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This episode addresses the often invisible burden carried by default caregivers like Tasha, who find themselves overwhelmed by both family and partner expectations. Stephen Mitchell, PhD and Erin Mitchell, MACP, delve into the mismatched needs that arise from these dynamics, frequently leading to misunderstandings and conflict. Through thoughtful discussion, we focus on the critical role of open communication and self-awareness in breaking free from outdated norms that perpetuate inequality. By examining how Tasha's partner, Paul, may inadvertently contribute to this imbalance, we highlight the need for intentionality and shared responsibility within family units.

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1. I Need You to Stop Needing Me (00:00:00)

2. Parenting Partners' Dynamic of Needs (00:00:01)

3. Navigating Needs in Parenting Dynamics (00:15:13)

4. Navigating Shared Parenting Responsibilities (00:20:05)

5. Shared Responsibility in Parenting Dynamics (00:24:10)

6. Improving Parenting Through Couple Relationships (00:30:18)

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Couples Counseling For Parents

I Need You to Stop Needing Me

Couples Counseling For Parents

published 약 1년 전

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text.

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1. I Need You to Stop Needing Me (00:00:00)

2. Parenting Partners' Dynamic of Needs (00:00:01)

3. Navigating Needs in Parenting Dynamics (00:15:13)

4. Navigating Shared Parenting Responsibilities (00:20:05)

5. Shared Responsibility in Parenting Dynamics (00:24:10)

6. Improving Parenting Through Couple Relationships (00:30:18)

96 에피소드

#Fitness #Parenting #Podcasting Education #Self-Improvement #Mental Health #Dr. Stephen Mitchell and Erin Mitchell, MACP #Dr. Stephen Mitchell #Erin Mitchell #MACP

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Couples Counseling For Parents

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Could I Get a Little Validation Over Here? 26:49

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. Life as a parent can often feel like a flood of responsibilities, expectations, and emotional exhaustion. In this episode, Stephen Mitchell, PhD and Erin Mitchell, MACP, address the cycle of invalidation that can arise between partners as they try to juggle tasks and manage parenting stress. Through the story of Raj and Brynn, we explore how feelings of being overworked and underappreciated can lead to mutual invalidation in relationships. Join us in uncovering the steps necessary to shift out of a cycle of invalidation into a pattern of offering vulnerability and validation. Tune in for meaningful insights and real world scripts that can help you strengthen your couple relationship as you parent.…

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I Handle Stress "Right," It's My Partner That Handles Stress "Wrong" 26:02

8일 전26:02

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. This episode dives into the dynamics of emotional regulation between partners in stressful parenting moments, highlighting the contrasting coping behaviors of downshifting and upshifting. Stephen Mitchell, PhD and Erin Mitchell, MACP provide practical insights using a relatable case study, illustrating how couples can navigate these tensions and foster meaningful communication to create a supportive family environment. • Explaining the downshift-upshift coping dynamic in relationships • Analyzing a common conflict scenario in parenting • Discussing the role of everyday stressors on couple dynamics • Introducing the concept of co-regulation between partners • Offering actionable strategies for improving communication during stress…

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From Silent Resentment to Connection 37:39

16일 전37:39

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. In this episode, we explore the pervasive issue of resentment in couple relationships, particularly among parents. We discuss its roots in unexpressed emotions and decision-making conflicts, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability, active listening, and mutual understanding to resolve underlying issues and prevent resentment from taking hold. Here is what we cover in the show: • Resentment often arises from feelings of being undervalued or unheard • Parenting pressures can exacerbate feelings of resentment • Major life decisions often become breeding grounds for resentment • Vulnerability and transparency are essential for healthy conversations • Mutual understanding plays a key role in decision-making dynamics • Listening without defensiveness fosters connection and heals rifts • Conflict can be an opportunity for growth and intimacy • Practical insights for managing resentment in relationships offered…

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Good Sex-An Interview with Author Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons 37:40

23일 전37:40

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. Ever wonder how parenting impacts your intimate relationship? Join us for a compelling conversation with renowned sex expert Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons as she shares insights from her latest book, "Good Sex." She dives into the challenges of maintaining a healthy sexual relationship amidst the responsibilities of parenthood. Dr. Hargons, an associate professor at Emory University, offers a compassionate perspective on navigating the changing dynamics of intimacy. She emphasizes the importance of communication and renegotiating relationship terms as couples journey through different stages of parenting.…

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I Need You to Stop Needing Me 30:49

4 weeks 전30:49

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. This episode addresses the often invisible burden carried by default caregivers like Tasha, who find themselves overwhelmed by both family and partner expectations. Stephen Mitchell, PhD and Erin Mitchell, MACP, delve into the mismatched needs that arise from these dynamics, frequently leading to misunderstandings and conflict. Through thoughtful discussion, we focus on the critical role of open communication and self-awareness in breaking free from outdated norms that perpetuate inequality. By examining how Tasha's partner, Paul, may inadvertently contribute to this imbalance, we highlight the need for intentionality and shared responsibility within family units.…

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6 Principles That Will Save Your Parenting Partner Relationship 34:23

5 weeks 전34:23

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. This episode dives into six transformative principles for strengthening couple relationships amidst the challenges of parenting. Stephen Mitchell, PhD and Erin Mitchell, MACP encourage listeners to embrace unity in problem-solving, assume positive intent, grant each other space, seek counseling early, practice patience and grace, and confront fears openly. The six principles discussed are: • It's me and you against the problem not us against each other • Be quicker to assume good intent than ill intent • Let each other walk away when we're over the limit. We will work it out soon. • Start counseling sooner to heal inner wounds • Patience and Grace • Don't be afraid of the unknown…

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The Death of Defensiveness: How to end the cycle of defensiveness in your couple relationship 37:09

6 weeks 전37:09

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. Defensiveness can be a significant roadblock in relationships, particularly among parenting partners. The episode delves into how defensiveness complicates communication, using the example of Kylie and Leslie and their conflict over forgotten pasta. Stephen Mitchell, PhD and Erin Mitchell, MACP emphasize leading with accountability and following up with vulnerability as crucial steps towards breaking the cycle of defensiveness. Here's what we cover in the episode: Analysis of a scenario involving Kylie and Leslie stuck in a defensive cycle and looking for answers on how to end the cycle Understand why defensiveness often arises as a protective mechanism The Two Step process for ending defensiveness in your relationship We differentiate between simple apologies and true relationship repair Sample script on how to have the conversation with your partner If you're enjoying the podcast, please hit the follow button and leave us a rating. This helps our content become more visible to others who might enjoy it, and it lets us know how we can keep improving the show.…

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From Tiredness to Togetherness in Parenting 42:40

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. Stephen Mitchell, PhD and Erin Mitchell, MACP discuss the "Embodiment Chasm," a concept that highlights the different experiential realities between parenting partners. Through the story of Maria and Todd, the hosts explore how the differences in parenting experiences can lead to misunderstandings, and they offer insights on communication strategies to overcome this chasm for a healthier relationship. • Introducing the concept of the Embodiment Chasm • Case study of Maria and Todd's experience of the Embodiment Chasm • How the Embodiment Chasm creates the roles of Default and Non-default parent • Barriers in communication caused by the Embodiment Chasm in a couple relationship • Strategies for overcoming these barriers and fostering connection and understanding • Sample Script of how couples can start the conversation and resolve the barriers created by the embodiment Chasm…

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Holiday Loneliness: How partner's can handle the Holiday Blues 35:49

10 weeks 전35:49

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. The holidays can be magical. The holidays can also be lonely and sad due to family drama, the loss of a loved one, not living close to family etc. Many times couples can experience conflict balancing the desire for a magical holiday and not wanting to ignore the "lonely" reality of the season too. Stephen Mitchell, PhD and Erin Mitchell, MACP will give you and your partner practical tips and scripts that you and your partner can use to stay connected in the midst of the tension between the magic and loneliness of the holiday season.…

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Presence over Presents? Strengthening Connection During Holiday Gatherings 31:06

12 weeks 전31:06

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. What happens when you're physically present but emotionally checked out during family gatherings? Meet Jameson and Mel, a couple whose holiday season often spirals into tension due to mismatched engagement levels. Listen as we unpack their story to understand the significant difference between simply showing up and being emotionally present. Their experience is a common struggle for many couples, especially during the stress-filled holiday season. We'll also share personal stories that remind us how easy it is to focus on tasks and miss the magic of significant family moments. Picture this: one partner thrives in the hustle and bustle of holiday socializing, while the other is left feeling drained and overwhelmed. That's the dynamic between Mel and Jameson, and it’s not just about introversion or extroversion. We dive into how our nervous systems dictate social interaction and how past experiences shape the holiday expectations that can fuel misunderstandings and conflict. By understanding these elements—including common reactions like fight, flight, freeze, or fawn—we highlight the critical need for empathy and communication to navigate these social energy differences effectively. Looking to connect more deeply with your partner this holiday season? Learn about the importance of understanding your own attachment style and how family background can influence your relationship dynamics. We tackle real-life challenges, from handling parenting stress to sharing the mental load, all while providing practical steps to reset and reconnect. Join us on this journey to strengthen meaningful engagement and create lasting memories with your loved ones, breaking free from unmet expectations and fostering true connection.…

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Navigating Holiday Stress: Presenting a United Front with Extended Family 31:38

12 weeks 전31:38

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. Master the art of navigating family dynamics during the holiday season and emerge with a stronger partnership. In this episode, we explore the pressures couples face when interacting with extended family, featuring the real-life example of Heidi and Renee. Their story sheds light on the challenges of holiday scheduling and differing family expectations, offering practical strategies to help couples present a united front and strengthen their bonds amidst festive chaos. Reflecting on personal experiences, we dive into the complexities of early relationship dynamics. With anecdotes like being perceived as disengaged with a partner's family due to unexpected circumstances, we illustrate how seemingly minor incidents can set unintended tones for family interactions. By examining Heidi and Renee's decision to stay near Renee's family, we highlight the importance of open communication, addressing unspoken narratives, and understanding each partner's needs to foster healthier familial relationships. Building on these insights, we emphasize the power of small, direct communications in mitigating family friction. Through Heidi and Renee's journey, we learn the importance of addressing underlying fears and presenting a united front as a couple. This episode serves as a guide for those feeling distant or overwhelmed, offering the first step towards a more fulfilling and connected partnership. Join us in this journey of partnerhood and discover how to reshape your relationship dynamics for a more harmonious holiday season.…

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How Understanding Yourself Strengthens Your Parenting and Partnership 34:08

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. What if understanding your past could transform your present relationships and parenting journey? This episode promises to guide you through the nuanced dynamics of becoming both a strong parent and partner, featuring the relatable story of Jude and Grant, who navigate the complexities of feeling disconnected amidst the whirlwind of parenting responsibilities. We unpack how personal histories shape our responses to stress and influence our parenting styles, enabling you to shift from reactive to intentional decision-making. Explore the contrasting reactivity patterns with us—Grant's rigidity versus Jude's flexibility—and learn how empathy and communication can bridge the gap in any relationship. By recognizing behavior as a form of communication, this episode invites you to practice self-reflection and curiosity, shedding light on underlying issues and fostering healthier connections. We highlight the importance of supportive communities like Couples Counseling for Parents, creating an encouraging space for mutual growth and respect. In our final chapter, we focus on rebuilding partnerships, offering practical strategies and workshops as a reset button for your relationship. By addressing real-life challenges such as the mental load at home or managing in-laws, you can reconnect meaningfully with your partner, even amidst the busyness of parenting. Join us on this journey of partnerhood, and help shape the partnership you truly desire. If you find our insights beneficial, don't forget to follow and rate us, spreading the word to others who may benefit from our story.…

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Avoiding the Passive-Aggressive Trap: Communication tips for Parenting Partners 26:03

16 weeks 전26:03

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. Transform passive-aggressive tension into moments of connection with proven communication strategies for parenting partners. Join us, Dr. Stephen Mitchell and Erin Mitchell, as we explore how understanding the essential pause between feeling and reaction can change the dynamic of your relationship. Unpacking a scenario with Nora and Thad, we reveal how undetected emotions often lead to conflict and how recognizing these feelings can lead to healthier interactions. Discover the power of conscious choice—a pivotal step toward nurturing communication that fosters deeper connections. Embrace vulnerability to elevate your relationship to new heights. By highlighting underlying desires and emotions, we demonstrate how couples can replace conflict with direct and empathetic dialogue. Learn the art of suspending offense to engage in open and honest conversations, transforming possible arguments into opportunities for connection. Finally, discover practical workshops designed to guide you through strengthening your partnership. Whether you're feeling disconnected or seeking new ways to engage, our journey into "partnerhood" offers a roadmap to the relationship you've always desired. Follow along and help us reach others by rating our podcast.…

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The Dilemma: Do I Need to Prioritize My Relationship Over My Kids? 34:26

17 weeks 전34:26

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. Have you ever wondered if focusing too much on your kids might be pulling you away from your partner? Join us as we unravel this intricate conundrum through the lens of Regina and Sebastian, a couple attempting to juggle the needs of their relationship with the demands of raising three young children. This episode takes you on a journey beyond the surface-level conflicts to reveal the tender, unspoken plea of "I miss you" often hidden beneath the daily grind. With insights drawn from their story, we explore how couples can harmoniously nurture both their partnership and their family life. We challenge the societal narrative that children automatically become hurdles to romantic relationships, inviting you to rethink how personal history and cultural expectations shape our perceptions. Regina and Sebastian's story serves as a poignant reminder of the importance of understanding one's own fears and desires, and how these can subtly influence relationship dynamics. By reframing the family not as competing responsibilities but as a united entity, we showcase how couples can find new ways to connect and grow together alongside their children. Spontaneous moments, like a simple coffee break or an impromptu game, can reignite the spark between partners navigating the rigors of family life. We share practical strategies and introduce our Relationship Reconnection Series, designed for couples eager to understand their attachment styles and address stressors like parenting and in-laws. By fostering mutual understanding and shared experiences, couples can build a resilient partnership that stands strong amid life's challenges. Join us to learn how you can create meaningful connections with your partner while embracing the joys and trials of family life.…

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Navigating Nighttime Duties and Differing Parenting Styles 25:58

18 weeks 전25:58

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Got a question, comment, or just want to drop some encouragement? Send us a text. Unlock the secrets to a stronger parenting partnership as we explore the intricate interplay of trust and communication in relationships. What happens when differing parenting styles collide, especially during nighttime duties? Join us to uncover how real-life couple Devante and Steph navigate these challenges with their son, Tavon. Through their journey, you'll gain insights into recognizing underlying beliefs that fuel conflicts and learn strategies for building a harmonious parenting environment. In this episode, we highlight the power of understanding and validating your partner's feelings to transform disagreements into opportunities for connection. Drawing from practical examples and resources like "Too Tired to Fight," we share actionable advice on handling common relationship tensions, whether it's feeling like the default parent or dealing with in-law dynamics. As Devante and Steph work towards a more supportive partnership, we emphasize the profound impact a healthy relationship can have on parenting. Prioritize connection over conflict and discover how every challenge can lead to growth and deeper trust.…