24: How to Say No Without Sounding Like a B****

Healing with Haelly

Episode Description:
In this episode, we dive deep into the art of saying no. It's a skill many of us struggle with, often fearing that we'll come across as rude or uncaring. But learning to say no is essential for our mental and emotional well-being. Join us as we explore why we say yes when we want to say no, the pitfalls of people-pleasing, and why "no" can be the nicest word in our vocabulary.
Key Takeaways:
1. Why We Say Yes When We Want to Say No:
- Seeking Approval: We often say yes because we crave approval and want to be liked. This desire can be summed up in the prayer: "God spare me from the desire for love, approval, and appreciation. Amen."
-Wanting to Be Liked: Our need to be liked can override our true feelings, leading us to agree to things we don't want to do.
- A Desire to Be Helpful:We genuinely want to help others, but sometimes we simply can't, and saying yes anyway can lead to burnout.
2. People Pleasing:
- People-pleasing is a common trap that many fall into. We explore how this behavior can be detrimental to our well-being and how to break free from it.
3. "No" is the Nicest Thing You Can Do Because It's True:
- Saying no is often the kindest thing you can do for yourself and others. It's a way of being honest and respecting your own boundaries.
4. Why Saying No is Great:
- Saying no allows you to prioritize your own needs and well-being. It helps you avoid overcommitting and feeling resentful.
5. Do You Notice Trespasses?
- Have you allowed the gate to stay open into your yard (heart)? Within your body is your treasure. Where are people screwing with your brain?
- We discuss the importance of recognizing when others are overstepping your boundaries and how to protect your mental and emotional space.
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Links suggested from the show:
-How To Say No PDF from Dave Ramsey Personality

-How To Set Boundaries by Henry Cloud
Book Recommendations from the show:
Boundaries by Henry Cloud
I Need Your Love is That True by Byron Katie
Thank you for tuning in, and remember, setting boundaries is an act of self-love!