229. How to Shift Chemistry & Attraction when Dating (Guest Episode with Kim Jarman)

Dating After Divorce

Masterclass - "Beyond the Spark: The 10 Elements of Chemistry & Attraction"

Register for live event or replay: sadecurry.com/masterclass

March 30, 2025 (4pm ET/3pm CT)
You will learn:
The science behind attraction patterns
How brain chemistry influences choices
Techniques to reduce attraction to toxic partners
Defining your needed level of attraction for sustainability

About the Episode:

Shift Your Attraction from Toxic Men to Safe, Healthy Men (Kim’s Story)
Before Kim worked with me on her business, she told her journey to love on the Dating after Divorce podcast (Episode 152)
After a toxic marriage, Kim had a revelation: "No one was coming to save me. If I wanted a different life, it was all on me"
At 35, living with her parents, Kim decided to date against her usual "type."
When her dog died, she approached her neighbors' son—a "good boy" completely unlike her typical "bad boys"—and invited him on walks.
The walks were uncomfortable because she felt unworthy next to someone without baggage or poor life choices.
But they fell in love, because Kim redefined attraction.
With previous relationships, she described feelings as "exciting" but chaotic.
Coming from a chaotic family, she had mistaken intensity for love.Her previous relationships were "exciting" but destructive.
With her current husband, attraction feels different: "It's a partnership. Very calm, not emotionally charged all the time"
Biologically, women are drawn to the strongest "buck"—evolutionarily sensible for survival instead of choosing based on companionship and values.
You might initially find this "boring."
But Kim questioned: What's boring about peace?
What's exciting about fighting over a parking space and being too angry to enjoy the concert?
Her most profound insight: "Part of why I dated bad boys was because I got to feel better about myself. At least I wasn't on drugs."
With her husband, she couldn't feel superior—and that's what made her uncomfortable.
In the end, Kim chose calm over chaos, partnership over drama, growth over stagnation. And it changed everything.
Kim's journey from toxic relationships to healthy love exemplifies the work I do with women.
If her story resonates, join my masterclass:
"Beyond the Spark: The 10 Elements of Chemistry & Attraction"
March 30, 2025 (4pm ET/3pm CT)
You will learn:
The science behind attraction patterns
How brain chemistry influences choices
Techniques to reduce attraction to toxic partners
Defining your needed level of attraction for sustainability
Register for live event or replay: sadecurry.com/masterclass