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S2 E14. Spanking as a Form of Discipline - My Evolution of Thinking
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When I grew up, spanking was a common practice. Now, many countries have outlawed spanking children (the USA isn’t one of them). Here I share my personal experience with being spanked as a form of discipline, how my views on it have changed, plus some science.
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Kathy Varol에서 제공하는 콘텐츠입니다. 에피소드, 그래픽, 팟캐스트 설명을 포함한 모든 팟캐스트 콘텐츠는 Kathy Varol 또는 해당 팟캐스트 플랫폼 파트너가 직접 업로드하고 제공합니다. 누군가가 귀하의 허락 없이 귀하의 저작물을 사용하고 있다고 생각되는 경우 여기에 설명된 절차를 따르실 수 있습니다 https://ko.player.fm/legal.
When I grew up, spanking was a common practice. Now, many countries have outlawed spanking children (the USA isn’t one of them). Here I share my personal experience with being spanked as a form of discipline, how my views on it have changed, plus some science.
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This episode wraps up season 2 of the Unfolding podcast! What a beautiful ride it’s been. This episode also includes an invitation to check internally on your own changing seasons and to ask what needs to be let go of. What is no longer serving you? What has been taking more energy than it gives back for so long, you’ve forgotten what balance feels like. Where is it time to create space so new things can grow?…
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It’s important to accept what is, in relationships. What you have control over is you, and how you show up, not how others show up or how others change. Not everyone has the same capacity, that’s not better or worse, but it’s important information for what is possible. What is an energetic match and what is not. If you continue to show up for people who refuse to show up for themselves - don’t be surprised when you’re doing all the heavy lifting. If you continue to pour yourself out to people who don’t have the capacity to hold space for you, don’t be surprised when you end up in puddles on the floor. Treat your energy with care, and honor what you have capacity for and what others have capacity for.…
You can’t self-care yourself out of a fundamentally misaligned part of your life. Self-care in other areas could create the space and habit to see what needs to be changed in the misaligned area, but it will not in itself fix the misaligned part. Better sleep won’t make your toxic relationship better. Meditation won’t suddenly make your boss appreciate you. Becoming a workaholic might distract with professional accolades, but it won’t fill that personal connection hole in your chest.…
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Here I’ll share a practice that I use for checking in on what’s an aligned YES or me, and what’s an aligned NO. The more I do this, the more attuned I get to myself, and the faster I understand what is aligned for me and what is not. This practice also uncovers areas I have misalignment, and offers a doorway into where I can spend time healing.…
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Procrastination can take many forms. It tends to be around pushing off something hard, or uncomfortable. Procrastination is an action of pushing off that’s driven by emotion. And emotion is a messenger. It’s important to ask why it’s there and what it’s trying to tell you. Procrastination is usually defined by pushing off “doing”, but I’ve recently discovered ways that I’ve procrastinated by pushing off “being” as well. Let me share what that looks like.…
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1 S2 E32. Encountering a Boundary Area That’s Internally Misaligned 10:11
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요We all have boundary areas that can feel a little like quicksand, or walking into a foggy field. They’re a blind spot to us. This can often be because we were taught at an early age that we didn’t get to have boundaries in that area, so we developed a strong habit of shoving internal discomfort aside, as soon as it arises, when we walk into that foggy field. In this episode, I share an example of my ill-defined boundry area, and how I’m starting to create definition within it, one delayed experience at a time.…
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Often resentment indicates an unmet wanting. An unmet wanting of friendship, love, acceptance, inclusion, approval, desire, fairness, or something else. When you have resentment toward someone that isn’t moving through you, allow this to be an invitation for reflection. Let yourself go back into that relationship, that encounter, and replay it. Ask yourself if there are any places you can take accountability for communicating to the other person that they could treat you in a way that isn’t reciprocal, that isn’t balanced, that isn’t actually in alignment with how you want to be treated? I find resentment can often be the feeling left over when we forfeit our power to another person. When we wait for them to approve of us, we stop seeing our own worth and standing up for it. This visualization, of going back to take radical accountability of how you might have permitted an imbalance to happen in the relationship can shift everything. This reflection can shift the power back to you and finally let you move through this feeling and fully let go of the resentment.…
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If you let it, shame will be a neon pointing you to where you have more healing to do. Shame shows us parts of ourself that we haven’t accepted. Parts that we have withheld compassion, understanding, and love from. Parts that do not feel safe with the current you. In this episode I’ll share a memory of a past action I buried in shame, and how it transformed when I gave it space.…
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Listening to music the other night, I’m taken back to my 16-year-old self. She wants to how everything turned out, and if I’m ok. She wants to know who she becomes.
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A friend asked me yesterday what I love about coaching. I’d actually never been asked that before. What I love, is helping others tap into their inner wisdom. Helping them uncover the knowing that has been there all along. I love the laugh of delight that happens when a clear channel to knowing opens. I love the privilege of being a mirror that helps another person see deeper into themselves. If you find yourself at a crossroads right now, and you’re not sure where to go, listen to this episode for some advice on how to tune into your inner wisdom.…
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I’ve wasted an insane amount of energy over the years trying to make friendships “work”. When I hadn’t found my community yet, and I was hoping I’d find my people. Trying different people on, seeing if I could make them work as my people. Here’s the thing. You won’t have to “try” when it’s for you. Yes, you might need to step outside your comfort zone at the start, and ask that person that you think is your vibe if they’d be interested in grabbing a cup of coffee. But after that initial discomfort to get the ball rolling, if it’s right, the ball will gain it’s own momentum.…
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I have spent much of my life talking down to myself when I don’t know things. Grading myself on the toughest of curves, and feeling that not knowing is a sign of my inadequacies. I wrote a poem last week, that dives into this topic, but offers a different perspective to view unknowing through.
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1 S2 E25. The Illusion of the Progressive Ladder (Lessons from a Snake) 5:57
5:57 나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요5:57
나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요The underbelly of a snake has wide, straight, horizontal scales that bi-sect across its body. The underbelly scales look like a ladder, going from the tip of its tail to its head. However, to gain momentum, the snake creates “s” shapes with its body - contracting parts and expanding other parts - it’s this serpentine movement that propels it forward. The snake is a good example of the illusion of the ladder. The illusion that progression in our lives should be a straight line, from one rung of the ladder to the next. Don’t fret if you feel you’re going side to side, that might be the very movement you need to get to where you’re trying to go.…
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When you give your spark to someone else’s dream. Your spark moves out of your body where the energy to feed it lives. It moves into theirs, and their energy now needs to feed both. This isn’t good for anyone involved. The most powerful your spark will ever be is when it’s housed in your body, fueling your dreams.…
Thoughts are like water. Some evaporate as soon as they arrive. Like dreams. Other thoughts are like fog, you only get a hint of them but you can’t see through to a clear picture. They can obscure your thinking of other things. Others are like a drip, repeating constantly and causing damage in the process. Others stagnate, and like stagnant water become an unhealthy incubator. Others flow like a river, a natural rhythm and progression.…
After a recent trip to see my family (who I love), I realized, I felt exactly like I had jetlag from flying across the globe. My insides were off-kilter. I was a bit disoriented from my body and from time. It occurred to me, that being around family, instead of jetlag across time zones, we can experience jetlag across our own lifespan. Not knowing what space and time we’re currently in - and switching between them.…
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It’s amazing how a tree can have an entirely hollowed-out section in its trunk, and still be thriving. I bet our higher selves think the same thing when they look at us humans.
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1 S2 E20. The Weight of Believing People Want to See You Fail 7:21
7:21 나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요7:21
나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요I have been carrying around the weight of believing people want to see me fail for as long as I can remember. This belief has made me feel guilty, or that I don’t deserve success. What if, instead, I believed everyone wanted to see me succeed? Let me tell you how this perspective shift changed my inner landscape.…
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A lesson from the universe that I wasn’t expecting, delivered by a wild bird that keeps visiting and pecking at my office window.
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Finding a way to have frequency/repetition for practicing a new habit is incredibly important for creating lasting behavior change. If it only happens once a month, the change you’re trying to create is hard to remember and almost impossible to keep top of mind. In a relationship, find ways for the new pattern to take up more space - an out-weighed amount of space - so it can be practiced and become the auto-response.…
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1 S2 E17. To the Eternal Optimist, Remember, the Sun Is Blinding 5:04
5:04 나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요5:04
나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요Always being a ray of sunshine has its downsides. Remember, the sun is blinding.
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Entrepreneurship is a spiritual journey. I don’t think this is talked about enough. The spiritual aspect of jumping off the corporate cliff took me by complete surprise. Let’s dive into why the entrepreneurial journey is a spiritual journey.
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Worrying about the future can become addictive. Believing you can control what happens by worrying and thinking about it enough. If you find yourself stuck in a worry loop, it’s important to find a way to step outside of it, so you can gain a new vantage point.
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1 S2 E14. Spanking as a Form of Discipline - My Evolution of Thinking 9:17
9:17 나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요9:17
나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요When I grew up, spanking was a common practice. Now, many countries have outlawed spanking children (the USA isn’t one of them). Here I share my personal experience with being spanked as a form of discipline, how my views on it have changed, plus some science.
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When you have practiced the habit of self-abandonment, to break out of those deep worn patterns, you need to allow yourself to move to the other side of the spectrum. Give yourself permission, an invitation, and a challenge to be selfish. More selfish than you’ve ever been. Try it out. Try it on. See what feels right, and what doesn’t through your lived experience. This intentional practice will enable you to break your old self-abandonment patterns and start moving into a place of alignment - finding a spot to settle somewhere between the spectrum of self-abandonment and selfishness.…
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Meditating this morning, an analogy between scars on our physical body and scars on our energetic and relationships bodies surfaced. I’d love to share it with you.
For everything in life, there’s a tipping point where more is worse instead of better. Empathy is no different. Identifying too strongly as an empath can have its pitfalls. When empathy becomes central to your identity, you may start to over-empathize. This creates a risk of neglecting your own lived experience. This can make setting personal boundaries challenging.…
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Not healing ourselves doesn’t just hurt our own ability to fully engage in the world, but it hurts those closest to us too. Our armor cages out and contracts our partners as well. One of the most important things we can do for our loved ones is take time to heal ourselves.
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1 S2 E9. My Subconscious Mistake in Picking Previous Partners (Hoping to Keep My Heart Safe) 7:58
7:58 나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요7:58
나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요In the past, I was compromising with the partners I chose, because I thought I was a compromise. And I thought over-compromising - if the “pros” in my list were more than the “pros” in their list - would keep my heart safe. But it doesn’t work that way.
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I recently heard a definition of grounding that resonated deeply. I hadn’t heard it explained this way before. In this episode, I’ll share that definition with you, and offer a new visualization to try in your grounding practice.
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Each of us has a gravitational force. When you allow yourself to sink into the depths of your being, and call all of your energy back into you, you become a force that is felt deeply. Not only by yourself - allowing yourself to be cocooned in your gravity - but also by everyone who encounters you. But when you allow your energy to be pulled into a million directions - toward all the shoulds and expectations - you become fragmented. You feel fragmented because your energy is fragmented.…
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I recently went to a wake held for the passing of a friend's dog. It got me wondering why wakes for pets aren’t a common thing. Pet’s become true family members, and yet their loss is usually marked in relative isolation. Grief is a hard, heavy, and ferrell emotion. Community is a key part of being supported through the grief journey.…
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Dystopian story energy (Aliens, mad max, horror), is the same frequency as the doom and gloom addiction to the future and current state of our world. Many people fall into an addictive trap, feeling compelled to know about all the suffering in the world and embody it. This addiction causes an unrooted overwhelm that’s driven by guilt, a sense of responsibility or duty to things you can’t control at the expense of what you can control.…
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It’s important to ask others before unloading on them if they have the capacity to hold you in this moment. This question acknowledges that as humans we don’t always have the capacity to support others. And it’s important to check in with yourself - if someone doesn’t check in with you first - to see if you have the capacity to show up for how someone is asking you to show up. When you are an emotional holder for others, you’re allowing them to energetically pour into your cup. It’s ok if your cup is too full.…
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1 S2 E3. Chemistry Is Like Magic and Each of Us Is a Magician 6:40
6:40 나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요6:40
나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요Each of us holds the potential to be a magician. Consider how we influence those around us. Our energy shapes meetings, events, and interactions. Our actions trigger responses. The frequencies we operate on ripple out, leaving an imprint around us wherever we go. To harness this power, you must be intentional about the reactions you wish to ignite.…
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1 S2 E2. Are You Unintentionally Bringing Into Your Life the Thing You Want to Avoid? 8:35
8:35 나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요8:35
나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요Many times the way we contort ourselves to behave in an aim to prevent something, causes that thing to happen. Once you become aware of this counterintuitive truth, you start noticing this mind-boggling pattern everywhere. In this episode, I share an example of how I was bringing people who wanted to see me fail into my life.…
Welcome back to the Unfolding podcast! It’s been a bit of a break, and I’m so excited to share new perspectives with you, starting with this season's kick-off reminder about how uniquely extraordinary, delightful, and awe-inspiring you are. Anytime you need a reminder of how special your you-ness is, listen to this.…
What an amazing season of Unfolding. 108 episodes delivered three times a week. This podcast has been a remarkable journey for me. I hope it’s been a delightful journey for you too. As we wrap up this season, I wanted to share my thoughts.
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A thousand-mile journey sounds daunting, even impossible. At the start, when the path forward is filled with uncertainty, there is an equal measure of doubt. But the truth is, each of us will complete multiple thousand-mile journeys in our lives.
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I had always thought of my job as a privilege. And it was. I had an amazing job, at an amazing company, doing things other people dream about. And it was my dream job for a while....until it wasn't. Until one day the perceived safety net of my position and all that it provided transformed to feel like a suffocating straight jacket.…
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My brother recently shared this analogy with me, and I can’t stop thinking about it.
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I always felt like other people knew something I didn't. That other people had "the answer". That there even was "an answer", and I was already behind. Turns out, to any meaningful question, there is no "right answer".
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Today’s episode is a guided meditation. Find a quiet spot, take a seat, and let’s look inward to find your expansiveness.
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Today I want to share a recent perspective shift I had, that moved me from the fear something was a bad omen, into the realization that something was a blessing.
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The word "integrity" comes from the Latin word integer which means "whole" or "complete". Integer can also mean a non-fractional number, or a number that is whole and not fragmented. It means being true in every scenario. That there is one authentic version of you.
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Today we’ll dive into dreams, courage, and the journey of life.
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Have you ever thought about how pervasive drinking culture is globally? Let’s talk about it and discuss the importance of set and setting (i.e. mindset and physical environment) as a foundation for building connection off. Is drinking culture the default foundation we want to keep?
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Each of us embarks on countless heroes' journeys throughout our lives. Through these journeys, we encounter trials and are specifically there to help us grow. It is through the journey that we learn, evolve, and gain skills and knowledge we can teach. A hero's journey isn’t complete until the hero returns home to share what they’ve learned. Ask yourself: What have you left (i.e. people, beliefs), relearned, and are now able to go back and share through your own vulnerable experience? Where can you be the elder? How can you generously and humbly share your truth, while holding the reality that there is no one truth or one right path?…
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Multiple emotions can have the same internal body feeling. The emotional pair that is discussed most are the feeling of nervousness and the feeling of excitement. For many people, these emotions express similar internal body feelings. I call emotions with similar body feelings sister emotions. When you have one sister emotion you identify as “good” and one you identify as “bad”, these sister emotions provide an opportunity to start reframing your relationship with the experiences that trigger the “bad” emotion. Let me explain how.…
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I spent a lifetime trying to win approval. From parents, siblings, friends, teachers, professors, colleagues, and bosses. It became such an ingrained habit, that somewhere along the way my awareness lost sight of who I was trying to win approval from. When you seek approval from someone else, you are telling yourself that your worth is dependent on their beliefs about you. It’s impossible to hold onto self-worth when it’s constantly on trial and up for negotiation. Ask yourself “Who am I seeking approval from now?”. This is a doorway to inner awareness. What about this person makes you question your self-worth? What clue is hiding there about an area of yourself that you need to love internally?…
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1 95. Tapping Into One of Life's Greatest Teachers (Death) 13:18
13:18 나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요13:18
나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요This episode is inspired by a beautiful quote from the book The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A. Singer. Micheal beautifully explains the cosmic paradox of why death is one of life’s greatest teachers. In this episode I invite you to create a relationship with death, and I share how I’ve done that.…
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This analogy about power and water is gift from the novel Foundry, by Eliot Peper. Inside your own body, what are the beliefs walling off internal access to stepping fully into your power? What “untruths” are those beliefs rooted in (e.g. not enough, don’t have agency,)? The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. By thinking someone else has to give it to them, instead of realizing they’ve held it all along.…
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I’ve spent a lifetime pretending I don’t see. Pretending I don’t see your sadness, your fear, your pain. Mistakenly, I learned at a young age that seeing wasn’t welcomed. That noticing threatens the illusion of strength. I learned that not noticing is a form of compassion. I spent 38 years pretending not to see. I spent 38 years hiding my superpower. In doing that, I spent 38 years betraying myself. What are your blocks? What is the biggest block that keeps you away from sharing your gift? The truth is, you can’t expand into the fullest version of yourself until the blocks are removed. They are taking up the very space you need to expand into.…
I was a bulimic for two years. Let’s dive into how I got there, and what I learned coming out of it.
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There’s a great quote by the physics Nobel winner, Richard Feynman, it’s something to the effect of “You are the easiest person to lie to.” I love this quote, because of its truth. An unavoidable part of the self love journey is to break the habit of lying to yourself. What do I mean by that? One common self lie is that others' feelings are more important than yours. Or, that you contorting yourself for others will make them love you. Let’s dive in.…
Grief is a wild, feral, emotion. I spend most of my life refusing to let grief fully into my experience. I bottled those feelings up, afraid they would drown me. Afraid there would be no coming back. Then, a few years ago after a friend passed, I intentionally invited grief to come in as it would. I’d like to share what happened.…
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Do you find yourself trying to anticipate what others need, so you can give it to them before they ask? Do you feel like you know best, what’s best for everyone else (if only they would listen!!). Let me share a reframe, of how this habit might actually be a way your stealing from others (and what to do instead).…
I was the Queen of check-lists. I crushed the workday as I sailed down my list. A hit of dopamine rushing through me as I tick one box after the next. As the list whittled down, my sense of accomplishment and satisfaction soared. I spent decades honing my craft to achieve the coveted title of Queen of Checklists. But, I made a mistake. Checklists have their place—don’t get me wrong—but checklists don’t belong everywhere. Let me share why.…
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Let’s talk about the dark side of people-pleasing and little white lies.
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The world needs more defiant rule-breakers. Let me tell you why.
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Home is a sanctuary. Home is “where the heart is”. It’s taken a while for me to start treating my home as an extension of me, versus a model of what I’ve been told a home should be. Let me share that journey with you.
Here I talk about honor, women as property, and the power of being your own knight in shining armor.
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I’m currently listening to Viola Davis’ memoir. There are two lines that hit my core. Here I’ll share them both with you.
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Marriage is an adventure! There are going to be beautiful bits and hard bits. If you lean into the hard parts together, there will be expansion and growth on the other side. For my nieces’ recent wedding card, my husband and I shared ten lessons we’ve learned from 10 years of marriage. Maybe these will help you as well.…
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If you’re feeling in a rut in an area of your life, listen to this episode for an invitation. In this episode, I’ll share an invitation that might help you free yourself from your rut.
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The purpose of life is simple to say, but hard to do. It’s to live authentically. To show up in the world as the fullness of you, regardless of what situation you’re in or who you’re around. Life is about identifying who you are, and then bravely living as you each day.
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People pleasing -you can use that same muscle to delight YOU. It’s that part of you that KNOWs how to delight others. But that part was never meant to only be turned outward. If it’s been a long time since you let it look inward, you might have a hard time at first understanding what you want. But all of that information is there, you just need to give the pleasing part permission to turn its gaze inside. Saying yes when you want to say no is a habit like any other. Start practicing saying yes to yourself - you are the gatekeeper of your experience and energy, no one else is.…
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In a million different ways I forfeited my voice. It wasn’t until I left the corporate world that I truly felt the cumulative impact of how much my voice was no longer mine. Here I share how that happened, and how I’m reclaiming my voice.
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A tree growing through cement might wish it was planted in a field. But it’s the pushing through the cement that makes it what it is, the shape it is, the strength it is. The tree planted in the field will have its own struggles. You cannot avoid struggle in life, but you can choose how you view it. You can refuse to accept the hand you were dealt, and cause more anxiety by refusing reality, or you can view your challenges as a gift.…
The way dogs is a good lesson for human interaction. Social play between dogs is often prolonged by role reversal, in which larger, stronger or generally more aggressive dogs momentarily perform behavior more typical of smaller, weaker or more timid animals, in order to extend the play. Their objective is to continue playing, their objective is not to win. What if during interpersonal arguments our objective was to extend connection, not win? How would that change conflict?…
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It’s interesting to realize that you use manipulation tactics…without even realizing that’s what you’re doing. This happened to me recently, and it took me by surprise.
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Most answers reveal themselves through doing, not thinking. I spent my life the other way around. Trying to out smart everything, including myself. Including what my body or intuition was telling me. When you’re doing something, all your senses come online - you have access to so much more information than what your brain - trapped inside your dark skull - can give you on its own.…
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Sacrificing your enjoyment for other people’s enjoyment is a misconception. Even if you don’t say it explicitly, your death of delight will impact the collective delight. Delight builds off delight. If you truly want to support others' experience, the best way to do that is to be honest about your experience too.…
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Sacrificing your enjoyment for other people’s enjoyment is a misconception. Even if you don’t say it explicitly, your death of delight will impact the collective delight. Delight builds off delight. If you truly want to support others' experience, the best way to do that is to be honest about your experience too.…
Emotion = energy in motion. When we trap emotion, trying to suppress it, the feelings grow bigger and bigger as they try to get your attention. Over years the emotion grows in your body, as more pressure is needed to keep it from bubbling up. Until you feel your anger, if you let it out, will consume the world. Until you feel your grief will drown you. Until you fear your shame will confirm your worst fears that you’re not enough or a bad person. Emotion is meant to be in motion. Felt and released, not trapped and stored.…
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Be careful how you respond when someone sets a boundary, particularly when a grown child does. At some point, a child will need to start energetically separating from their parents. They need to figure out where their parents end, and where they begin. They’ll need space to figure out who they are. Try different things to see how they feel. Use their voice to express themselves. Be careful how you respond as they voice who they are. LISTEN. Show up. You can say when you're disappointed. When you wish they’d choose something else. But be in their corner no matter what. Ready to pick them up if and when they fall. Do not punish your child as they try to figure out who they are. Pushing them away sends the signal that your love is conditional.…
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When my husband leaves for a business trip, I feel very ungrounded. I used to feel bad about this ungrounded feeling, but now I feel differently.
When good things happen to you, accept them with a gracious heart. There have been many bad things. There have been times you weren’t picked. The times you were forgotten. And there will be more bad things along the road. So when the good comes, lean in fully. Embrace it with open arms. Accept the blessing with thanks. If you want to share your good, do. Sharing shows the universe you know it’s not the last good. You know there is abundance, and will accept it with open arms one blessing at a time. That you also understand the honor of being able to invite others to your table. Others whose blessings are tied up. Others, who through their experience with you, might start believing in abundance too. In graciousness, gratitude, and the deep joy that comes from sharing.…
There is power, presence, and peace found in allowing. Allowing means allowing others to be as they are. Not trying to change them. Not trying to control them. Not being frustrated that they are how they are. The practice of allowing starts with allowing yourself to be. Stopping the war against self, and allowing yourself to exist exactly as you are in each moment. Not wishing you were different. Not wishing you felt different. But instead allowing exactly as you are to be, to move, to change, to shift. Allowing means freeing yourself from the illusion of control. Allowing means freeing yourself from all the internal friction that is caused by resistance to what is.…
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Our bodies are wise. Our bodies let us know when we’re operating out of alignment with ourself. Out of alignment with our inner truth. Our bodies let us know when we’re operating off of fear instead of love. If we fail to listen to our body, it will increase the volume of its signal to try to get our attention. What is your body trying to tell you?…
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We will all spend more time below ground than above. How does knowing that change the way you view your above-ground time?
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How you feel about yourself is the most important choice you’ll ever make. And it is a choice. The narrative you repeat in your head that’s on repeat, that narrative is self-hypnotizing you. That narrative determines how you see yourself, and as you project that narrative into the world, it determines how you experience the world. If you repeat, “I’m not good enough”, you will believe that. But if you repeat, “I’m enough”, you’ll believe that. Get curious about the narratives you repeat, and ask yourself, is that what you want to believe? If not, change the narrative.…
The present moment is your seat of power. It’s the only moment you can act in. It’s also your eternal now. There is never tomorrow, since by the time it arrives, it’s now. The only moment you’ll ever have is now. So how will you spend your now? Will you waste it, by waiting for tomorrow? Each day staying on the fringes of life, not diving into the messy existence that’s calling you? Life is messy. Life is a living thing, and living things have unpredictability, but with that is immense beauty.…
You are not your feelings. Your feelings interact with you. Your feelings are visitors, to the house of you, each with a message to give you. But you are not your feelings.
Have you ever noticed that when you move out of a house, the rooms look smaller once everything is out of them, not bigger? This always perplexed me. But now, I understand why.
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Dream journaling can be a rich area for insights from the void. In this episode I share two insights around intention and connection that came to me during a dream.
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1 59. Radical Transparency Can Be FUN (Here Are Two Examples) 7:01
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요This episodes expands off the last episode on radical transparency, sharing the following two examples of radical transparency: Simon Sinek https://www.tiktok.com/@motivationstop/video/7213401106372742405?_r=1&_t=8cEXlhLjK4Q Weather man https://www.instagram.com/reel/CmhRh1VD309/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link…
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1 58. Internal Family Systems (IFS) and Radical Internal Transparency 12:30
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요I’ve been playing with the idea of internal radical transparency and external radical transparency. Cultivating radical transparency is a direct route to awareness and ultimately clarity. Let’s dive in, but first we’ll do a quick look at what Internal Family Systems (IFS) is, and how it can play a role in radical internal transparency.…
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For each of these podcast episodes, I only do one take, and I have no script. I start each episode with one idea of what I want to talk about (for example, this one is sharing why I only do one take), and then I just talk. This pushes me out of my comfort zone. It makes me feel more exposed, but there are a number of reasons I choose to do it this way. The main one, is I think too much of life is perfected to the point of being lifeless. There is beauty in leaving room for the unexpected, the unscripted, and the purely inspired.…
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Here’s what’s striking about my dogs behavior: He doesn’t connect rejection to his identity. He never associates rejection with something he did wrong, or the notion that he isn’t good enough. He doesn’t let rejection infect the pleasure and joy he gets out of an activity. Humans are different. Humans internalize rejection, bring it into our identity and wrap it in shame. But we don’t have to. We can learn from man’s best friend.…
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Family, particularly siblings, have the potential to be the most powerful healing circle. But unfortunately, most families don’t operate that way. We have deep patterns of how we interact with family members, that present a huge hurdle. But, the most difficult things in life often have the greatest rewards.…
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The magic art of tidying up shouldn’t stop at throw pillows and toaster. Let go of friendships, jobs, and anything that is no longer energy-building. You need to let go in order to make room for new to grow. Letting go is hard, but letting go can be an act of love.
Bet on yourself. Don’t wait for someone else to choose you. When you choose you, fully, unabashedly, humbly, you become a magnetic force. This isn’t overconfidence, this is self-acceptance. Overconfidence is an act for others, hoping they’ll see you a certain way. Or a shallow, “fake it until you make” it performance for yourself. Truly accepting yourself is a quiet constant internal act rooted in gentle love. No bravado. “The first product of self-knowledge is humility.” - Flannery O’Connor…
We live in an insatiable culture that is always chasing more. More money, more praise, more love. But more isn’t always better. Our bodies can be a wise guide to teach us that more isn’t always better. With eating, we know when we are full. We know when we’ve had enough. We know when adding more will only cause discomfort and pain. If more starts making you constrict, that’s an indication you’ve hit the point where more isn’t better. Listen to that.…
How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you. If you don’t see yourself, if you downplay your experience, you are teaching others to do the same.
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There’s been an unnerving trend, where a lot of people have stopped asking questions. In conversation, they just look to be seen, but never to see. Trying so hard to curate your perception of them. Who they’re talking to is irrelevant. They are expanding themselves in an attempt to feel internally that they are enough. This approach is never going to make them feel like enough. It’s a vicious cycle. The person on the other side of the table can feel that you are lost in your own spotlight, and they will disengage, which will send a signal that you aren’t captivating enough. So how do we break this cycle?…
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You are worthy of your desires. Your desires are meant for you. Magnetic, from both ends. Lay down the belief that you are not worthy of your desires. That you do not deserve your desires. Remove the internal friction between yourself and your desire. Trust your desires to show you the path that you are meant to walk down.…
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Often we try to shame or hate parts of ourselves out of existence. This approach is a dead end. The only way to heal, or to create lasting change, is through love. There is a modality of psychology called Internal Family Systems (IFS). IFS states that each of us is made up of multiple parts, and underlying them is a person's core or true Self. Like members of a family, a person's inner parts can take on extreme roles or subpersonalities. So when you say “a part of me feels guilty”, there actually is a part of you that feels guilty. While there might be another part of you that feels excited about the very same thing. A core tenet of IFS is that every part has a positive intent, even if its actions are now counterproductive or cause dysfunction. Parts can do extreme behavior, that at one point was needed to protect you, however, might now be a way of behaving that no longer serves you. There is no need to fight with, coerce, or eliminate parts; the IFS method promotes internal connection and harmony to bring the mind back into balance. For more information on IFS, check out these: Video : an explanation of IFS (this is the first in a 4-part series, by the creator of IFS). Self Therapy Book . Gives a great description of IFS.…
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It’s easy to view trees as something static. But if you observe, you’ll notice that trees are a beautiful mentor when it comes to embracing change. When was the last time you bloomed as widely as a cherry blossom tree? When was the last time the fire inside you burned so bright it covered a mountainside, like the leaves of a tree change in the fall? When was the last time you let everything that was no longer serving you fall away, creating space for new? When was the last time you went into yourself, shutting out all distractions?…
You can’t force creativity, and yet, often times we try to do exactly that. But here’s the thing, when you force yourself to sit down and “be creative” that act of forcing yourself means that you’re disassociating from parts of yourself. You’re cutting off access to parts of your brain, which means your thinking will be constrained, and your output will suffer. There’s another approach you could use……
What if you replaced your “to do” list with a “to be” list? What would that mean? Instead of approaching each item as a hurdle to get through, so you can move onto the next item (and approach it in the same way) - you would approach each item with your full presence. You would submerge yourself fully in the task. No disassociation. No resentment. Just presence, curiosity, play, love, care, and awareness.…
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If you’ve been in an unsafe relationship, give yourself compassion as you heal. It will take a while to start trusting that your environment is safe. It will take a while for the patterns you developed to protect yourself to start shifting. Now is the time to pour into yourself more self-compassion than you ever thought possible.…
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When you compartmentalize you, by definition, show up as less than your full self.
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Let’s dive into two very different ways to show up in work and life…
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The collection of things that make up you are different than the things that make up anyone else. There is no pre-existing mold that can capture you. It’s the very fact that this collection you contain doesn’t exist anywhere else that makes you unique and special. That makes you valuable. That makes you irreplaceable.…
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The times that I’ve betrayed myself, when I’ve shied away from acting in alignment with myself are regrets that don’t leave me. I’m thankful for those memories because they are reminders that it is far more painful to betray myself than it is to act in a way that someone else might think is “too much”.…
There are things that cannot be sped up, no matter how hard you try. The seasons will take the time they always take Winter won’t end faster, because you’re excited for the spring. The day won’t be longer, and the night won’t be shorter, to accommodate your plans. You cannot water a plant faster than it can drink. Faster than the soil can absorb it. If you’re watering too fast, or too much, water will run off to where the ground can take it. Not to where you’re trying to put it. Take a moment to think about your life. Where are you overwatering? Where are you putting more and more effort, but the effort isn’t landing where you want it? Look for places where the effort and the impact aren’t matching. In these places, it might be that the balance of effort and timing is off. In these places, adding more effort won’t help. No matter how much you want it to. But easing up will. Easing up will let you lift your gaze. Gain perspective. Focus. Easing up will save energy to be used elsewhere. More impactfully. Easing up will give that place time to absorb the energy you’ve already put there. Easing up, you’ll get there at the same time, and with less stress and frustration.…
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The natural rhythm of the Earth - this shifting of it’s axis - causes a balanced leaning in and leaning out throughout the year. This movement is what creates change, sparking the rhythm of the seasons, and the cycle of life. This rhythmic dance is a reminder to balance our own leaning in and leaning out. Our own seeing and being seen. Our own give and take.…
When you act in alignment with yourself, you become a guide. A teacher for others. Small acts can cause a tsunami ripple effect. When you put your energy toward something that truly matters to you, don’t let someone else convince you it doesn’t matter just because they don’t understand it. If you’re doing something that matters to you, it matters.…
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Let’s dive into the other side of “if it’s no a hell yes, it’s a no”, that’s often overlooked…
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How you are - your very being - will trigger certain people. That does not mean you should shrink yourself, in the unattainable hope to avoid ever triggering someone else. Instead, when a trigger happens, you can use it as a doorway for connection. Lean into the doorway, holding compassion for yourself and the other person. This is where the real magic happens. There are certain wounds each of us carries that were created in relationship with other people. Repairing these wounds fully, requires healing in relationship with other people - coupled with experience, time, and space for a new pattern to emerge.…
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The tiniest things can have an enormous impact. When done in repetition, over time, and across masses. Tiny changes can shift the entire reality of what we see and experience.
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It’s through our sharing with each other, that our awareness and understanding expands. Each of us has an important perspective to share, but a singular perspective is rarely a complete picture.
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The point of life is not to survive. After all, none of us make it out of life alive. So the point isn’t survival. The point is to thrive. The point is to thrive in connection with others. Humans are social creatures. The point is to see and be seen. To help and be helped. In equal measure. We weren’t meant to live life alone.…
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It’s easy to blame others for the situation we find ourselves in. But blaming others disempowers us. It gives up control. While taking accountability can be scary, and feel overwhelming, it’s also incredibly powerful. If you take accountability, you take control. This means you can change the situation. Here I share how I took accountability for the dissatisfaction I had with the depth of my relationships. I share how taking accountability changed my perspective and ultimately changed my relationships.…
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Many people say they are looking for balance between work and life, but there are some people that deep down aren’t actually seeking balance. Their actions continue to perpetuate workaholic hours. Constantly working until bedtime and on the weekends, while their colleagues are living a balanced life. Here I share the 4 most common reasons people bury themselves in workaholism.…
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1 29. How You Feel About an Experience Is How You’ll Feel About Yourself While Doing It 5:47
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요Pay attention to the energy you have toward experiences. The energy you feel toward an experience ends up becoming the energy you feel toward yourself while engaging in that experience. For example, if you feel resentful about going to a dinner party, you’ll resent yourself while you’re at the dinner party (and you’ll resent everyone else there too). Or, if you don’t value certain chores, you won’t value yourself while you’re doing those chores. Since the energy transfer will stay with you, it’s important to choose intentionally what you engage with and what you decline.…
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Have you ever considered how each of us can simultaneously fear being “too much” and being “not enough” all at the same time? Crazy, right? When you decide how you show up based on an external reference point (i.e. other people), that reference point is a moving target. A moving target is a shaky foundation. What the world needs is for you to show up based on your internal reference point. Based on what is true to you. An honest and true expression of yourself. That is a solid foundation.…
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The law of attraction means that the things you spend your energy thinking about, end up materializing. It means what you think about creates your reality. What does this mean? Here I share how my belief that “I am not enough” actually cause me to show up as less than myself, thereby being less than myself.…
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I share a passage from the book, The Nature Of Personal Reality: Specific, Practical Techniques for Solving Everyday Problems and Enriching The Life You Know (A Seth Book) by Jane Roberts. The passage shares how beliefs shape your reality, and the importance of not suppressing thoughts or feelings.
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A baby is awe-inspiring simply because of their existence. Their being is delightful. But somewhere along the line, we start attaching the worth of people to what they accomplish. We start attaching our own worth, to what we can do or what we have done. But your worth is always there, simply for the fact of your existence. Afterall, you are the first and last time you will ever exist.…
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Let’s talk about the major flaw in the chase of perfection.
How often do you decide your path based on what you “should” do? Based on what other people expect of you. What would life feel like if you let your doing flow from your being? If the way you showed up was always an expression of your being? How would it feel to run toward the things that bring you alive, instead of forcing yourself to chase the things you think you’re supposed to chase?…
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Life is meant to be a tango between “doing” and “being”. A beautiful unfolding dance that balances those two states. If you spend all your time “doing” - as I have for large stretches of time - you miss out on life. The dance falls apart.
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When you honor the path that’s right for you, instead of the path of obligation, you give both yourself and others a gift. When you honor what’s right for you, you become a beacon. You show others how to do the same, from a place of love. Honoring what you need, creates a doorway for others to honor what they need. Remember, love has nothing to do with obligation or guilt. When something is coming from a loving place it doesn’t need to be coerced. It’s given freely and in abundance.…
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Have you ever noticed that the half-moon is very similar to the yin-yang symbol? But the difference between the moon, and the yin-yang symbol, is that the moon isn’t static. It changes. While on average, it’s balanced half and half, the moon flows through different expressions. Are you allowing yourself to be created in each moment? Fully present and honoring what you need? Or, are you clinging to static rules?…
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I always viewed myself as a black sheep. This made me feel less than. It made me feel like I was fundamentally wrong. It made me feel separate from others. Part of the reason I felt like a black sheep was that I had mistakenly confused “different” as “bad”. But my perspective changed. Instead of seeing myself as a black sheep, I now know myself as a mother f*%#^ing rainbow sheep. Listen and find out how……
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Your voice has immense power. Your voice allows you to step out of the cages you’ve put yourself in. The truth will set you free. Be brave and let people see who you are. When you use your voice, that powerful act tells yourself that what you feel, what you think, and who you are MATTERS. When you use your voice in truth, it’s an act of self-love.…
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I used to think the past was fixed. A weight impacting who I am, and who I could become. I no longer believe that. The meaning of events will unfold as you’re fully ready to perceive them. While the past has happened, it is not complete. As you grow and learn your capacity to perceive changes, and because of that, your past can be one of your most powerful teachers.…
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Perspectives shape how we see the world. If you feel stuck, if things aren’t fitting, if you’re not fitting, it might be time to try on a new perspective. This podcast shares perspectives that have been profound on my journey of unfolding into the fullest version of myself. A journey that continues each day. I created this podcast for a younger version of me. The version of me that was struggling to figure out how she fit into the world. The version of me that was struggling to find her voice. The version of me that was struggling to feel like she was enough. In each episode, I offer you a new perspective. Try it on. If it fits, take it. If it doesn’t fit, leave it where it is. That means it’s not for you. One perspective at a time, we’ll grow together. We’ll peel back layers of conditioning to find the truth underneath. Your vastness is waiting. Pull up a seat my love. The journey is now.…
Surrender. Allow what is, to be. You are not alone. You don’t have to do everything on your own. Separation is an illusion. You are connected to everything. Be open to receiving what is already there, waiting to be invited in.
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There is a romanticized narrative of two people merging into one when they marry. A narrative about two halves becoming one whole. I hate everything about this narrative. It supports a lie that each one of us needs another person to be complete. You are complete without anyone else. There are no exceptions. You were born enough. You were born complete and you still are. Also, when you merge with someone else, you lose the gift of perspective. You stop being able to see them for the independent, incredible human that they are. You start to treat them as poorly as you treat yourself.…
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Have you ever tried to backtrack to the first moment you started to question your self-worth? For me, it was when I became aware that I am female. Since females have a long history of being treated as the lesser gender. So I disassociated with the parts of me there are female and exaggerated the parts of me that are male. But it’s only in accepting all aspects of yourself, the divine feminine included (regardless of if you’re male, female, or nonbinary), that you’ll truly be able to accept your full self-worth. Each aspect brings something different into your being. One is not less than, and one is not greater than. They are additive. Each part needs to be invited inside for your being to become whole.…
Conflict is inherent in life. It’s not something that can be avoided by being a “good” person, or being a “kind” person. Conflict is integrated into the very fabric of life, and yet it’s something most of us were never taught how to do in a healthy we. Instead, we vilify conflict. However, conflict is a doorway that offers gifts. The gifts of seeing something, someone, and yourself differently. As Malidoma Some said “conflict is the spirit of a relationship asking itself to deepen.” What does it look like to approach conflict in a healthy way?…
We all know what toxic masculinity is. We know what it looks like. We know how it feels to be on the receiving end of it. But what is toxic femininity? My husband asked me that question, and it took a long time for me to find my answer to it.
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Imposter syndrome is something most people struggle with. Feeling like you’re not good enough for the job. Afraid the curtain will lift, and everyone will see your inadequacies. I thought I understood imposter syndrome fully. I thought I understood every way it impacted me. I was very wrong. The most damaging way imposter syndrome impacted me was something I never even realized.…
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I’ve come to understand the saying “you are what you eat” in a very unexpected way. This new understanding explains why I look at my body with much kinder eyes than I ever have before.
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1 18. Does Anyone Else Have an Antagonistic Relationship With Clothing? 7:23
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요Does anyone else have an antagonistic relationship with clothing? Or is it just me? Here I’ll share why I have always resented clothing, where the relationship fractured, and how I’m trying to heal it.
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1 17. Changing My Relationship With My Body (From Mistrust to Trust) 7:03
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나중에 재생 나중에 재생 리스트 좋아요 좋아요We dive into the damage of following a mind-over-body approach to life. When we allow our minds to be dictators over our bodies, and refuse to listen to the wisdom that’s in our bodies. When we create mistrust between our minds and bodies, placing them on opposing sides. I’ll offer up a perspective that has helped me heal the relationship with my body.…
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“What is your relationship like with your uterus?” Take a moment to ask yourself that question. Turns out my relationship with my uterus has been very dysfunctional for a very, very long time.
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Unfolding with Kathy Varol
Here we dive into the difference between rationally understanding something (on a brain level) versus truly understanding something on an embodied level. I’ll share my experience with survivors' guilt and PTSD, and my journey from not identifying with those labels to finally having an understanding of what they mean for me. I’ll also share the role psychedelic therapy played for me and how it’s necessary to travel through the messy confusion of vast feelings before it’s possible to understand past experiences with a rational label like trauma, survivors guilt, or PTSD.…
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Unfolding with Kathy Varol
Every time a tree moves in the breeze, it’s moving in a way it’s never moved before. The wind will never be exactly the same. Never the exact same velocity or direction. And the tree is never going to be exactly the same. Never the same number of leaves, needles, or branches. There is beauty in being present for something that’s never been done before. The lesson from the trees is that even in doing something you have seemingly done a million times before, it is never the same. If you check out, if you go on autopilot, then it will feel the same. But if you choose to be present, if you open yourself up to experience what’s there this time around, you’ll step into the beauty of the journey.…
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Unfolding with Kathy Varol
Have you ever thought about how amazing your lungs are? I have. They are freaking incredible! I’ll let you in on my lung fan-girl thoughts.
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Unfolding with Kathy Varol
In this life, you get the privilege of being YOU. No one else in the history of the universe will ever get to have the experience of being you. Only you will get to experience the delightful thoughts that float into your head, seemingly out of nowhere. Only you will get to understand the depths of your feeling and the capacity of your love. You have a front-row seat to you. You get to love yourself in a way that no one else ever will, because you get to experience yourself to a depth no one else ever can. You get to learn how to treat yourself with unconditional love, honoring the incredible being that you are. What a privilege it is to get to love you.…
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Unfolding with Kathy Varol
Let’s talk about the danger of controlling others. The damage it causes to relationships, and the way a power imbalance can create a control trap. Never forget, under control lives fear, not love.
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