S2E1. Escaping Abuse With Beany Chalfant

Healing F*cking Sucks

Summary

In this conversation, Beanie Chalfant shares her experience of being in an abusive relationship with a narcissist. She discusses how she met her abuser and the rapid progression of the relationship. Beanie talks about the love bombing stage and how she fell for the narcissist's manipulative tactics. She also reveals the physical and sexual abuse she endured, as well as the stalking and threats she faced. Beanie emphasizes the importance of taking back her power and finding peace without needing to forgive her abuser. In this conversation, Beany shares her experience of surviving and healing from an abusive relationship. She discusses the importance of forgiveness and releasing negative energy, as well as the impact of sexual abuse. Beany also talks about her journey of leaving the abusive relationship, beating cancer, and finding love and happiness. She emphasizes the power of healing and the importance of supporting survivors of abuse.

Takeaways

Abusive relationships with narcissists often start with love bombing and rapid progression.
Victims may not recognize the red flags of abuse if they haven't experienced it before.
Abusers use manipulation, physical abuse, and threats to control their victims.
Taking back power and finding peace can be more important than forgiveness.
Sharing experiences and supporting others can be empowering and healing. Forgiveness is about releasing negative energy and letting go, rather than excusing or condoning the actions of abusers.
Survivors of abuse often face challenges in leaving the abusive relationship, but it is possible to break free and rebuild their lives.
Healing from abuse involves addressing trauma bonds, seeking support, and taking steps to prioritize self-care and well-being.
Survivors can find strength and empowerment in sharing their stories and raising awareness about abuse.
Supporting survivors of abuse requires empathy, understanding, and providing resources and safe spaces for healing.

Sound Bites

"My thriving was my biggest revenge on him."
"I personally sent everything out to not just his family but also his ex-wife's family."
"As long as you are at peace and you're a good person and you're doing great things now, whatever your process is, it seems to be working for you."
"I forgive a lot of people for a lot of things, but in this instant, nah, not happening. Not for me."
"It's the release of all of that negative toxic energy that's gotten inside of you that hate and letting it go."
"Yes, it can and it did for me like throughout the course of you know the decade that I was with him."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Launch of Breakthroughs with Beanie Coaching
02:51 Meeting the Abusive Narcissist and Starting the Journey
06:13 From Naivety to Acceptance of Abuse
09:45 No Previous Experience of Abuse
14:13 Escalation of Abuse and Threats
23:45 Revenge and Taking Back Power
28:03 Different Perspectives on Forgiveness
32:29 The Power of Forgiveness and Releasing Negative Energy
35:04 Surviving and Healing from Sexual Abuse
39:24 Breaking Free: Leaving an Abusive Relationship
44:20 Beating Cancer and Rebuilding a Life
55:48 Finding Love and Happiness After Abuse
01:00:48 Supporting Survivors: Empathy and Resources

Where can I find Beany Chalfant

IG & TikTok- Breakthroughswithbeany

Link Tree- https://breakthroughswithbeany.typeform.com/to/ukPFi4gi?typeform-source=trout-cod-d9he.squarespace.com