#164 | Why Self-Care Isn’t Selfish—And How That Lie Is Hurting Parents and Allies Everywhere

More Human More Kind: Guidance for Parenting LGBTQ+ Teens & Growing Into a Courageous Ally

Do you feel guilty for resting or like your needs are always last on the list?

In this deeply personal solo episode, Heather Hester reflects on what it truly means to mother yourself and why so many of us have been conditioned to believe that self-care is selfish. She speaks directly to the exhausted, over-functioning, and emotionally depleted listener who’s ready for a more compassionate way forward.

• Learn how to recognize the signs that your “cup” is empty and what to do about it
• Discover how to speak to yourself with more grace, kindness, and curiosity
• Gain permission to set boundaries, rest without guilt, and model healthy love in action

Tune in now and start the healing practice of self-mothering because nurturing yourself is the most radical gift you can give the world.

Hi, I’m Heather Hester, and I’m so glad you’re here!

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At the heart of my work is a deep commitment to compassion, authenticity, and transformative allyship, especially for those navigating the complexities of parenting LGBTQ+ kids. Through this podcast, speaking, my writing, and the spaces I create, I help people unlearn bias, embrace their full humanity, and foster courageous, compassionate connection.

If you’re in the thick of parenting, allyship, or pioneering a way to lead with love and kindness, I’m here with true, messy, and heart-warming stories, real tools, and grounding support to help you move from fear to fierce, informed action.

Whether you’re listening in, working with me directly, or quietly taking it all in—I see you. And I’m so glad you’re part of this journey.

More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen explores connection, courage, and community for every concerned parent, mom, or ally navigating fear, grief, and bigotry with hope, resilience, and empathy. Through open-minded education, inclusive parenting guidance, and advocacy for mental health, safety, and a human first approach, we support LGBTQ youth and stand for human rights and social justice. More Human. More Kind. empowers listeners to shift their mindset, embrace activism and allyship, and lead with kindness, healing, and purpose.

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