Lessons from a 20 Year Old Friendship with My Best Friend, Danya

On The Rocks with Olivia Noceda

This is a very special episode for me because I got to interview my best friend of 20 years… Danya. She’s a musical theater actress, corporate nine-to-five, girly, thats obsessed with home decor (just like me).

As we enter our 30s, we're realizing that friendships shift and evolve in many different ways. At one point, we became codependent and decided to take a friend break. Now that we have more knowledge on boundaries, self-care, and choice, we have a whole new approach to our friendship and environment.

Listen to the full episode and take this episode as a quick reminder to shoot your oldest friend a text telling them how much you appreciate them. It will go along way and can’t recommend it enough.

Key Discussion Points:

Red flags of codependent friendships:

• Asking your friend to make decisions for you, and then blaming them when things go wrong.
• Spending too much time together, using it as an excuse to avoid addressing your own issues and insecurities.

Green flags:

• Asking your friend if the relationship ever becomes too much for them, or they feel like they need a break from discussing certain topics, or feel like you are talking too much about yourself and the relationship. You give them the full freedom to be open and honest with you.
• Giving legitimate and valid reasons for your opinions on your friend's life.

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