The End of Suffering Part 3

MindShifters Radio Podcast - dr michael ryce & Dr Tim Hayes

September 13, 2024 michael continues to read the new edition of his book

In this radio show, the host delves deeply into the concept of love, contrasting the common cultural misconceptions with a more profound understanding of love as a state of being rather than an action or behavior. The discussion begins by critiquing the idea that saying "I love you" often refers to a superficial and fragile form of approval, rather than true love. According to the host, most people have been conditioned to accept love as something that can be given or received, but this misperception is far from the truth. The show stresses that love is not a verb or a transactional act; instead, it is the very essence of who we are as human beings.

Drawing on the analogy of a newborn child, the speaker emphasizes that a child does not express love by doing something; the child simply *is* love. This essence is often lost as individuals grow and are conditioned by societal norms, generational beliefs, and language that distort the meaning of love. The host cites Vladimir Lenin’s assertion that changing the meaning of words can destroy a culture, arguing that many people confuse abusive behaviors—often justified in the name of love—with genuine love. The speaker critically examines terms like "tough love," suggesting that these concepts are oxymorons that distort the true essence of love, leading to cycles of emotional abuse and blame.

The show also introduces the idea that love, as a state of being, cannot coexist with fear, hostility, or disapproval. When individuals attempt to act "lovingly" based on a mind clouded by these negative emotions, their actions are hollow and disconnected from the true experience of love. The host explores how generational pain, unresolved trauma, and mental constructs shape relationships and often lead to suffering and disillusionment, particularly when goals and expectations in relationships are violated.

Forgiveness, as described by the host, is the key to returning to the state of love. However, the speaker clarifies that forgiveness is not about absolving others, but rather about removing the internal blocks—anger, fear, and unresolved pain—that prevent an individual from experiencing their true essence as love. This process of forgiveness allows people to overcome suffering and experience healing, both for themselves and for others.

The conversation also touches upon religious teachings, particularly how misinterpretations of the scriptures have led to a skewed understanding of love and forgiveness. The speaker notes that many of the original meanings in religious texts have been lost or distorted, especially through translations into languages like Greek and English. The speaker discusses how societal systems, including religious and political institutions, often perpetuate fear, control, and suffering, rather than promoting the true essence of love. The ultimate message is one of self-awareness, healing, and rediscovering love as our natural state of being, free from the distortions of the mind.