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Chris and Lisa of BeenThereGotOut.com both survived toxic marriages with narcissistic partners and the legal and co-parenting nightmares that go hand-in-hand with all of that.If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.Our podcast features interviews with lawyers, therapists, co-parenting coordinators, guardians ad litem, and other subject matter experts, as well as other content, all with one goal in mind: Let us teach you how to HELP YOURSELF!
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1 Understanding Family Dynamics in High-Conflict Co-Parenting 42:16
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Discover the transformative power of understanding family dynamics during high-conflict divorces in our latest episode, featuring insights from Adam Barta, a seasoned licensed clinical social worker. We promise you'll gain a new perspective on the importance of examining the entire family's environment rather than singling out a child's behavior in therapy. Adam takes us on a journey through the crucial elements of a trauma-informed approach, emphasizing the need to validate children's experiences as normal reactions to their circumstances, and shares his dedication to making mental health services accessible to everyone. Our conversation delves into the intricate world of co-parenting amid high-conflict separations, shedding light on the hurdles of fostering genuine collaboration between divorced parents for the benefit of their children. Together with Adam, we highlight the significance of legal accountability and the role of court systems in ensuring compliance with therapeutic recommendations. The episode also examines the utility of co-parenting plans and the profound impact of self-awareness as parents navigate their roles in ongoing conflicts. This discussion calls for a blend of resources, personal accountability, and legal frameworks to achieve effective co-parenting. Finally, we tackle the sensitive issue of parental behavior's impact on children, exploring the long-term consequences of one parent demonizing the other. The importance of allowing children to form unbiased, healthy relationships with both parents is underscored, along with the need to humanize the other parent despite personal grievances. We also introduce a ""Roadmap to Understanding Family Dynamics and Service Interventions,"" aimed at guiding parents, attorneys, and therapists through the tumultuous terrain of divorce. By the end of the episode, you'll have gained valuable insights into the complexities of custody, co-parenting challenges, and the pivotal role of teaching children resilience and adaptability as they grow into adulthood.…
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Fraud expert Kelly Todd takes us into the shadowy world of financial betrayal and deception. As a seasoned forensic accountant, Kelly shares invaluable insights into how financial abuse often infiltrates relationships, particularly during the tumultuous time of divorce. She uncovers the psychology of a fraudster, illustrating how the dynamics of financial control can lead to a cascade of rationalizations and deceit. Kelly’s mission is clear: empower individuals with the knowledge and tools they need to recognize the early warning signs of financial betrayal, safeguarding themselves before it’s too late. In our engaging discussion, we underscore the critical importance of maintaining financial awareness in relationships to thwart potential fraud. Kelly delves into the risks of unequal financial power and knowledge between partners, offering listeners a roadmap to identify red flags, such as unexplained financial shortages or suspicious transactions. The conversation also navigates the modern landscape of cryptocurrencies and digital payments, which have become fertile ground for financial manipulation. Kelly emphasizes the need for meticulous financial records, especially during the emotional upheaval of a divorce, as a means to protect oneself in uncertain times. Wrapping up our enlightening episode, Kelly offers practical strategies for ensuring financial transparency and asset protection, both in marriage and the challenging aftermath of divorce. She shares the significance of being actively involved in financial matters and trusting one’s instincts if something seems amiss. From uncovering hidden assets to incorporating protective language in divorce agreements, her expertise shines through. Kelly's personal anecdotes and proactive advice are a treasure trove for anyone looking to safeguard their financial future. Connect with Kelly on social media for more of her insightful tips and advice in this ever-evolving realm of fraud prevention.…
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Join us as we navigate the complex world of student loans and credit management during a divorce, featuring insights from Angela Kim, known as Angela the Credit Boss. Discover how divorce can unexpectedly damage your credit score, even without a contentious split, due to shared financial responsibilities like co-signing on student loans or mortgages. Angela shares a critical revelation about student loans: each semester constitutes a separate loan, meaning you could have multiple loans per child on your credit report. She also introduces the Parent PLUS Loan, a federal loan for your child's education that impacts only the parent's credit. Angela suggests a strategic approach to splitting loan responsibilities by alternating years between parents, helping to ensure a fair distribution of the financial burden. Listen in as we discuss the importance of maintaining good credit as a financial safety net during and after a divorce. Drawing a parallel between medical and financial health, we stress the need to stay vigilant with on-time payments and the benefits of using tools like auto-pay to manage multiple loans. Angela offers practical advice on using tools like Google Calendar to keep track of payments and due dates, emphasizing personal accountability during financial transitions. With her expertise, Angela provides invaluable guidance on managing your finances and credit effectively, ensuring you're well-prepared for life's changes. Connect with Angela through phone, text, email, or Instagram for further assistance on streamlining your financial responsibilities.…
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1 Boundaries & Emotional Intelligence in High-Conflict Divorce 41:11
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Years ago, Susie found herself amidst the emotional storm of a high-conflict divorce, grappling with the feelings of shame and regret that came with it. Now, as a mental health coach for women, she joins us to share her learned wisdom and practical advice on navigating such tumultuous times. From establishing boundaries to focusing on what we can control, Susie’s insights empower us to reclaim our mental and physical health, even when ex-partners attempt to weaponize our children against us. Our conversation touches on the often-overlooked life skills essential for thriving under stress, such as emotional regulation and boundary-setting. We explore how shifting away from rigid expectations can foster a more harmonious self-relationship and alleviate the unnecessary suffering caused by self-blame. With Susie's guidance, we unravel the complexities of co-parenting with empathy, focusing on healing and personal growth rather than getting entangled in an ex's irrational behavior, ultimately leading to more positive interactions and personal happiness. Finally, we delve into the multifaceted role of parenting through emotional intelligence, emphasizing the importance of teaching resilience and setting healthy boundaries. Susie introduces valuable resources for those navigating narcissistic relationships, including a supportive online community and practical parenting classes. Through these discussions, we aim to instill hope and encouragement, guiding our listeners toward emotional well-being and positive change.…
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Trauma therapist Dr. Rebecca Vazquez joins us to unravel the intricate links between anxiety, our physical bodies, and the mind, with a special focus on the influential vagus nerve. She introduces us to the "drop three" technique, a simple yet effective method for alleviating anxiety by relaxing the jaw, shoulders, and hands to signal safety to the body. Throughout our conversation, Dr. Vazquez offers invaluable advice on staying grounded in high-stress situations, like using sensory items to maintain composure, and highlights the calming power of familiar scents. Our discussion takes a deeper turn as we examine the often misunderstood emotions of anger and trauma, especially within marginalized communities. Dr. Vazquez provides insight into how anger can be a constructive force, akin to a brick that builds rather than destroys when managed properly. We also explore the nature of trauma, which, beyond dramatic events, can stem from prolonged emotional neglect. The concept of the "window of tolerance" is shared, offering listeners a framework for understanding the nervous system's response to stress and the importance of processing emotions within a manageable range. The healing journey continues with an exploration of bilateral stimulation's role in recovery. Dr. Vazquez explains how activities like running and dancing can help process subconscious thoughts and emotions. We touch on the therapeutic power of EMDR, voice, and writing as tools for personal healing. As we conclude, we celebrate a heartwarming moment of international connection, receiving greetings from Poland, which reminds us of the power of virtual interactions to unite people across the globe. Dr. Vazquez’s insights and her work at SANA Counseling and Consulting promise to leave a lasting impression on listeners seeking healing and empowerment.…
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After enduring the turmoil of domestic violence, Shanay Fulton found herself navigating the unpredictable world of homelessness, a journey that ultimately led her to happiness and advocacy. She joins us to share her inspiring story, offering a raw and authentic look at the intricate challenges faced by domestic violence survivors, particularly the relentless cycle of financial instability and lack of secure housing. Shanay's personal experiences provide insight into the expanded definition of domestic violence under Jennifer's Law and challenge the often-insensitive question, "Why don't you just leave?" Together, we explore the harsh realities of navigating shelter systems and housing for mothers and families fleeing abusive situations. Shanay, a dedicated advocate and nonprofit director, dispels myths about the accessibility of shelters and delves into the critical factors—such as location, financial stability, and transportation—that influence a safe escape plan. Her poignant stories highlight the need for safety measures in transitional housing and underscore the unique challenges that families, particularly those with teenage boys, face in the shelter system. Our conversation turns to the emotional and legal battles within the family court system, where Shanay's resilience shines through. Despite the heart-wrenching custody disputes and the financial toll of legal proceedings, her journey illustrates a powerful narrative of hope and community empowerment. Through her advocacy, Shanay has found unexpected opportunities for growth, inspiring others to transform personal struggles into pathways for change. Join us as we celebrate her remarkable achievements and unwavering determination to build a brighter future for her and her children.…
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1 Overcoming Parental Alienation: Healing & Reconnection II 38:38
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Growing up, P and her sister faced the unimaginable reality of being separated from their mother, entangled in a web spun by their father's manipulation and control. This episode sheds light on the darker side of the family court system that often overlooks the subtle yet profound impact of legal and emotional abuse. P bravely shares her story, revealing the struggles of living under the constant surveillance and authoritarian grip of her father, despite the court's failure to recognize his abusive past. Through her narrative, we underscore the critical need for systems to identify and address abusive dynamics that extend beyond the immediate spousal relationship, affecting the young lives caught in the crossfire. As we navigate P's journey, the conversation turns to the emotional scars of guilt and isolation that can distort a child's understanding of love and responsibility. We discuss how P's father's tactics left her grappling with self-worth and trust issues, a common experience for those who grow up in similarly manipulative environments. The impact of parental favoritism and neglect is laid bare, illustrating how these dynamics can fracture a child's sense of identity and belonging. These themes resonate deeply with our listeners, who share their own battles with familial manipulation, offering a sense of solidarity and understanding. Finally, we explore the path to healing and reconnection, a journey paved with patience, self-reflection, and courage. P's story of reuniting with her mother serves as a beacon of hope, demonstrating that even after years of separation, broken familial bonds can be mended. This transformation is not without its challenges, but it highlights the power of making reconciliation a personal choice. We invite listeners to find inspiration in these stories, encouraging those facing similar struggles to seek the support and understanding necessary to foster their own healing journeys.…
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1 Overcoming Parental Alienation: Healing & Reconnection I 57:29
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What happens when a parent's portrayal of love is skewed by manipulation and deceit? Join us as we explore the tumultuous journey of A, a young adult who courageously shares her story of growing up amidst parental alienation, divorce, and domestic violence. A's father painted her mother in an unflattering light, affecting A's and her sister's perceptions and mental health. We uncover the emotional manipulation they faced, the depression they battled, and the hidden truths they were forced to accept, all while struggling to communicate in an environment that discouraged personal opinions. The narrative takes a transformative turn as A embarks on a journey of self-discovery and healing. At 17, therapy became A’s lifeline, helping her see through the toxic dynamics that her father had ingrained. The barriers began to break as journaling and reflection allowed her to reconnect with her mother and reshape her understanding of her family. This episode is packed with insights into the complexities of family relationships and the courage required to face painful truths and work towards reconciliation. As A and her sister make the bold decision to leave their father's house, they step into a new chapter of rebuilding connections with their mother. This episode highlights the challenges of overcoming deeply rooted resentments and ingrained beliefs, emphasizing the importance of critical thinking and self-awareness. A's heartfelt gratitude for the openness and support she received serves as a beacon of hope for others navigating similar situations. Join us for a powerful conversation that inspires courage, healing, and the transformative power of self-discovery.…
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Transform your approach to managing your finances during a divorce by joining our insightful conversation with Nancy Rossner, our returning expert! Learn about the upsides and potential pitfalls of various tax filing options, such as filing jointly versus separately. Nancy shares her wisdom on balancing the benefits of joint filing, like larger deductions, against the risks of shared tax liabilities. Meanwhile, separate filing might protect you from potential debts but could mean losing out on some valuable credits. With professional guidance, especially in complex divorces, you can achieve a favorable financial outcome. Our discussion deepens as we explore critical tax considerations related to children amidst divorce proceedings. Discover the intricacies of child-related tax credits, including the earned income tax credit, which follows the child and can't be transferred between parents. Nancy advises on strategic negotiations around dependent claims, emphasizing the importance of clear language in divorce agreements. By meticulously tracking parenting time and incorporating these tax aspects into parenting plans, you can safeguard your financial and legal clarity. Finally, empower yourself with practical strategies to maximize tax credits and protect your finances during challenging times. Nancy shares essential tips on maintaining accurate records and resolving disputes when both parents claim the same child. We highlight resources like low-income taxpayer clinics, the IRS's Volunteer Income Tax Assistance program, and the Taxpayer Advocate Service. With this comprehensive toolkit, you'll be better equipped to navigate the complexities of tax filing during a divorce, reclaiming your financial power and ensuring a secure future for you and your children.…
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What if navigating the often turbulent waters of divorce could actually lead to empowerment and personal growth? Join us on a transformative journey as we sit down with Chloe, a certified divorce coach from London and a key member of the Amicable Divorce Network, who unveils her new book, "Don't Screw Up Your Divorce." Chloe shares invaluable insights on how to maintain control and make informed decisions during this challenging life transition. We explore the unique hurdles faced by expats and international families and contrast Chloe's amicable approach with our own experiences in high-conflict divorces. Chloe's expertise sheds light on how emotional preparation and the right information can help prevent common mistakes and potential conflicts. Our conversation takes an insightful turn as we discuss the delicate subject of discussing divorce with children and other stakeholders. It's crucial to manage expectations and approach the process with a clear understanding of reality, rather than harboring hopes for emotionally charged legal battles. Chloe and I focus on the importance of thoughtful communication with children, recognizing the differing needs based on their developmental stages. We also delve into the impact of divorce on adult children, who may feel blindsided and experience shifts in their perception of family stability. Understanding these dynamics is key to navigating these discussions with compassion and foresight. We also explore the wealth of support resources available to individuals undergoing divorce. Chloe introduces us to a range of alternatives to traditional divorce proceedings, such as mediation and collaborative law, offering pathways to less painful and more cost-effective outcomes. We highlight the importance of strategic financial planning and selecting the right professional support to maintain control over the situation. Wrapping up the episode, we express our gratitude for Chloe's valuable contributions and wish her continued success with her book and future endeavors.…
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1 Rebuilding Credit and Safeguarding Your Financial Future 30:58
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Unlock the secrets to rebuilding your credit and safeguarding your financial future with the expert guidance of financial advisor Derrick Diksa. As life's transitions—such as leaving a toxic relationship or going through a divorce—can wreak havoc on your credit score, Derrick shares practical strategies to navigate these challenges. Learn how to avoid the common pitfalls of store credit cards and understand the significance of your role in joint accounts. By mastering these insights, you can protect and enhance your credit standing during even the most tumultuous times. Navigate the credit score labyrinth post-divorce with Derrick’s essential advice on securing favorable auto loan and mortgage terms. He sheds light on the repercussions of mortgage delinquencies and the crucial steps to correct credit report errors before they snowball into bigger problems. Uncover the truth about closing unused credit cards and why it might not be the best move for your FICO score. Derrick also breaks down how frequent card activity might be perceived by lenders, ensuring you make well-informed credit decisions without compromising your financial profile. Arm yourself against financial fraud and identity theft with advanced protection measures. Derrick explains why credit cards offer superior security compared to debit cards, emphasizing the benefits of liability protection and reward points. Discover the power of credit freezes and fraud alerts as Derrick walks you through the steps to secure your credit against unauthorized actions. With his expert insights, learn how to obtain and audit your free credit report, ensuring your financial history is both accurate and secure. Don’t miss out on these vital tips that could safeguard your finances today and in the future.…
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Unlock the secrets to overcoming betrayal and harness the power of hypnosis with our expert guest, Leszek Erasmus. Ever wondered how a simple shift in perspective might transform your emotional landscape after a painful betrayal? Join us as Leszek, a double-certified life coach and consultant hypnotist from Portland, Oregon, shares his profound insights and personal experiences. You'll learn about the deep emotional wounds betrayal can cause, the challenges that arise, and the transformative healing potential hypnosis offers. Leszek emphasizes the importance of not feeling isolated or ashamed, offering hope and empowerment as antidotes to the turmoil. Explore how hypnosis can help reclaim a sense of security and control, particularly when dealing with systemic challenges like an unsupportive justice system. Leszek introduces us to the innovative "movie theater" method, a technique that allows individuals to view their experiences from a new vantage point, encouraging reinterpretation and healing. This powerful approach helps people shift focus away from negative thought patterns and fosters a mindset of resilience and strength, which is invaluable in adversarial situations such as court hearings. Leszek's expertise provides a roadmap to regaining inner safety and authority, allowing you to manage feelings of powerlessness and anger effectively. Discover practical stress relief and grounding techniques that can be employed discreetly in any situation. Leszek shares methods like tensing and relaxing muscles and the touch-based practice of "havening," which, when paired with breathing exercises and positive affirmations, lower stress levels significantly. These techniques not only calm the mind but also reduce the fight-or-flight response, enhancing well-being. As we conclude this enriching session, Leszek's dedication and knowledge shine through, offering invaluable insights for anyone seeking to navigate the emotional aftermath of betrayal and embrace a more empowered future.…
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1 Managing Your Emotions & Presenting Effectively in Court 48:24
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What happens when unchecked emotions walk into a family courtroom? Discover the insights of Mia Poppe, a vibrant New York City matrimonial attorney, as we navigate the nuances of managing reactivity in family court settings. With a focus on strategic communication and the subtleties of body language, Mia offers critical advice on understanding court culture and aligning with judicial expectations. Uncover the strategies in our new course, "From Fear to Fierce in Family Court," which aims to equip you with the skills to communicate effectively with a challenging ex, particularly in the throes of dealing with narcissistic abusers. Venturing into the often tumultuous world of co-parenting with a narcissistic partner, we delve into personal experiences and professional insights. Explore the emotional whirlwind and courtroom dynamics faced when dealing with manipulative ex-partners, and learn why genuine emotional expression can be a powerful ally. We underscore the critical importance of managing reactivity and embracing personal healing for the sake of children's well-being. Accepting the challenges of dealing with a narcissist can lead to resilience, effective co-parenting, and more favorable legal resolutions. We wrap up by exploring the power of mindset when tackling family court issues involving an abusive co-parent. By avoiding negative online spaces and focusing instead on positive resolutions and effective communication, we can build a healthier legal journey. Learn about the tools and platforms that aid in drafting legal motions, connecting with calm professionals, and mastering courtroom presentation. With insights into strategic communication and the importance of maintaining one's values, this episode is a guide to navigating the tricky waters of family court with poise and purpose.…
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1 Navigating Relocations & Parenting Plans in Custody Cases 36:31
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Unlock the secrets to navigating the complex world of family law with insights from Yoni Levoritz, a seasoned New York City attorney. Our conversation sheds light on the thorny issues surrounding relocations and parenting plans, including the hidden pitfalls of moving away from a noncustodial parent and how economic factors can influence custody outcomes. Yoni shares a remarkable case study where a denied relocation was reversed on appeal by honing in on the child's best interests and economic necessity. His practical advice serves as a guiding light for those facing similar legal hurdles, ensuring you are well-equipped to protect your family's needs. Transitioning to pressing matters of child therapy and educational planning, we explore strategies to smoothly navigate these sensitive topics within the family court system. Yoni emphasizes the crucial need for therapy, particularly during tumultuous family changes, and how to overcome potential court hesitations regarding therapy for young children. We also unravel the intricacies of college planning, highlighting the importance of a pro-rata split based on income for fair financial contributions. This discussion aims to arm you with the knowledge to create a comprehensive parenting plan that anticipates future educational needs and supports your child's emotional well-being. The episode concludes with a thorough examination of enforcing parenting plans and the repercussions of non-compliance, from child support to maintaining open communication channels. Yoni offers advice on responding to blocked visitations and dealing with parental alienation, ensuring that you can effectively uphold your rights and responsibilities. We also touch on the importance of including provisions for privacy and handling contentious situations with care. As the conversation wraps up, Yoni shares how listeners can reach out for further legal guidance and resources, reinforcing his commitment to supporting families through their most challenging times.…
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Join us for an insightful discussion with Jeff Kaplan, a seasoned divorce attorney from New York City, as we explore the critical dynamics of building a strong attorney-client relationship, especially in high-conflict divorce and custody cases. Jeff shares his expertise on why this relationship is sacred and how a good lawyer should know their client's life details intimately, often better than the client themselves. We address common misconceptions about attorney responsibilities and highlight the importance of clients being proactive and well-informed to ensure effective representation. Jeff offers anecdotes and practical advice to help listeners understand the mutual responsibilities necessary for a successful legal partnership. As we navigate the intricacies of family law, Jeff sheds light on the dynamics between opposing counsels and how these relationships can benefit clients. We emphasize the value of cooperation and ethical practice, showcasing how having cooperative professionals on both sides can lead to efficient resolutions and prevent costly litigation. Jeff shares personal experiences and strategies for dealing with challenging opposing counsel, underscoring the importance of aiming for out-of-court settlements whenever possible to protect clients' interests. Communication is a key theme in this episode, with a focus on strategic communication in family law cases. Jeff discusses the importance of presenting a reasonable stance in court and how documenting efforts to resolve issues amicably can benefit clients. We touch on effective communication strategies, including avoiding impulsive actions that could harm one's case, and introduce practical tools to support clients' legal representation. Jeff also highlights the necessity of honesty and preparation in legal cases, preparing clients for tough questions in custody trials, and the significance of thorough preparation to build credibility with judges. Listen in as we provide practical advice for navigating the complexities of family law and ensuring a strong legal partnership.…
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Join us for a powerful exploration of grief and healing from toxic relationships, featuring Jessica, a licensed clinical social worker with a wealth of experience in psychotherapy and hospice care. Together, we shed light on the complexities of grieving a toxic relationship, especially in the context of divorce. Grief is not solely tied to the death of a loved one; it encompasses any significant loss, including the end of a romantic relationship. Jessica offers valuable insights into trauma bonding, likening it to an addiction, and discusses the concept of "Hoovering," where an abusive partner attempts to draw someone back into the toxic cycle. Listen as we validate the guilt many feel for missing an abusive partner and emphasize the importance of understanding these complicated emotions. Our discussion continues with a focus on healing and self-discovery after leaving a toxic relationship. We share how journaling and therapy can be transformative tools in recognizing the truth of one's experiences and rebuilding one's life. Creating a new normal and engaging in self-care activities are crucial steps toward regaining a sense of self. We also highlight the impact of intergenerational trauma and the need to address personal contributions to unhealthy dynamics. Trust issues and the fear of new relationships are lasting effects of trauma, and we underscore the importance of not letting past experiences hinder future opportunities for intimacy and happiness. Lastly, we examine the emotional aftermath of leaving a narcissistic partner, where grief extends beyond losing a person to include the loss of identity, community, and self-trust. By sharing personal stories and insights, we emphasize that being targeted by a manipulative partner is not a reflection of one's weakness but rather a testament to one's strength, empathy, and integrity. Listen in as we offer guidance on navigating high-conflict divorces, especially when children are used as pawns in custody disputes. We also discuss the impact of toxic relationships on family members, highlighting issues like parental and grandparental alienation. Join us as we prepare for an upcoming session on Valentine's Day, dedicated to supporting those affected by these challenging dynamics.…
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Tara, a seasoned legal nurse consultant with 25 years of experience, sheds light on the pivotal role nurses play in legal cases, particularly those involving children with special needs. Her expertise in reviewing medical records helps attorneys make sense of complex medical terms and diagnoses, often serving as a cornerstone in disputes where parents may disagree on a child's treatment. With her ability to extract critical information and collaborate with expert witnesses, Tara provides a unique perspective that strengthens legal arguments and ensures fairness in cases ranging from ADHD and depression to child abuse. Our conversation explores the intricate process of medical records review and how legal nurses advocate for clients' health perspectives without stepping into the realm of practicing law. By maintaining strict confidentiality through attorney collaboration, Tara emphasizes the importance of keeping sensitive information protected while facilitating open communication within the legal team. This episode also highlights the strategic role of legal nurse consultants in preparing for court cases, offering insights into meticulous documentation processes and strategies to manage pre-testimony anxiety. Beyond the legal intricacies, Tara underscores the supportive nature of legal nursing and its impact on individuals facing challenging medical and legal situations. Her team's dedication to providing expertise and emotional support is invaluable for those navigating diseases, disabilities, and transitions like divorce. With a focus on fostering strategic decision-making and reducing stress, Tara's approach exemplifies how legal nurses can be crucial allies in understanding and overcoming complex challenges. Connect with Tara on Instagram, LinkedIn, or her website to learn more about her comprehensive support services.…
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Parenting expert Clarissa joins us to unravel the myth of the perfect parent and provide a deeper understanding of how to navigate the complexities of raising children. She introduces her innovative Foundations of Connection framework, designed to aid parents in fostering better communication and building deeper connections with their children by creating a safe and non-judgmental environment. Together, we uncover the pervasive guilt and societal pressures that burden many parents, especially during difficult transitions like divorce and co-parenting, emphasizing the importance of focusing on genuine relationships rather than unattainable ideals. We shed light on the emotional rollercoaster faced by parents going through divorce, particularly in high-conflict situations. Clarissa offers invaluable insights on embracing self-compassion and letting go of guilt, encouraging parents to focus on the quality of their time with children instead of quantity. By using techniques such as visualization to manage ruminating thoughts and creating new family traditions, parents can shift their focus forward, ensuring healthier family dynamics despite the challenges they face. Effective communication and self-regulation take center stage as we discuss strategies for maintaining a calm and stable home environment, crucial for children transitioning between households. Clarissa provides practical advice on interacting with teenagers, emphasizing the importance of patience and understanding as they navigate their complex development. We explore the significance of active listening and empowering children with agency in conflict resolution, promoting collaboration and eliminating judgment to challenge the unrealistic myth of perfection in parenting.…
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Angela Kim, a renowned senior credit consultant and founding member of Credit Repair Boss, joins us to unravel the intricate role of credit during and after a divorce. Angela offers an expert analysis on maintaining good credit as a foundation for starting anew and achieving financial independence. She dispels common myths, such as the notion that closing old accounts can benefit credit scores, and underscores the vital role that a robust credit history plays in accessing opportunities like property renting or loan approval. Through her insights, Angela also highlights the often misunderstood relationship between income, savings, and credit scores, stressing the need for proactive credit management. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the tumultuous waters of divorce with their finances intact. We also address the serious issue of identity theft, especially when it stems from vengeful ex-partners during a divorce. Angela sheds light on the potential for credit damage through unauthorized actions and discusses the legal avenues available for victims. We delve into the challenging scenarios of managing joint accounts and the financial irresponsibility of an ex-spouse, offering strategies to safeguard your credit health. The discussion also covers equitable financial arrangements for children's education post-divorce, setting the stage for our next session on supporting children financially after separation. Join us as we empower you with the knowledge to protect and rebuild your credit, even in the face of adversity.…
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Karen McMahon, the founder of Journey Beyond Divorce, joins us to share her profound insights on breaking free from the mental hold of a high-conflict ex-spouse. We discuss how ruminating on an ex-partner's behavior can cloud one's judgment during and after divorce, hindering the path to personal empowerment. Karen emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and compassion, guiding us toward true freedom that stems from within rather than legal proceedings. By recognizing our roles in past dynamics, we can reclaim control over our lives and make decisions aligned with our values. We also shed light on the complex journey of rebuilding self-worth after enduring coercive control and domestic abuse. We explore the lasting impact such experiences have on self-identity and the hurdles faced in rediscovering one's values and goals. Through powerful personal stories and practical exercises, including listing 25 positive self-descriptors with help from trusted loved ones, we aim to help victims challenge ingrained negative beliefs. By encouraging listeners to step out of their comfort zones and seek affirmation from supportive individuals, we offer a path to healing and empowerment. Finally, we explore how self-compassion and self-love can be transformative forces for those navigating high-conflict divorces. By understanding personal triggers, individuals can approach challenging situations like court appearances with renewed strength. Furthermore, we discuss the potential for personal crises to act as catalysts for growth, helping to break generational cycles of unhealthy relationships. We share updates from Journey Beyond Divorce, including a new website and a free guide to help listeners evict a toxic spouse from their mental space, aiming to support healthier family dynamics for future generations.…
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Join us as we explore the nuances of child-centered divorce with our insightful guest, Tracy Ann Moore Grant, the founder of the Amicable Divorce Network. Tracy shares her expertise on how emotions can cloud judgment during divorce proceedings, leading parents to prioritize personal outcomes over the well-being of their children. Discover the innovative approach of the Amicable Divorce Network, which focuses on guiding clients toward decisions that benefit their children while avoiding the pitfalls of lengthy court battles. With January being a peak month for divorce filings, Tracy emphasizes the importance of awareness and offers better options for those considering divorce. Listen in as we address the critical impact of divorce on children, emphasizing that it's the conflict, not the divorce itself, that causes harm. Learn strategies to protect children, including avoiding negative behavior and utilizing the Amicable Divorce Network's vetted professionals to facilitate smoother transitions. We also highlight the value of alternative dispute resolution (ADR) processes, which prioritize child-centered values even when dealing with challenging personalities. This discussion sheds light on how experienced professionals can navigate difficult situations to reach amicable resolutions that prioritize the children's well-being. Finally, we delve into the challenges of co-parenting, especially when dealing with addiction or mental health issues, and the benefits of therapy during these transitions. Discover the importance of involving children in activities that provide stability and how these can serve as neutral grounds for parents. Tracy introduces the exciting expansion of the Amicable Divorce Network, now available in the United States, Canada, and the United Kingdom, and announces the upcoming release of their book, "Divorce Amicably: How to Save Your Time, Money, and Sanity Through Divorce," set to launch on March 25th. We encourage listeners to consider amicable divorce as a first option and thank our audience for their support in promoting harmonious resolutions.…
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Discover the transformative journey of Ralph Beaubrun, a Haitian-born dance studio owner in France, as he shares his incredible story of using dance to heal and inspire people worldwide. Ralph's journey from a family of artists in Haiti to becoming a beacon of joy through dance will captivate your heart. We explore the powerful role dance plays in overcoming toxic relationships and how rediscovering its joy can lead to personal growth and healing, inspired by figures like Judge Lynn Toler. Explore the courageous transitions from conventional careers to the world of professional dance. Lisa shares her own leap from a stable engineering career to pursuing my passion for dance, alongside Ralph's similar journey. Facing countless challenges and defying societal expectations, we both found unexpected opportunities that led to our success in the creative world. This episode is a testament to the risks and rewards of following one's true passion. Finally, we tackle misconceptions about dance and its accessibility to all, regardless of age, size, or experience. Hear about the inclusive spaces Ralph has created in his studios, where everyone finds a sense of belonging and joy. In a post-COVID world, dance offers invaluable mental health benefits, something we passionately discuss. Whether you're a seasoned dancer or just curious, you're invited to step into the world of dance and experience its profound impact on well-being.…
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Charlie McCready, an esteemed alienation coach from England, joins us to unpack the emotional turmoil of parental alienation, particularly during the holiday season. Often described as the "Bermuda Triangle" of holidays, these times can amplify feelings of loss and vulnerability for parents separated from their children. Our conversation offers heartfelt strategies for maintaining connection with children through gestures of love, such as gifts and messages, even in the face of adversity. We advocate for self-care and the importance of community, reminding parents that their presence and efforts are invaluable and seen by their children, regardless of circumstances. This episode also takes a deep dive into the complexities of building and maintaining personal boundaries, especially within relationships involving narcissistic individuals. We discuss the nuances of self-worth and the power dynamics that often play out with narcissists. By sharing relatable anecdotes, we explore how to reclaim personal power, reprogram subconscious beliefs about self-worth, and foster healthier communication. It's a journey of embracing discomfort for growth, and we emphasize the role of assertiveness and clear boundaries in nurturing one's self-esteem and relationships. As we wrap up, we celebrate the spirit of resilience and hope for parents facing legal and emotional battles. Our discussion underscores the significance of shifting focus from past grievances to envisioning a brighter future filled with strengthened bonds and personal empowerment. We share our appreciation for the supportive community we've cultivated, wishing everyone warmth and connection during the holidays. This episode is a heartfelt reminder that while the path may be challenging, the possibility of healing and renewed relationships remains within reach.…
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Mardi Winder-Adams, a seasoned divorce coach, opens up about the complexities of navigating high-conflict divorces in our latest episode. Specializing in cases involving challenging personalities like narcissists, Mardi shares her empathetic yet strategic approach to supporting women through tumultuous separations. The conversation highlights the necessity of assembling a strategic team—comprised of divorce attorneys, certified financial advisors, and realtors—to make informed decisions and mitigate the emotional toll of divorce. Mardi’s extensive experience underscores the emotional challenges of dealing with narcissists and offers listeners invaluable insights into safeguarding oneself and one’s family during these trying times. Listeners will gain a fresh perspective on the importance of professional support in the divorce process, particularly the need for thoughtful decision-making that contrasts sharply with the often rushed approach people take towards divorce compared to their meticulously planned weddings. We emphasize the crucial role of selecting an attorney well-versed in high-conflict cases, as their expertise can alleviate stress and reduce the risk of prolonged disputes. Our discussion also touches upon the concept of positive and negative advocates; the former promotes collaboration and growth, while the latter can intensify conflicts. As we explore strategies for navigating high-conflict divorces, trust emerges as a pivotal theme. Trusting your attorney’s advice, especially regarding communication with difficult partners, is crucial. Mardi shares valuable tools, such as Our Family Wizard, for maintaining safe and structured dialogue. We also discuss the importance of seeking advice from professionals rather than friends or family, who may offer outdated or irrelevant guidance. Listeners are encouraged to assert their entitlements confidently, be it spousal or child support, and to carefully consider the implications of retaining the family home post-divorce, ensuring a comprehensive understanding of mortgage qualifications and potential home inspection outcomes.…
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How do you navigate the stormy seas of co-parenting after trauma?" Join us as we tackle this pressing question with Katie from the UK-based Single Mama Club. Katie's dedication to empowering single mothers resonates through our engaging conversation, shedding light on the hurdles of parental alienation and post-separation challenges. Learn practical strategies for maintaining emotional resilience and financial stability in high-conflict divorces, and discover how prioritizing your child's well-being can transform even the most contentious situations. Our discussion unravels the complexities of communication after domestic upheaval, emphasizing the need for emotional strength and positive interactions during child handovers. By sharing personal experiences, we offer a roadmap for becoming emotionally "bulletproof" in the face of past trauma. The episode underscores the value of self-reflection and healthy emotional processing, guiding listeners toward modeling integrity and resilience for their children, even amid legal and emotional turbulence. Listeners will leave with actionable insights into fostering respectful co-parenting and setting boundaries, even when faced with challenging ex-partners. Explore the impact of triggers on personal growth and the importance of a supportive community in navigating co-parenting dynamics. As we conclude, Katie introduces an exciting new academy for continued learning and support, leaving you with a sense of empowerment and a path to thriving beyond the chaos.…
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What does the term "legal abuse" really mean, and how can it empower those lost in the complexities of the legal system? Our guest, social media sensation JayDee Milo, takes us on a journey of validation and understanding, shedding light on this often-overlooked issue. Known for his comedic videos featuring wigs, JayDee brings a unique perspective to the table, highlighting how language and education can transform personal struggles. Together, we delve into how naming our challenges, whether in mental health or legal battles, can bring clarity and strength to those who need it most. Through raw and heartfelt stories, we explore the profound impact of addiction and redemption. Hear the candid narrative of a child's life shaped by the trials of a single mother battling addiction, culminating in a tragic yet powerful journey of loss and growth. This deeply personal account, including the speaker's own struggles with addiction, underscores a commitment to supporting single mothers and others facing similar adversities. By sharing these experiences, we aim to foster empathy and understanding, reminding listeners of the resilience found in community and shared experiences. The episode also opens a conversation about the silent yet significant issue of reactive abuse, emphasizing the power of shared stories in healing. With touching narratives, we highlight the creation of supportive communities that offer solace and empowerment, particularly for single mothers navigating challenging circumstances. We address the importance of safe spaces for open dialogue, where individuals can find validation and connection without judgment. Through humor and creativity, we aim to uplift, heal, and build a network of understanding and strength, offering a vital reminder that no one is truly alone in their journey.…
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Can your gut health truly be influenced by trauma? Discover the profound connection between stress, gut health, and physical well-being with our special guest, Maisie Smith-Lovett, a holistic health practitioner and trauma healer. Maisie unravels how legal battles and strained relationships often keep our bodies locked in a perpetual fight-or-flight mode, disrupting our digestive system and overall health. Through her holistic approach, Maisie shares strategies to rebalance gut health and manage stress, paving the way for a more peaceful existence. Balancing family, work, and personal well-being can seem daunting, but it’s not impossible. We shed light on the art of self-care for parents, emphasizing the importance of small, consistent practices to maintain both mental and physical health. By engaging in activities that activate the five senses and promote emotional awareness, parents can cultivate a nurturing environment for themselves and their children. Maisie also offers insights into fostering emotional intelligence within families, highlighting journaling and collaborative chores as tools to instill gratitude and teamwork among kids. Stepping into a journey of self-compassion and personal growth, we discuss the concept of the six-part self with Maisie, exploring how identity, worth, approval, acceptance, love, and power interconnect. She encourages listeners to view the process of leaving toxic relationships and past versions of themselves as opportunities for transformation. Through nourishing our bodies, engaging in mindful breathing, and practicing restorative movements, Macy provides a toolkit for stress relief, inviting everyone to embark on a path of healing and self-discovery with her free workbook of journal prompts.…
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Unlock the secrets to understanding addiction and empowering recovery in our gripping conversation with addiction counselor and certified parent coach, Mary Ann Palmer. This episode promises to redefine your approach to addiction by embracing non-stigmatizing language and acknowledging the complex interplay of genetics and mental health. Mary Ann provides powerful insights into how parents can influence their children’s paths, potentially preventing substance use disorders and fostering healthier futures. As we traverse the challenging terrain of parenting a child with addiction, Mary Ann illuminates the emotional rollercoaster faced by parents. She discusses the intricacies of substance abuse, from early experimentation to full-blown dependency, and the profound alterations drugs cause in the brain's reward system. Our discussion confronts the harsh realities of denial and self-blame that parents often endure, while also emphasizing the vital need for individuals struggling with addiction to take ownership of their recovery journey. With compassion and expertise, Mary Ann sheds light on how parents can navigate this painful journey without losing sight of their well-being. Journey with us as we explore recovery strategies, including the significance of understanding personal triggers and embracing harm reduction as a viable path to healing. Mary Ann clarifies the concept of "white knuckling" versus engaging in meaningful recovery work and explores the potential pitfalls of a "dry drunk" existence. We also delve into family interventions, guided by the CRAFT approach, which balances setting boundaries with empathy and understanding. To wrap things up, Mary Ann shares her online resources and a special holiday offering, ensuring that listeners leave armed with both knowledge and support.…
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1 Parental Alienation + False Allegations in Custody Battles 41:07
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Join us as we explore the complex and emotionally charged topics of parental alienation and false allegations in custody cases. We welcome Charles Jamieson, a highly experienced attorney from Florida, who shares his invaluable insights gathered over 40 years of practice. Charlie helps us understand how parental alienation often arises when one parent attempts to vilify the other, significantly impacting the child-parent relationship. He highlights the intricate dynamics at play, such as the manipulation of memory and the role of personality disorders in fostering such destructive behaviors. Listen in as we tackle the challenging dynamics faced in family court battles, particularly when false allegations emerge. We discuss the dual nature of these conflicts—balancing factual truth against perception—and how the latter can often overshadow reality. Charlie shares strategies to uncover the truth, including engaging forensic mental health professionals and conducting custody evaluations. He also underscores the emotional pitfalls that can arise, using high-profile cases like Alec Baldwin's as examples, and offers advice on maintaining a strong parenting presence and knowing when litigation is necessary. We also explore strategies for parents seeking to reconnect with their alienated children. It's crucial to maintain contact and document efforts to uphold the parent-child relationship, even when faced with significant challenges. Charlie shares creative approaches, such as engaging in unique activities to strengthen bonds, while also addressing the potential benefits of supervised visitation. This conversation is packed with expert advice and practical tips, emphasizing perseverance and creativity in the face of parental alienation, and offers a comprehensive look at navigating these tumultuous waters.…
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Unlock the secrets to safeguarding your financial future during and after a divorce with insights from Tony Wimperis, a seasoned CPA and tax director. Learn how to navigate the intricate world of divorce-related tax issues, including the potential conflicts of interest when accountants have longstanding ties to one spouse. Tony provides invaluable advice on managing the risks of unreported income, filing joint versus separate tax returns, and the importance of choosing an accountant who remains impartial and transparent throughout the proceedings. Experience the emotional journey of financial surprises that emerge during divorce, from undisclosed investments to unexpected liabilities. Tony shares strategies for addressing these challenges and emphasizes the critical role of legal advisors in ensuring you make informed decisions. He guides us through the complexities of asset division, tax filing, and managing tax-related responsibilities when trust between partners is compromised. By understanding the roles of custodial and non-custodial parents, you'll be better equipped to handle tax implications and the claiming of dependents. Finally, protect your financial well-being post-divorce with Tony's practical tips on updating tax documents, managing tax payments, and dealing with potential penalties. Learn about filing for innocent spouse relief and the considerations necessary for maintaining personal safety amidst challenging tax issues. Tony offers a wealth of knowledge and a commitment to helping you navigate these turbulent times with confidence and clarity.…
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Renowned psychologist and author Dr. Josh Coleman joins us for an eye-opening conversation on the challenging realities of parental estrangement and alienation, particularly amidst high-conflict divorces. Drawing from his influential book, "Rules of Estrangement," Dr. Coleman reveals surprising statistics and societal stigmas surrounding estrangement. With 70% of estranged parents having experienced divorce, he explains how blame and new family dynamics can become catalysts for these painful rifts. Together, we unpack the emotional toll on parents and the nuances of estrangement versus alienation, where one parent's influence can turn a child against the other. Shifting our focus to the evolving dynamics of parent-child relationships, we explore the generational changes that have led parents to desire friendships with their children. Dr. Coleman shares insights on the power adult children hold in these relationships and the significance of understanding their perspectives. We discuss the cultural shifts that have broadened definitions of harmful behavior, urging parents to approach these conversations with empathy and openness. With practical tips on maintaining hope and practicing radical acceptance, we offer guidance for parents seeking reconciliation and understanding amidst estrangement's complexities.…
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Join us as we explore the intricate and emotionally charged issue of parental alienation with our insightful guest, Charlie McCready, a UK-based parental alienation coach. Charlie shares his personal journey as a survivor of alienation, shedding light on the concept of "pre-alienation," which he coined to describe the subtle grooming process leading to relationship breakdowns. With his expertise, Charlie helps us understand the nuances of these dynamics, offering practical strategies to support those affected by alienation. His goal is to simplify the complexities surrounding this challenging topic, providing hope and guidance for parents navigating these turbulent waters. Listen in as we unravel the depths of parental alienation, highlighting how some parents, often with narcissistic tendencies, work to turn their children against the other parent. We clarify the distinction between estrangement and alienation, discussing the progression from mild to severe alienation and the psychological manipulation involved. Charlie emphasizes the need for alienated parents to anticipate actions rather than react, as their instincts to defend themselves might inadvertently reinforce the alienator's narrative. This conversation is crucial for understanding how past parental relationships impact individuals experiencing alienation and how to manage the intense emotions that arise. Our discussion also covers the complex dynamics of narcissism and its impact on relationships, especially during divorce. We explore the emotional roller coaster of separation, highlighting how individuals may weaponize their children during custody battles and the emotional turmoil this causes. Discover the triggers of divorce stress and how narcissistic behaviors manifest, further complicating family dynamics. By understanding these patterns and focusing on healing and rebuilding trust, parents can navigate the emotional hurdles of alienation, ultimately working towards healthier relationships with their children.…
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1 Therapeutic Insights to Understanding & Overcoming Anxiety 47:26
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Can anxiety be transformed from a daunting presence into a manageable part of life? Join us as we uncover the complexities of modern anxiety with Andrea Nave, a licensed therapist and creator of the "How to Beat Anxiety Blog." Andrea and I explore the reasons behind the apparent rise in anxiety levels today, from societal issues like election stress and economic worries to the relentless cycle of news about violence. We demystify anxiety's role as the body's alarm system, which, while protective, can sometimes misfire due to past traumas. Andrea shares insights into cognitive and exposure therapies, illuminating paths to retrain our nervous system and better manage anxiety. Misconceptions around anxiety often lead to viewing worry as an integral part of one's identity, but it doesn't have to be this way. Our discussion challenges these notions, emphasizing a mindset that sees anxiety as something manageable. We share practical strategies to distinguish between toxic and productive worry, focusing on what can be controlled. Personal stories, including the stress of navigating the family court system, provide real-world examples of managing anxiety through intentional thought redirection. The episode also delves into the significant influence parents have on their children's emotional development. Andrea offers guidance on maintaining parental well-being and modeling healthy emotional regulation, which in turn helps children build resilience against anxiety. Parents are encouraged to validate their children’s feelings, strike a balance between protection and exposure, and adopt practices like mindfulness and self-compassion to foster a nurturing environment. To further support listeners, we also recommend a curated selection of accessible books available on Amazon, aimed at enhancing mindfulness, anxiety management, and parenting skills.…
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Join us as we welcome back our friend, Chelsey Brooke Cole, a therapist and author specializing in narcissistic abuse and complex trauma. Chelsey shares her journey and expertise in navigating safe sharing after experiencing abuse. We explore the delicate balance between maintaining boundaries and fostering healthy relationships, emphasizing the importance of discernment in choosing whom to trust with your story. Chelsey's insights are invaluable for survivors seeking to find their voice in safe spaces, while also being cautious about the potential harm of sharing with those who may not understand. In our conversation, we explore the dynamics of relationships impacted by narcissistic abuse, focusing on understanding the different types of narcissism, particularly the vulnerable narcissist. We highlight the importance of being discerning when selecting a therapist who truly understands narcissistic and emotional abuse. Through personal anecdotes, we underscore the significance of interviewing potential therapists to ensure they align with your needs. Additionally, we discuss the risks associated with sharing personal experiences online, especially during legal proceedings, as narcissists and their enablers often monitor social media closely. We also explore how to recognize safe relationships through understanding physiological cues and neuroception. Safe individuals help us feel clear, calm, and accepted, allowing us to be our authentic selves. Chelsey discusses her book, "If Only I'd Known," which serves as a resource for those interested in healing from narcissistic abuse. We invite listeners to follow our social media accounts for ongoing discussions and to stay tuned for Chelsey's upcoming group programs. This episode offers valuable insights for anyone navigating relationships after abuse, emphasizing the importance of boundaries and trusting one's instincts.…
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1 Navigating Coercive Control: Empowering Survivors & Protecting Children 53:32
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What if the most dangerous form of abuse leaves no physical marks? Join us as we sit down with Ellen Schwartz and Maliha Janjua from Women Aware to uncover the dark reality of coercive control, a form of domestic violence that instills fear and isolates victims without physical assault. As New Jersey pioneers legal changes to recognize this insidious abuse, we dive into the controversies these laws spark, including concerns about judicial understanding. Ellen and Maliha bring a wealth of knowledge from both legal and social work perspectives, emphasizing the importance of recognizing coercive control's pervasive presence in domestic violence cases. Our conversation takes a poignant turn as we shine a light on how domestic violence affects children. Abusers often use children as pawns to manipulate and control their partners, leaving long-lasting impacts on young lives. Drawing from their experiences at Women Aware, Ellen and Maliha share the various tactics abusers employ to exploit the court system and interfere with children's therapy. We discuss the complexities survivors face even after breaking free from abusive relationships and offer strategies for safety planning to help them regain control and protect their families. Recovery from domestic violence is a challenging journey that requires a strong support system. We explore the transformative role of creative arts and trauma-focused therapies in helping children process trauma, and stress the need for finding the right therapists and legal advocates who understand domestic violence dynamics. By highlighting innovative models like the Family Justice Center, we showcase a coordinated community response that offers comprehensive support to survivors. This episode serves as a reminder of the power of community and the ongoing need for trauma-informed care and legal advocacy to help survivors rebuild their lives.…
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The holidays can be a twinkling time of joy for many, but for those who've tangled with a narcissist, the season's lights may dim. Our conversation with John from Male Victims of Female Narcissists peels back the layers of this often unspoken struggle, whatever your gender. Together, we unravel the painful process of ending a toxic relationship, especially when it leads to the heartbreak of losing friends and family. With the festive period heightening these emotional wounds, we discuss strategies for facing these challenges head-on, offering our insights into the complexities of navigating family courts and the stark reality of parental alienation. Navigating the aftermath of a relationship with a narcissist feels akin to walking a labyrinth where every turn might lead to further isolation. Our exchange sheds light on the subtle yet destructive form of gatekeeping that can occur within families, cutting deep lines of division. Stressing the need for direct communication and unwavering self-advocacy, we dissect the nuances of maintaining healthy child-parent bonds post-divorce, the crucial role of therapy, and the value of neutral professionals in ensuring kids aren't caught in the crossfire of loyalty conflicts. As we wind down the episode, the focus shifts to co-parenting in the face of rejection and the vulnerability that comes with it. We open up about our personal journeys of trying to stay connected to our children amidst the manipulations and emotional abuse from our ex-partners, hoping to offer solace to listeners walking a similar path. We conclude with a message of hope and solidarity, highlighting the importance of seeking out community during the holidays. This episode is a beacon for those seeking understanding and direction during times that can feel overwhelmingly shadowed by past relationships.…
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1 Helping Kids Overcome Gaslighting with Critical Thinking Skills 25:37
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Acclaimed singer and author Tyra Juliette Schwartz joins us to unravel the pressing issue of shielding children from gaslighting while nurturing their critical thinking abilities. With her compelling book, "The Sky is Red," Tyra shares powerful insights from her extraordinary journey—from touring with music legends to becoming a mother and fierce advocate for children's empowerment. She discusses the art of having everyday conversations that inspire kids to trust their instincts and respectfully challenge authority, striking a crucial balance between fostering respect and encouraging self-expression. Tyra's personal experiences underscore the importance of self-confidence and empowerment, particularly in a world rife with misinformation and AI challenges. Together, we explore Tyra's strategies for instilling self-trust and advocacy in children, essential skills that equip them to navigate complex situations such as shared custody and societal pressures. Tyra recounts poignant stories, including a daughter's triumph over adult skepticism and the impact of dismissive remarks from authority figures, highlighting the need to cultivate resilience and self-belief from a young age. The conversation offers a heartfelt reminder of the roles parents and educators play in preparing children to face a world that may not always value their feelings or perspectives. Join us for this enlightening episode, where Tyra's passion and insights provide a roadmap for empowering the next generation.…
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Unlock the secrets to creating harmonious parenting plans that stand the test of time. Join us for an enlightening conversation with Connecticut attorney Kevin Hoffkins, who brings over 35 years of family law experience to the table. Kevin sheds light on the pitfalls of vague legal language and offers strategies to avoid prolonged court battles through the crafting of clear, customized parenting agreements. Discover how specific terms and financial penalties can help maintain peace and structure in custody arrangements, reducing the potential for conflict and ensuring a stable environment for children. Explore the art of effective co-parenting post-divorce and learn how to include vital clauses that protect parental rights and foster cooperation. Together with Kevin, we unravel the complexities of religious upbringing disputes and the critical role of non-disparagement clauses. By sharing real-world examples, our discussion offers valuable insights into balancing differing parental beliefs while prioritizing the well-being of the child. We emphasize the importance of clear communication, collaborative strategies, and a tailored approach that considers all aspects of family life, from cultural practices to holiday traditions. Finally, we delve into the nuances of holiday arrangements within parenting plans and the importance of specificity to avoid misunderstandings. From pickup and drop-off times to access to medical and school records, we cover every detail needed for a comprehensive and effective plan. Our conversation highlights the benefits of mediating agreements outside of court and the growing trend toward equal parenting time. By focusing on child-centered divorce strategies, we aim to provide a roadmap for parents seeking to create fair and lasting arrangements that truly center around the children's best interests.…
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Family lawyer and mediator (and author of our first book's foreword!) David Morneau joins us to shed light on the emotional rollercoaster of divorce proceedings and the legal system's role in intensifying fears. With his practice of principled cooperative negotiation, David offers a refreshing perspective on handling conflicts constructively, emphasizing the importance of supportive voices like ours here at Been There Got Out. Together, we unpack how fear often drives conflicts and delve into fear-mongering in the legal sphere, highlighting the need for more empathetic approaches in resolving disputes. The episode journeys into the heart of emotional intelligence, exploring a shift from aggressive legal practices towards empathy and compassion. We discuss how societal norms and media influence, like the sensationalism of shock culture, impact emotional regulation and decision-making, especially in high-stakes environments such as family court. By embracing vulnerability, individuals can make informed choices, moving beyond blame and creating empowered, solution-focused dialogues. Finally, we stress the importance of equipping individuals with conflict management skills from a young age, challenging the traditional view of these as merely soft skills. Drawing inspiration from thinkers like William Ury and Jonathan Haidt, we advocate for civil discourse and the powerful role of listening, urging a societal shift towards critical thinking and empathy. Through personal anecdotes and cultural reflections, we highlight the courage needed to lead with vulnerability and foster respectful conversations, ultimately paving the way for healthier relationships and peaceful resolutions.…
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What if the rising tide of eating disorders among children could be linked to the emotional aftermath of high-conflict divorces? Join us as we unpack this critical issue with Melissa Spann, the Chief Clinical Officer at Monte Nido and Affiliates. In our conversation, Melissa unveils the alarming trend of eating disorders manifesting as early as six years old in contexts often overlooked, such as the tumult of familial strife. We navigate through various disorders, including the lesser-known orthorexia and binge eating disorder (BED), and dismantle pervasive myths about who is affected. Melissa sheds light on the nuanced early warning signs, blending physical symptoms with emotional changes, and the crucial role of timely intervention. Our discussion extends to the societal pressures shaping young minds and bodies, with a spotlight on how parents and educators can foster healthier body images amidst these challenges. We emphasize the importance of a supportive network, encouraging listeners to utilize resources such as Monte Nido and seek guidance from primary care physicians. With Melissa's expert insights, we aim to empower you to recognize and respond to these complex issues, ensuring that no child or family navigates this journey alone. Tune in to equip yourself with the knowledge and understanding essential for making a meaningful difference in the lives of children grappling with eating disorders.…
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Unlock the secrets to personal empowerment and healing from narcissistic abuse with Tanya Marie Dubé, our inspiring guest and the host of the Unbreakable Women Pop-Up Podcast. Learn how Tanya's journey evolved from helping individuals through divorce to becoming a beacon of hope for survivors of emotional abuse. This episode provides actionable insights on building resilience and finding courage, making sure every listener walks away with the tools they need to reclaim their lives. Tanya sheds light on the devastating impact of growing up with a narcissistic parent and how these experiences can trap individuals in a cycle of harmful relationships. Through compelling real-life anecdotes, we unpack the importance of breaking free from ingrained patterns of victimhood and negative self-worth. We also discuss the risks of transferring authority to professionals in a way that mirrors past abusive dynamics, emphasizing the critical need for self-awareness and personal empowerment in all relationships. Get prepared for a deep dive into practical strategies to handle narcissistic ex-partners, including the effective gray rock method. Tanya introduces the Unbreakable Women podcast series, featuring daily video releases and free resources geared towards helping women rebuild confidence and trust in themselves. Mark your calendars for September 30 to October 7 and join us in this transformative journey. Plus, find out all the details about registration and upcoming events designed to reconnect and empower you.…
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1 Guiding Kids Towards Emotional Resilience in High-Conflict Divorce 38:55
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What if you could shield your children from the turbulence of divorce and help them emerge stronger on the other side? We tackle this vital question as we welcome Dr. Jill Leibowitz, a seasoned clinical psychologist and play therapist, to our conversation on the child's experience amid divorce and high-conflict custody battles. Through her insights, we contrast the lives of children in peaceful separations with those caught in parental conflicts, uncovering the deep-seated feelings of helplessness and lack of control they often grapple with. Our discussion highlights the importance of recognizing these emotional challenges and the steps parents can take to provide a supportive environment, even amidst fears of potential abuse. Communication forms the backbone of a child's well-being during parental separation, and we dissect how negativity can subtly invade their world. From disparaging remarks overheard to unintended social media exposure, we stress the necessity of maintaining a healthy boundary to protect children from adult conflicts. Our dialogue underscores the crucial role of parental self-awareness and the benefits of therapeutic support, advocating for both parents and children to engage in healthy communication practices that prioritize the child's emotional safety. Empowering children through the trials of divorce not only fosters resilience but also independence. By validating their feelings and encouraging open expression, we can equip them with the tools to navigate relationships with both parents and manage life's inevitable conflicts. Jill shares strategies to help children advocate for themselves, enhancing their emotional literacy and critical thinking skills. As we conclude this enlightening episode, we express our gratitude for Jill's invaluable contributions and eagerly anticipate future discussions that continue to illuminate these essential topics.…
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What if the solution to your high-conflict divorce or custody battle isn't in courtrooms but in mediation? Join us as we sit down with Rebecca Stern, a seasoned divorce and family mediator from New Jersey, to explore how mediation can transform even the most contentious disputes. Rebecca dispels the common skepticism around mediation in conflict-heavy scenarios and illustrates how this approach provides a more flexible, creative, and empowering alternative to traditional litigation. With formats like joint sessions, private caucuses, and fully private meetings, she shares her methods for crafting well-considered, lasting agreements. In our engaging discussion, we uncover the hidden efficiency and cost-effectiveness of mediation. Rebecca draws on real-life examples to show how structured timelines and significant cost savings make mediation a preferable path. While acknowledging that not every issue may be resolved, she emphasizes the substantial progress that can be achieved more swiftly and affordably compared to court battles. Learn how detailed parenting plans, developed with a mediator's guidance, can prioritize children's needs and prevent future conflicts. Navigating family conflicts, especially those with power imbalances, requires a delicate touch. Rebecca shares her strategies for maintaining neutrality and ensuring an equitable environment, often involving private meetings to provide a safe space for all parties. We also touch on the importance of self-care during mediation, with Rebecca offering practical tips on managing stress and maintaining balance. Whether you're facing a high-conflict divorce or looking to understand the benefits of mediation, this episode is packed with invaluable insights to help you through challenging times. Listen in and discover why mediation can be a game-changer for resolving family disputes.…
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Unlock the secrets to a peaceful holiday season amidst the storm of co-parenting with a narcissistic ex, as California attorney and podcast host Demetria Graves generously lays out her expert blueprint. The festive period's challenges are magnified for those with high-conflict ex-partners, and Demetria illuminates the path through the emotional and legal turbulence. From enacting detailed legal orders to safeguard travel plans and custody arrangements, to introducing children to new partners, our discussion is a lifeline for maintaining sanity and setting firm boundaries. Co-parenting is a dance that requires poise and resilience, even more so when a narcissistic ex is involved. Demetria and Lisa dissect the nuances of custody orders, underscore the need for clear written agreements, and highlight the importance of prioritizing children's well-being during the holiday shuffle. We tackle the often-overlooked issue of 'married single parenting' and the subtle ways neglect can manifest. You'll learn how to navigate these waters and stand firm against weaponized incompetence, ensuring your children's holiday memories are filled with joy, not discord. We confront the poignant realities of divorce on family dynamics, stressing the creation of supportive environments and new traditions to foster a sense of security for children. Demetria offers insights into managing exposure to negative family dynamics and substance abuse, providing a guide to navigating these tough scenarios with grace and strength. Join us as we offer heartfelt advice and encouragement to those bracing for the holidays' extra dose of co-parenting complexities.…
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1 Unlocking the Power of Emotional Intelligence in Negotiations 32:36
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What if empathy and logic could turn even the most contentious negotiations into successful collaborations? Join us as we sit down with Erika Kaneko, a distinguished corporate attorney from New York City, to uncover the emotional intricacies of negotiating with difficult people. Erika’s wealth of experience, particularly in high-conflict scenarios, brings a unique perspective to our discussion, emphasizing the often-overlooked emotional dynamics that can sway the outcome of any negotiation. Our goal is to empower you with strategies that not only help you stay in control but also avoid the pitfalls of costly court battles. Throughout this enlightening episode, we explore how mastering emotional intelligence can transform adversarial situations into opportunities for mutual satisfaction. From understanding both parties' priorities to the essential role of preparation, Erika guides us through a step-by-step approach to effective negotiation. We also delve into the importance of self-representation, especially when personal safety isn't at risk, and debunk common misconceptions about maintaining a rational demeanor in confrontational settings. Tune in to discover how these powerful strategies can lead you to personal freedom and safety, all while negotiating with confidence and clarity.…
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