Ep. 188: It Shouldn't Take a Breakdown to Get His Attention

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Let me tell you about a cycle that's breaking midlife women.

She tries to communicate. Calmly. Clearly. Directly.

She says: "I'm overwhelmed."

She says: "I need help."

She says: "Something has to change."

And he nods. He says "okay." He makes a token effort.

And then... nothing changes.

So she tries again. And again. And again.

Until finally, she stops trying.

She goes quiet. She shuts down. She stops asking.

And he thinks everything's fine.

Until she breaks.

Until the stress, the exhaustion, the loneliness—all of it—becomes too much.

Until she explodes. Or collapses. Or both.

And suddenly?

Now he's paying attention.

Now he's asking what's wrong.

Now he's concerned. Now he wants to help. Now he wants to fix it.

And she's sitting there thinking:

"I've been telling you for months. Why did I have to fall apart for you to finally hear me?"

Here's what I need you to understand:

This cycle is not sustainable.

But it's also not inevitable.

You don't have to break down to be heard. You don't have to explode to be taken seriously.

There's a different way to communicate—one that gets his attention BEFORE you collapse.

And you can start using it today.

This is Episode 9 of the series: "Marriage Conversations Midlife Besties Are Having (But Afraid to Say Out Loud)."

I'm Jennifer Roskamp, and this is The Intentional Midlife Mom podcast.

Let's dive in.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Free guide: He Doesn't Get It (Yet): How to Help Him See What You're Carrying—Without Starting Another Fight - GET IT HERE
• Check out all the marriage resources at: https://www.jenniferroskamp.com/midlife-marriages-maps

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1. The Cycle of Communication Breakdown (00:00:00)

2. The Consequences of Ignored Needs (00:01:30)

3. The Cycle of Communication Breakdown (00:03:03)

4. Understanding the Breakdown Cycle (00:04:30)

5. The Consequences of Calm Communication (00:07:24)

6. Transforming Communication Strategies (00:12:15)

7. Breaking the Cycle of Crisis Communication (00:16:23)

8. Tools for Effective Communication (00:19:15)