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SWM 139 – Why won’t my spouse do x – I would do it for them
Manage episode 440419950 series 2761019
SWM 139 - Why won't my spouse do x? I would do it for them. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Recently, I’ve noticed a question popping up all over the place. It’s come up in our supporter forum, coaching sessions, emails, comments in our latest survey, and more. This question points to a fundamental tension in many marriages - at the root of it is a self-centric desire. The desire for our spouse to serve our own needs and expectations. Whether it's about sex or more subtle emotional needs, this recurring question often revolves around a common theme: a wish for partners to be more like ourselves.
For men, this question frequently focuses on sexual matters. Some men wonder why their spouses don’t engage in sex as often as they would like or why they don’t fulfill certain specific desires. On the other hand, when women voice similar concerns, the issues are often more nuanced. Many women express frustration with their partner's inability to intuitively understand their needs without explicit communication.
And, of course, in some marriages, those dynamics are reversed.
Both scenarios boil down to a deeper, more universal issue: the tendency to project our own needs and expectations onto our spouses, often without fully considering their unique perspectives and experiences.
In this post, we’ll delve into why this tendency is problematic and how understanding our partner’s individual differences can relieve this frustration.
- Our latest survey (on the topic of BDSM)
- Spontaneous desire is a blessing (post/podcast)
- Responsive desire is a blessing (post/podcast)
- Responsive vs Spontaneous Desire (post)
- How to feel "connected" during sex (post/podcast)
- Desire vs willingness (post)
- Trapped gatekeepers - blame the guard, not the prisoner (post)
- Our Sexploration List (resource)
- Marriage coaching
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter
If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.
Thank you to all our faithful supporters!
If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference.
Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.
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SWM 139 – Why won’t my spouse do x – I would do it for them
Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective
Manage episode 440419950 series 2761019
SWM 139 - Why won't my spouse do x? I would do it for them. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Recently, I’ve noticed a question popping up all over the place. It’s come up in our supporter forum, coaching sessions, emails, comments in our latest survey, and more. This question points to a fundamental tension in many marriages - at the root of it is a self-centric desire. The desire for our spouse to serve our own needs and expectations. Whether it's about sex or more subtle emotional needs, this recurring question often revolves around a common theme: a wish for partners to be more like ourselves.
For men, this question frequently focuses on sexual matters. Some men wonder why their spouses don’t engage in sex as often as they would like or why they don’t fulfill certain specific desires. On the other hand, when women voice similar concerns, the issues are often more nuanced. Many women express frustration with their partner's inability to intuitively understand their needs without explicit communication.
And, of course, in some marriages, those dynamics are reversed.
Both scenarios boil down to a deeper, more universal issue: the tendency to project our own needs and expectations onto our spouses, often without fully considering their unique perspectives and experiences.
In this post, we’ll delve into why this tendency is problematic and how understanding our partner’s individual differences can relieve this frustration.
- Our latest survey (on the topic of BDSM)
- Spontaneous desire is a blessing (post/podcast)
- Responsive desire is a blessing (post/podcast)
- Responsive vs Spontaneous Desire (post)
- How to feel "connected" during sex (post/podcast)
- Desire vs willingness (post)
- Trapped gatekeepers - blame the guard, not the prisoner (post)
- Our Sexploration List (resource)
- Marriage coaching
Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter
If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.
Thank you to all our faithful supporters!
If you like that there are no ads in our podcast and want to keep it that way, check out our support page for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference.
Lastly, if you like our podcast, please rate it as it helps others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.
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