Andrea Tessier on Deconstructing You - Disabling Your Inner Critic - People-Pleasing Days are Over

Deconstructing YOU

Andrea is a Certified Master Life Coach and Business Alignment Coach. She is committed to supporting heart-centred women entrepreneurs who struggle with overthinking, overwhelm to make aligned decisions for more fulfilment, impact, and abundance. Andrea lives and breathes the mission ‘when you grow, your business grows’ and is carving a path for more women leaders aligned with their truth and their gifts to feel fulfilled, empowered and create lives they are obsessed with.

What you’ll discover:

Introduction to Unlearning: Andrea reveals the energy and synchronicity in the process of unlearning childhood survival strategies. Unpacking Childhood Coping Mechanisms: Andrea shares the exploration of childhood experiences, feelings of unremarkability, and the impact of unmet needs, and how this played out in adulthood patterning, such as the coping mechanisms of becoming a chameleon, people-pleasing, and perfectionism tendencies.

Shifting Language and Identity: Insight into the power of language, adopting a subtle shift from "I am" to "a part of me is” to breakdown the narrative of self. Andrea shares how recognizing behaviors as protective strategies rather than inherent aspects of identity is pivotal to unravelling.

Parental Impact and Acknowledgment: Acknowledgment of parents doing their best and the lessons learned in childhood is important to healing unmet needs. Balancing gratitude for parents' efforts with an acknowledgment of the impact on emotional fulfillment is a key part of healing.

The Perfectionism Unraveling: Reflection on perfectionism as a quest for getting life "right" and the impossibility of winning that game, and we discuss perfectionism's presence in various life domains, leading to a pattern discovery.

Patterns Across Life Domains: We go deep on the revelation of patterns and the importance of identifying them in various life aspects, and discuss that patterns are not inherent traits but learned behaviors shaped by early experiences.

Emotional Responses to Unraveling: Exploration of common emotional responses to self-discovery, including anger, regret, shame, and guilt. Emphasis on the victim mentality and the need to shift from judgement to self-compassion.

Compassion in the Healing Journey: Importance of cultivating compassion when facing the inner child and acknowledging the unconscious nature of early patterning, and we discuss resisting self-judgement and accepting that awareness develops gradually.

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