Are your Wants "Don't Wants" in disguise?

Tshirt Truths with Bonny King-Taylor

I'm Bonny King-Taylor, a life coach and counselor. And I want to welcome you to Tshirt Truths, where we talk about the ideas that, when we become comfortable with them, like a favorite t-shirt, we become more fully ourselves, live more satisfying lives and interact more effectively with those around us. You've heard that saying, change your language, change your life. Right? Well, it turns out that doing so is no more difficult than washing a stiff new t-shirt until you really want to wear it.
Let's get started by slipping into today's Tshirt Truth:
Focus on what you WANT vs. what you DON'T WANT.
Let me know in the comments where you can use this tool, and if you'd like a little help applying it to a specific situation, I'll reply in the comments.
Next time on Tshirt Truths: The P. M. S. Model for behavior change
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Episode Transcription
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Tshirt Truths, Season 1, Episode 2

Title: Focus on what you WANT vs. what you DON'T WANT.

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Have you ever read or heard something and thought to yourself, daaaaang, that was deep. I gotta get that on a t-shirt. I have that thought all the time.

There are universal trues and things that you might even hear in passing that can affect us so deeply that we automatically want to make them a part of who we are. But to do that, we need to go a step further than just writing them down on the back of an envelope and finding them under a coffee cup months later. We have the opportunity to practice them so that we're metaphorically wearing them in everything that we do. I'm Bonny King-Taylor, a life coach and counselor, and I want to welcome you to Tshirt Truths, where we talk about the ideas that when we become comfortable with them, like a favorite t-shirt, we become more fully ourselves, live more satisfying lives and interact more effectively with those around us.

(01:03):

You've heard that saying, “change your language, change your life”, right?

Well, it turns out that doing so is no more difficult than washing a stiff new t-shirt until you really want to wear it. Let's get started by slipping into today's t-shirt truth, focus on what you want rather than what you don't want, and be very careful that your wants are not actually don't want in disguise. This is one of the most important tools you can ever use to change your experience of your own life. And yet it seems to be pretty difficult for people to turn into a habit. And that's because most people don't actually know what they want, much less, how to ask for it in any sort of constructive way. And to be perfectly honest, we live in a society that sort of thrives on this fact. So let's see what we can do to shift that for you.

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Then, if you haven't listened to season one episode one, do that now to grab the best tool for eliminating catastrophizing, the kind of worst case scenario, thinking that comes along with being a hairless ape. By the end of this episode, though, you'll have a sense of how well you think you're doing on winning the game of life, how those pesky don't want, or why we genuinely believe we can't have nice things and words that can keep you focused on what you really do want and how to trick your brain into using them. All this wi

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1. Are your Wants "Don't Wants" in disguise? (00:00:00)

2. Welcome (00:00:10)

3. Change your language, change your life (00:01:03)

4. What we'll learn now (00:02:10)

5. Next time: The P.M.S. Model (00:03:57)

6. Don't wants go terribly wrong (00:04:49)

7. Notice globalized, terminal phrases (00:06:16)

8. Join me next time (00:08:19)