038 Welcoming a New Baby? Help Your Toddler Adjust with Less Stress & More Connection

Demystifying Child's Play | Play Schemas

If you’re a parent of a toddler or preschooler and you’ve got a newborn on the way, you already know it’s about to be a season of big feelings, big changes, and a whole lot less sleep. Between preparing the cot, stocking up on nappies, and navigating your own emotions, it’s easy to wonder: How will my little one cope when the baby arrives?

In this practical episode of Demystifying Child’s Play | Play Schemas, I’m sharing exactly how I’m preparing my two children (almost 2 and 4) for the arrival of baby number three – using the power of play schemas to help them feel secure, included, and loved during the transition.

You’ll discover:

• What play schemas are – those repetitive, curious, sometimes chaotic behaviours that toddlers just can’t resist (and why they matter).
• How understanding your child’s schemas can turn frustration into connection, especially during the upheaval of welcoming a newborn.
• My top three things every child needs to know about a new baby (hint: it’s not a biology lesson, it’s simple, memorable, and works wonders).
• How schemas like transportation, enveloping, and positioning can be your secret parenting ally during this transition.
• The beautiful overlap between play schemas and love languages – and how you can use both to make your child feel truly seen and valued.

From toddlers pushing the pram back and forth (transportation schema), to building endless enclosures for toys (enclosure schema), to wrapping dolls in blankets (enveloping schema), these aren’t just random acts of play. They’re your child’s way of processing change, rehearsing care, and making sense of their evolving world.

By noticing these patterns and offering small, schema-friendly activities, you can help your child:

• Feel part of caring for the baby
• Understand what’s happening in age-appropriate ways
• Avoid feeling left out when your attention is divided
• Strengthen your bond instead of clashing in moments of overwhelm
  

Whether you’re walking, folding laundry, or catching a rare quiet moment, this episode will give you the tools and confidence to turn this potentially rocky transition into a season of deeper family connection.

Because preparing your toddler for a sibling isn’t about perfection, it’s about connection. And with a little play schema insight, you can help your child feel safe, included, and even excited about the changes ahead.

Listen now and discover how to make welcoming a new baby smoother for everyone – one play schema a

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