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Overcoming People-Pleasing: A Journey to Authentic Living with Paige Chavez

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Jill에서 제공하는 콘텐츠입니다. 에피소드, 그래픽, 팟캐스트 설명을 포함한 모든 팟캐스트 콘텐츠는 Jill 또는 해당 팟캐스트 플랫폼 파트너가 직접 업로드하고 제공합니다. 누군가가 귀하의 허락 없이 귀하의 저작물을 사용하고 있다고 생각되는 경우 여기에 설명된 절차를 따르실 수 있습니다 https://ko.player.fm/legal.

In this powerful episode of The You World Order Showcase podcast, host Jill Hart sits down with Paige Chavez, an inspiring coach who helps women overcome people-pleasing tendencies. Paige shares her personal journey, revealing how she broke free from a life of seeking external validation to embrace authentic living. Her story, filled with deep insights, provides a roadmap for anyone struggling to set boundaries or reclaim their sense of self.

The People-Pleaser's Trap

Paige opens up about her own experience of being trapped in people-pleasing for years. As a child, she was lively and full of energy, but during her teenage years, she lost herself, becoming distant and numb. She felt like she was merely observing her life rather than living it. Paige describes how cognitive dissonance—when your beliefs and values don't align with your actions—took over, creating a cycle of misery and regret.

She stayed in an unhealthy relationship for two years, unable to say no or set boundaries. The defining moment came when a roommate suggested she end the relationship, and although she didn't yet have the strength to make decisions for herself, that moment set her on a path toward change.

A Turning Point

Paige’s true awakening came when she read an article by George Hartwell that described how people-pleasers sacrifice their identities to keep others happy. This realization hit her hard. For years, she had questioned her mental health, wondering if she had depression or a personality disorder because she felt disconnected from her true self. Recognizing that she had been sacrificing her identity for the sake of others was a pivotal moment that launched her journey toward healing.

Motivated by her pain, Paige began developing systems to push herself out of her comfort zone and reclaim her life. She eventually became a certified life coach and earned a degree in interpersonal and family communication, dedicating herself to helping others overcome people-pleasing just as she had.

The Healing Process

Paige emphasizes that overcoming people-pleasing is like breaking free from an addiction. It runs deep and affects every aspect of life, but the first step is seeing things as they truly are. Many people brush off their people-pleasing tendencies, thinking it's just being "too nice," but Paige warns of the long-term dangers of living this way. She encourages listeners to examine how these habits could affect them five or ten years down the road.

A key part of Paige’s healing process involves helping people anchor themselves in their values and strengths. She likens her past self to a leaf blowing in the wind, constantly swayed by others’ needs and opinions. By learning to ground herself, she was able to set lasting boundaries and take control of her life.

Boundaries: The Cornerstone of Self-Care

Setting boundaries is a central theme in Paige's work. She explains that people often try to set boundaries first without doing the necessary inner work, which leads to frustration and disappointment. For boundaries to be effective, they must be built on a foundation of self-awareness and self-worth. Only after addressing the internal causes of people-pleasing can someone confidently establish and maintain healthy boundaries.

Paige also reflects on the importance of teaching boundaries to children, sharing how she’s already working with her young daughter to help her understand when and how to say no. By modeling healthy boundaries, Paige hopes to empower her daughters to live authentically and avoid the same struggles she faced.

Self-Love and Nourishment

Paige introduces her concept of self-nourishment, a deeper approach to self-care that goes beyond surface-level activities like eating chocolate. True self-nourishment means taking care of all aspects of yourself—body, mind, soul, and heart. Paige uses the metaphor of a tree to explain this process: just like a tree needs nourishment to grow and bear fruit, so do we. When we take the time to nourish ourselves, we can give to others from a place of abundance rather than depletion.

She emphasizes the importance of being patient with yourself and understanding that life has seasons, much like a tree. There are times for growth, times for rest, and times for renewal. By embracing these seasons, we can live more authentically and avoid the burnout that comes from constantly trying to please others.

Embrace Your True Self

As the conversation draws to a close, Paige leaves listeners with a powerful message: it's okay to be yourself. There is only one of you in the world, and people are missing out if they don't get to experience the real you. By taking the time to care for yourself and set healthy boundaries, you can live a more authentic and fulfilling life, free from the constraints of people-pleasing.

Paige invites listeners to join her growing Facebook community and offers a free resource: "53 Phrases to Say No in Any Situation," designed to help people-pleasers find the right words to set boundaries with confidence and respect.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who struggles with people-pleasing or feels trapped by the expectations of others. Paige’s wisdom and personal story provide hope and actionable steps for breaking free and living authentically.

free guide: 53 phrases to Say No in Any Situation for People-Pleasers

https://pages.paigechavezcoaching.net/free-guide-1

If you want to connect with Paige Chavez or learn more about her work, you can join her Facebook group or sign up for one of her free 3-day challenges designed to help you overcome people-pleasing from the inside out.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1695820784254692

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In this powerful episode of The You World Order Showcase podcast, host Jill Hart sits down with Paige Chavez, an inspiring coach who helps women overcome people-pleasing tendencies. Paige shares her personal journey, revealing how she broke free from a life of seeking external validation to embrace authentic living. Her story, filled with deep insights, provides a roadmap for anyone struggling to set boundaries or reclaim their sense of self.

The People-Pleaser's Trap

Paige opens up about her own experience of being trapped in people-pleasing for years. As a child, she was lively and full of energy, but during her teenage years, she lost herself, becoming distant and numb. She felt like she was merely observing her life rather than living it. Paige describes how cognitive dissonance—when your beliefs and values don't align with your actions—took over, creating a cycle of misery and regret.

She stayed in an unhealthy relationship for two years, unable to say no or set boundaries. The defining moment came when a roommate suggested she end the relationship, and although she didn't yet have the strength to make decisions for herself, that moment set her on a path toward change.

A Turning Point

Paige’s true awakening came when she read an article by George Hartwell that described how people-pleasers sacrifice their identities to keep others happy. This realization hit her hard. For years, she had questioned her mental health, wondering if she had depression or a personality disorder because she felt disconnected from her true self. Recognizing that she had been sacrificing her identity for the sake of others was a pivotal moment that launched her journey toward healing.

Motivated by her pain, Paige began developing systems to push herself out of her comfort zone and reclaim her life. She eventually became a certified life coach and earned a degree in interpersonal and family communication, dedicating herself to helping others overcome people-pleasing just as she had.

The Healing Process

Paige emphasizes that overcoming people-pleasing is like breaking free from an addiction. It runs deep and affects every aspect of life, but the first step is seeing things as they truly are. Many people brush off their people-pleasing tendencies, thinking it's just being "too nice," but Paige warns of the long-term dangers of living this way. She encourages listeners to examine how these habits could affect them five or ten years down the road.

A key part of Paige’s healing process involves helping people anchor themselves in their values and strengths. She likens her past self to a leaf blowing in the wind, constantly swayed by others’ needs and opinions. By learning to ground herself, she was able to set lasting boundaries and take control of her life.

Boundaries: The Cornerstone of Self-Care

Setting boundaries is a central theme in Paige's work. She explains that people often try to set boundaries first without doing the necessary inner work, which leads to frustration and disappointment. For boundaries to be effective, they must be built on a foundation of self-awareness and self-worth. Only after addressing the internal causes of people-pleasing can someone confidently establish and maintain healthy boundaries.

Paige also reflects on the importance of teaching boundaries to children, sharing how she’s already working with her young daughter to help her understand when and how to say no. By modeling healthy boundaries, Paige hopes to empower her daughters to live authentically and avoid the same struggles she faced.

Self-Love and Nourishment

Paige introduces her concept of self-nourishment, a deeper approach to self-care that goes beyond surface-level activities like eating chocolate. True self-nourishment means taking care of all aspects of yourself—body, mind, soul, and heart. Paige uses the metaphor of a tree to explain this process: just like a tree needs nourishment to grow and bear fruit, so do we. When we take the time to nourish ourselves, we can give to others from a place of abundance rather than depletion.

She emphasizes the importance of being patient with yourself and understanding that life has seasons, much like a tree. There are times for growth, times for rest, and times for renewal. By embracing these seasons, we can live more authentically and avoid the burnout that comes from constantly trying to please others.

Embrace Your True Self

As the conversation draws to a close, Paige leaves listeners with a powerful message: it's okay to be yourself. There is only one of you in the world, and people are missing out if they don't get to experience the real you. By taking the time to care for yourself and set healthy boundaries, you can live a more authentic and fulfilling life, free from the constraints of people-pleasing.

Paige invites listeners to join her growing Facebook community and offers a free resource: "53 Phrases to Say No in Any Situation," designed to help people-pleasers find the right words to set boundaries with confidence and respect.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who struggles with people-pleasing or feels trapped by the expectations of others. Paige’s wisdom and personal story provide hope and actionable steps for breaking free and living authentically.

free guide: 53 phrases to Say No in Any Situation for People-Pleasers

https://pages.paigechavezcoaching.net/free-guide-1

If you want to connect with Paige Chavez or learn more about her work, you can join her Facebook group or sign up for one of her free 3-day challenges designed to help you overcome people-pleasing from the inside out.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/1695820784254692

This podcast uses the following third-party services for analysis:
Podtrac - https://analytics.podtrac.com/privacy-policy-gdrp

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