EP 242: Why It's Hard for Your Kid to Take Responsibility

The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma}

You ask your child what happened, and before you can finish the sentence, they’re already saying, “It wasn’t my fault!”

Sound familiar?

I know this is SO frustrating! But there’s a reason this is so hard, and it has everything to do with (of course!) the brain and nervous system.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why taking responsibility is an Owl brain skill that depends on reflection, regulation, and cause-and-effect thinking
• How Watchdog and Possum states block the ability to reflect and instead create defensive, blame-shifting language
• Simple ways to grow your child’s capacity for responsibility through connection, regulation, and safety, not shame
  
  

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• All About Me workbook ($15 download on my website or FREE with your Club membership)

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/responsibility

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