The Anatomy of Trust: How Broken Promises, Clear Expectations, And Consistency Shape Who We Let In

The Complexity of Toilet Paper

What really breaks trust—the big betrayals or the tiny misses that stack up? We dig into the moments that quietly erode confidence, from “I’ll be there at two” to the email that never lands, and unpack why respect and trust are inseparable. A hard-earned story about an on-time ultimatum becomes a clear rule: time is respect, and consistency is the only path to repair. Along the way, we laugh at ourselves, own a public apology, and map the real difference between a rupture of trust and a simple failure of expectations.
We also explore how trust transfers through people. When a close friend vouches for someone, their credibility becomes yours—and the risk does too. That’s why setting expectations early matters more than charm. Remote teams will recognize the thread: you can build deep trust at a distance with predictable delivery, transparent capacity, and a habit of defending each other’s reputations. From theater and improv, we borrow living proof that real-time collaboration only works when partners show up and keep small promises.
The toughest pivot comes back to self-trust. People-pleasers often turn breaches into self-blame; a better move is to name the promise, clarify the standard, and let repair be measured by kept commitments over time. We offer a simple personal framework: write your values, define non-negotiables, decide your response to breaches, and practice the small behaviors that make big trust possible. If you’ve ever wondered whether to trust first or make it earned, you’ll leave with language, stories, and tools to choose wisely—and to fix what’s worth keeping.
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1. Welcome To The Stall (00:00:00)

2. The Trio In The Stall (00:01:46)

3. Framing Trust Part Two (00:04:16)

4. Apology, Misunderstanding & Repair (00:05:30)

5. What Counts As A Breach (00:07:35)

6. The On-Time Lesson That Changed Everything (00:11:54)

7. Trust, Respect, And Small Cuts (00:14:36)

8. Expectations Set Versus Assumed (00:15:52)

9. Unspoken Rules In Relationships (00:18:01)

10. Proxy Trust And Social Transfer (00:21:04)

11. Do We Trust First Or Earn It (00:22:39)

12. When Trust Breaks: Self-Blame And Worth (00:26:20)

13. Anatomy Of Trust: Consistency Over Time (00:28:44)

14. Remote Work And Building Trust At Distance (00:31:10)

15. Theater, Improv, And Live Trust (00:34:07)

16. Leaks, Ruptures, And Repair (00:36:35)

17. Expectation Setting And Reputation Risk (00:39:05)

18. Is Trust Harder Today (00:41:08)

19. Values, Morals, And Boundaries (00:44:03)

20. A Personal Trust Framework (00:48:17)

21. Self-Trust As The Starting Point (00:51:06)

22. Mic Drops & Closing Reflections (00:52:55)