Co-Parenting by Design with Lawyers Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner

It’s All Your Fault: High Conflict People

Navigating the Challenges of Co-Parenting: Insights from Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner

In this episode of "It's All Your Fault," Megan is joined by two special guests, Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner, co-authors of the upcoming book Co-Parenting by Design: The Definitive Guide for Divorced or Separated Parents. Annette and Nicole, both experienced family law attorneys and parenting coordinators, share their insights on navigating the complexities of co-parenting and offer practical advice for parents facing high conflict situations.

Understanding the Role of Parenting Coordinators

Megan, Annette, and Nicole delve into the crucial role of parenting coordinators in helping divorced or separated parents resolve disputes and maintain focus on their children's best interests. They discuss how parenting coordinators act as referees, mediators, and educators, assisting parents in making decisions on issues such as parenting schedules, school choice, and healthcare.

Adapting to Change and Prioritizing Children's Needs

The guests emphasize the importance of adaptability in co-parenting, as children's needs and circumstances evolve over time. They highlight the challenges parents face when adjusting to new situations, such as remarriage, relocation, and changes in parenting time. Annette and Nicole stress the significance of prioritizing children's well-being and maintaining consistency in parenting approaches whenever possible.

Questions we answer in this episode:

• What is a parenting coordinator, and how can they help divorced or separated parents?
• How can parents navigate changes in their children's lives and adapt their co-parenting strategies?
• What is parallel parenting, and when is it an appropriate approach?
• How can parents handle disagreements over parenting styles and household rules?
• What resources are available for parents struggling with high conflict co-parenting situations?

Key Takeaways:

1. Parenting coordinators play a vital role in assisting divorced or separated parents in resolving disputes and focusing on their children's best interests.
2. Adaptability is crucial in co-parenting as children's needs and circumstances change over time.
3. Parallel parenting can be an effective approach for high conflict situations, but its implementation varies depending on the family's unique dynamics.
4. Parents should strive for consistency in parenting approaches whenever possible while respecting each other's parenting time and decision-making authority.
5. Seeking education, resources, and support from professionals can help parents navigate the challenges of high conflict co-parenting.

This episode offers invaluable insights and practical advice for divorced or separated parents facing the challenges of co-parenting. By learning from the expertise of Annette Burns and Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner, listeners can gain a deeper understanding of how to prioritize their children's well-being, adapt to change, and navigate high conflict situations. Co-Parenting by Design promises to be an essential resource for parents, lawyers, and judges alike, providing guidance and strategies for creating a healthier co-parenting dynamic.

Links & Other Notes

• BOOKS
  • Co-parenting by Design: The Definitive Guide for Divorced or Separated Parents
• GUEST BIOS
  • Annette T. Burns, JD
  • Nicole Siqueiros-Stoutner
• OUR WEBSITE: https://www.highconflictinstitute.com/
• Submit a Question for Bill and Megan
• All of our books can be found in our online store or anywhere books are sold, including as e-books.
• You can also find these show notes at our site as well.

Note: We are not diagnosing anyone in our discussions, merely discussing patterns of behavior.

• (00:00) - Welcome to It's All Your Fault
• (00:39) - Co-Parenting by Design
• (01:14) - Meet Annette and Nicole
• (04:14) - How It Came About
• (08:56) - Parenting Coordinators
• (12:58) - Agreements
• (16:53) - Different Rules
• (22:00) - Parallel Parenting
• (26:16) - Multiple Court Trips
• (30:28) - Alienation
• (39:40) - Advice on Family Law
• (44:14) - The Book
• (46:59) - Wrap Up
• (47:17) - Reminders & Coming Next Week: Co-Parenting By Design

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