What’s up, Tribe, and welcome back to Good Moms Bad Choices! January was amazing, but its time to turn the page on the calendar and embrace beautiful new energy as we enter ‘The Journey of Love February.’ This month is all about the heart - join Erica and Milah to catch up and discuss what’s new in the world of motherhood, marriage, and amor! In this week’s episode, the ladies offer witty and sharp perspectives about personal growth in love, supporting your kids through their friend drama, and how to honor your true needs in a partnership. Mama Bear to the Rescue! The Good Moms discuss protective parenting and helping your kids fight their battles (8:00) Bad Choice of the Week: Help! My kids saw me in my lingerie! (20:00) My Happily Ever After: Erica and Milah discuss the prospect of marriage, dreams of becoming a housewife, and the top 5 ways to be confident in love (32:00) Yoni Mapping: Releasing Trauma and Increasing Pleasure (57:00) Its OK to fuck up, but also, what do you (really) bring to the table: The Good Moms have an honest discussion about finding accountability and growth before love (1:03:00) Watch This episode & more on YouTube! Catch up with us over at Patreon and get all our Full visual episodes, bonus content & early episode releases. Join our private Facebook group! Let us help you! Submit your advice questions, anonymous secrets or vent about motherhood anonymously! Submit your questions Connect With Us: @GoodMoms_BadChoices @TheGoodVibeRetreat @Good.GoodMedia @WatchErica @Milah_Mapp Official GMBC Music: So good feat Renee, Trip and http://www.anthemmusicenterprises.com Join us this summer in paradise at the Good Vibe Rest+Vibe Retreat in Costa Rica July 31- August 5 August 8 - August 13 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.…
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James Henson에서 제공하는 콘텐츠입니다. 에피소드, 그래픽, 팟캐스트 설명을 포함한 모든 팟캐스트 콘텐츠는 James Henson 또는 해당 팟캐스트 플랫폼 파트너가 직접 업로드하고 제공합니다. 누군가가 귀하의 허락 없이 귀하의 저작물을 사용하고 있다고 생각되는 경우 여기에 설명된 절차를 따르실 수 있습니다 https://ko.player.fm/legal.
People ask me often enough what kinds of things I'm working on personally and what kinds of things I struggle with that I figured I'd just do an episode about it.
The first two things I'm working on were pretty easy for me to identify: I'm always working on being more gentle and on being more social. I'm not really good at either of these things, but I know they are good for me so I'm doing my best.
I think we all have things we need to be working on. It's scary to me that there's this narrative in the world that you are fine the way you are.
I get it, a lot of the things we need to work on are not necessarily our fault. The things I like least about myself make a lot of sense when you look at my life, but that doesn't mean that I'm OK with them and that doesn't mean that I don’t have to sort them out.
A lot of the things that happen to you are probably not your fault, but what you do with them is your responsibility. It's not compassionate to tell somebody that behaviors and choices that are bringing them harm or are harming other people are OK. It’s not everyone else’s responsibility to get on board with your bullshit behavior.
So, in that spirit, this is a podcast talking about me and my bullshit behavior.
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James Henson에서 제공하는 콘텐츠입니다. 에피소드, 그래픽, 팟캐스트 설명을 포함한 모든 팟캐스트 콘텐츠는 James Henson 또는 해당 팟캐스트 플랫폼 파트너가 직접 업로드하고 제공합니다. 누군가가 귀하의 허락 없이 귀하의 저작물을 사용하고 있다고 생각되는 경우 여기에 설명된 절차를 따르실 수 있습니다 https://ko.player.fm/legal.
People ask me often enough what kinds of things I'm working on personally and what kinds of things I struggle with that I figured I'd just do an episode about it.
The first two things I'm working on were pretty easy for me to identify: I'm always working on being more gentle and on being more social. I'm not really good at either of these things, but I know they are good for me so I'm doing my best.
I think we all have things we need to be working on. It's scary to me that there's this narrative in the world that you are fine the way you are.
I get it, a lot of the things we need to work on are not necessarily our fault. The things I like least about myself make a lot of sense when you look at my life, but that doesn't mean that I'm OK with them and that doesn't mean that I don’t have to sort them out.
A lot of the things that happen to you are probably not your fault, but what you do with them is your responsibility. It's not compassionate to tell somebody that behaviors and choices that are bringing them harm or are harming other people are OK. It’s not everyone else’s responsibility to get on board with your bullshit behavior.
So, in that spirit, this is a podcast talking about me and my bullshit behavior.
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What’s actually holding you back?After 20 years of working with people, I’ve seen the same core issues keep showing up—and I’ve lived many of them myself. In this video, I walk through 10 things that keep people stuck. These aren’t vague ideas or motivational fluff. They’re specific, real, and hard to ignore once you see them.If you feel like you’re not where you want to be, this is for you.Key Takeaways:Why most people miss the immediate opportunities around themHow your emotions can sabotage long-term decisionsThe difference between fault and responsibilityWhy digital distractions are quietly wrecking livesHow friendly curiosity and gratitude shift everythingWhat a victim mindset really costs youThe power of foundational thinking and real boundariesThis is not judgment. It’s a call to clarity.Watch the full video and ask yourself:What’s the one thing here I’m ready to stop letting hold me back?#selfimprovement #personalgrowth #executivecoach #mindsetshift #stopholdingyourselfback #clarity #accountability #digitaldetox #ownershipmindset #gratitude #boundaries…
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1 Helping Helpers Stay Healthy: Vicarious Trauma, Resilience & Real Support with Dr. Jenny Hughes 38:16
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요In this episode of Walk Through Open Doors, James Henson welcomes his first guest, Dr. Jenny Hughes, founder of the Brave Trauma Therapist Collective. This isn’t just a conversation. It is a lifeline for therapists, counselors, and anyone in a helping profession.Jenny breaks down the key differences between vicarious trauma and secondary traumatic stress. She explains why so many therapists unknowingly carry the weight of the work they do. From the neuroscience of empathy and stress to the hidden costs of unresolved trauma exposure, this episode explores the reality of caregiving and how helpers can help themselves.We also cover:• Why the brain struggles to distinguish real threats from stories we hear• How true crime and unresolved therapy sessions affect us differently• Why so many therapists are burning out silently, and what to do about it• What vicarious resilience is and how it can be a source of energy and meaning• The power of community, vulnerability, and connection for those who support othersDr. Hughes shares how the Brave Collective gives trauma therapists a space to be human. It is a place to connect, vent, ask hard questions, and receive support. No shame. No pretense. No pressure to perform. If you’re a therapist, counselor, social worker, or simply someone who supports others, this is a must-listen. Join Brave:🌐 https://braveproviders.com/brave Connect with Dr. Jenny Hughes: 📸 Instagram: @braveproviders 📬 Email or DM her with questions. She welcomes conversation. If You Know a Therapist: Please share this episode. This is a difficult time for helping professionals. Let’s take care of those who take care of others. About Jenny Jenny Hughes, PhD is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in trauma and PTSD. She supports helpers and healers through the common experience of vicarious trauma as the founder of The BRAVE Trauma Therapist Collective. Jenny helps trauma therapists be human again as they learn how to manage vicarious trauma and enhance vicarious resilience together. As a clinician, she practices Brainspotting, EMDR, and Cognitive Processing Therapy. Jenny is the author of The PTSD Recovery Workbook and Triggers to Glimmers: A Vicarious Resilience Journal and Workbook.…
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1 Stop Wasting Time: Take Control and Actually Get Things Done 28:05
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요Struggling to Make Time for Your Goals? Start Tracking It. ⏰In this video, James dives into one of the most critical factors that can make or break your progress: time management. You've heard about goal killers, and today we're tackling the core issue — how effectively you're managing your time. If you want to achieve the things you’ve been dreaming about, understanding where your time goes is crucial.James shares his personal insights on:The importance of time tracking and doing a time audit (you’ll be shocked by how much time you’re losing)Why multitasking is a myth and how focusing on one task at a time leads to better resultsHow delegating and automating tasks can free up mental and emotional space for more meaningful workThe power of planning and setting boundaries to protect your timeWhy saying no is essential to achieving your goals without burnoutGet ready to make big changes in how you manage your day and start seeing real progress towards your goals. 💪Take action, audit your time, and take control of your day.Key Takeaways:The importance of taking time seriouslyHow to track and plan your time for maximum productivityThe truth about multitasking and why it’s slowing you downHow setting boundaries can free you up to accomplish moreStart making the most of your time and start achieving your goals today. Track your time, plan your days, and see how small adjustments can make a huge impact on your life.For more content like this, make sure to like, subscribe, and hit the bell to stay updated!…
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1 How to Set Goals You Can Actually Achieve (SMART Framework Explained) 22:59
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요In this episode of the Walk Through Open Doors podcast, James Henson dives into the critical art of setting actionable goals that will get you to where you want to be. Too often, people have big dreams but struggle to take real steps toward them because their goals are vague, unachievable, or overwhelming. James walks you through the SMART goal framework, which helps you break down massive goals into clear, specific, and attainable actions that you can start today.Learn why goals like “I want to be successful” or “I want to make more money” are not enough, and how to transform them into measurable, relevant, and time-bound actions. James also shares personal stories and lessons from his own journey, revealing how small, manageable goals lead to massive success over time. Whether you want to improve your finances, start a business, or just become more productive, this episode gives you the tools to take immediate, focused action.If you're feeling stuck or overwhelmed by your big dreams, this episode will help you get clarity, focus, and direction. Get ready to set goals that actually work, and take the next step toward the life you were meant to create.Key Takeaways:The importance of turning vague dreams into specific, actionable goalsHow to apply the SMART framework to break down your goalsWhy setting achievable, measurable goals is key to overcoming procrastination and overwhelmReal-life examples of turning big ideas into focused action🔑 Take Action: Listen now and start applying the SMART goal framework to your own aspirations!Subscribe to the podcast and don’t miss the next episode, where we’ll tackle the roadblocks and goal killers that stop you from reaching your full potential.…
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1 Mastering Focus: How to Cut Through Distractions and Make Progress Towards Your Goals 18:36
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요The Superpower of Focus in a Distracted World In this episode, James explores the power of focus in a world designed to pull your attention in a thousand different directions. From the moment we wake up, we’re bombarded with distractions—social media, news, entertainment, and even seemingly productive activities that masquerade as progress. James shares personal insights on how he once mistook motion for progress and how learning to focus transformed his life and business. He breaks down the hidden dangers of “positive distractions,” like consuming endless information or engaging in low-impact tasks, and explains why focus is a superpower that can set you apart in a world of constant distraction. James also introduces a practical tool—the time audit —to help listeners track where their time is truly going and make adjustments that align with their real goals. Key Topics & Takeaways: The Overload of Modern Distractions The sheer amount of information we take in daily is staggering and often unintentional. Positive distractions like news and social media feel productive but can be just as harmful as obvious time-wasters. The Illusion of Progress vs. True Progress Motion isn’t the same as progress—just because you're busy doesn’t mean you're moving toward your goals. James shares how he used to work incredibly hard but wasn’t gaining traction because he lacked focus. The Hidden Cost of Digital Dopamine Hits How video games, social media, and other instant-reward activities create a false sense of accomplishment. The difference between engaging in hobbies intentionally vs. letting them consume time that should be spent elsewhere. What You Focus on Grows The more attention you give to something, the larger it becomes in your life—whether it’s a business, a skill, or even personal problems. Redirecting focus from internal struggles to meaningful action can be a powerful shift. The Power of a Time Audit Tracking your time reveals where distractions creep in and helps you reallocate time toward what truly matters. Learning to say no to the wrong things is as important as saying yes to the right things. Practical Exercises & Tips: Conduct a 3-Day Time Audit: Track your time from morning to night for three days. Identify activities that don’t align with your goals. Reallocate Your Time Intentionally: Treat time like money—once you know where it's going, shift it toward things that move you forward. Assess Your Focus: Ask yourself: What am I spending the most time thinking about? Is it helping me grow, or is it keeping me stuck? Next Episode Teaser: The next few episodes will focus on goal setting , goal killers , and time management —all essential tools for aligning focus with meaningful progress. James will break down why most people don’t have real goals—just vague hopes—and how to create actionable goals that actually lead somewhere. — Want to take this deeper? 📩 Sign up for James’ free newsletter for more insights on focus, goal-setting, and personal growth. 💬 Interested in working with James? Book a free 15-minute discovery call to see if coaching is a good fit.…
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This episode examines how what we think we “know” can create more problems than genuine ignorance. James illustrates this with common examples—such as getting frustrated at red lights or in grocery lines—where routine conveniences become annoyances once we take them for granted. He also looks at how political and personal relationships suffer when we assume we already understand someone’s motives. To address these challenges, James discusses the practice of “friendly curiosity.” Drawing on mindfulness principles, he suggests viewing situations and people with less judgment and more openness—akin to seeing them for the first time. This approach can help us avoid negative narratives and cultivate a richer appreciation of everyday life. Key Topics & Takeaways · The Downside of Knowing o Assumptions about people, situations, and routines can limit perspective and lead to unnecessary frustration. o Familiarity often causes us to take conveniences for granted, making them seem mundane or irritating. · Examples of Misguided Assumptions o Everyday frustrations like red lights or grocery lines often stem from forgetting their purpose or benefits. o Political and personal conflicts escalate when we assume negative motives about others without understanding their perspective. · Mind Reading in Relationships o Assigning negative motives to loved ones can create harmful narratives and strain relationships. o Misinterpretations often arise from incomplete information or personal stress. · Friendly Curiosity as a Solution o A mindfulness practice, combined with curiosity, helps challenge assumptions and expand understanding. o Observing situations without judgment can transform how we see people and events in everyday life. · Practical Steps for Change o Meditation helps identify and detach from automatic thoughts and emotions. o Reframing situations, such as imagining seeing them for the first time, can encourage a more open mindset. · Impact on Relationships and Life o Applying curiosity to interactions fosters better communication and understanding. o Letting go of rigid beliefs can create space for personal growth and improved relationships. Practical Exercises & Tips · Curiosity Check-Ins o When in traffic or waiting in line, consider reframing the experience. Ask yourself how the situation might appear if you didn’t view it as frustrating. · Mindful Moments o Take 5–10 minutes each day to sit quietly and observe your thoughts. Notice how they come and go without attaching judgment to them. · Alien Perspective o Imagine you’re seeing everyday tasks and objects for the first time, with no prior knowledge or context. Reflect on how they might appear from this fresh perspective. Next Episode Teaser James will explore the topic of focus —especially crucial in a world constantly demanding our attention. Learn how to navigate distractions and stay aligned with your bigger goals. How to Stay Connected Subscribe to the Podcast : Never miss an episode—follow on your favorite podcast platform. YouTube : Catch video versions or highlights if you prefer a visual format. Join the Newsletter : Get regular updates, bonus tips, and the chance to engage directly with James. Instagram…
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1 Honest Gratitude: Embracing Life's Challenges and Opportunities 23:36
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요This episode of Walk Through Open Doors with James Henson focuses on the idea of honest gratitude: understanding that life can definitely suck sometimes, but that there is always more good than bad in the balance. Here are the key takeaways: · Gratitude shifts our focus away from negativity and victimhood, allowing opportunities to become clearer. · Honest gratitude acknowledges both the good and the bad. · There are 4 things we can always be grateful for: o There is something instead of nothing. o This something is stable. o We have a consciousness to experience this something. o We can choose our relationship to this consciousness. · We all have a natural negativity bias we must be aware of and account for. · Gratitude builds resilience. · Gratitude counters cynicism and fragility. · There are simple ways to foster gratitude. · Gratitude doesn’t erase difficulties. · Choosing gratitude aligns us with reality because more things go right than go wrong. · Gratitude creates a positive feedback loop.…
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1 Embracing Ownership: The Key to Unlocking Your Potential and Seizing Opportunities 27:53
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요Summary In this episode of Walk Through Open Doors, we talk about the transformative power of ownership in our lives with an emphasis on the importance of taking responsibility for our choices and actions, and how this mindset can lead to radical change. I spent a lot of my life living without any sense of ownership or accountability, so I am able to talk about all of this from the inside. I learned about the importance of taking ownership the hard way, and I’m here to help you avoid that. I created a bonus post for this episode called 5 Ways to Start Taking Ownership Today. You can find it here. Key Takeaways · Taking ownership is everything for personal growth. · Something can be your responsibility without being your fault. · You cannot seize opportunities without ownership. · Real compassion requires confrontation and should not enable a lack of accountability. · Ownership is so empowering it can end up feeling addictive. · Recognizing your role in every situation is essential. · Whether intentional or the result of misplaced compassion, cultural narratives often disempower us.…
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1 How to Make Better Decisions and Seize Opportunities in Life 20:20
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요In this episode of Walk Through Open Doors, James Henson discusses the significance of recognizing and assessing opportunities in life. He emphasizes the importance of pragmatism as a mindset for making effective decisions and avoiding the pitfalls of unrealistic expectations. James continues to talk about the five criteria for evaluating opportunities, focusing on the need for immediate, affordable, exciting, aligned, and sustainable options. He also highlights the balance between pragmatism and emotional decision-making, encouraging listeners to seek feedback and remain grounded in their values. The episode concludes with a preview of the next topic: ownership. Takeaways · Recognizing opportunities can transform your life. · Pragmatism is about facing reality. · The word 'should' can hinder decision-making. · Compromising values for quick gains is unwise. · Emotional states can cloud judgment in decision-making. · Balance pragmatism with emotional intelligence.…
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1 Walk Through Open Doors: Recognizing Opportunities in Every Situation 20:22
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요In this episode, James introduces the concept of 'Walk Through Open Doors' and explains how it has transformed his life. He shares his background as a social worker, therapist, and now a coach, and describes how a media company helped him define his unique approach and how he recognized the importance of recognizing opportunities in every situation. He emphasizes the need to overcome limiting beliefs and take small steps towards growth and improvement. James outlines the criteria for an open door and previews the upcoming episodes that will explore each criterion in depth.Takeaways• Recognizing opportunities in every situation is crucial for personal growth and improvement.• Overcoming limiting beliefs and taking small steps can lead to significant positive changes.• An open door must meet the criteria of being immediate, affordable, aligned, exciting, and sustainable.• Opportunities are all around us, and it's important to assess and pursue the ones that are right for us.• The Walk Through Open Doors podcast will provide practical examples and stories to help listeners recognize and seize opportunities in their own lives.…
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It's been a minute. After a year and a half I wanted to tell you where I've been and talk about where I'm going. There were some difficult times, but I'm excited about what's coming. Thanks for listening.
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Okay, time to wrap up the series on being the main character by talking about three ways we can chip away at the idea of our own importance: 1. Learn to meditate 2. Invest in other people 3. Understand that you will die I know that a lot of this might seem disempowering or morbid, but there is freedom in recognizing that nothing revolves around you. I promise.…
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This is an audio version of an old video that I created specifically for an issue of my newsletter . It’s about 4 things we can always be grateful for: 1) There is something instead of nothing. 2) This something is stable. 3) We have a consciousness with which to experience this stable something. 4) We have a say in how this consciousness relates to the stable something. I was sick when I recorded it, please excuse the difficulty breathing you hear from time to time.…
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If we pay attention, we can see that life is constantly giving us feedback about our behavior. We cannot hear this feedback if we are too busy being the main character, and this will bring us constant trouble.
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Simple ways to tell if you are the main character. Quick spoiler: you're not.
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I used to think I was the main character. Now I know I’m not. There’s freedom in ordinariness.
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Having a morning routine is one of the simplest ways we can improve our lives. I really found that how I start the morning is how my day goes. I wouldn't trade it for anything. I’m doing a class called Surviving Social Media for ClassRT on Tuesday, June 28th at 7pm CST. You can check it out here. _______________________ This episode is meant to be supplemented with the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every Tuesday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
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People ask me often enough what kinds of things I'm working on personally and what kinds of things I struggle with that I figured I'd just do an episode about it. The first two things I'm working on were pretty easy for me to identify: I'm always working on being more gentle and on being more social. I'm not really good at either of these things, but I know they are good for me so I'm doing my best. I think we all have things we need to be working on. It's scary to me that there's this narrative in the world that you are fine the way you are. I get it, a lot of the things we need to work on are not necessarily our fault. The things I like least about myself make a lot of sense when you look at my life, but that doesn't mean that I'm OK with them and that doesn't mean that I don’t have to sort them out. A lot of the things that happen to you are probably not your fault, but what you do with them is your responsibility. It's not compassionate to tell somebody that behaviors and choices that are bringing them harm or are harming other people are OK. It’s not everyone else’s responsibility to get on board with your bullshit behavior. So, in that spirit, this is a podcast talking about me and my bullshit behavior.…
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We all feel this strange obligation to watch the news so that we can be informed and know what's going on. The problem is that watching the news often leads to anxiety and worry, and we may not even be as informed as we think we are in the process. This episode explores the idea of turning off the news and what that might do for us. _______________________ This episode is meant to be supplemented with the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every Tuesday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
Here's a more accurate title: “Care less about all the things that you don't have control over or that you aren’t really interested in so that you can put your time and energy into the things you can control and the things you do care about.” It's a little clunky. Everybody expects us to care about what they care about. They expect their passions and interests to be our passions and interests. It's OK to say that you don't really care about something. It's OK not to put your time and energy into things that don't matter to you or where you cannot make a difference.…
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This week’s simple way to have a good life is to say “thanks for sharing”. Our brains are amazing, but they are also weird as hell. We think negative things about ourselves, we get caught up in arguments and debates inside our own heads, and we get scared about future events that we made up. When we think about these things, we are giving them attention. When we argue with these things, we are giving them attention. Learning to thank them for sharing and moving on is almost magical in how well it works. _______________________ This episode is meant to be supplemented with the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every Tuesday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
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This week’s simple way to have a good life is to remember that you are human. This is the first episode in a series about getting back to basics. We have a super cool brain, and we like to use it. This often leads us to overcomplicate things and forget about some simple things that have a big impact on how we feel: Eating Sleeping Drinking water Moving our bodies Going outside Being social Contributing 2018 was the start of a tough few years for me. I neglected these basic human necessities, and I paid a price for it. I talk about this and more in this episode. This is the first episode in what I am hoping is a series of positive changes for the podcast and newsletter. I’m excited about this. It’s a complete re-brand and re-vamp of the newsletter and podcast, and I think it’s going to be better for everyone who reads and listens. The podcast will be weekly from now on, going out every Monday morning. It will work with the newsletter to provide a deeper dive into whatever topic we are discussing that week. _______________________ This episode is meant to be supplemented with the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every Tuesday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
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As we wrap up the series on self-sabotage we take a look at one of the worst ways we limit our own success: allowing toxic people to have a place in our lives. It sucks, but there’s no way around the fact that some people will bring destruction and misery into our lives the same way someone with the flu will bring sickness. They may not mean to do it, but the results are the same. Learning to recognize and draw boundaries with unhealthy, destructive people is essential to having a good life. _______________________ If you enjoyed this episode, you may enjoy the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every other Monday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
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We behave according to how we see ourselves, but we have a lot more control over this than we think we do. _______________________ If you enjoyed this episode, you may enjoy the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every other Monday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
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We are continuing our series on self-sabotage by looking at three common behaviors that hinder us: perfectionism, procrastination, and self-medication. We also talk about things you can do to break the cycle of these behaviors if you recognize them in your own life. _______________________ If you enjoyed this episode, you may enjoy the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every other Monday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
I did a poll on Instagram asking people what they wanted the next series to cover, and I was surprised that self-sabotage won. In this episode, we talk about self-sabotage and how it can manifest in very subtle ways. I also talk about the very not subtle ways it has manifested for me over the course of my life and what kinds of things I've done to deal with it. _______________________ If you enjoyed this episode, you may enjoy the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every other Monday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
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“The brain secretes thought like the liver secretes bile.” Pierre Cabanis, 18th-century French physiologist. It's a little scary to see just how much authority we give our mind once we take the time to recognize just how random the thoughts the mind churns out can be. We like to think that we are rational, logical beings who only make the best decisions, but a few minutes of observing the mind will disabuse us of this idea very quickly. The mind isn’t bad, but it won’t stay in its lane. It’s super helpful in navigating reality, but it won’t stop there. It just has to start opinionating on things and predicting the future and reading other people’s minds, and this is where our trouble lies. If you enjoyed this episode, you may enjoy the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every other Monday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
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The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature. Marcus Aurelius This is the first in a four-part series on our thoughts and how they impact our lives. In this episode of the podcast, we explore how our thoughts determine the quality of our lives. We will continue this up next week in the newsletter - you can sign up for that here . When you sign up you will only get the newsletter from me, I don't share your email address with anybody else and I do not spam you.…
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We have three degrees of control in life: none, conditional, and total. Knowing which is which and focusing our time and energy accordingly is everything. _______________________ If you enjoyed this episode, you may enjoy the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every Friday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here, unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
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What does a realistic gratitude practice look like - one rooted in reality, acknowledging the difficulties of life, and not suppressing our emotions? We talk about this and more in this episode of the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life Podcast. Two Quick Links: Your Anxiety Toolbox class My friend Meredith Hooke _______________________ If you enjoyed this episode, you may enjoy the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every Friday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
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We experience a lot of different energies in the body. The mind takes these sensations and tells us a story about them, creating our emotions. When we learn how to recognize and deconstruct this process, our life gets better.
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We go through life feeling like we have to do a lot of things we don't want to do, but when we step back and look at things we realized that we are actually choosing to do a bunch of things we don't want to do. Sometimes this is necessary to have the life we want to have, but other times we are doing things without really questioning whether they are necessary or not. _______________________ If you enjoyed this episode, you may enjoy the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every Friday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
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This is the first episode in the new series where we will be talking about the things that clients have most consistently told me were useful to them over the years. The idea that we are not our thoughts is easily one of the most important things that we can recognize. We talk about that in this episode, along with three simple exercises we can use to help recognize this whenever we need to. _______________________ If you enjoyed this episode, you may enjoy the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every Friday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
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As we wrap up season 3 I'm taking the last episode to answer a few of the questions I've gotten over the last few months: Why don’t you tell more stories about your life? What are your hobbies? Favorite things? What are you working on in yourself? What motivates you? We’ll get started on season 4 next week or the week after. Thanks for listening. If you enjoyed this episode, you may enjoy the Simple Ways to Have a Good Life newsletter. It goes out every Friday morning and is full of things intended to help you live your best life, all for free. Sign up here , unsubscribe without any hassle. I don’t share names or email addresses with anyone.…
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There’s power and freedom in minding your business. The world will bring you plenty of problems, it’s unnecessary to go out of your way to find more. There are plenty of things you are well-informed about, there’s no reason to have an opinion on the things that you don’t know much about. So many of our human problems arise from our opinion of things we have no control over. Acknowledging this allows us to address everything with intentionality and purpose. By staying in our lane, we are able to put our time, energy, and awareness toward the things that matter most instead of unconsciously relinquishing control by chasing things that have nothing to do with us or are beyond our influence. Thanks for listening. Send me an email.…
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This is another simple one. I'll talk about the things that concern me with the primary role our phones play in our lives, and I tell you about a few things that have helped me change my relationship with my phone for the better. Thank you for taking the time to listen, take care.
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This one is fairly self-explanatory. Taking a break or permanent vacation from social media can improve your life. There are a bunch of studies that document the harmful effects of social media, especially on young people, not to mention the time suck and fragmentation of awareness that comes with the territory. I don't think you have to be militant about it and you can choose how and when you do it, but introducing some intentionality into your relationship with social media will not hurt you. That's what this episode is about.…
This episode is pretty simple. I mentioned that I think taking cold showers has been really good for me, a lot of people asked me questions, so I did a bunch of research and I talk about it on here. I wanted to keep it short and concise, so it's not exhaustive but it should get you started.
This is a sort of interlude episode while I fight my way through what has become a deep dive with lots of reading and listening to other podcasts to learn about the benefits of cold showers and the benefits of ditching social media. I'm excited about both of those topics so I wanted to put a little more work into them. In this episode, I talk about one of the most important things I've learned working with people for the last 20 years: no one is perfect, no one should be on a pedestal, and it's not fair to ourselves or to them when we do that to people. The more that we can let everyone be fully human the happier we are, the deeper our relationships are, and the more honestly we can live our lives. As always, I'm deeply grateful for everyone who takes the time to listen to these episodes, and I love hearing from people. You can always shoot me an email at james@jamesscotthenson.com if you have an idea for a topic, or if there is a situation in your life that might be helpful to discuss on the podcast. I appreciate your time…
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This episode was inspired by one of the questions I got most frequently over on Instagram: “What should I look for in a counselor?” This isn't an exhaustive exploration of this question, but we touch on things like the relationship, scope of practice, and professionalism in the counseling field and I think it will at least point people in the right direction in finding a good therapist. If you're looking for a counselor right now, Psychology Today and Better Help seem to be really good online resources, and a quick Google search will probably point you towards different agencies or people in private practice in your area.…
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This episode is in response to a valid criticism someone recently shared with me: this podcast claims to be about simple ways to have a good life, but I spend a lot of time talking about things like awareness and the ego. Not everyone knows how to take those concepts and turn them into actual change. I realized the person who told me this was right, so I took some time and thought about the 10 most concrete and actionable things that made a difference in my life. They are: 1) Meditate 2) Take Cold Showers 3) Ditch Social Media 4) Put Your Phone Away 5) Drink Water 6) Prioritize Sleep 7) Get Out of Bed 8) Limit or Avoid Alcohol 9) Stay in Your Lane 10) Help Others None of these is a one-size-fits-all answer. Some people will have an easier time incorporating them than others, but even one or two might make a difference. Thanks for taking the time to listen, take care.…
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It is strange to me that this generated some pushback when I posted about it on Instagram a few months back. We only know what we know, and if we surround ourselves with people that are familiar, it's impossible for us to know more than we already know. Thick bubbles used to be the privilege of the wealthy, but the Internet has allowed us all to cultivate echo chambers that feed our own ideas back to us in the guise of likes and comments, making us think we are more right than we really are. This also creates a world where people who are different than us are faceless enemies, making our lives more fearful and anxiety-ridden than they need to be. In this episode of Simple Ways To Have A Good Life we talk about thinning our bubble by being open to knowing and understanding the stories of people who live differently than us, come from different places, then believe things we might not believe.…
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“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” Viktor Frankl It is sad that we are not taught this, but there is a difference between the things that arise in our internal experience without being invited and our response to those things. If someone wrongs us, we will feel anger, this is normal. Our power lies in what we do with that anger, and what kind of hold we allow it to have on us going forward. This episode of Simple Ways to Have a Good Life is all about recognizing that space between stimulus and response, and using it to make our lives better.…
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We live in a world that offers us thousands of distractions in the guise of opportunities. If we aren’t careful we end up doing a large number of things really poorly, and we aren’t happy with the results. We try to be everywhere and end up being nowhere. This episode of The Simple Ways to Haves a Good Life podcast is all about priorities and how we spend our time. Thanks for taking the time to check it out. _______________________ Looking for more? I write a lot - check out my website or the mini-blogs I post on Instagram . I also have a free resource library with a bunch of cool things you can have with no obligation. Check it out here .…
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We tend to overprioritize our internal experience. Our thoughts and our emotions can take a good day and turn it bad and they often claim knowledge of things they do not have knowledge of. As we look at these simple ways to have a good life, learning to meditate is one of the most important things we can do because it helps us change our relationship to all the things going on inside of us and it helps us learn that a great deal of it doesn't mean anything at all, much less mean as much as we think it does. _______________________ Looking for more? I write a lot - if you found this episode interesting you might enjoy my blog or the mini-blogs I post on Instagram . I also have a free resource library with a bunch of cool things you can have with no obligation. Check it out here .…
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