Episode 09: The Long Journey of Loving My Body with Dani Buckley

Initiations in Love Podcast

In today’s episode, Britta talks with friend Dani Buckley about her long journey of loving her body. Discover how Dani has profoundly navigated this multifaceted aspect of her life, and how she grew in awareness that the way she was living her life was not serving her need to feel good about herself and enjoy her beautiful body. From her early memories of body acceptance and the onset of shame, to dieting and weight fluctuation, to the complexities around partnership and choosing to end a marriage, to unlearning old patterns that bring her full circle - back to herself - into a healthy, joyous, appreciative, and loving relationship with her body. If you’ve ever been made to not feel at home in your body, if you have shamed yourself around your bits and boobs, or if you just want more guidance around how to trust the felt sense of your body, listen to your own inner voice, and live in a body-positive mindset, then this week’s episode is not one to miss!

Dani O’Brien Buckley is the host of Another Way podcast, and is a passionate storyteller, writer, speaker, and facilitator. She is currently in her self proclaimed “mid-life crisis era” taking a career sabbatical while focusing on art, service, and rest as resistance. She lives in Alameda, California and you can often find her on windy NorCal roads in her camper van, VancyPants, or co-creating experiences and gatherings within her communities.

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Resources and References

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Show Notes

1:14 - Britta introduces today’s special guest: Dani Buckley

3:18 - Britta shares why she invited Dani onto the podcast today

4:02 - Dani reveals what made her realize that she needed to change her relationship with her body

11:06 - As they discuss her body journey further, Dani shares how she felt about herself as she entered young adulthood in this journey of body love

12:48 - Dani shares what created a pattern of dieting and weight fluctuation within her partnership of 16 years

15:02 - Dani describes the catalyst that brought her awareness of the negative patterns of self talk and harm - and how learning to check in with herself has become a major tool leading to increased body love

17:28 - Britta presses for clarification around Dani sensing her body vs. hearing her body

20:22 - Dani explains how she uses self awareness and dropping into her body as a tool for sensual pleasure - as well as how she feels about it being a necessary tool for ANYONE in their journey to love their body

23:07 - Dani opens up about the point where she decided that change was necessary - what caused her to go after The Call through awareness and boundary setting

28:39 - Dani talks through what she faced in her own Transformation Cauldron Stage of separating from, and then divorcing, her spouse

30:38 - Britta challenges Dani to go even deeper into what she faced in untangling herself from a marriage that was actually filled with love

35:22 - Dani shares how she was able to trust that this decision to be single was ultimately a good thing - and what happened to her relationship with her body once she became single

40:48 - Britta and Dani discuss the tool of outside validation and how it can hinder - but most importantly, how it can help - progress in the journey of self love

43:26 - Dani expresses what her Emerging Stage in this transformation felt like - with words coming to mind like: joy, exploration, and LIBERATION

44:50 - Dani shares what she has experienced in the Gift Stage of this transformation into singledom, and how she can now contribute and be for others what she couldn’t be before the transformation - and how vulnerability has taken center stage in her life

46:58 - Dani highlights the very important, unexpected gift of forgiveness - and what it does for her and her relationship with her body

52:29 - Dani emphasizes that her journey in body acceptance and love is far from complete, and why her goal is NOT to never have a negative thought about her body again

55:05 - Britta acknowledges that Dani has come full circle in her body journey, while connecting her story with the five different Initiation Stages

56:44 - Dani shares advice for folks in their body acceptance/love journey

1:00:01 - Dani and Britta bring the episode to a close