When you feel like a fostering failure

Fostering Marriage

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On this episode, we’re talking about when you feel like a failure as a foster parent and how to manage through that.

Foster marriages opened their heart and home to helping out children in need, had good intentions, perhaps a lot of expectations of how everything would go, and now reality is setting in and you’re not handling things well at all

Types of situations when foster parents often feel like a failure:

Responses to behavior
Feeling a lack of bond and blaming yourself
Feeling like a failure to your bio-kids
Feeling like a failure in your marriage and you don’t have anything left to give
Feeling like they’re failing God or as a Christian

What’s happening at a deeper level

Importance of understanding your "Root System"
Thinking/Lies and emotions of fear, guilt and shame, and stress
Why personality styles happen

The risks of not managing yourself well:

Living in the guilt/shame and stress of it and constantly either feeling out of control or becoming very submissive
Beating yourself up / negative self talk
Feeling out of control and reacting to everyone that way
Seeking worth in other ways or in very unhealthy ways
Lots of conflict in your marriage that creates disunity
Living in disappointment with each other

How to move forward - both immediate and longer term solutions

Recalibrating expectations

Of yourself
Of each other
Of your child
Taking thoughts captive (this is a practice that’s long-term though)
Discussing struggles with each other
If that’s uncomfortable, start with little things so you practice becoming more vulnerable
Responding well to each other
Holding each other accountable and offering help
Seeking help
More training/knowledge
Babysitters/respite
Counseling

Failure is inevitable. It’s how we respond that is most important.

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