:13 Multilayered issues faced by daughters of immigrants.
14:09 Isolation and stress for parents with limited English proficiency.
17:07 Dealing with extended family during separation and migration.
19:26 Finding community and acceptance in other ways.
23:19 Importance of strong communication in handling relationships and disappointments
25:48 Breaking generational cycles by having uncomfortable conversations
29:58 Shifting conversations to lighter activities to create a safe space
33:47 Embracing a range of tools and techniques for personal growth
34:47 Combination of mindfulness and other tools for individual effectiveness
Find out more here: https://www.mmmpodcast.me/ep220