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Welcome to Episode #126 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Blind Spots.” In case you didn’t notice, I’ve been wearing glasses for several years… but not anymore! I recently underwent eye surgery and am happy to report that I can now see better than ever! However, even with perfect vision, the fact is we can all have blind spots. We often see only what we WANT to see or only what we already know. Or maybe that’s just me? In this episode, I’d like to share what I’ve learned about vision and blind spots—both physical and psychological—and how they affect our success and happiness on the mats and off. To LISTEN to “Blind Spots,” just hit play below. Play the audio podcast below… or download to your device. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Spotify. To WATCH the video version or READ the transcript, scroll down below. If you’d like to support this show , share the link with a friend or leave a quick review over on iTunes . Thank you! Oh—and don’t forget to sign up for free email updates so you can get new shows sent to your inbox the minute they’re released. Thanks for listening! Keep fighting for a happy life! Blind Spots in Martial Arts Here’s a video of the podcast. If the player doesn’t work, you can click this direct link. As always, if you’d like to comment (or complain!), feel free to leave a message here or through my Contact Page. TRANSCRIPT Howdy, Ando here from Happy Life Martial Arts. Welcome to Fight for a Happy Life, the show that believes even a little martial arts makes life a whole lot better. Today, if you’re watching the video, you might notice—no more glasses! That’s right, for the first show in maybe six years, I am not wearing glasses. That’s because I am one month out from having a vision correction surgery. I’d like to tell you what I did and more importantly, what I’ve learned about vision and blind spots. So, backing up, I was born and raised with perfect vision, 20/20. In fact, most of my life, I’ve had perfect vision. But then somewhere around the age of 47 or 48, I noticed, as is natural, that I was having trouble reading. And then a couple years later, I was having some trouble driving. I even failed the DMV test, which was really embarrassing for me. I’d never had something in print, on the license, saying, “restricted license, must wear eyeglasses”. That hurt. So, at first, of course, I accepted it. I realized this is normal, right? The eyes start to go as you get older. But it didn’t take long before I hated it. Absolutely hated it. If you wear glasses, I’m sure you’re aware of this. My glasses were always lost or I was breaking them. Had to buy new ones all the time. I was walking around with two pairs of glasses, one for reading and one for distance. And I was always switching in between the two. And if I’m trying to just duck down, do little fix-it projects, they’re always falling off my head. It just got to be a nightmare. I hated it. Now, of course, if you’ve been wearing glasses your whole life, you’re probably more patient and more accustomed to it. But I was weak. I admit I was weak. It really got to me. So, a couple years ago, I started looking into LASIK because I had some friends and they got tired of hearing me whine about my eyes. And they said, “Well, why don’t you just get LASIK?” At first, that actually frightened me. Lasers in the eyes—I’m old school, that seemed crazy. But then, three months ago, I finally got the guts to go see a doctor for LASIK. He sat me down and he said, “Hey man, listen—I could give you the LASIK, but at your age, what you should get is cataract surgery.” Do I have cataracts? No, I don’t have cataracts. But if you get this surgery, you never will. So it’s something called RLE, refractive lens exchange. And that was the promise: If you get this surgery, within 24 hours, you’ll be able to drive back for your first follow-up appointment, and you won’t need glasses again. You’ll have close vision, intermediate vision, and far vision. Sounded too good to be true. But I did it. So a month ago, had the surgery, and sure enough, 24 hours later, drove myself to the follow-up appointment. I don’t like necessarily using the word miracle, but it’s a miracle. I have not worn glasses now in a month, for reading or for driving. So, if you’re interested in this kind of procedure, hit me up on email or in the comments, I’m more than happy to share some information on it. If you’re living in Los Angeles, I’m happy to refer you to the doctor who took care of me. It was definitely worth it. What lessons have I taken from this experience? Well, number one, don’t take anything for granted. I absolutely took my eyes for granted. I took my vision for granted for many, many years. And that was a crutch because I relied on them too much. I think it’s natural that we’re wired as human beings to be very hands and eyes focused, especially nowadays when you have a device in your hands, and you’re texting all the time, and you’re driving, and you’re sitting at a computer, watching TV. It’s a lot of your eyes and your hands. Then you lose touch with the rest of your body. So, I feel that that is its own blind spot of a sort. Because you’re living in this tunnel. You’re so reliant on your eyes that you don’t feel around you, you don’t widen out your awareness, you just focus on what’s in your hands and what’s right in front of you. In short, if I can’t see it, it’s not there. That’s, to me, a blind spot. Now, you can talk about physical blind spots, which is what I’ve been doing, but worse were the psychological blind spots. Not only couldn’t I literally see the horizon physically, psychologically, I could not see the future. I couldn’t set clear goals for myself. I was asking myself, where are you going? Where do you think you’re going? And I couldn’t get a clear vision of it. It was as if my entire imagination was tied to my eyes. That might sound crazy, and that’s okay. That frustration at first, feeling boxed in and somewhat limited, eventually got depressing. And then I just tied it into just getting old in general. I thought, well, you’ve been dealing with arthritis for several years. My shoulders, my feet, I’ve talked about these things. I lose my voice very easily nowadays. Lower energy. In short, I’m dying. I’ve peaked and now I’m down that shady side of the hill, the cold side of that hill. And here we go. Now your eyes are going. You’re going blind. So it’s hard to wake up and be enthusiastic when you can’t see the future. Okay. It got worse. Am I being dramatic? Maybe. I’ll tell you when it got really bad. The lockdowns, the COVID lockdowns, were five years ago now. Almost exactly five years ago. And of course, during the lockdown—I live in a very small apartment— couldn’t go outside. Couldn’t go to work, right? At one point, couldn’t go to the parks. We had fires here in Los Angeles. Couldn’t go anywhere. So I was locked into a physical space, and then locked within the rims of my glasses or just blurred vision. And that was really suffocating. But it gets worse because during the lockdowns, since I lost my business, I moved to Raleigh, North Carolina. Now listen, there are nice people in Raleigh, a lot of positives about Raleigh, so I’m not bashing Raleigh. However, I live in Los Angeles, had been living in Los Angeles for decades, and it’s not Los Angeles. I’m used to sunshine. I’m used to mountains, vistas, ocean, wide expanses. There’s a freedom that comes with a large view. And in LA, that’s something else I just took for granted. When I got to Raleigh—have you been there? It’s quite the opposite. There are no mountains. It’s flat. It’s not sunny all the time. Clouds, rain, overcast. Trees. So many trees. I joked at some point, half-kiddingly, that it felt when you’re driving down these straight streets that—you couldn’t see the horizon, because they’re all curving around, flat land, just surrounded by trees. All you have are tree trunks, tree trunks, tree trunks, all around you. Which then felt like bars of a jail cell. So, I felt like I was in a jail cell with a ceiling of clouds inside the frames of my glasses and with humidity in Raleigh, also your glasses fog up often. So, talk about suffocating. I really felt like I was just being crammed into my coffin when I lived there. Couldn’t see, couldn’t breathe, couldn’t move. My freedom was just crushed. So, two years it took for my wife and I to decide, let’s go back to Los Angeles. I can’t breathe, I can’t move. And we did. And that brought some relief. Absolutely. Nurtured my soul. But I still felt limited. I still was right back to the original restrictions of I can’t see. So, that brings us to getting the surgery. I signed up. I showed up on time early, in fact. Got the surgery. And what’s funny is, the day after the surgery, my wife says to me, “It seems like you have more energy.” What? She said, “You know, it seems like you’re in a better mood.” She even said, “You know, you look a little bigger.” All of that was a shock. She was saying, “Hey, it’s the old Ando, the one from seven or eight years ago. Old Ando is back.” I was stunned, shocked, mostly because I thought I had learned this lesson. Not once, but many times. Several years ago, a doctor told me I was probably going to need a hip replacement. That was a downer, but I found a way to work around it, kept moving forward. With the arthritis, found a way around it. Herniated discs in my back, found a way around it. So I’ve always been optimistic and found ways to adapt. And these are the messages that I usually share with you. Because I’ve done these things. But for some reason, this one, I couldn’t get past. It was as if it was the first challenge in my life. The lesson there is that these things add up if you let them. We can all slide down that shady, cold slope, whichever one you find yourself on—whether it’s aging, whether it’s pain, whether it’s financial loss, relationship loss—we can all slide down into a pit of despair. But we must remember over and over, and I’m talking to myself too, those limitations are false. It’s like you are purposely covering one of your eyes and not seeing what else is available out there. What else can you do? So you can see when you feel limited, when you feel beaten down, you’ve got to differentiate between what is happening to you and what are you allowing to happen to you. Take another look. This is the big lesson. Take another look. You may not be as blind as you think. When you let one setback pull down the hole, then all is lost. What you need to do, what I need to do, is still see the possibilities of what you can gain, not focus on what you’ve lost. There’s always something else you can work on. There’s always another target to focus on. You can’t let the blind spot beat you down. What about in self-defense? The equivalency here would be, you’re in a fight, you get punched one time, and you give up. You just say, that’s all right. That’s enough for me. You win. Take what you want. You wouldn’t do that. Of course not. You wouldn’t teach that. Of course not. But sometimes that’s what happens. You lose some money on an investment, and then that’s it. You’re done investing. You’re done trying new things. It’s over. We can’t let this happen. Limitations in one area should not lead us to be limited in all areas. Don’t be partialized. Don’t be shrunken down. Don’t be limited. Always look for what’s next. What else is out there? Because there’s always something. Consider this… In a way, limitations—the things that life throws at you that you don’t want, things that are taken away from you—they’re helpful. Limitations are helpful in two ways. The first way is, it gives you a chance to switch your focus. Maybe you’re pursuing one goal, and for whatever reason, that goal gets taken away. Rather than stall out and then do nothing, you have to go in a different direction, if you want to keep moving. So that limitation closes one door and directs you to another door. If the other door that you originally were focused on wasn’t meant to be, for whatever reason, great, don’t take it personally. Take all that energy and enthusiasm, resources, and shoot them towards a new goal. So, limitations give you that opportunity. Switch to a more appropriate goal, something you can achieve. The other way that limitations can help you is that it can narrow your focus. Maybe it doesn’t change it, but you can narrow down on one aspect of what you’re doing and start specializing in it. That means go deeper instead of going wider. If you’re not great with kicks anymore because you had to have some type of knee surgery and you’re always going to be careful with that leg, okay, now you can go deeper in your hand techniques. Or maybe now you pick up a knife for the first time in your training, and you really start appreciating what a weapon can do to equalize a bad situation. Great. Your limitation led you to a specialty and a new power. We should be open to that. Now, of course, when we got close to the surgery, I wasn’t exactly that optimistic about limitations. I was still in a pretty dark place, I would say. And so I started to think, a couple of days before that surgery, when I realized, “Oh my god, they’re going to do what?” They’re going to cut into my eyeball, take out the lens, put in an artificial lens, and just fingers crossed hope that fixes things. I got a little nervous, so I started convincing myself, of exactly what I just told you, that maybe limitations are good for me. Maybe this is better this way, to have blurry vision. For instance, from a self-defense standpoint, what if you get punched in the nose, and your eyes water? Shouldn’t you be able to still operate when you can’t see clearly? Well, of course. What if you’re wearing a hoodie, and it gets pulled over your head? Shouldn’t you still be able to fight back? Well, of course. I don’t wear hoodies, but theoretically, absolutely, of course. Certainly, in wrestling and BJJ, early on, people were smothering me, grinding their chest in my face, or the gi—a wet gi—is hanging over your face, or they’re holding it over your face. So you have to get used to being smothered. All of that helped me to trust my body. The limitation of having blurred vision close up really helped my grappling quite a bit, helped my takedowns quite a bit, helped close-in fighting quite a bit. I had to learn to feel more because I could see less. I had to learn to trust my body more and not just my visual acuity. So those are positives. Maybe I don’t want to lose those. It also helped me slow down. When I had my perfect vision, I was pretty cocky. I could drive fast, I could run fast, make decisions quickly. When I couldn’t see very well, I had to slow down. It’s just a matter of survival. I didn’t want to kill anybody either. I had to be more careful. I was more purposeful, more deliberate. And that helped me not waste energy. So having the blurred vision, having these limitations, helped me change focus, narrow focus, helped me to feel more, trust my body more, trust my intuition more, and slowed me down so I didn’t waste energy, made me more deliberate in all my actions. So that’s a pretty good argument, huh? I don’t need that eye surgery after all. Nah! I went and got it anyway. I talked myself into it. I said, this is crazy, I can’t do this anymore. So I did get the surgery. My hope being that I can keep the positive benefits that I’ve learned these last few years with having blurred vision and move forward with the benefits of having clear vision. For me, self-defense, it’s a no-brainer. I like seeing who’s walking in the room, seeing where their hands are, seeing what they’re wearing. Any clue I can get to judge the safety of my situation. I like being able to see down the road, see who’s coming down this aisle. I like getting an early warning system of what’s in my environment. I like reading someone’s face in micro detail. I like reading micro expressions when possible. I need every clue I can get. I value perception. This is how I feel we all need to prevent danger by getting as much information from that environment as possible. So I feel very blessed that I met this doctor, that I had the resources to pay for this surgery, and that I’ve been healthy enough to heal from it. So far so good, no glasses. So it’s been a blessing, a miracle. Now, I’m going to give you a warning. Even though I have vision again, and they say it’s 20/12 vision now, instead of 20/20, which means my vision is better than it was before. I did not count on that. Even with so-called perfect vision, there is still a risk of having blind spots. For me, for you, for anybody. Blind spots occur for anyone, either when you’re only looking for what you want to see, or you’re only looking for things that will confirm what you already know. When you have those attitudes, you are missing out. You are blind. You are not seeing what you don’t want to see, and you are not seeing what you don’t know. That’s how extreme that is. I can’t live like that. So I am always going to ask myself now, what am I missing? What am I not seeing? What am I taking for granted here? What’s behind that door? What’s in the shadows? It’s funny just the way the brain works. I remember several years ago getting stuck in side control in BJJ. So I went on YouTube looking for answers, and I found a video from Carlos Machado, and I saw this technique that he performed. I thought, Oh, that’s a really cool technique. Got it in my brain. I saw it. My eyes saw it. Took it into the dojo. It kind of worked, kind of didn’t. Glad I tried it, but didn’t quite work for me. I’m blessed again, because a couple years later, Carlos Machado came to the Brazilian Jiu Jitsu School where I take classes. Rigan Machado’s Academy in Beverly Hills. It’s his brother. He happened to be there one day. He wasn’t on the mats. He was visiting for lunch. He had a sport jacket on, but I took the opportunity to walk over and say, “Excuse me, Professor, I saw this technique you did on YouTube. I just have a question about it because I can’t quite get it to work.” He’s such a nice guy. If you haven’t met the Machados, I find them all to be very nice guys. He actually took off his sport jacket and said, “Oh, here, let me show you.” He got on the mats with me and talked me through the technique. Even cooler, he said, “Well, this was in the video, but here’s what’s not in the video.” And he gave me a little extra. I was like, oh my god, this is fantastic. So a blessing. So excitedly, went back to class, and it definitely worked better. Oh boy, good, I got the secret sauce here. But there was still something missing. It wasn’t working all the time. And as an idealist, I wanted this to work all the time. A couple more years go by, and he ends up showing that technique on a separate video—ran across it. I was like, Oh, there’s that technique. And I had not noticed something about his leg work. The way he used his legs, I had not seen in the first video. And I had not noticed him doing when he showed me in person. I was blind to it the first time I saw it. I was blind to it when he did it to me. I was blind to discovering it when I was performing it and practicing it. It was only now, several years later, from when I’d first seen it, that it’s suddenly now made sense. And now it’s a much higher percentage move for me. But that’s one example of how even with perfect vision, even with a video reference, something I can watch in slow motion, even with someone showing me and talking me through it, helping me hand to hand—blind, blind, blind, not seeing it. So I have to go back through every lesson I’ve ever gotten. Everything I’ve ever heard or seen or felt from every teacher I’ve ever had and say, what didn’t I see? What was missing? Why isn’t this working as well as when they did it? These, I think, are healthy questions. Don’t presume that what you’re seeing is all there is to see. Don’t presume that what you know is all there is to know. I think there’s always more. And I think that’s good news. So the big point of today’s show: if you feel that you’ve lost something, if you feel somehow behind the curve, if you feel disabled, please, don’t give up hope on this. Don’t give up hope on your goals. You might have to switch them, but don’t give up on them. Focus on what you can do. There’s always something you can do. And even if you can’t, you should die with that attitude anyway. When someone gets you in a choke, if you have trained yourself to always think about, well, what do I have? What can I do? Then there’s always a chance of escape. There’s always a chance of survival. If you just accept the loss, you just accept the limitation, you just accept being blind, then there’s no choice. You lose. So don’t let that happen. Take your self-defense strategy of always seeing a possibility, of never giving up, of always fighting, and apply it to every other part of your life. Always give yourself a chance to fight for what you want. I think that’s the secret for achieving your goals and living a happy life. Well, they say that you teach what you need to learn. Believe me, my friend, I record these podcasts for you and for me. I hope that sharing my experiences either helps you or at least lets you know that you’re not alone. Until next time, smiles up, my friend. Let that smile be your shield and your sword. Keep fighting for a happy life. The post #126: Blind Spots in Martial Arts [Video Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #125 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Killer Instinct.” Speed, power, and flexibility are all important, yes… but here’s the truth– They’re not enough! When it comes to surviving a real-life attack (or even just winning a tournament), you need killer instinct! You need to release your full fighting spirit! But here’s the problem… Most of us are “too nice”. Even though the essence of martial arts is a study of death, most of us would rather not train in such an extreme mindset. Unfortunately, that is exactly what makes good people vulnerable! So, let’s take a stroll back into the jungle and see if we can rekindle some of our primal power… before we get eaten alive! To LISTEN to “Killer Instinct,” just hit play below. Play the audio podcast below… or download to your device. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Google Podcasts or Spotify. To WATCH the video version or READ the transcript, scroll down below. If you’d like to support this show , share the link with a friend or leave a quick review over on iTunes . Thank you! Oh—and don’t forget to sign up for free email updates so you can get new shows sent to your inbox the minute they’re released. Thanks for listening! Keep fighting for a happy life! How to Train Your Killer Instinct Here’s a video of the podcast. If the player doesn’t work, you can click this direct link. As always, if you’d like to keep the conversation going, feel free to leave a comment here or through my Contact Page. TRANSCRIPT Howdy! Ando here from Happy Life Martial Arts. Welcome to episode #125 of Fight for a Happy Life, the show that believes even a little martial arts makes life a whole lot better. Yes, I’m back. After a six-month hiatus–I didn’t plan it, it just happened– I’m back. But I’m even more thrilled that you stopped by to say hello. So welcome back to you too. Let’s go! What’s that? Oh, the sweater. Do you like that? I’ll explain that in a minute. But let’s start off today’s show talking about frustration. My frustration. Years and years of frustration. Why? Because I kept getting beat. No matter how hard I trained, no matter how much I studied, I feel that I was losing to people who trained far less than I did. People who took it far less seriously than I did. And I would go to my teachers after class in the dark shadows. And I would confess this. I would say, Listen, I’m working really hard here, but I’m getting beat. Everybody’s beating me. New people are beating me. Something’s wrong. And they were always very supportive. They’d say, No, no, you’re doing great. You’re a good student. But maybe you’re just being too nice. Too nice. I would argue with them. I would say, No, no, you don’t understand. In my head, I’m not being nice at all. Of course, I’m a nice person, so I’m training with safety and respect. But I really am trying to win a lot of the time. I have an ego. I have a temper. I have a competitive spirit. So I’m not giving anybody anything once the action starts. So, I would come back to the conclusion that I just need to practice harder. And practicing harder meant focusing on technical attributes. And it still wouldn’t be enough. Another six months would go by. Another year would go by. I would come back to my teacher and say, I’m still getting beat. Something’s wrong. And again, they would say, Maybe you’re just being too nice. I would say, No, I’m not being nice. And the cycle would continue over and over, for lo, these many years. So what really is the issue? What has been the problem for me, personally, which perhaps you can relate to? I believe it all came down to one thing. Killer instinct. I have figured out– maybe it took way too long– that developing a killer instinct is a skill of its own. You can focus all you want on speed and power, flexibility and mobility, pain tolerance, sensitivity. You can study as many books as you want, talk to as many teachers as you want to. Flow like water. None of it matters if you don’t have killer instinct to back it up. If you can’t finish a fight, then you’re finished. This is what I figured out. Now, that brings us to the sweater. Check out this sweater. This is getting me in the spirit of killer instinct. What do we got here? It’s a big cat, a panther, a predator, a meat eater. In the wild, clearly, you must have a killer instinct. Either you eat or you die. And that’s whether you eat a plant, kill a plant, or kill a fellow animal. It’s eat or be eaten. Now, in the last podcast, #124, the topic was to stop pulling your punches. And I argued six months ago that we need to push ourselves in training, to go to 100%. And I’m saying that wasn’t even deep enough. The language there wasn’t deep enough. In the last six months, I’ve only come to a doubling down on this theme. We must release our fighting spirit in its most primal execution, most primal expression. To be clear, the martial arts are all about death. You’re either training to stop someone from taking your life or you’re developing the capability to take someone else’s life to survive. You may not think of every self-defense scenario as a life or death situation, but the point of training is to take it that far. The bad news is, most of us are nice people, and we can’t, won’t, or don’t want to imagine these extremes. To think about the death aspect of martial arts. And that has revealed to me that the killer instinct is not actually in everyone. Maybe you were born with a killer instinct, but then you were raised out of it. You were taught to be polite, and patient, and civilized. To play by the rules, to not cause a fuss. And now, even if you were born with it, that instinct is gone. Or I think more likely, you weren’t even born with an instinct to kill. Some are, but I think many aren’t. I don’t think I was. Yes, we have a primal drive to survive, but that doesn’t mean we have a primal drive to kill to survive. As a result, violence is shocking. Either violence perpetrated against us or seeing violence come out of us when necessary. A secondary effect of not having a killer instinct is that you may actually judge violence as barbaric . Something beneath you. Something you would never resort to. Even when it’s the only tool left. So that’s the disadvantage here. Bad guys will do whatever they want. They’ve released their fighting spirit. They still have a killer instinct, or have developed their killer instinct, to take what they want from you, including your life. And if a bad guy is willing to use 100% of the tools available to them, but you’re not, then you’re at a disadvantage. You’ll be too slow to react, or you won’t react when you need to. That’s a problem. Let’s recognize that having a killer instinct allows you 100% of the tools available to you as a human being. And as a self-defense student, a martial arts student, you should have 100% of all the tools necessary. Now the good news… The good news is the killer instinct– and let’s just stop even using that word. Because like I said, either it can be trained out of you, so it’s no longer an instinct, or maybe you weren’t born with it at all. So, perhaps we should talk about this more as a killer mindset. A killer mindset as a separate skill can be trained. It’s an odd thing, but the toughest guys I know, and I’ve talked to a couple of them on this podcast, they insist that they were not born with a killer instinct. They’ve said, no, quite the contrary. They had to develop it because they had to, they needed to. Because of the way they were raised, their neighborhood, their family dynamics, they felt they had to develop a killer mindset to survive. And I would say, so should you. So should I. And even if right now, you’re not 100% comfortable with it, and even if you never achieve a 100% expression of a killer mindset, I believe every percentage point you can add to your personality will be of benefit to you. So what’s the big problem here? Not just civilization, not just your past and how you were raised, not just the fact that you weren’t born with a killer instinct. You were smart enough to seek out martial arts training. But the problem is many martial arts schools– I would never say all of them, I hesitate to say most of them, but let’s just safely say many of them– presume you do have a killer instinct. So, most of the class time and the curriculum is spent teaching techniques, teaching you drills, teaching you all of the other attributes that are important, but aren’t necessarily the deal breaker, the scales-tipper. So you will get faster and stronger, you will get tougher, but if you still don’t have the fuel of a killer instinct, a killer mindset, all that’s going to fall apart. I would say it’s almost worthless. That’s been my experience. You can train for years and be a very sincere student, and hide the fact that you don’t have a killer mindset. You can excel at your drills, be the best student in the class, and still lack a killer mindset. And it would be tragic if you didn’t reveal that to yourself until a real-life situation that calls for you to be a killer comes up and you fail. That would be tragic. And by the way, we’re talking about a martial arts class where you are presumably safe. Even if you’re in a hardcore school, and you’re practicing MMA, or boxing, or Muay Thai, Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, there are still rules to protect you. It’s still supposed to be a safe training environment. And even in tournaments, they’re supposed to be safe with rules and referees. So, if you can’t play the part of a killer, even in a safe context, even with rules and supervision, then what makes you think you’re going to have a killer mindset when it’s for real and there are no rules and there are no referees? The martial arts class is our first chance to really exercise the killer mindset while we can do it safely and then, hopefully, expand upon that to bring it out into our real lives. So we don’t want to miss that opportunity in our training. Speaking of training, how do you train? Is there a killer mindset at play? I would say there are four modes of training in the martial arts. Four Modes of Training The first mode is oblivious . You’re just going through the motions. You don’t have any particular training goals. You show up, you do what they say. You’re not really learning on purpose. It’s kind of just happening as it happens once in a while. You’re not in a teaching mindset. You’re not in a learning mindset. You’re not even really in a fighting mindset. You’re just kind of oblivious. You just show up, do what you’re told, and go home, and that’s it. Second mode you could be in is a teacher mode . That’s when you have some skills and perhaps your training partners are less skilled than you. So you purposely give them some room to work, to play. You set up positions where little problems for them to solve, to figure out how to survive on their own. And that’s very giving of you, senior student type of stuff. Third mode you could be in is student mode . That’s when you are purposely trying to learn something. You did come in with a list of goals, micro goals, macro goals, whatever they may be. You are paying attention to what’s going on. You’re experimenting, you’re playing around, and you are charting your progress. The fourth mode would be the fighting mode . That’s when– the heck with coaching, the heck with learning– I’m trying to win. Whatever the objective is here right now, for me it’s just I’m winning. Whether I’m training for self-defense or training for a tournament, I’m just trying to finish this fight on top. So, that will be the fourth mode. So, oblivious mode, teacher mode, student mode, and fighting mode. Which one are you? Which mindset do you find yourself in most often? How should you be training? Which mode should you be in? I’m going to give you a warning. If you are in mode number one, two, or three– oblivious, teacher, or student mode– and your partners are in fighting mode, then you are always at risk of losing or getting hurt. They’re coming on strong. They’re not focused on safety, maybe, and respect. They’re just trying to beat you. And in that mindset, anything goes. So you have to be very careful with people like that. My advice to you here would be to always presume that your partner is in fighting mode. I don’t care how long you’ve known them. I don’t care if it’s a kid. And I don’t care what the scenario is. Always presume that they’re about to lose it, be erratic, be reckless, do something unexpected, and hurt you. It’s much safer to have that attitude when you approach a partner than any other. I’ve been clocked so many times unexpectedly by people I never thought would hit me, simply because I underestimated what mode they were in. Oh, I thought we were both in learning mode right now. I didn’t realize you were suddenly going to freak out and try to kill me. I’m sure that’s happened to you too. Of course, by training in that mode, that also prepares us better for real life. You’re approached on the street, you’re looking at people and evaluating them in a crowd or in your home, I’m just going to presume that if trouble starts, you’re looking for the worst here. You’re going to accelerate this really fast, and I need to be ahead of that. As a trained martial artist, I need to get there before you do. Whatever action that may be– leaving, speaking, setting boundaries, pushing away– whatever your action is, I need to be ahead of it. Now, for you, in your training, if I’m always expecting my partner to be in mode four, fighting mode, does that mean that I should always be in fighting mode? Should I always have my killer mindset turned on? No. No, and the reason is if you’re always in fighting mode, then you’re not learning. And you’re also not giving your partner a chance to learn anything with you. Not on purpose anyway. You’re not steering them where you want them. They learn how to take a beating and that’s helpful sometimes, but you get the point, it’s only happening as an aside. It wasn’t on purpose. And as a senior student or teacher, you like to guide your students and lower class people to a safe place to learn things. 3 Tips for Building a Killer Mindset Number one would be to mix up your modes . Mix it up. Of course, you’re going to have an advantage if you’re sparring and rolling to be looking for that finish and stay in fighting mode. However, that’s a very limited way to practice. When you do that, you’re more than likely just going to stick to a few moves that always work for you. You’re going to stick to your favorite moves all the time. That’s okay if it’s self-defense, because maybe the person you’re fighting, you don’t know and you’re only going to fight this person one time. So, whatever your favorite move is, great– deploy it and I hope that worked out for you. But in training, when you see the same people over and over again, you become very predictable. Everybody knows your favorite moves, and once they know your favorite moves, if they’re any good, they’ll take them away from you. And if you just keep trying over and over again to do that favorite move and force it down their throats, it’s not going to work anymore. So you’ve got to get out of mode four, fighting mode, and come back to student mode. You’ve got to come back to experimenting, putting yourself in bad positions on purpose to solve different problems different ways. So that would be my tip. Don’t stay in fighting mode all the time. Go in and out of it. Try to win. If you get a win, then come back to learning mode. Try to learn something new. If your favorite moves aren’t working, stop. Come back to learning mode, student mode, and find some new tricks. Then try them out in fighting mode again. Basically, any mode except for oblivious mode is what I would recommend. Just don’t show up and go through the motions and not pay attention and go home with nothing on your mind. There should always be something to mark your progress one way or the other. So number one tip, mix up your modes. Tip number two, when you do slip into your killer mindset, fighting mindset, fight to finish . Go all the way. Go for the hit. Go for the choke. Go for the tap. Go for that takedown. You need to exercise the feeling of finishing. This is the skill that I’m talking about. It’s a separate skill. Speed, power, flexibility, great attributes. New attribute, I think that trumps all the others– can you finish? Do you feel comfortable finishing? Can you go after them? Can you dominate? Is that a problem for you? If you can’t dominate your partner in a friendly, safe practice session, why do you think you’re gonna dominate an unfriendly attacker in a real-life, life or death situation? I’m gonna say you can’t. Use the class as a stepping stone to real life. Go as close as you can without hurting your partners to exercising the feeling of totally dominating the other person. That’s how it’s done. And by the way, this is good for your partners too. I’ve talked about that before. Nobody comes to class wanting to learn how to defend against a weak kick, a slow punch, or a non-threat. For them to build confidence and for your partners to build skill, you need to bring them a real problem to solve. That means you bring them your best, which is why slipping into your fighting mode and turning on your killer mindset here and there, is good for them. It’s necessary for you, it’s necessary for them if we’re all gonna be our best. Just to back up for a second, at no time am I suggesting that we should be bloodthirsty in our martial arts training. We are not after all wild animals. We are trained animals. Animals still have a killer mindset. We just figure out when to deploy it and when not to deploy it. And I believe with training, we learn that there are situations where other people may deploy it, the killer mindset, where we don’t need to, because we have control. That’s what the training is for. Control the bad guy. Once you get control, then you have choices. Then you can say, I’m going to let you go. I’m going to talk you down. I’m just going to injure you and get out of here. Or if need be, I’m going to end your life. But you don’t get to make those choices, unless you have controlled your attacker. So how do you get that control? You’ve got to get the killer mindset, get in there, and make things happen. So this isn’t about being crazy. It’s not about being bloodthirsty. It’s about being smart enough to know that I’ve got to turn on all of my attributes, including a killer mindset, to control you. Then I can protect you. Tip number three–visualization . This is the tool, more than any other, that you need to exercise. Visualization. Whether you want to call that meditation time, whether you want to do this in a waterfall, or sitting on the couch, or whenever. You want to stand in a forest, do it. I don’t care. But set aside time when you can visualize the absolute worst-case scenarios, the most frightening and horrifying things that could be done to you, and the most horrifying things that you could do against someone else. You’ve got to get into that mindset, otherwise you won’t be prepared for it. It’s a funny thing. Martial arts is a very peculiar activity. Let’s say weird. Martial arts is one of the only activities I can think of where you’re not allowed to do the actual thing you’re training to do! Imagine if you’re trying to teach someone how to drive a car, and you walk them to the car, you seat them in the car, but you never turn on that engine, you never put it into drive, and you never let them out on the road. But you spend years putting their hands on the wheel, talking to them about the pressure in the gas pedal, when to switch to the brake pedal, how to shift gears, how to use the mirrors, you explain what it’s like to be on the freeway. Does any of that add up to driving skill? Of course not. Whether you’re playing piano, painting, cooking, playing soccer, driving, every other activity, you get to do the actual thing that you’re training to do. But martial arts, you can’t do that. You can’t go around breaking necks, breaking backs, killing people. You can’t. We’re not alone. Military exercises, police academies, people who are in the business of restraint and control and death have to simulate. And we can simulate many different creative ways, the military, the police, martial artists. We all find different drills and exercises. We can argue about methodology. But at the end of the day, it’s simulations. And only real is real. So we have to get as close as we can to real without being real. It’s just the way it is in martial arts. And if we can’t physically be real, then we have to at least make the effort to be emotionally and psychologically real. The only way to do that is imagination. Play-acting. Go through those worst cases in your head. I find it to be a very intense experience. Just sitting down and really imagining a home invasion. Imagining what’s being done to my loved ones. What’s being attempted against me. And seeing how that would play out. Then imagining me intervening, taking action. And what would I have to do in the most extreme circumstances? I break a sweat thinking about this stuff. I can feel my heart beating faster. I can feel the adrenaline starting to go. That’s the power of imagination. And I highly suggest that you do this. Because again, if you can’t even imagine it, if you can’t even think about it, how are you going to do it if you need to? How can you face real life if you can’t even face it in your imagination? Give yourself that gift. Then, after you’ve sat down with these thoughts, take it into your solo practice. In your solo practice, if you’re going to hit a bag, don’t hit that bag until you give yourself a context. What’s happening? What’s really happening? Why are you punching and kneeing and elbowing? What are you doing? Why are you doing it? Use your imagination, create a context, and you will get way more out of your practice, because it’s no longer physical. It’s psychological. It’s emotional. Same thing if you’re doing kata. Same thing if you’re shadow boxing. Bring your imagination into that, and you will get more out of your training than ever. Wrapping up. Okay, just to be clear– martial arts should be a special activity, something different from everything else that you do. That’s because martial arts is as extreme as it gets, because it deals with death. That should not be a downer or gloomy. It’s exciting. It should stimulate your life force, your primal drive to survive. And yes, that can lead you into a killer mindset. Awaken it.If it’s an instinct that’s been long lost, bring it back to life. If you weren’t born with a killer instinct, then this is the next best thing. Inject yourself through hard training with the mindset of a predator, of a big cat. We must train to dominate the bad guys. Otherwise, they win. And that’s not fair to the world, and that’s not fair to you. Okay, big cat, time to get out there and strut your stuff. Maybe buy yourself a cool sweater or get a tattoo. Maybe just go roar into a mirror. Do what you gotta do to remind yourself how powerful you really are. Until next time, smiles up, my friend. Let that smile be your shield and your sword. Keep fighting for a happy life. The post #125: How to Train Your Killer Instinct [Video Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #124 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Stop Pulling Your Punches.” It might sound harsh, but most people are holding back… not just on the mats, but in every aspect of life. They’re NOT maximizing their efforts and, therefore, NOT maximizing their successes. (Yes, including me!) The question is WHY? Or is it? Maybe before asking why, I should ask if you even agree? Perhaps you believe you ARE giving 100%… even if you’re not. It’s a common misimpression. How does this happen? In this episode, let’s dig deep to figure out if we’re truly working towards our dreams or just going through the motions. Along the way, I hope you’ll discover there’s more power in you just waiting to be unleashed! Oh—two videos are mentioned in this episode. If you’d like to check them out, here are the links… One Tip for Powerful Punches Self-Defense Tip: Finish the Fight Okay—check out the show, then let’s get out there and start throwing some full power punches! To LISTEN to “Stop Pulling Your Punches,” just hit play below. Play the audio podcast below… or download to your device. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Google Podcasts or Spotify. To WATCH the video version or READ the transcript, scroll down below. If you’d like to support this show , share the link with a friend or leave a quick review over on iTunes . Thank you! Oh—and don’t forget to sign up for free email updates so you can get new shows sent to your inbox the minute they’re released. Thanks for listening! Keep fighting for a happy life! Stop Pulling Your Punches Here’s a video of the podcast. If the player doesn’t work, you can c lick this direct link. As always, if you’d like to keep the conversation going, feel free to leave a comment here or through my Contact Page. TRANSCRIPT Hello, and welcome to Fight for a Happy Life, the show that believes even a little martial arts makes life a whole lot better. Ando here from Happy Life Martial Arts. I’m so glad you could stop by. Today, Stop Pulling Your Punches. The reason this topic is on my mind… The other day, I was working with a student, a young man, and we were throwing sidekicks on a bag. And he’s a hardworking student. He was sweating. He was giving it his all. He was pivoting well. He was kicking hard. But overall, I had to give him like a B+. This is not an A performance. Why? Well, the fact is that he wasn’t extending his leg all the way. The pivot wasn’t 100%. Sticking out that heel wasn’t 100%. And therefore, it wasn’t a complete kick. It wasn’t his full potential for a strong side kick. Now, this is not the first time that I’ve addressed this type of issue on the physical front. I have a video, I believe it’s called, One Tip for More Powerful Punches. In that video, I comment on the same phenomenon. When you see people set up in front of a heavy bag very often, they “short arm” their punches. They just kind of stand there and their hands are very active, but their torso is not. And so the tip very simply was to give yourself a little more space and try to extend that shoulder for a full punch. Now, of course, I’m not innocent. I am guilty of short arming my punches and kicks over the years. And in particular, when I started grappling, so 15 years ago, I remember I was rolling with my coach, and I was just happy to get good positions, get to a mount, get to his back. But if I got my arm around his neck to set up a choke, I’d let that go. If I got near an arm bar, I wouldn’t fight for it. When the round was over, I remember my coach being very frustrated. He looked at me and he said, What is this? A nice guy contest? Guilty again. Yes. I absolutely admit that physically, I was not finishing techniques. I was not in the hunt for the tap, for the win. Psychologically, of course, that’s the problem. I didn’t want to be a jerk. I was new to grappling. I certainly didn’t want to hurt him, because I didn’t know what I was doing necessarily. So I don’t want to hurt somebody. I’m out of control. I didn’t want to come off as too aggressive, or like I’m trying to win. I’d like to think that my ego is in check and I was just enjoying the learning experience. But at the same time, that doesn’t make me the best of sparring partners, because I am allowing falsity into the workout. The worst thing you can do for your partners is to give them a false sense of confidence, a false sense of skill, letting them think they earned an escape, when really you just gave up on the attack . So, yeah, I needed to make some adjustments to make sure I was being a good sparring partner, and to ensure that they would be good sparring partners back to me. I don’t want people short arming their punches or shortening their kicks, just to make me feel good. I need that honest feedback of for what’s working and what’s not. So overall, in a nutshell, if you have to leave early, the big advice today is stop pulling your punches, because the magic of martial arts is in the finish. The magic is in that last 10%, 5% of effort, where you do fight to win, where you fight for the success. Of course, that’s the magic in everything in life, going for the finish, not holding back, giving something your full effort and attention. I think I can prove this, because most of us are very excited when we see something, see a person working at full capacity. As opposed to what we normally see– I think it’s just part of human nature– where people hold back a bit. I think most people are working short of their potential on the mats and off– half-hearted, half-assed. People seem to have this natural tendency, including me, to do the minimum to get by. Whatever your goal is, they seek the minimum– what do I have to do to get that goal?– and not necessarily looking to do more than that. My proof for this is that when people go the extra mile– well, let me back up, when people give 100%, you notice. If people give 100% and then do more than that, like extra credit, you really notice. And that can be in any walk of life. That could be getting a waiter or a waitress who greets you well, gets the order correct, is timely, checks up on you during the meal, makes sure you have everything you have, brings you the check on time. When they tick every box of a professional waiter or waitress, you notice. Why do you notice? Because you’ve had so many lousy waiters and waitresses. So I’ve had that experience, whether it’s at the dentist’s office or at a car mechanic. You get used to this mediocre level of service, attention, competence, and you just kind of think, well, that’s the way it is. Until you meet that person who’s really good at what they do, and they tick every box of professionalism, and you realize, like, wow, I’m inspired by this. I notice this. I want to be like that. My other proof that most people aren’t working at full capacity, I think, would be in the sports world. Playoffs. I’m not much of a sports guy for regular season sports, because I’m not always convinced they’re going at 100%. They’re nursing injuries or whatever. The big crowds aren’t as big. They know they have a long season. They can make it up later. But during playoffs, I know that they’re trying hard. During the Olympics, I know it’s now or never, these people have to put up their best performance right now. We pay money to see people working at 100%. That’s maybe how rare it is to find people not pulling their punches. So, when you find people, if you went and paid for a ticket at a professional basketball game or at the Olympics, and people weren’t working at 100%, I think that’s when the crowd starts to boo, throw stuff, because you feel cheated. I paid to see you work at 100%. I want that inspiration in my life. And if you don’t get it, boo. So, that’s number two. My third proof that most people aren’t working at full capacity, I think, is animal attacks. Whether it’s on Instagram or wherever, when you catch these little “caught on tape” type clips of a bear tearing up a campsite, running after somebody, or a shark attack, or any animal– it could be a spider– animal attacks are incredibly gripping entertainment. Why? Why can’t you look away? I think it’s because of the commitment level. The animal is not in the off season. That animal is either protecting their young or they’re hungry, and they’re fighting for their life. So what you’re seeing there is a primal example of 100% effort. Biting down, holding on, trying to kill somebody. And man, that’s exciting. And perhaps inspiring. So, overall, I think the rule is simple. If you give a minimal level of effort, you’re going to get minimal results. If you give more, you’re going to get more. And if you can make a habit of giving your best and going all the way with what you’ve got, then you will figure out what your best really is. You will fulfill your potential. Doesn’t mean you’re always going to be the champ. Doesn’t mean you’re always going to win or survive or get what you want. But your results will be maximized. Okay, now, this can get tricky because you may feel that you are already doing that. That you’re giving all you’ve got… You’re exhausted after class. You’ve saved as much money as you can, etc., etc. You may feel like you are already a hard worker. And the reason this is tricky is that’s true! You may be a hard worker. You may know lots about your subject of expertise. You may have the courage to show up and try new things. You may practice a lot. You may be brave enough to ask questions and seek mentors and coaches. But all of those measurements don’t necessarily equate to success. The problem here is when you reflect on what you’re doing, you’re measuring the wrong qualities . Gee, I’m sweating. So does that mean I worked my best? Maybe not. Did you try new things? Did you ask the right questions? Did you put yourself in uncomfortable situations or are you just repeating the same things that always work for you? Bottom line is if you’re only measuring what you want to measure and you’re not measuring what you don’t want to measure, you’re going to get bad feedback. So I would suggest the one measurement that you should always include in your reflections is: Am I winning? Is what I’m doing working? Now, don’t get me wrong, you don’t want to be that person in your martial arts class who’s always trying to win, who can’t drop it down a little bit to learn something. That would come off like maybe you’re a jerk. Like you just treat everything like a competition. Because that leads to only repeating what works for you. You’re never going to learn something. So the measurements can’t just be, am I always winning? But am I always learning? Now, definitely if you are not winning– if you are losing, failing, not getting the tap, not getting the point, getting knocked down– yes, you are learning. You should be learning from your reflections. But if you’re never including, hey, here’s me winning– here’s me getting the tap, finishing the choke, scoring that knockdown– then you’re not learning from the wins. So your learning experience is very limited. So I don’t want you just to measure by sweat or by new information. Please measure, are you getting the results that you should be? The tap, the point, the knockdown. Whatever that is in your life, make sure you’re measuring successes. You should have some. If you’re not getting those successes, those wins, the points that you’ve got to ask, is it because I’m actually not giving 100%? Is there a 10%, 5% margin that I’m just not using? I’m not going to my limits. Why? New reflection… Why are you stopping short? Why aren’t you getting that choke and the tap? Why are you pulling your punches? Are you not sure it’s the right move? Are you not sure you have control of it? Are you not sure how you’re going to feel if you’re that guy who can finish things? Do you think people are not going to like you if you’re successful? Do you have a fear of success? All of these, of course, are mental blocks, not physical blocks. That young man who was throwing sidekicks could extend his leg. And once I made some observations, he did extend his leg. So it was a mental block for some reason that he wasn’t extending his leg, not physical. So, yes, it’s going to be scary sometimes to suddenly go 100% if you’ve made a habit of going 85% or 90% even. That last 5% of effort may likely change who you are, how you see yourself, how others see you. It’s going to change things. Right now, you might have a status where you’re pretty good. That’s your identity. That’s how people see you. Like, yeah, you’re pretty good. If you push for that extra 5%, you might find yourself failing more and feeling silly all of a sudden. People may notice like, Hey, you’re failing more. You’re not as good as we thought. You have to be brave enough to look at that. And accept that and say, Well, that’s okay, but at least I know what my limits are. On the other hand, you might go from, Yeah, I’m pretty good, to, I’m better than I thought. I’m getting more success. And how is that going to change your identity? How you see yourself and how others see you? Some people may love it that you’re coming into your own and up kicking up to a new level. Others may not. They feel more comfortable with you right where you were. That’s where they met you. That’s where they like you. And now you’re up a notch. And they’re not going to follow you up there. They can’t or won’t. And they prefer that you came back down to their level. So you may not want to deal with that. And that’s your choice. But at least be aware of what you’re doing. Now, to be fair, there are a couple of considerations here to not necessarily excuse why you’re not working at 100%, but maybe explain why you’re not working at 100% . Here’s one of them… Yin and Yang. Every extreme holds the seed of its opposite. If you look at the YinYang, it’s not just the black side and the white side swirling into one another– there’s often the little dots of the opposite color right in the middle of the other. So what does that represent? Well, for the sake of this discourse, this rant, I would suggest that that is the vulnerability inherent in going to an extreme. So very simple example. If you’re short-arming a punch, you’re also shortening the amount of time that you are vulnerable to a counter. Your elbow is close enough to your body that you can pull that back to a defensive shield pretty quickly. The longer your arm goes, the longer amount of the time is that that hand is away from your body. The longer your body is open for a counter underneath that arm. And the longer it’s going to take for that hand to come back to being defensive. So quite literally, on a physical level, the more extreme that you reach out that punch, the longer you are vulnerable. You may already sense that instinctively and pull those punches a little bit back, just so you’re not vulnerable to being countered. Definitely with kicks, you may feel even more of that fear, because you’re on one leg, you’re sticking your leg out there, your groin is exposed, it just feels more vulnerable. So you just don’t throw it 100%. I get that. However, I believe the point of practice– these are not real fights yet that we’re talking about– in a practice session, in a martial arts dojo, there’s no reason why you can’t throw that 100%, risk that vulnerability, just to see if it works. To see how big a risk you’re really taking. To see what you can get away with and what you can’t. So that you can be more wise in when you employ 100%, deploy, and when you decide to pull that a little bit shorter. You want that wisdom. I believe you can always do less, if it comes to a real fight or some high stakes situation. You can always do less. But we should be training to always do more. So you have the option. If you only practice at 85%, and then in a real situation you feel even more intimidated, now you’re working back at 65%, you’ve really shrunk your abilities. If however you practice at 100%, and then a real life situation scares you back to 85%, well at least you’re at 85%, not 65%. That’s my logic anyway. So one, the yin and the yang, the inherent vulnerability of going out to an extreme at 100%. That’s one reason to be fair that you may not be operating fully. The other reason may be you simply don’t know about it. You didn’t realize that you’re not doing 100%. And that’s usually because your challenge is at too low of a level. You’re in a comfort zone, and you may not even realize it. Let’s say, for instance, at your school, you’re coasting at your 90%. I mean, 90% is still working hard. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t mean to say coasting, but you’re operating at 90% of your potential. And let’s just say all of your partners, they’re working at 80% of here and 85% there, 60% there, and it just happens that your 90% is able to dominate everybody else’s half-hearted efforts. So you think you’re doing great. That must be good enough. You must be 100% because nobody’s beating you, or at least not enough to take it too seriously. So you build up a false sense of confidence, like me with my grappling coach. Your partners, by not giving you 100%, have allowed you to believe that your 90% is 100%, and you don’t even need to question it. No good. Think about breaking boards. Let’s say you put up one or two boards. I’m betting you are healthy and strong enough that you don’t need 100% of your power and speed to bust through one or two boards. So if you only set up one or two boards, you’re going to get by for the rest of your life at 80% effort. Because the challenge is just that low. But if you challenge yourself and put up four or five boards, I’m going to bet that your 80% effort won’t cut it. It might break your hand. You’re going to need to push your limits on speed and power and focus and courage to bust through that four or five boards. So by raising the challenge, you had to push yourself to a higher limit. So this is what we should be doing on all fronts. Give yourself higher challenges to force yourself to find your failure point. Know what your 100% is . Then you can back up a little bit and strengthen up your resources to maybe come back stronger the next time. And then increase your limitations. This is what a good martial arts program should be doing. It should be a safe place to raise your level of challenge to force you to work at 100%. To get to the place where you fail, but you know you gave it everything you had. Alright. Now let’s talk about self-defense. I have addressed this topic a little bit in a video called, Self-Defense TIp: Finish the Fight. And the big takeaway, if you don’t want to go watch it, was this thought: A fight is not over when you say it’s over. The fight’s over when the other guy says it’s over. Somebody comes running up to you on the street, and you give them a big palm heel to the nose. You may think, That’s good, that’ll stop them, that’s enough. They may not think so, though. The other guy might just walk through it and still be swinging at you. So the fight’s not over just because you thought it was over. He’s still going. So now you have to do something else, and maybe something else. Hopefully you have that opportunity. So we should be training to go farther and farther with our techniques, with our combinations, with our power and speed, to go to our limits. Because, like I said, we can always do less, but we should be preparing to do more, to go all the way. And I do believe that how you do one thing is typically how you do everything. So let’s say at work, maybe you don’t love your job, so you’re doing like 70-75% of your effort there. Maybe you’re bored in your relationships, so you’re kind of pulling back 75-80% there. Maybe you’re diet or saving money, you’ve pulled back on some of your efforts there, you’re like, I don’t know, 80-90%. So now you’re in martial arts class, and you’re used to that kind of level of effort, that’s who you are. So you’re kind of given 70-90% somewhere in there in martial arts class. That’s not necessarily going to be your best life. If that’s the goal to live your best life, you’re already cheating yourself. So, at least in the martial arts class, if that’s a safe space for you to push your limits, and to risk vulnerabilities, and risk new identities, and kind of expose who you really are and what you can really do, if you can give 100% in that martial arts class, then maybe you can come back to your diet, relationships, finances, your job, and kick it up a level over there too. Maybe your martial arts training can inspire everything else that’s going on in your life. That’s why I say that even a little martial arts can make your whole life all better. Let the martial arts influence the rest of your life. Push yourself in martial arts, and then push yourself in the rest of your life. Or back that up… Reflect and think about where am I not giving 100%? Where am I showing up and doing all the hard stuff– I signed up for this, I show up for that, seems like I’m working hard, I think I’m still learning. Where do I give myself a pat on the back for not giving up, but I’m still not getting the results that I wanted? I’m not winning. Are you getting the results that you wanted? Find those areas and figure out why not. Is it because you still have 10%, 5%, 1% that you’re holding back? Are you pulling your punches? My advice would be to redefine what 100% means to you . Whatever you’ve got in your life right now, that’s the result of the efforts that you’ve made thus far. If you suspect that you’re not heading towards what you really wanted, that you’re not going to get it, the time’s running out, you’re getting tired now. I’m 54 now. I’m getting tired. So I have to be really honest with myself. When I reflect on, Okay, where am I? What did I want? Am I doing the work? Am I doing the right work? Am I giving 100%? I got to be honest. Sometimes I think, Nope, you can do more here, you can do more there. So that’s why I’m talking about this, because this is right from my own heart. I know I have to do more in certain categories of my life. So redefine this for yourself. What is 100% to you? And you can start simply. I’m all about starting simply. Go to a heavy bag. Hit it with 100% of your effort. Don’t say, I already do. I already do hit it really hard. I’m asking you to take another look at it. Is it really as hard as you possibly could? Are you really bringing up every muscle fiber, every bit of your breath, every bit of your imagination, every bit of effort, mind, body, spirit, to slug that bag or kick that bag or knee that bag? If you don’t trust the safety of your hand or your foot, then give it an elbow, give it a knee. But redefine what 100% feels like, looks like, and own that. Set that new marker for yourself, like, Oh, that’s what 100% is from me. Risk it. If somebody’s watching you then in class, going after that bag, slamming it harder and faster than you ever have before, I bet they notice. And now we’re back to that thought that you’re either going to feel silly because you’ve never revealed that much power before. They may think you look silly. They may not like this new change, this new you, this new more powerful you. On the other hand, I’m hoping you’re going to love it. You’re going to feel like a million bucks instead of 900,000 bucks. You are going to own a new identity where you are more powerful than you thought. That’s what you should give yourself. So don’t give up on your goals quite yet. If you’re not getting what you wanted, if you’re not the toughest guy in your class, if you can’t get that tap, if you’re getting punched more than you’re punching them, if you’re losing at tournaments, if you’re not the belt that you want it to be– go down all the goals that you’re thinking about, those dreams that you have, and it could be anything, and really take a look at it. If you’re not there yet, don’t give up until you know for sure you gave it 100%. This would be my last challenge here to you. First, redefine what 100% really is. Then ask, is that my 100% for the goal that I want the most? Have I been giving it that 100%? If it’s yes, you really have been giving it 100% and you still haven’t gotten it, and you want to walk away from that goal, Mazel Tov. That’s totally fine. I think you’ll be able to live with that. There are certainly goals that I’ve had, that I walked away from. I felt that I gave at that time 100% of what I had. And therefore I’m okay with it. But there are a couple of other goals where I didn’t give 100%. Where I chickened out on making that connection or pushing it or spending whatever it was. And now that I’m older, I look back and think, That was bad. That was stupid. I’m ashamed of that. But I can’t let that linger for long because now what matters is where you are today, where I am today, and how I’m going to use that past, learn from it, and act for the future. And I hope you can do that too. And last little note, be patient with yourself. Not all goals are meant to be right away. So if you’ve now redefined what 100% is for yourself, that doesn’t mean suddenly you’ve got a huge bank account or that you’re suddenly world champion of your sport. It may take time to get where you want to go. If you’re trying to play a musical instrument, you haven’t really been giving it 100%, and now you are, give it some time. It takes time to save money, it takes time to build skill, it takes time to build trust, it takes time to nurture a good relationship. But bring 100% to all of those tasks, all of those goals, and maximize what you’re going to get out of them. Alright, I think I’m going to catch my breath here. Let’s wrap this up… I definitely would say, as I have gotten older, it is easier and easier to see other people identifying who’s giving 100% and who is not. I think those 100-percenters really stand out. And when you see the people who are giving 100%, who aren’t pulling their punches, I get goosebumps. It makes me tear up. I want to support them. And even if I never see them, it makes me feel like I want to give 100%, that there’s still time, and I can do that too. On the other hand, you see the B students. You see the people who are at 90% or less. And it hurts. To me, it hurts my heart. It feels like they’re wasting time, and I don’t want to waste my time. It feels like they’re missing opportunities, and I don’t want to miss opportunities, so I just feel empathetic. Or sympathetic. I don’t want to be disappointed in myself. I don’t want to feel like I’ve wasted my time, that I was fearful. I want to feel that when I’m dead, when I’m dying, I gave it 100%. And I want you to have that same feeling. I don’t want you to have those regrets that you pulled punches, that you didn’t extend that kick. It’s a horrible thing to have to go to the grave with, I believe. So, give more and then get more. Take the risks and push yourself into those uncomfortable areas. Allow vulnerability in your practice. Seek to redefine who you are and what you can do. I think if you do this, I believe if you do this, you stop pulling punches, you’re going to find out that you’re faster than you thought, you’re stronger than you thought, you’re tougher than you thought. And all that’s going to add up to living a happier life than you thought. Okay, that’s it. Take a moment to pick a goal right now that you’ve been thinking about your whole life, working on your whole life, recommit to it at 100%. This is it. Win or lose, whether you get it or you don’t, at least be proud of yourself for fighting for it. Until next time, smiles up, my friend. Let that smile be your shield and your sword. Keep fighting for a happy life. The post #124: Stop Pulling Your Punches [Video Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Welcome to Episode #123 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “How to Build Courage in Martial Arts.” Many people worry that they won’t have the courage to fight back against a real-life attacker… and that includes martial arts students! It makes sense, really. You can build strong muscles and practice cool moves all day long, but when fear strikes, you might still find yourself curled up in a ball and frozen solid. Don’t let that happen to you! In this episode, I’ll share some tips to help you face your fears and build your courage… no matter what threats come your way. (Believe me—you’re not alone. I need these tips, too!) If you’d like even more advice on overcoming fear—particularly when sparring—check out this video: How to Reduce Fear in Sparring and Fighting . The good news is that you’re already brave… you’re already a fighter. Believe it! The big trick is simply not allowing anyone or anything to make you forget it. Okay—let’s get started! Let me know what you think! To LISTEN to “How to Build Courage in Martial Arts,” here’s the link. Play the audio podcast below… or download to your device. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Google Podcasts or Spotify. To WATCH the video version or READ the transcript, scroll down below. If you’d like to support this show , share the link with a friend or leave a quick review over on iTunes . Thank you! Oh—and don’t forget to sign up for free email updates so you can get new shows sent to your inbox the minute they’re released. Thanks for listening! Keep fighting for a happy life! How to Build Courage in Martial Arts Here’s a video of the podcast. If the player doesn’t work, you can click this direct link. As always, if you’d like to keep the conversation going, feel free to leave a comment here or through my Contact Page. TRANSCRIPT Hello, again! Ando here from Happy Life Martial Arts. Welcome to episode #123 of Fight for a Happy Life , the show that believes even a little martial arts makes life a whole lot better. Great to be back on video, I’ve missed you. I’ve been busy training, been busy teaching, but I’m here now. And, if I’m going to be honest, feeling a little old. Let me tell you why. In the mail, I got this lovely note. Yes, and what does it say? It says, Andrew, because they really know me. Andrew, make a plan that celebrates your life. And who is this from? Why, it’s a cremation service. Yes, I’ve finally reached the age where there are officially people waiting for me to die. They can’t wait to burn my corpse. So now I’m walking outside every day, looking up, seeing if today’s the day. Are there any vultures? How bad do I look? Have I lost weight? Anyway, I keep this on my desk. I didn’t throw it out because it reminds me that life is short and life is crazy. Live while you can, my friend. If you have to leave the episode right now, that’s what you needed to know. So live. What I’d like to talk about, if you’re still going to hang around though, is courage. It takes courage to live in this world, doesn’t it? It takes courage to go after your goals. And it will certainly take courage to defend your life or to defend your goals if someone tries to stop you. I bring this up because I get this comment either through video reactions or through email quite often. Someone will write, Dear Sensei Ando, I am afraid that I won’t be brave enough to fight back if I’m ever attacked. I’m afraid that I don’t have the courage to stand up for myself. Whoa. All right. Let me make this simple, okay? And then maybe if you want to cut the episode short and you want to take off, okay. To me, this question is just missing one thing, context. There are incidents every day where people with no martial arts training defend themselves successfully. Could be multiple attackers, could be a weapon involved, but people who did not see trouble coming finding a way to survive, finding a way to win. And it’s not just in the world of self-defense. There are people who have been wiped out one way or the other and rebuilt their lives. Whether it was addiction and drugs, whether it was bankruptcy and financial ruin, whether it’s disease, the pandemic, whether their town was bombed in a war or invaded. Throughout history, human beings find ways to pull themselves back together and move forward. And if they can do it, I believe I can do it. And if I can do it, I believe you can do it. So the context here is situations that put us in emergency mode. Code red. When necessity is strong enough, you will fight. When desperation is high enough, you will find a way to fight back. That’s what I believe. In those moments of extreme crisis, your strengths will be revealed. And I believe you will overcome fear. I think fear is something we can just imagine when there is no crisis. So of course, it seems like we’re going to be overwhelmed. But you’re not giving yourself enough credit, my friend. If you were attacked by a shark, I have no training for that. You probably have no training for that. But I’ll bet you’d fight. I’ll bet you’d fight hard. So tap into that. Believe in that. You have an emergency mode that, if things are truly, truly bad, you have resilience, you have toughness, you will fight your fight. I’m not guaranteeing you survive. I’m not guaranteeing you win. But I guarantee you’ll fight. So, moving on again, episode number three within one episode. The fact is most life is not emergency mode. This is where the problem comes in. So, if we’re not put in extreme crisis, how do I have the courage to go after what I want in life? How do I do it? There are so many things that we want to do, but we don’t have to do. And therefore, we end up floating, just floating in indecision and inaction. And we don’t get what we want. And we just float. And over time, that starts to build, I think, resentment and bitterness, self-loathing. I don’t think it’s a healthy path. So the question here today is, how do we build courage to take action in our normal life? Again, presuming that emergencies got that covered. But what about normal life? Let me give you my theory about courage. I think courage is rooted in safety, a feeling of safety. So, for example, this is a sliding scale, your courage and feelings of safety. Let’s say I say, hey, I knock on your door, come out here quick, you got to fight this guy. And you look over, and the guy is a hundred pounds less than you. No weapon. Imagine that feeling. Now, I knock on your door, pull you outside, say, hey, you got to go fight this guy. And this time, the guy is a hundred pounds bigger than you. Two hundred pounds bigger than you. And he’s got a knife. You probably don’t feel the same. The feeling of courage is going to be different because your feeling of safety in that situation is different. Same thing if you’re on the street, and you hear a call, like, I’m going to get you. I’m going to kill you. And you look over, and it’s just one thin guy by himself. Versus, we’re going to get you. And you look across the street, and there’s a gang of people with bats and guns. Now, what’s interesting here to me is that in any of these situations, you are always the same person, same history, same skills, same smarts, same everything. And yet, in a moment, you can be led to feel completely differently. You project your performance in what’s about to occur. And your prediction of failure or success immediately affects your entire organism and sets off different hormonal responses. So, as we move through our normal life, we’re assessing threats, we’re assessing possibilities, then we assess our capability to survive that situation or to succeed in that situation, and that immediately provides us a level of courage. So, I think that’s how this mechanism works. It’s all about the odds. If you think you’ve got great odds, then you’re going to be pretty courageous and take actions. If you think the odds are totally against you, you might freeze up and do nothing. And that’s why we have to be careful, since my main topic is usually self-defense. This type of dynamic will get you killed. Fear and doubt are never going to help your performance be its best. If you allow yourself to believe that you have no chance, if you believe you’re going to die, then you shrink, right? You shrink physically. I think you want to start curling up and hiding. You shrink psychologically. You start thinking, I can’t do this. I can’t figure it out. I can’t solve this problem. You add more tension. You get tunnel vision. You’re less aware. You don’t move as well. And you hesitate. All of those things are going to get you killed. So, the bottom line is, if, as you’re moving through life, normal life, if you believe you’re going to lose, if you believe you’re going to die, then you’ve just increased the odds that you’re going to lose or you’re going to die. But, if you believe you have a chance to win, a good chance, if you believe you have a chance, a good chance to live, then you’ve just increased the odds that you’re going to win or live. I think it’s that simple. I didn’t say easy, but simple. These things go together. Your courage and your projection of how safe you are in any given context. Now, let me immediately throw in a flag here on the topic of delusion. That is a common criticism that you’re going to find in the world of martial arts, right? Including myself. People put up videos sharing technical tips or ideas for self-defense. Different styles showing off their training methodologies. And immediately, you’re going to see comments under those videos saying, these guys are crazy. This is a cult. They’re engaging in fantasy. None of this stuff is going to work. Okay, fair enough. Everyone’s entitled to their opinion. But I have a question for you. Is it better to believe that you have a chance and then take action on that belief? Or is it better to not believe that you have a chance, that you’re not prepared for this situation, and not take action? I’m talking about self-defense. When you have no choice but to engage an attacker or a threat, you couldn’t talk your way out of it. You couldn’t run. In that moment, you have this choice. Would you rather believe that you can handle it and make a move? Or would you rather succumb to fear and doubt and freeze and shrink up? I think the answer is pretty obvious. I personally would rather be deluded and ensure my maximal performance than to doubt myself and freeze up and do nothing. So there is a place for delusion even, I think, in training. Now, don’t take that out of context. Don’t take this the wrong way. I’m not saying you should train for delusion or you should seek delusion. Of course not. That’s not my first choice in my training. If you’re training, the goal should be true confidence. A true set of skills. That you are training your body and your mind and your heart, your spirit, to handle situations. So that’s not just confidence that comes from good, honest training, that comes with feedback. It comes also with making peace with the universe or your God. You believe you have a mission, you believe that your causes are righteous, that you fight for good reasons. This requires having your morality put together. You know what you’ll fight for, you know what you won’t fight for. So if you are pushed to fight, you know it’s for a good cause. You believe in it. It requires that you’ve managed your ego. You’ve had enough losses in your training, and you’ve had enough victories, and you’ve had enough injuries or setbacks, that you can face all of it. You’re not afraid of any of those things, because you’ve experienced them over and over again. So you’ve learned in short to do your best, put up your best performance, no matter what the threat is, even if it’s completely overwhelming. So these are the choices that we are given, that we’re allowed in life. As we move forward, you have these choices… First choice, be afraid. Be frozen. Do nothing. Hope for the best. Lay and pray. Next level up, yeah, I’m going to upgrade to delusion. Believe that you can handle situations. Believe you’ve got those skills, because at least your physical response, your psychological response, will make you relaxed enough, aware enough, creative enough, and confident enough to make that first move and at least try something. But that is still a far cry from the number one goal, which should be training for true confidence. Training to try no matter what. Training to go down swinging. It’s not about winning or losing. You just are programmed to try, to fight. Win or lose, live or die. Now, if it’s true that courage requires safety nets, then the question is how do we build them? How do we construct these safety nets? I’m glad you asked. I have five quick tips that might help… Tip number one, seek challenges . Create emergency mode situations in your life. I’m not talking about being reckless here. I’m talking about seeking challenges that will push you out of your comfort zone to force you to reveal not just your strengths, but also your fears. Like I said, there’s always goals in our heads that we don’t pursue. So set a goal for yourself, a goal maybe that you’ve been thinking about for years. And now, what is the but? I want to do this, but what? I would like you to figure out exactly what you’re afraid of. If we can’t identify the fear, we can’t face it. So whatever it is, you’re afraid of losing money, you’re afraid of ruining your reputation, you’re afraid of failing again, pursuing a particular goal which is just going to confirm that it’s not meant for you and you’re going to feel like a loser. Whatever that fear is, name it so you can face it. Tip number two, protect yourself. Now let’s start finding out a way to face that fear and build that safety net. Let me give you an example. It’s a little embarrassing, but when I was a kid, I played little league, played for several years, pretty good at it, all star, until puberty. Over one summer, it seemed like every other dude my age hit puberty, and I didn’t. So when we came back for the next season, everyone was taller, bigger, and had stubble. I do believe some of them had aftershave on. I didn’t even know what that was. Now, the problem there was, when I got into the batter’s box and I’m staring down some pitches, those balls were flying past me beyond anything I’d ever seen before. And unfortunately, a couple years earlier, I had a friend who I saw right next to me get hit in the face with a baseball, and both of her front teeth got knocked out, fell right on the ground at our feet. So I have this image of being hit in the face with a baseball and losing my teeth. And now that everyone’s bigger, stronger, faster than I am, every time I went up to that plate, all I could imagine was getting hit in the face with that ball and losing my teeth. So I quit. I quit. I quit baseball. Now, not a great loss for the sports world, but it hurt me because I knew I had quit out of fear. How could I have protected myself? Sure. I mean, I guess we didn’t have enough money. If they had a helmet with one of those masks in the front, the iron gate on the front of my teeth, I would have kept playing baseball. I may have been terrible, but at least I wouldn’t have quit out of fear. It would have been other incompetence athletically. But I didn’t. I didn’t have that equipment, so I left. Years later, side note, I was dragging around that shame, and I did go to a batting cage, crank up that pitching machine as fast as I could, and stood there until I could stare down those balls and start making contact with some of them, so I feel like I redeemed myself. But the bigger point here is, how can you face your fear? If you already named it, now what do you have to do? Is it a piece of equipment? Is it consulting a lawyer? Is it doing some research? Is it saving up a little nest egg and having a little backup money? Is it taking on a partner? Someone who can take that journey with you and accomplish the goal with you? There are many different ways to approach a problem or to achieve a goal. So get creative and figure out what kind of helmet you need to build to get through that next step. Martial arts example again, if you were like I was and primarily a stand up martial artist when the UFC started and you saw people being taken to the ground, pinned and unable to get up, well that was frightening. I could name that fear right away. I don’t want to get pinned on the ground and choked. So what did I do? I faced a smaller fear, sign up for a BJJ class and start learning how to grapple. So again, figure it out. Name your fear and then build your plan to protect yourself. Tip number three, attack. Let’s talk about martial arts again, sparring, fighting, wrestling. You don’t know what your attacker or partner, opponent is going to do. You don’t know what move they’re going to do and you don’t know when they’re going to do it, which creates anxiety. This feeds fear, the unknown. What’s going to happen? I don’t know. When’s it going to happen? I don’t know. So attack. Win or lose, do it on your timetable. When’s this going to happen? Right now, I’m attacking. What’s going to happen? This is going to happen. I’m going to lead the dance. I’m not going to wait around to see your best move when you’re ready for it. I’m going to force the issue, put pressure on you, and perhaps cause you to do something predictable. If I throw something up at your face in an attack, there’s a good chance you’re going to raise at least one hand to try to stop that. So now you become a little more predictable. Crazy, chaotic life becomes a little more controllable, which makes me feel safer. So I find because life is so crazy, who knows what’s going on with the economy, culture shifts, diseases, relationships, betrayals, new friends. So much is out of our control, can’t be predicted. So don’t wait around and hope that the wind is going to blow your way, that trends are going to go your way. Just get out there and start making moves. Attack. Get clear on what you want, get clear on what you want, and then get moving. Tip number four. This one might be a little odd at first, but hang with me. Make some noise. I have another video where I talk about trigger words. And I don’t mean it in the way of being hurt and victimized by something someone says. I mean talking to yourself as like a trigger to fire, to take an action. Maybe when you’re under stress and you’re freezing up and your mind is spinning, you need to focus by just training yourself to maybe say go, go, go or fight, fight, fight. Create a mantra for yourself. Create a code word for yourself that says, all right, I recognize that I’m slipping. I’m starting to have a performance that’s going to be subpar. So here we go… Here’s my keyword, my trigger word to get me back in action, to back on the attack. It may just be as simple as taking a breath and exhaling. One big breath might do it for you. It might be more guttural, more primal. You may want to grunt, caveman style. I’m all for that. Yes, even if you’re in the middle of a business meeting and you know you have to get up and contradict the boss or whatever it is, if you have to go, cough, whatever you have to do, make some noise. I mean, think about the concept of kiai. Kiai in karate. A spirit shout. You are building up the spirit with your voice, with your breath, to engage the rest of your body, to start some movement. Think about battle cries in general. We are not the first generation to face stress. I would say back in the day, if you had a spear and a shield and a small village and you are being attacked by the neighboring village or some army, you are outnumbered, your family is behind you, your home is behind you, and all you have is this spear or an axe and you have to go running into that battlefield to fight, into this field of butchery. People have done this, you know, millions. So what do they do? They bang on drums and they scream and they bring up that spirit to go fight. So in whatever way you find appropriate, I would say, find a word, find a sound, find a mantra, shout it out, do what you got to do to get some noise out of your body. Don’t let the fear freeze you. Free up your heart, free up your muscles by making some noise. Tip number five, practice. You know, martial arts, I’ve watched a lot of videos, I’ve listened to a lot of teachers, been to seminars, talked to a lot of people. And almost all of the conversation, all of the content is physical. It’s technique talk, it’s style versus style talk, it’s mechanical. There’s a much smaller percentage of that material that addresses psychology and emotions. And look, I know a lot of people who have put in the time physically, but if you go slap them in the face, it’s likely they’re going to freeze up and fall apart, as if they have no training. But that’s only because they’ve been focused on the mechanics and the muscle, and not on their mind and their heart. So I would say it’s very important to practice your psychology of fighting. Practice the emotions, practice your courage. And it can be as simple as just closing your eyes or sitting down somewhere, and use your imagination. Play the what-if game. Imagine the most terrifying situations you can. Shark attack is a good one. Imagine whenever you want being pulled out of your car at a red light in a mob scene, gone crazy. And just see it, visualize it. I think even with imagination, you’ll feel your heart race a little bit, you might feel a little clammy. You can trick yourself into actually starting to get a little nervous. And in those moments, practice your trigger word. Practice taking control of your breath. Visualize how you’re going to stand. What expression is on your face. How you want to move. What you’re going to say. It can be as extreme, of course, as an actual battlefield. Or maybe you’re preparing for a job interview that’s got you nervous. And you want to just bring up a little courage. Great, then just imagine it. Imagine walking in. Imagine how you’re going to sit. Rehearse it. Maybe now take your imagination and in a safe space, like a dojo or your living room or in the shower when no one’s around. Whatever you have to do, rehearse the movement. We have kata and forms and drills for the physical parts of our martial arts, the physical parts of fighting, and we do those ad nauseum over and over and over. But where are your reps for emotional strength? Where are the reps for building courage? It’s, I would say, not just as important, I’d say it’s more important. Because if you freeze up psychologically, if you have no spirit, doesn’t matter how big your muscles are or how many times you’ve practiced those techniques. So, rehearse, get the reps in with your mind and your heart. Alright, let’s wrap this up. Don’t forget, the first point is probably the most important. In extreme crisis, there is an emergency mode that I believe you will find yourself in. It will click over and you’ll be ready to fight. But we don’t have to wait for code red to be at our best. As these fine people at the cremation service have reminded me, life is short. Therefore, consider life to be an emergency. We’re always in code red. Every moment could be your last. If you treat life like an emergency, if you accept that it’s just a matter of time before you are dropped in a box or you are slid into a furnace, I think you’ll find the motivation to get out there and do your thing. And do it now. Attack life before it attacks you. Alright, enough said. The clock is ticking, my friend. Get out there and make your moves before the Grim Reaper makes his move on you. Until next time, smiles up, my friend. Let that smile be your shield and your sword. Keep fighting for a happy life. 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1 #122: Yin or Yang: A Tale of Two Black Belts [Video + Podcast] 22:35
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Welcome to Episode #122 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Yin or Yang: A Tale of Two Black Belts.” There are many paths to choose from in the martial arts… but how do you know if you’re on the right one? Wait—there’s actually an even bigger question to think about— Should you be following in someone’s else’s path at all? Don’t get me wrong—I’ve been blessed to train under several amazing teachers over the years, but the fact is they all believed in different things! One says do this, one says do that. As a student, it’s been confusing (and frustrating!) to seek advice from teachers I respect, only to receive concepts and tactics that completely contradict one another. I’ll bet that’s happened to you, too! So, in this episode, let’s see if there’s a greater wisdom hiding behind all of that well-meaning, but conflicting advice. Is it possible we’re not supposed to choose between Yin or Yang? Is it possible to walk a path that reconciles both? Check it out and let me know what you think! To LISTEN to “Yin or Yang: A Tale of Two Black Belts,” here’s a link. Play the audio podcast below… or download to your device. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Google Podcasts or Spotify. To WATCH the video version or READ the transcript, scroll down below. If you’d like to support this show , share the link with a friend or leave a quick review over on iTunes . Thank you! Oh—and don’t forget to sign up for free email updates so you can get new shows sent to your inbox the minute they’re released. Thanks for listening! Keep fighting for a happy life! Yin or Yang: A Tale of Two Black Belts Here’s a video of the podcast. If the player doesn’t work, you can click this direct link. As always, if you’d like to keep the conversation going, feel free to leave a comment here or through my Contact Page. TRANSCRIPT Howdy, Ando here from Happy Life Martial Arts. Welcome to episode #122 of Fight for a Happy Life, the show that believes even a little martial arts makes life a whole lot better. Now, last time, episode number 121, the theme was confidence. Self-defense is rooted in self-confidence, that was my claim. But where does confidence come from? The answer, I say, it should come from you. It shouldn’t come from a teacher. It shouldn’t come from a panel who votes for you. It shouldn’t come from a certificate. It should come from within. So today, I want to stick to that theme and give you another example of how I’ve come to this way of thinking. A Tale of Two Black Belts. Let me introduce you to two teachers that I have worked with. They don’t know each other. And I’m not going to share their names because, well, they didn’t ask to be dragged into this. So let me tell you about these two teachers. I think you’ll be amazed at how many similarities they share. I’m always amazed by it. First of all, both of these teachers are male. Okay, they’re both smaller gentlemen. They would never be the biggest person in the class. So let’s say they’re both around five foot six. Let’s say they’re always around 130, 135 pounds. No more. They’re also both about my age, so over 50. So right off the bat, that’s a lot of similarities. They’re also both good guys. They’re also both intelligent people. They are also both blessed with a good sense of humor. They’re also lifers. They’ve been training in the martial arts of one kind or another their entire lives. They’re also both grinders. They’re not lazy about it. They’re in great shape. They work at it. They’re compulsive about it. They also are teachers of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, but that’s not all. They also have instructor level status in multiple arts. They know how to hit and they know how to submit. Now, they’re also both professionals. I should say that they’re full timers. This isn’t something they used to do in their 20s or 30s. They’re still at it. So that’s a huge list of similarities. For two guys who have never met, never crossed paths, every time I work with either one of them, I’m always reminded of the other. The biggest difference between them, yes, there’s a difference, which always strikes me as odd, is that they don’t fight the same at all. And that always blows my mind. Because I keep thinking, man, you’re just like this other teacher I know, in every way except the reason that I seek you out. The way you fight. How can that be? They face the same problems, how to fight and defend themselves against people who are bigger and stronger. They have about the same tools. They have the same experiences. They’ve been on the mats about the same number of hours, let’s say. And yet, they’ve come to completely different solutions. And that blows my mind. So at the risk of oversimplifying, let me sum up how they fight in this way. One is Yin and one is Yang. Yin and Yang. One of them believes in attacking first, taking charge. They believe in getting in your face, coming in hard, creating impact. And I can tell you, when you roll or you spar with them, you know you’re in a fight. Right from the beginning, you know it, you can feel it. The other one, no. The other one believes in counterattacking. They believe in yielding and flowing. They believe in turning things around. When you spar or you roll with them, you don’t really know you’re in trouble until it’s too late. They’ve been setting a trap for you the whole time. Completely different. Now, don’t get me wrong, they’re both well-rounded martial artists, but for sure, if you spar to work with either one of them, I think you’d come to the same conclusions that I have. Now, I find that really frustrating because if I seek them out as teachers, they’re giving opposite advice, right? I seek smaller teachers. I like working with smaller teachers because to me, that means they must by trial by fire, they have figured out how to deal with larger, stronger attackers, which is the dream, I think, of every martial artist. You want to be outgunned, but still figure out how to survive. So when I go to either one of them looking for the tricks, the secrets of the martial arts, and to find out that they have different sets of answers, it bothers me. Because that means the answers have to come back from me. I can’t just take one of their bag of tricks and use it for myself. Because there’s another teacher that I respect that has the complete opposite opinion. Frustrating. And of course, I’m reducing my entire martial arts career into just these two teachers, but this is true for every teacher I’ve worked with pretty much. Sure there’s things that they have in common, there are some principles that overlap, but overall, my teachers all disagree with one another. They don’t know each other. They’re all great at what they do, but they give me different advice. One teacher absolutely believes in forms, in kata. That is the lifeblood of their practice. Other teachers that I respect have zero use for kata, think it’s a waste of time. Why would you ever do that? Some of the teachers that I respect, not into sparring, don’t like it. Other teachers I respect, absolutely, there’s going to be sparring every time you get with them. One might be into weights, other teachers not so much, body conditioning. One’s into meditation, visualization, a lot of mental work. Others, no, waste of time, keep moving, use it or lose it. Some teachers believe in teaching techniques first, and over time you decode the principles behind them. Other teachers say, no, I don’t teach techniques, I will only teach you principles and you’ll have to create your own techniques out of that. What is going on? How can this be? How can you have such completely opposite opinions and yet still all be really good at what you do? This reminded me of my experience taking philosophy in college. When I took philosophy in college, I may have talked about this before, at first I was thrilled because the first generation of lessons that I got, the first philosophers that I read, it sounded like they had figured out all the answers to life. So I thought, yay, this is fantastic, I’ve got the answers. Now I know how to live a good life. Until you read the rebuttals, the next generation of philosophers who came around and said, don’t listen to those guys, here’s an opposite opinion, here’s something completely different. And I thought, oh yeah, you’re right, they were wrong, you guys are right. And then the next generation of philosophers, and they say, whoa, no, no, don’t listen to either one of those guys, here’s a hybrid of both information sets. I’m like, what? So at some point, it was the same frustration. One teacher that I respected, being trumped by another teacher I respect, being trumped by another teacher that I respect, until once again, it was put back on me. This is what I ultimately learned way back in college, and now over and over again in the martial arts. The frustration that you feel when you’re not sure who to listen to should ultimately lead you to freedom. Frustration should lead to freedom, because you realize you’re free to find your own path. Since no one agrees on the one right way to do something, that means your way is just as good as theirs. Your experience is just as valid as theirs, as long as you came by it honestly. So again, all of these great teachers have some things in common. They are all dedicated. They all have a strong work ethic. They all believe in testing what they’re doing. So I trust all of their information, and each of those teachers, more often than not, now that I’m just reviewing that in my head, they found confidence in themselves in their own way to the point where they don’t really go out looking anymore. They just do what they do, and they do it well, which is its own skill. That was the point really of not just the last episode, but many episodes of this show, that confidence in what you’re doing, finding your way, your art, your version of martial arts. That is its own skill. That’s the confidence that you need to be effective. Now I’m bringing this up to you in case you’ve only ever had one teacher or you only trust one teacher. Maybe you’re early in your career or maybe you just stuck with a great teacher right from the beginning and you’re still with them many years later. It’s very easy in that situation to believe that your teacher’s way is the only way. And that’s where I would just throw up a flag of caution. As I said, I’ve worked with many teachers who share very different opinions. And today I’m just boiling it down to two specific teachers who you would think would have the same experiences and have reached the same conclusions. But no, it’s Yin and Yang. Which then becomes confusing because if you, if you’ve only had one teacher and your teacher was Yin, they would tell you, hey, listen to me, as a smaller guy, I can tell you this is how you fight. But if you ran into the other teacher and that’s where you were training, they would say, hey, listen to me, as a smaller guy, I can tell you this is how you fight. And they’re both right. They both make it work. But it may not fit your personal set of tools or your personality. So at some point, you have to make it your own. And again, it’s confusing. I’m even confusing myself a little here because if you watch both of these teachers, Yin and Yang, and you watch them grapple, let’s say, you will see both of them get to the same techniques. They’ll both get a rear naked choke. They will both get the exact same arm bar. But how they got there was completely different. That’s what I’m talking about. The art of fighting. There’s only so many ways you can punch someone and knock them out or kick them or choke them or break something. So, the end is the same, but the journey was very different for how they got there. Which brings us to the idea of Bruce Lee, right? Doesn’t it always? When he talks about honestly expressing yourself, what’s he talking about? It’s not just making up moves because again, I think there’s a fixed number of moves. You’re going to end up choking, punching, kicking, breaking, throwing. So, not much difference there. The honestly expressing yourself doesn’t come in necessarily in which moves you’ve selected, but in how you executed them. Are you just copying someone you saw in a video? Are you just copying your teacher? That’s where things get tricky. That’s where you’re not an artist. If you’re copying, you are not your own person. And that, I think, is the ultimate challenge. That’s what we need to do. We have to figure out what really works for us, how to make it work for us. That’s when you become a true, full martial artist. The less you copy and the more you can choose and develop for yourself, the more powerful you will be. So where do you fall? Where do you fall on the spectrum? Let’s say Yin and Yang, a little reflection for you. Are you a believer in attacking? Are you a believer in counter-attacking? Do you believe in mixing it up? What would be your percentage then, if you analyzed your own sparring or rolling? What percentage of the time are you attacking? What percentage of the time are you setting traps to counter-attack? Do you have a preference? Do you feel better when you’re on the attack? Or do you feel more clever when you’re letting them fall into traps? It might be a tricky question, because you’re so into your own head in your own games, you might need an outside opinion. So I would ask some of your training partners, or your teacher if you haven’t had that kind of talk, to analyze you and say, do I come off to you as Yin or Yang? Am I in your face or am I yielding and letting you come to me? You might be surprised at what they say about you. Because I can tell you, it’s funny for me, I’ve worked with Yin and I’ve worked with Yang. And again, they don’t know each other. When I’m working with Yang, let’s call him, when I’m working with Yang, he will tell me you need more Yang, you’re too Yin. But when I’m working with Yin, he’ll tell me you need more Yin, you’re too Yang. Again, that’s where the frustration comes in. Because if I’m trying to copy either one of them, I’m failing in their eyes. If I allow their judgment of my work be my only guiding light, then I’m going to be at odds with my true goal of just being me and doing what I think works best. So understand that even your teacher will have a bias to what they believe works and what works for them. They’re not trying to harm you. A great teacher, of course, will allow you the freedom to find your own way within whatever they have offered you. But some teachers may not even realize that they have a bias, which is why sometimes when you go into a martial arts school, you’ll see that there’s a culture that is trickled down from the teacher. If the teacher is a very hard-nosed, aggressive person, you’ll feel that through a lot of the students there. And in the same way, if you have a school that’s headed by someone who’s very soft and very yielding and flowing, you’ll find that they’ve attracted that type of student and that’s how they perform generally. But ultimately, you’ve got to be aware of what kind of culture you’re in, figure out how much that fits with your own personal wants and needs, and make some decisions. And if that means you’re at odds sometimes with the culture of your school, so be it. If that means you have to go seek another school that fits your culture, fits your mindset, so be it. Just don’t forget the same lesson from last episode. Ultimately, it’s about what works for you. What satisfies you? Try everything. Be fair. That’s why I seek out different teachers. Because I’ve realized how much I benefit from seeing different perspectives and experiencing different cultures. But, as I’ve also remarked in recent episodes, when you get to a certain age, at some point, at some point, you have to make a decision of which path you’re on. Because if you stay in that mode of frustration, where, oh, I’m going to try this for a while. This feels great. Wait. No, it’s this way to do it. Oh, I’m going to try that for a while. Wait. This is better. No, wait, that’s better. Then you’re just chasing. You can’t chase confidence in that way. Confidence comes at some point from saying, this is where I’m standing. This is my spot, and I’m going to make this work now. So my advice in this Tale of Two Black Belts is to not allow yourself to be two black belts. Don’t carry a division in your thoughts. You should be training for clarity. That means you have to make some choices. Don’t get caught up with so much respect for other people’s experiences that you devalue your own. Your path is just as valid as anyone else’s, especially if you’re doing the training, if you’re working at it, if you’re honest about it, if you’re reflecting, if you’re looking at your results. I’m going to presume that you do that. Of course, we’re not all able to turn martial arts into a full-time endeavor. I get that. So you may not be able to train a million different ways and meet a thousand different teachers. So in that case, I would say, pick what’s working for you. And if that’s Yin, then be Yin. If it’s Yang, then be Yang. And go as deeply into that as you can, as I have seen demonstrated by some teachers that I respect. They have made their choices, and they have gone deep, deep, deep into those choices. And they’re not interested anymore in what other people are doing. And if that’s your choice, I respect that. But as a closing thought, I would like to point out that in my study of the Yin and Yang, it’s not really Yin and Yang. Sometimes people talk about the opposites in that way, as separate. It’s Yin over here and, in the middle, Yang over here. But in reality, it’s Yin Yang. There is no and. They are already one. They are part of the great ultimate, the grand experience of the universe. They are one at the same time. Both the Yin and Yang incorporate the other into them. So if you are really training to be the best you can be, I would say make it a goal to be Yin Yang. Both simultaneously. Be able to use whatever tool you need to survive, to succeed. No one’s A game works all the time. Yes, if you are up against people without any training, people who are indecisive, people who aren’t sure what’s happening, what’s going on, and you come in strong with your A game, whatever that is, Yin or Yang, you’re going to have a lot of success because you’re very good at what you’re doing versus someone who’s not very good at anything. Good. But at the same time, if you’re all Yin, you are vulnerable to Yin. And if you’re all Yang, you are vulnerable to Yin. And I don’t want to be vulnerable. I don’t want to plant a flag in anybody’s country and say, I’m only here. I want to transcend all of that. So my advice is to seek balance. Seek combining what seem like opposites and realize that it’s all in service of survival. I don’t care what you call it or where it comes from. My goal is to live. My goal is to thrive. My goal is to move forward with my dreams. And when possible, to bring the people I care about with me to help them achieve their dreams. So I don’t care how it’s done. Don’t get caught up too deeply into that. Or I can only do it this way and that’s who I am. No. Transcend that. Embrace it all and use it all. I think that’s one of the keys to a happy life. All right, thanks for sticking it out to the end. I hope that gave you something to think about. And if you have a thought you’d like to share, please leave me a comment or send me an email. I’ll tell you, sitting here talking to myself is kind of weird. Until next time, smiles up, my friend. Let that smile be your shield and your sword. Keep fighting for a happy life. The post #122: Yin or Yang: A Tale of Two Black Belts [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Welcome to Episode #121 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Hero Worship in the Martial Arts.” We all need teachers and role models in the martial arts… but can following a leader become harmful at some point? Is it possible to show a teacher too much respect? YES! If we’re not careful, our humility as a student can be transformed into hero worship. Once that happens, it becomes impossible to maximize our skills and build true confidence. And without true confidence, your ability to defend yourself is greatly diminished. Be careful! It’s happened to me… don’t let it happen to you! In this episode, I’ll share a couple of stories that not only showed me the dangers of constantly seeking a teacher’s approval, but also helped me figure out how to train with a balance of humility and confidence. As a result, as you may know, I created and awarded myself my own black and white belt! 🙂 Here’s to healthy training habits and learning to become your own hero! To LISTEN to “Hero Worship,” here’s a link. Play the audio podcast below… or download to your device. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Google Podcasts or Spotify. To WATCH the video version or READ the transcript, scroll down below. If you’d like to support this show , share the link with a friend or leave a quick review over on iTunes . Thank you! Oh—and don’t forget to sign up for free email updates so you can get new shows sent to your inbox the minute they’re released. Thanks for listening! Keep fighting for a happy life! Hero Worship in the Martial Arts Here’s a video of the podcast. If the player doesn’t work, you can click this direct link . As always, if you’d like to keep the conversation going, feel free to leave a comment here or through my Contact Page. TRANSCRIPT Welcome, my friend. Ando here from Happy Life Martial Arts. This is episode #121 of Fight for a Happy Life, the show that believes even a little martial arts makes life a whole lot better. Today, heroes, mentors, role models, teachers, we all have them in the martial arts and beyond. But when does following a leader become harmful? When does admiration transform into adulation? And when does adulation transform into idolization? Can you show too much respect for a teacher? When does respect transform into hero worship? Now, yes, I still have teachers. I still seek guidance. That’s what teachers are for. Teachers can inspire us to get started. Teachers can encourage us to keep going. And teachers can guide us to make sure we’re heading in the directions of our goals. That’s all good. But I find in the martial arts that oftentimes teachers are elevated into gods. They’re glorified. They’re deified. And I know this, of course, from my own personal feelings towards some teachers, particularly early on in my martial arts career. I also know this from listening and reading many interviews with martial artists, some famous, some not. And I also know it from different martial artists that I’ve spoken to in person. You’ll hear people make comments like, oh, I’ll never be as good as my teacher. Or they will describe their teacher in legendary terms. The stories that you hear are just incredible, unbelievable, often. They’ll say, oh, their skills. I still don’t understand how they could do what they did. It was almost magical. And very simply, it puts yourself, these stories, in a place of being nothing. Oh, compared to my teacher, I’m nothing. Now to all of that, I say stop it. Stop. Respect your teachers, of course. That’s not what I’m talking about. If a teacher changed your life, then of course you’re always going to have respect for them. Even a bad teacher. A bad teacher meaning maybe they cheated you in some way. Maybe you had a difference of opinion and it broke up the relationship. Maybe politics got in the way. There are lots of stories of people falling out with their teacher. But you still respect them. Because if they changed your life, you still carry that lesson with you. So, this isn’t about respect only. Respect is its own category. There’s a different topic to talk about though. And that’s just knowledge and skill. I’m asking today, can you be better than your teacher? Are you better right now than your teacher? Does that question come off as disrespectful right off the bat? I would say no. I would say no because learning is not a competition. Your teacher is on his or her own journey. They have their own stories to tell. You’re on your own journey. You have your own goals that may be different from your teacher’s goals. You certainly have different histories. You certainly have different training methodologies perhaps, or the amount of time that you can put into it. So you’re not on the same exact journey. So it’s not fair to compare them. So I ask again, are you right now better than your teacher at something? It doesn’t have to be everything. But can you find some qualities, some attribute that you have that maybe your teacher does not? Quick example just for myself, simple. When I was younger, I practiced a lot of high kicks. So I still have a lot of knowledge and some muscle memory of high kicking. And many of my teachers were in styles that didn’t practice high kicks. So right off the bat, I can tell you, I am better and know more about kicking high than several of my teachers. It wasn’t worth talking about at the time. And they certainly never pointed it out, because that’s not why I was there learning from them. It was not the appropriate topic to discuss, and it wasn’t a competition. So it didn’t matter, irrelevant. But what about you? The reason I’m asking is because in your training, if our goal is to be the best we can be and to have a happy life, to be fulfilled, to get the most out of your training and your life, we have to reveal any self-limiting beliefs. I cannot walk around always thinking that I’m not as good as someone else. Maybe, yes, of course, if there’s someone who is a professional martial artist and they’re training full-time and they’ve been doing it for decades, and maybe you’re a hobbyist and you only train for a couple of hours on a couple of things, well then sure, there will always be a long list of skills and attributes that you can say, yeah, my teacher is better than me at a lot of these things, all of these things. But that doesn’t mean there’s not room for you to still be great or to achieve a higher level of skill than your teacher at at least one thing, something. That’s of course up to you to figure out what that would be. But I just want you to have the possibility in your head that as you train, that you’re not always lesser than, you’re not always a weaker, watered down version of your teacher. And the reason for that is because self-defense is rooted in confidence. How can you possibly defend yourself if you don’t believe in what you can do, if you don’t believe that you have some skill? That’s not healthy. There is ego that we need, healthy ego that says, I can do this, I can beat that guy, I am good enough. Quick little story, I remember training with a guy and at that point we were both senior students in a style. And at one point we were doing pretty well, we had a good flow going, we felt pretty competent, you could feel good momentum coming on. And he broke it. He broke the momentum by saying, I don’t know, he was saying, man, you know, that was good, but can you imagine how this would never work against our teacher? And I wasn’t quite sure what he meant, like, what are you talking about? He said, well, you know, I mean, that’s a really good move and, you know, we did it well, but if you imagine, can you imagine trying that against our teacher? He’d kill us. And I just remember thinking, are you crazy? How ridiculous. What a crazy thing to say. So you’re telling me if you went home right now and your teacher, the teacher, was beating your wife or beating your child, you wouldn’t be able to overcome him. You can’t even imagine a reality where you would destroy him and take him down. Now maybe that sounds disrespectful to create that scenario in your head, but I don’t care. This is important. You have to believe in your head that you could take out anybody who means you harm. You have to believe that. The opposite is damaging to you. How can you walk around thinking that right off the bat, the people that you know in your own small circle, you can’t even beat them in a life and death situation? No. I don’t care if it’s my teacher. I don’t care if my teacher’s got a knife. I don’t care if my teacher’s swinging a sword. If they mean me harm or the people that I love harm, I can visualize taking them down and taking them out with respect. Now my friend, when I came back with that attitude, snorted. He didn’t accept that thought at all. He’s like, you’re crazy. And I thought, what? Call me crazy if you want to. Call me delusional. But I would rather be delusional in my training than limited, self-limiting, believing that there’s no possibility of beating someone that I know, let alone some phantom that I don’t know, some future bad guy. How do you feel about that? Who is the martial artist that you hold in the highest esteem? Whose skills do you have the most respect for? Can you visualize a scenario where you beat them? If this guy broke into your home, if this guy was hurting someone you love, could you take them out? I hope that you can imagine, yes. Yes you could. So limitations are dangerous to me if you’re training for self-defense. It opens the door to cult-like thinking. The very idea that someone is better than you and you are always going to be lesser than them, that there is no possibility ever that you will be better than they are, is the most damaging belief system I can think of as a self-defense student. We’ve got to weed that out. If you need a leader, need a leader, not just respect a leader and say, oh, I’d like to follow this leader and see what they’re doing, learn from them, copy them in some ways until I can find my own way, that’s healthy. But if you find yourself always needing a leader, needing validation, needing them to see you and say, you’re good at this, you’ve got skill. If you can’t stand on your own, that’s a problem. If you need to be connected to someone higher than you at all times, someone to always refer to or defer to and say, well, oh, I’m not that good, but he’s great and I’m part of their organization, his organization, therefore I have some abilities, but only because it’s his school, not because of my own work, not because of my own practice. That scares me. It scares me that people put on a patch or wear a logo and think that’s the source of their skill, that’s the source of their confidence, that’s what makes them feel good about themselves as opposed to wearing their own patch, their own logo, carrying their own flag. And again, I mean no disrespect to an organization or a teacher that you’re part of, but it should be balanced. It would be fantastic if you could be proud of your teacher, proud of your school, proud of your affiliation, but equally proud of yourself, if not more so. Because that’s what this is all about. It’s your life. I cannot put the power in someone else’s hands to make me happy, to make me proud. It’s got to be on my own terms. We’re talking about confidence here. Where does confidence come from? Every martial arts, I think, has that somewhere in their marketing materials that you’re going to build confidence, come to the art, do this training, and you’re going to build confidence. But where does it come from? Do you have confidence? Real confidence. To me, that’s an uncomfortable question, because I’ve met so many nice people, good people, hard working people, loyal people, showing up, doing work, practicing, and yet when push comes to shove, maybe literally, they don’t have confidence in what they’re doing. Or they’re waiting for someone to tell them that they should have confidence in what they’re doing. If you wait around, if you’re not careful, and you’re waiting around to get a teacher’s approval, if you are seeking validation, if you’re waiting for a teacher to tell you that you’re good, you may be in big trouble, because you may never get those words. You may never hear the testimony from a teacher or that senior student that you look up to that you’re doing a great job. So, don’t set yourself up for that feeling that you’re not good enough, that you didn’t work hard enough. That’s not fair. And, furthermore, there’s an ugly fact that we need to admit. Particularly in the martial arts, you may find some teachers who don’t want you to think that you are better than they are. They don’t want you to think or believe that you could ever be better than they are. There are many teachers in the martial arts who enjoy creating a mystique around them. They enjoy being a little mysterious. They enjoy being a little set off from the crowd. They like being held in the regard of being like a legend or almost godlike. That status is what feeds their confidence and feeds their ego. But that does nothing for you. This creates a paradox, by the way. I’ve always wondered about this. I call it the humility paradox. If I say, oh, my teacher, they’re amazing. I’ll never be as good as my teacher. And if your teacher then says the same thing about their teacher, oh, I could never be as good as my teacher. My teacher was perfect, I am imperfect. That means that your art is getting weaker and more watered down every generation. What is the point of studying that art if you can’t maintain it or improve it? Your humility is actually an insult. Because what you’re saying is either you’re a terrible student because your teacher showed you what to do and I guess you failed. You dropped the ball. You didn’t maintain the art. But that also is an insult to your teacher because apparently, since they’re the teacher, they didn’t do a good enough job with you. They didn’t share the right stuff, their timing was off, whatever. However, if you are worse than your teacher, that’s an insult to your teacher and it’s an insult to you. You’ve both failed. So nobody wins when you have that level of humility. On the other hand, if you say, oh yeah, I am as good as my teacher and your teacher says I am as good as my teacher, then that art might be worth studying because you are passing down something that’s staying strong. You are a strong student and you have a strong teacher and your art is also strong. Everybody wins with a little less humility and a little more confidence, self generated confidence. Now backing up a second, let me tell you the big story that brought all this into my head and compelled me to share. I have a story about the mystique factor and a younger student, me, who bought into that for a while, bought into the legendary stuff. Here’s how it went. When I started in a particular art, I wasn’t training with the top guy. I was training with a senior student of the top guy. The top guy lived out of town, which was fine. My senior student, my teacher, my direct teacher, was highly skilled and I thought a lot of him. Now my teacher spoke in hushed tones about his teacher, the top guy. That guy was a killer. That guy was a pioneer. Nobody can touch that guy. So of course, as a young student, respecting my own teacher, who I can see has a bunch of skills, if he’s talking like that about his teacher, the top guy, I’m sold. I’m terrified of this guy. Wow, what a legend. And I get to meet him? I’m part of his organization? I get to wear his patch? Ooh, I’m very excited. I’m proud to be there. Now the only time I would see the top guy would be at belt tests. On a schedule, the teacher would come around and preside over belt tests. And those first couple of times, I couldn’t wait to be in the same room with this guy, this killer. And I was always disappointed because this top guy wouldn’t say anything. Wouldn’t do anything. He would literally just watch the test. And then as soon as it was over, take off. That was it. Now on the one hand, it was disappointing because I’m looking for wisdom. I’m looking for information. I’m looking for a demonstration of what this is supposed to look like beyond what my teacher is showing me. But I never got that. But it did keep feeding the mystique. Oh, he didn’t say anything this time. Oh, he didn’t show anything this time, but maybe next time. Maybe if I just hang around a little longer, maybe if I build his trust a little more, maybe if I prove myself a little more. Now, a big excitement came up, arose, when I got my hands on a video. It was a bootleg copy of a seminar from the top guy from a couple of years ago. I couldn’t wait to get that thing in my VCR at the time. Put that tape in, I was only allowed to have it for a week. The person who gave it to me said, look, I got to have this back. Don’t tell anybody you have this. This was like top secret stuff. You weren’t supposed to see this. Here’s this seminar tape. I popped this thing in and I watched it several times. Always looking for the magic. What does he say? What does he do? How does he move? And I couldn’t find anything. I was very disappointed in the tape. He did say a couple of things and he did do a couple of things. So it was valuable for that. I’d never seen him say or hear him say anything or do anything. So it was something, but it wasn’t much. So when I gave the tape back, I was a little disappointed until I found out there was a real seminar, a new seminar coming up, and I could attend it. I was at a rank where I was allowed to attend. Oh boy, inner circle stuff. So I go to that seminar. I can’t wait. Turns out the top guy gave the exact same seminar that I’d seen on the tape. Made the same couple of talking points, showed the exact same couple of techniques that were on the tape. Nothing new. But it’s worse than that because there was also no special moment, an off-video moment. There was no walking around and coming over to put his hand on my elbow to say, here, not there, or to say, that’s great, or to say, that’s terrible. There was no any personalized commentary to let me know that he could see what I was doing. In other words, no praise, no correction, no validation, no nothing. And like before, like every belt test, when the seminar was done, he was gone. Finally, and this is years in now, a black belt test. My black belt test. Now, I’ve got to drive out of town. This is at the main school. Drive out of town, pay the big bucks, all the excitement and preparation that you can imagine and you’ve done yourself for a black belt test. Here we go. Get up to the test. This is the last chance. What’s going to be different? Maybe something now is going to spill forth from this fellow. No. Black belt tests, just longer tests, lots of work. I did my part, but once again, the legend sat there, watched, only said a word or two at the end, didn’t demonstrate anything. There was nothing extra. Same old, same old. And when it was all over, I had done my part, right? I sweated, I gritted my teeth, I got through all the requirements. And when it was over, he was lingering for a moment, because there were plenty of other students there and senior students. So he wasn’t able perhaps to just bolt out the back door, because he had so many people from his affiliation there. And I saw him taking a picture with someone, a photo. And I thought, what the heck, I’ve kind of had enough of all this. This might be the last time I’m here. I would at least like to get a photo with the guy, the top guy. And so I went over, waited my turn, and I just simply said, may I take a photo, sir? He didn’t answer with words, he just gave me a quick little nod. I stepped up next to him, stood there, and here’s how this goes. The camera flashed, and while my eye was adjusting back to the normal light, he had already turned and was gone. Literally gone in a flash. I was standing there, no handshake, no pat on the back, no look in the eye, nothing. Gone. And I stood there thinking, what kind of teacher is this? Bigger question. What kind of person is this? I just paid you money. I drove up here to pay you this honor, to support this school. I’ve been loyal for years. I’m wearing your patch, not even a handshake. But wait, there is still the biggest question coming, the point of this whole episode. The question really wasn’t, what kind of teacher was he? The biggest question was, what kind of student am I? What kind of person am I? Why did I need this person’s approval so badly? Why am I seeking this person’s validation? I don’t even know him. I have had no special memories with this person. I’ve only ever heard about him or seen him from afar. I’ve literally never touched the man. So what am I looking for here? Why do I need this affirmation? I don’t like the answers that I’m coming up with at the time on my drive back. So now I have to take a bigger view. Why did I sign up in the first place? Why am I interested in martial arts? Why am I paying people for tests? Why am I seeking teachers? Why am I practicing? Was I looking for self-defense? Yes. Self-control? Yes. Get in shape? Yes. Confidence? Kind of. The thing is, I got everything I wanted. Self-defense, self-control, getting in shape. I got all that stuff. But the confidence was not really there. Somehow I had been either because of my own personality that I came in with, or because of the culture of that type of training, that I was led to believe that I needed someone’s approval, someone’s validation. I needed someone to tell me, good job, that’s correct, you’re doing it right. Or in short, yes, I see you. Yikes. What a strange another paradox here. Wearing a black belt, seeing my name on a certificate, with the words confidence on it. Integrity and confidence and strength. And yet I don’t feel like that. I feel like I’m missing something. That’s a huge problem. And I’m thankful to that whole system to have revealed it to me. This was the opposite of self-defense. Because again, if self-defense is rooted in confidence, this didn’t actually give me confidence. Because my confidence at that time was hinged or linked to someone else’s opinion of my work, instead of my own opinion of my own work. And that’s my big message for you today… I’m hoping that you can validate yourself, that you have your own system of measurements that will prove to you that you’re doing good work and that you are on the right path and that you have this possibility of being great at what you do, whether or not anyone else ever sees it or tells you. Maybe that’s a lot to ask. I really, when I think about this topic, I can’t help but think about the Wizard of Oz and how similar the Wizard of Oz can be to some martial arts teachers. In the Wizard of Oz, if you recall, spoiler alert, at the end, they find the wizard and the wizard gives the scarecrow a diploma to prove that he has a brain. He gives the tin man a heart, a plastic heart clock, it ticks, to prove that the tin man has a heart. He gives the lion a medal to prove that he has courage. And of course, the punchline is that those three characters demonstrated all of those traits in the adventure to come see the wizard. They already had all those attributes. The wizard was just there to affirm it, to validate it, to say, yes, you’re right, you have these things. Which then brings us to Dorothy. If I recall correctly, Glinda, the good witch, tells Dorothy, Oh, you want to go home? You had the power to go home all along. All you had to do is click your heels three times and say there’s no place like home. You had the power all along. You have the power. You don’t have to wait for anyone to give you the power, certify the power, tell you about the power. It’s already within you. So don’t wait for a sensei, for an idol, for a hero, for a good witch, to tell you that you’re doing great work. You should know. You should know because you are getting results from your work. You have feedback from your practice. All you need to do is be honest about it, reflect it, reflect on it, and see if you’re getting what you expected. When you are getting good results, keep doing that stuff. When you’re not, don’t. But end the confusion of doing work, getting some results, but not judging them until someone else comes to help you to judge them. You know whether it’s working or not, either you’re getting punched in the face or you’re not. That’s what I love about martial arts. Either you have a cut lip or you don’t. Either you just tapped out to a choke or you didn’t. So that’s why you need your own measurement system to know how to judge your teacher. If you only rely on your teacher’s judgments about your progress, then that means you’re also allowing them to tell you how you should feel about them. I need to have an independent inquiry into my own results. So I know if the teacher’s guidance is on point or not. So again, self-defense, self-reliance, self-confidence. They all go together. And I hope that sounded respectful. Because I am still respectful to even the teacher who enrobed himself with mystique and didn’t shake my hand at the black belt test. I still have respect for that teacher. And I still believe that they were very solid in what they can do. And that they deserve their legendary status. I’m not taking anything away from that person. I still respect them. But I’ve learned to respect myself with or without them. And that’s the point. As a matter of fact, that’s why I gave myself a belt. Where is it? Maybe you’ve seen me wear this. This is my own black and white belt. Half black, half white. My yin yang belt. And I made this myself. Because I wanted to represent that on the one hand, the white side says, I’m still a student. I’m still seeking teachers. I’m still seeking information. I’m still learning. But on the other hand, on the other side, there’s black, which represents, I do have some skills. I do know some things. I have not been wasting my time. By my own measurements, I’m not that bad at a few things. I’ve got some real skill. And so when I tie this on, I think that puts me in a very balanced place. I think that’s a healthy spot to be in. And I hope you are too. So let me wrap this up. I hope that you are training right now with no limiting beliefs. I hope that you are training with the possibility of greatness in what you can do. And I hope that your heroes, your teachers, I hope that they would be proud of you and tell you that they are proud of you if you ever surpass them in anything or everything. If your teacher is not the kind of person who would say something like that, that you are better than they are, that you have achieved more than they ever could, then maybe it’s time to choose a new teacher. Maybe it’s time to choose a new hero. Okay, I wish you happy training, my friend. Trust in the work that you’re doing, be honest about the results that you’re getting, and build confidence in what you’re learning and who you’re becoming. Until next time, smiles up, my friend. Let that smile be your shield and your sword. Keep fighting for a happy life. 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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #120 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Use It or Lose It.” Some people say martial arts is like riding a bike… I don’t! I say use it or lose it! The fact is that no matter how hard you train, you can’t practice everything all the time, which means some skills will always end up being neglected. But wait—the situation is worse than you think. Unfortunately, a lack of time is not the only reason you will see your hard-earned skills slipping away… not by a long shot! So, consider this your wake-up call. In this episode, I’ll break down the three major reasons (and a few minor ones) our capabilities get rusty. But I’m warning you in advance—you can’t always stop the corrosion and rot. Put simply, life is a losing game! Whoa. That sounds bleak, doesn’t it? Don’t worry—along with the bad news, I’ve also got a four-step formula to help you hold on to your skills for as long as possible. So, don’t give up yet! To LISTEN to “Use It or Lose It,” here’s a link. Play the audio podcast below… or download to your device. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Google Podcasts or Spotify. To WATCH the video version or READ the transcript, scroll down below. If you’d like to support this show , share the link with a friend or leave a quick review over on iTunes . Thank you! Oh—and don’t forget to sign up for free email updates so you can get new shows sent to your inbox the minute they’re released. Thanks for listening! Keep fighting for a happy life! Use It or Lose It – A Martial Arts Warning Here’s the video. If the player doesn’t work, click this direct link. As always, if you’d like to keep the conversation going, feel free to leave a comment here or through my Contact Page. TRANSCRIPT Howdy, Ando here from Happy Life Martial Arts. Welcome to episode #120 of Fight for a Happy Life, the show that believes even a little martial arts makes life a whole lot better. Happy to be back after a little bit of a break. In case you didn’t know, this is the 10th anniversary of the podcast. I’ve been doing one episode a month for the last 10 years. So I took a little break just to feel it out and make sure I still felt like yammering on camera. As it turns out, I still love the sound of my own voice, so I’ll be keeping it going for a while. Also during my time off, I did a little work on an online course, a new course called Martial Arts Over 50. So if you’re getting older and you either took a break from your training or you feel like you’re not getting as much out of your training as you used to, take a look at this course. It might help as you get into your older years to get the most out of your training as possible. I’ll put a link below. But today, the topic, losing. I’ve got a warning for you. You are losing skills every day. But do you know which ones? You work hard, you train hard, you study hard. You may have skills at a world class level. But the fact is, you’re losing something all the time. If you’re working on this, that means you’re not working on that. No matter how much time and energy you put into one area of your training, that means you’re neglecting a different area of your training. It’s not always your fault. There are many different factors that go into what you’re gaining and what you’re losing. And that’s what I want to look at today. Let’s figure out how to maximize our capabilities moving forward and stop losing the skills that are the most important to us. Now let’s start off by breaking down what I think are the three ways that we lose skill. One, life changes. Two, your body changes. And three, your focus changes. Let’s break these down. Starting off with life. This category is mostly not your fault. Most of these factors you had no responsibility for, it’s just life. So for instance, maybe money. Maybe you lost your job. Maybe you had to use your money for medical bills or to help out a family member or a friend and suddenly you just don’t have the money to go to class or to take those private lessons or to fly and take that seminar. Maybe it was time. Maybe you used to have a lot more time when you were back in college or in your 20s, but now you have a family. You have a child and another child. Maybe you have to take on a second job. Time can slip away and now you have less for training. Maybe it’s the location. Maybe you had to move for your job or to take care of a sick family member and you’re just not in the same town where your old school was. Maybe the school changed locations or the school closed down and now you’re without your training group. Maybe your teacher passed away. Maybe your favorite training partner moved away or passed away. All of these things are not your fault. Life happens and hopefully our training has equipped us to do the best we can in these circumstances. But no matter how you cut it, your training changes every time one of those factors is changed. So most recently, you could probably all relate, the lockdown. I wasn’t responsible for that. But definitely that was a major change to my training routine. Suddenly only training alone. Solo training only. No partner practice for over a year. That was unthinkable. I had never imagined something like that could happen. And yet there it was. So in the beginning, it was shocking. And then in a way, it turned into a blessing. Because it forced me to change my perspective on how I was training. It forced me to shake up my priorities and take a good look at how I was spending my time to really figure out if I was using it the best way I could. We can all fall into a routine that becomes a rut-teen. You’re in a rut. It could be a good rut, but often it’s a bad rut. If you haven’t updated it in several years, I think it’s a great idea to take a look at it. And the lockdown forced me to take a look at it. I’ve always said that martial arts is really two projects. There’s time spent on developing yourself, and then there’s the time spent developing yourself with another person. Or two or three. Self-defense is ultimately a relationship. How you manage other people, there’s two sides to that. There’s you and then there’s them and you’re together. So the lockdown took my focus off of how to control other people and brought it back to how to control myself, my body, my thoughts, my feelings, my strategies. What can I make better? I had to ask. What have I been neglecting? What skills am I not maximizing? What skills have I lost? And that led to a whole new training routine. And when it was all done, when the lockdown was over, I found I was in better shape than ever. I also found that my mechanics were better. I think I had better balance, better weight shifting, my strikes had more impact. I just felt better. And my breathing, my coordination with my breathing and my mindset, all of it I thought had been polished to a higher degree. So I was grateful for that. But there were losses. Some things I didn’t expect. I didn’t expect the timing in my sparring to be off because I was visualizing when I’m hitting stuff, I always visualize shadow boxing. But people are different and different people are different. So there’s always a slightly different space-time continuum to deal with. And so getting back in the groove of reading body language and setting myself in positions where I need to be, that took a little time to sharpen back up. I didn’t expect that as much. A big surprise was pain tolerance. I’d lost a bit of my pain tolerance. When I wasn’t getting tapped out or choked out or hit all the time. When I came back and had partners again and felt that pressure and impact, yeah, there was a little bit of an ow factor. Like, ugh, that’s uncomfortable. So I had to catch up on that again, getting back into pain tolerance. And very specifically, I remember being in a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu class and my backward roll for some reason, just not there for me. I had done other conditioning on the ground, but that specific, completely super small backward roll, my back had stiffened up a bit, and I just had a problem with it. Of course, I wanted it all back. When I realized I’d lost some timing and pain tolerance and a couple of different moves, I wanted them all back. I felt they were all important. And now I know if I ever have to train alone, if I’m forced to, or just in my own private routine, added a couple of hand-eye coordination drills, like with a ball, playing a little handball against a wall, hitting myself with a stick, poking myself with a stick, just a little bit of impact practice on my own so I don’t lose that. And animal movements, a little extra time on the ground with a more specific visualization of being stacked up, having all that pressure on my neck, being able to roll that out. So I benefited when I found out what I’d been losing. How about you? During the lockdown, whether you honored that for two weeks or a year or you’re still honoring that, what have you lost? Did you notice anything? Did you get it back? Even without a lockdown, even if you are not forced to just train alone, I think it would be valuable if you just took a minute and reflected on the importance of your school, your teacher, your training partners, and really be specific about what each of those offers you. What do you get out of those experiences and relationships of being in a school with a teacher, with training partners? Don’t take any of those things for granted. Whatever situation you’re in with your training right now, get as much out of that as you can while you can before life steps in and closes that school, takes away that teacher, or messes with your time and money and location and you can’t get there anymore. Just be aware of it so you can get more out of it. Next, after life changes, your body changes. This one, mostly, you can’t do anything about either. It’s expected that your body is going to change as we grow older, but still there are some surprises that come along with that. Since we’re aging, you’re going to find muscle mass goes down. You start losing muscle mass, no matter how strong you are. Bone density can change. You might start losing some bone density. Your balance, you might start having some issues with that. Your eyesight, I don’t take that for granted anymore. Energy level down, recovery time up. These are just changes from the genetics of being human, apparently. I’ve even noticed lately, I’m having difficulty swallowing. What the hell is that about? Maybe that’s great because it slows me down eating, but I keep getting caught. I just can’t swallow. I’m looking into it, don’t worry, but that was a surprise. Of course, I’ve talked before about arthritis. In my late thirties, my shoulders really started bothering me. In my forties, my feet started giving me problems. Now I have to wear orthotics most of the time when I’m training. And in my fifties, herniated discs became more of an issue. I didn’t plan on any of these things. I certainly didn’t prepare for those things in my twenties and early thirties. But yep, there it is. To be expected, as we get older, your body changes. But let me tell you what was unexpected. I lost the bounce in my step. The spring in my step. That youthful little spring. I figured this out crossing the street. You know when you’re crossing the street and the timer is counting down, 5, 4, and so you do a little quick jog just to get across the intersection. You bounce up onto the curb and you’re on your way. Well, to my horror, I was with my wife a couple of times. We’d be going across the street, see the timer counting down, and I ended up doing the old man jog. I started saying, let me hurry up here. My hands started moving, but my feet didn’t. So I was basically just still walking, but pretending like I was jogging. My feet felt like they were stuck in cement. No bounce, can’t get going. And when I got to the curb, forget about bounding up there. No. I found myself stopping and pausing, stepping up safely, and then getting up on the curb. Who is this guy? What is this? You’re a martial artist? What the heck happened there? I figured it out. I realized that I used to train in the stadium near where I live. I used to do a lot of stair training. Bounding up, bounding down, jumping down. I realized, oh yeah, you don’t do the steps anymore. You’ve moved into other kinds of training. I just didn’t do it on purpose. I just stopped going to the stadium. And then I also realized that I had broken my jump rope. I was never a big rope jumper, but I usually always have one. In the trunk of my car, particularly when I was out working out in the park during the lockdown, I was jumping rope. I had a lot of bounce in my step. It felt great. But then eventually the rope wore out. It broke. And that was one of those things on my list, like, oh yeah, you need a new jump rope. I never got around to it. And there it was. Without my thinking about it or planning on it, I found myself with no bounce in my step anymore. Horrific! So this is what I’m talking about. While you’re doing one thing, you’re not doing something else. And if you really want a bounce in your step, you better keep training it. And now I do. I do appreciate a good bounce in my step. So I’m back to bouncing. I add a little bouncing into my daily routine. And I’ve added some frog jumps. Very simple. It’s taken about three or four months, but I’m happy to report that my body reclaimed its spring. So you can too. Evaluate what you’ve been missing. Make a little effort to add it back. And I think you can get it back. All right. So three. Life can happen. Your body can change. And now the one that’s more responsible, you’re more responsible for, your focus can change. Right off the bat, I can think about high kicking. Kicking head height. When I started martial arts in my teens, in my early 20s, high kicks were very important to me. What other measure is there as a martial artist than being able to spin hook kick someone in the head? That’s what I wanted to do. That’s what I did. I stretched, I conditioned for it, I practiced it. High kicking. No. Once I got into my mid 20s, I started realizing, hang on, this is a skill that takes a lot of my training time. And as I get older, as I’ve seen my older teachers struggle with high kicks and complain about their backs and tight hamstrings and hip implants, I kind of made a decision like, I would rather spend this time practicing techniques that I can work into old age more easily. I can always just pick up a stick. I can always just kind of move my hands around. So let me just focus on that stuff and forget about the high kicks. And so I set high kicks aside for quite a while. I mean, I’d still throw them here and there, but they weren’t part of my regular training program. But then in my 40s, I think it was my 40s, I changed my mind. I suddenly thought, well, wait a minute, why am I willingly giving up mobility and the coordination, the balance that high kicks demand? Isn’t it just good for me as a human animal, just as a someone who’s in motion a lot, to be able to lift my leg up, to have the flexibility and that mobility and the confidence to move my body in any way I want? I wanted that range of motion back, so I said, you know what, I’m going to start throwing some high kicks again. Let me add that into my training routine. To my horror, they were gone. It wasn’t just as easy as, okay, let me turn that switch back on, toggle on. No, I had lost that skill. Sure, there’s some muscle memory, but the memories were of younger muscles. If 10, 15 years have gone by and you haven’t thrown many high kicks, you don’t have them anymore. I don’t believe martial arts is like riding a bike. Your body needs updates all the time. I was basically running old software on a new computer, and there were just too many bugs to let that run smoothly. In my mind, I felt like I know how to do this, but my body did not remember it really. So the upgrade began. I needed to switch out, update, get better software, switch out the processing, whatever. I’m not a computer guy, but you know what I mean. I needed to update the systems all across the board, and very slowly and painfully, I’ve gotten my high kicks back. Of course, I’m in my 50s now, so I’m constantly updating and getting that groove back, to get that leg up there with some kind of control and some kind of accuracy and get that done. I don’t regret it at all, but again, it’s another example that my focus changed and I lost a big chunk of my skill. Weapons would be another category of loss for me. In years past, I went through a stick phase, went through a knife phase, and staff has come and gone. Long staff. When I’ve lived in a small apartment, which is most of my life, staff is just not convenient. I’ll keep it in my car, if I go to the park, like during lockdown, suddenly staff became far more a bigger part of my training program. When I moved to North Carolina, the back of our place opened up to a big field. So again, staff. I was working with it all the time. I’ve moved back to Los Angeles now. I’m back in a small apartment. So, staff? Difficult. I’ve taken it out to the park. Once I moved back, it broke. I smacked it onto a tree and it broke. I haven’t gotten another one, and very quickly it just slipped my mind. Like, oh yeah, I got to go get another staff. What happened to the sticks and the knives? Very simply, I’m sure you’ve done this. You rearrange your training space or you move to a new place. You put some things, your equipment, into a cupboard or in a closet or they’re in a box somewhere, and then you forget you even have them. Months go by, years go by, and suddenly you think, what happened to my knives? Where did my chucks go? You haven’t picked them up in years. So what happened to your skill? The good news is, clearly you’ve had more time to work on something else, so you’ve been developing, but if you really wanted that knife skill or that stick skill or that staff skill, that stuff might be gone. So out of sight, out of mind. We’ve got to be careful about that, because time goes by so fast, and every day that you’re not doing what you want to do, you’re losing something. That’s the warning today. All right, so is there a solution to this? What’s the solution to this? How do you stop losing the skills? Is there a way? Well, yes, and no. The fact is, here’s the hard, cold truth. In the end, we all lose everything. We lose our lives. So let’s start there and move backwards. In this slow crawl to the moment that you’re dead, you’re going to be losing things, like it or not, because of life, because of your genetics, your body, your focus, your dreams. Things change. Everything changes. So what are the last things, the last skills that you want to lose? Please take a minute and answer that question for yourself. Pause the video. What are the last skills that you want to have with you the moment before you die? What are the most important skills to you? Is it high kicking? Would you like to be able to do a split till the day you die? Is it your strength? Do you want to have guns? You want to be able to flex your arm and impress people in a tank top? Do you want just a clear head and a calm soul? Do you need to add more meditation to your life? Should that become your number one training exercise? Is it your cardio, heart and lungs? Do you think you’ll live longer if that’s your number one priority? Do you want to maintain your explosiveness? Do you think that’s the most important? Do you want to be an encyclopedia of forms, of every style? Make that list. The shorter the better, I would think. As we’re all losing everything, and you know the ending of the story, you’ve got nothing. What are the last skills you want to have in your possession? This is the formula, my friends. Start with that. Number one, set your goals. Which skills do you want till the end? Number two, prioritize your training to make sure that those things on your goals list are practiced first and most. If you love stick fighting and that’s your favorite thing, that should be the first thing you do, and that should take up the most of your training time. Don’t get distracted. Focus on that. Number three, after you set your goals and you prioritize your training routine, keep the tools that you need in sight. Like I said, out of sight, out of mind. So, if you want to keep that balance in your step, then you better have a jump rope, or you better live right next door to some stairs if you want to jump on them. Keep them near you. Keep them in sight. Don’t put them in a closet. Don’t put them in a box. Put them right up in front. If you want to work on that staff, put the staff right by your door. You want to lift weights, put those dumbbells right by your bed. Put the tools that you need right in front of you so that they’re always on your mind. It could be as simple as a poster, by the way. If you’re inspired by a certain body type or a certain hero, put that poster up where you can see it all the time. Maybe get a tattoo. If there’s some icon or some symbol that means something to you that reminds you of what you want from your training as a martial artist, put that tattoo front and center so that you can see it and keep it in your mind. Because life is busy, and you will find other things to focus on. Just an idea. Keeping things in view, to me, also means being viewed. Being seen. So that means show up to your class. If you’re part of a class, keep showing up. If you have a teacher, keep seeing the teacher. If you have good training partners, keep that relationship going. Show up. Be seen. Get in there. Last part of the formula. Set your goals, prioritize your training, keep your tools in sight. Reflection. Before you train, after you train, take that moment to ask if you’re getting what you wanted. Are you meeting the goals that you set out for yourself? I don’t think you can do enough of this. Figure out what you’re working on and why and keep that list updated. It’s so easy to drift into an agenda that’s 20 years old, 10 years old, or someone else’s agenda. Peer pressure, what you see in a movie, what you see in a tournament. Come back to basics. You’re going to die. What do you really want to be known for? What do you really want to have in your possession? Which skills? The clearer you are, the better. And that’s it. That’s the formula, my friend. And don’t wait for old age. Don’t wait to shock yourself with what you’ve lost to start this process. Do it right now. I don’t care if you’re 15 years old. I don’t care if you’re 25 years old. Go through this exercise right now. The clearer you are, the earlier, the earlier you can be clear, the better for your future training. If your focus changes over the years, so be it. But get clear now. Remember this–life is a losing game. I don’t care who you are or how hard you train. In the end, the Grim Reaper always wins. He will take everything from you. So, our job is to fight, fight, to hold on to what we want as long as we can, to not let that stuff go until the very last second. It’s your choice if you want to let something go or just suck it up when something is stripped away from you without your choice. Either way, when these things happen, when you have to let something go or something is taken from you, we must be strong enough to make peace with that. If you can make peace with what’s lost, that gives you more time and attention on what you still have. And focusing on what you have and being grateful for it is absolutely the secret to a happy life. Okay, you’ve been warned. Time is short in getting shorter. Which is why I’m so grateful that we could spend some of that time together. If you’d like to spend a little more time together, either training online or taking a class here in Los Angeles, let me know. Training together is something I plan to do until the Grim Reaper says otherwise. Until next time, smiles up, my friend. Let that smile be your shield and your sword. Keep fighting for a happy life. The post #120: Use It or Lose It [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Welcome to Episode #119 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Lighten Your Load – Tai Chi’s Double-Weighted Error.” The art of Tai Chi Chuan is often criticized (or even mocked) in modern martial arts circles. Of course, much of that criticism comes from people who have never researched or practiced the art whatsoever! Typically, the critics have only seen Tai Chi Chuan students being defeated in competitions and then concluded that the art’s strategies and techniques offer no value to a serious martial artist. NOT SO! To be fair, many teachers of Tai Chi Chuan prefer to practice the philosophical aspects of the art more than the practical, which can definitely lead to trouble in the realm of self-defense. However, that does not mean the art itself is lacking in profound and valuable concepts. One concept that I find extremely helpful is the “double-weighted error”. Even as a mere admirer of Tai Chi Chuan, as opposed to a formal student, my understanding of this classic piece of advice has changed my practice for the better. Right or wrong, I hope this concept will change yours, too! To LISTEN to “Lighten Your Load – Tai Chi’s Double-Weighted Error,” here’s a link. Play the audio podcast below… or download to your device. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Google Podcasts or Spotify. To WATCH the video version or READ the transcript, scroll down below. If you’d like to support this show , share the link with a friend or leave a quick review over on iTunes . Thank you! Oh—and don’t forget to sign up for free email updates so you can get new shows sent to your inbox the minute they’re released. Thanks for listening! Keep fighting for a happy life! Lighten Your Load – Tai Chi’s Double-Weighted Error Here’s the video. If the player doesn’t work, click this direct link . As always, if you’d like to keep the conversation going, feel free to leave a comment here or through my Contact Page. TRANSCRIPT Welcome my friend. Ando here from Happy Life Martial Arts. This is episode #119 of Fight for a Happy Life , the show that believes even a little martial arts makes life a whole lot better. Let me ask you, have you ever felt stressed out, overwhelmed, like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Well, of course, you’re human. And the fact is that life is heavy. And when it comes to self-defense, someone trying to injure you or even kill you, well, that’s about as heavy as it gets. Today I want to break down the four different ways, the four different categories of weight in this world. Why does life get so heavy? And I also want to share three tips to help you unload some of that weight or, hopefully, avoid it altogether. Now, this whole discussion was inspired from the art of Tai Chi, or Tai Chi Chuan. In the classics of Tai Chi, you will find a term, double-weighted. Now, the idea of being double-weighted is an error. It’s something you want to avoid in your practice, whether it’s alone or with a partner or in a real fight. Now, let me say right up front, I am not speaking today as a student, formal student of Tai Chi. I’ve dabbled, but I’m certainly not an expert. I wouldn’t even call myself a formal student. I am an admirer, and as someone who has read about and dabbled in practicing Tai Chi, this concept was inspiring. So, I’m just going to share my thoughts, my understanding of this concept. And if it doesn’t match up with what the experts say, well, guess what? When it comes to the Chinese martial arts, even the experts disagree. We don’t know exactly what the old masters meant when they wrote it down. And if the experts can disagree, then I feel much better about sharing my humble opinion. So, here’s what double-weighted means to me and how I’m using it in my practice. First of all, you might find some people who think that double-weighted just means even distribution of your weight in your feet, like a horse stance, 50-50. That idea makes no sense to me, so I’m just going to ignore it. To me, double-weighted starts to make sense when you think about that feeling you get, when you feel stuck, when you feel frozen. For instance, you are standing and someone comes over and puts their head on your shoulder and leans on you, let’s say. Now, when they’re leaning on you and you are now crooked, you are not just supporting your weight, you’re also holding up some of their weight. So, if I don’t accommodate that, if I don’t shift my position, I don’t adjust my posture, I am now tighter, I’m straining a little bit, and I’m not as free as I was, I’m somewhat constrained. So, in that way, I would say you are double-weighted. It’s my weight plus their weight. The state of being frozen. It could also be just on your own, if you slip and you fall, okay, you have the physical challenge of managing this fall down to the ground, but let’s say you’re also afraid. You stiffen up, your eyes go wide, your hands pop out, and when you hit the ground, because you’re stiff and because you weren’t able to soften and go with it, you break a wrist or you hit your head, you have a bad fall. So in that way, I would say you were double-weighted because you felt stuck or frozen, helpless, for that fall to the ground. So this is something, this state of being double-weighted, getting heavier than you normally are, of getting stuck, can happen on your own or it can happen because of someone else’s activities against you. So let’s break it down even further. Like I said, four different ways, more specifically, that you may add heaviness, weight to your life. And hopefully we can avoid these, but here’s the first one. The first one is your body versus gravity. This one, we can’t escape. There’s no way you can get around it. You’re living in a body, I presume. So your weight is always being pulled down by gravity. And we try to manage that with good posture, right? So one of our studies as martial artists is the study of stances and our alignment. If you are bent over in your life or you’re hunched over commonly, that means that some of your muscles are working harder than they need to. You’re burning calories, extra calories. You are adding tension into your body. And that strain is limiting your freedom of movement because you’re tighter some place. And over time, certain muscles are getting weaker while others are trying to accommodate for them. So you’re imbalanced and you’re constrained and you’re unnecessarily burdened. So we try to lighten that load by good posture. Once we start moving, it becomes even more challenging. If you can’t balance yourself and get rid of excess tension when you’re just standing, now that you’re stepping, running, kicking, fighting, it’s only more difficult. So example, a spinning hook kick to the head. Do you practice spinning hook kicks to the head? Well, that’s physically challenging. If you had a jump spin hook kick to the head, okay, now we’re getting somewhere. You really have to have a great skill to figure out your alignment, your timing, your shifting, to execute that technique and land comfortably. And this is the point of our training. As martial artists, we are in the pursuit of efficiency. I can’t stop gravity. There will always be some tugging and some effort. That’s our single weight. Let’s call that. I’m not double-weighted yet. It’s single-weighted, just that natural alignment. But anything that takes us off of that, if we’re tilting, leaning, we’re not practicing how to move in this world with coordination and ease, then we are now double-weighting ourselves. We’re making it even harder. So, if you’re training well, then in most cases you should be finding comfort in how you stand, how you sit, and how you move in the world. So that’s category number one, where you might find excess weight in your life. The second category, instead of your body versus gravity, what about your mind? Your mind versus beliefs and your mind versus emotions. What is your mental state at any given moment? Let’s say something frightens you, like when you take that fall. That immediately adds tension into your body as well. Or if you’re afraid, you hear a bump in the night, and your body gets tight, okay, now you’re double-weighted that way. In your head, if you’re afraid of something, you may also be less aware than you would have been if you were just staying calm. You start to tunnel vision. You start to add worry, like what was that? Am I going to die? Do I have what it takes to get out of this situation? So while you’re worrying, you’re not paying attention to opportunities and possibilities. You’ve lost some of your creativity. So it’s very likely that you will find yourself on a daily basis, on one level or another, stuck in your own body and stuck in your own thoughts. Stuck because of anger, tension, tunnel vision, self-doubts, worrying that you’re not competent at something. Worry about anxiety, not worry about anxiety, anxiety in general. Worry that you’re going to lose your job, worry that you’re going to get sick, worry that you won’t be there for the people who love you. Tons of reasons to carry around anxiety. Embarrassment, that you’re going to make a mistake, that you’re going to fail, that you’re not going to live up to your own expectations, let alone someone else’s expectations. All of this stuff adds up to trouble, a clouded mind, our training should lead us to clarity. Comfort in our body, clarity in our minds. We need to learn how to make peace with mistakes, how to make peace with our failures. We need to learn how to make peace with pain, physical pain. If I’m injured, that’s a physical problem, but it’s also a mental problem depending on how I react to that. If my identity has now been broken. Like I’m a really good kicker. But now my leg is broken, so who am I? I’m a loser now. We can’t let that happen. We need to train constantly for comfort in our bodies and clarity in our minds. That leads to confidence. And that’s the goal of our training, right? We want confidence that I can move anywhere and I’m always free in my thoughts to create what I need to survive. Third category. So far we’ve only been talking about the extra weight that we put on ourselves. But of course, particularly in self-defense, we are concerned about the weight that others are going to throw on top of us. And the third category would be my body versus your body or someone else’s body. This is probably the heart of self-defense problems. Someone’s got their hands on your neck. Someone is pulling your hair. Someone is punching you in the stomach. Their body is affecting your body. Are you still comfortable when someone is choking you? Are you comfortable when someone is punching you? If you are pulling off that spinning hook kick, even if you found a nice way to be efficient and skillful at it, even if you are clear headed when you throw it, if physically someone pushes you while you are throwing that kick or is pulling you, then you have something new to contend with. There is extra weight on you. There is a new challenge that’s come from the outside for you to execute that kick. This is the beauty of training to fight. You have to deal with that, manage it. So hopefully your training leads you not to just be efficient with your own movement, but to be efficient when someone is trying to oppose that movement. Training with resistance. Someone is trying to take away your balance, and you are training yourself to get through that, to manage it, to keep my balance no matter what you do to me. Punch, push, pull, lift, tackle, that I can maintain the comfort in my body so that I can be free to do whatever I need to do. That’s very challenging. Fourth category. Before it was our mind against our own thoughts and our own emotions, but what about your mind versus someone else’s mind? Someone makes a threat. Someone says, I’m going to kill you. How does that affect your mind? If you allow someone to intimidate you, to frighten you, well, then your body is going to change, your thoughts are going to change, and usually not in a good way. You’ll be constrained. You will feel less free. We have to guard against this. Before someone even touches you, you may already be intimidated and double-weighted just by the thought of what they might do to you. You’re throwing that spinning hook kick again. Even if you’re very efficient hitting a bag or throwing it in the air, if someone says, hey, I want you to spar the champ over here. Here’s the heavyweight UFC champ. You have an opportunity. Go spar this guy. Well, now as you think about throwing that spinning hook kick, you may instantly have worry now, where you didn’t have it before on the bag, that this guy is going to catch your foot or shoot when you’re kicking and take you right down or you’re going to miss. Now that kick is being affected simply because in your head you’ve added worry. You’ve allowed it to get in. That’s in a sporting session. What about on the street? Someone jumps out of their car at a red light, storms over to your car. You get out. Not sure that was a good idea. You get out. You’re thinking about that spinning hook kick to the head. But this guy looks tough. This guy’s got a knife. This guy’s got a buddy. Psychologically, you start shutting down perhaps. You’ve lost your clarity. Now you’re just confused. You’re scared. You’ve got doubts. They weren’t there before. It’s the presence of this other person that put those things into you. We’ve got to guard against that. And again, this is where training comes in. We should be training not just to be calm and confident with our own thoughts and emotions, but we need to maintain that calm, cool demeanor and our confidence even when someone else’s mental presence, their glare, their words, their mere presence starts to change how we feel. So I would call that with resistance. We have to train not just for efficiency against resistance, but clarity against resistance. Okay, so this is what I’m talking about when I talk about double-weightedness. Anything that’s making you carry a heavier burden than you normally do, or that you should be. Anything that takes you from your optimal state when you’re feeling great to something suboptimal where you feel limited and strained. Anything that takes you from a state of freedom and creativity and joy to a state of worry and limitations and pain. A quick aside, when I say influences from outside of you, we’ve been using a person for that right now. A person’s body or a person’s mental state or threats. Really, it could be anything in life. Outside of the martial arts realm, that other could be anything outside of yourself that adds weight to your life. If you’re taking a hike and lightning strikes and a tree falls and traps you under it, well, you have to deal with your body plus the body of this tree. So in that sense, you’re now double-weighted. If that is freezing you up and you’re frozen, you feel stuck and you’re thrashing about, wasting energy, you’re double-weighted. It could be a virus, right? Be having an illness is weakening your body, maybe changing the way you think about yourself, it’s taking you out of your groove, out of your optimal state. So technically that virus is double-weighting you if you allow it. The list goes on and on. That’s the point. In life, you’re always fighting something. Gravity is always there. Hunger, the need for affection, all these things we have in our lives, we need money, we’re always fighting. And if you want a happy life, we need to get better, I think, through training. We need to get better, we need to build the skills to avoid these extra weights, to unload these weights if we can. And for any weight that we can’t unload, how to carry it with some grace, with some dignity, to make the best of it, to maximize our opportunities no matter what. Okay? So, if we’re on the same page, again, I appreciate this inspirational concept from Tai Chi, but I do think it stops short of how bad the problem can get. Double-weighted, most of these examples that I’ve been giving, you’re not just double-weighted, you’re triple-weighted. You’re quadruple-weighted or more. If you have a bad knee, if you tore your ACL, okay, well, one, if I want to throw a kick, well, there’s the physical challenge, I’ve got to balance that, that’s my single weight. But now there’s pain in that injury, and there’s fear from that injury, that I might hurt it again, need another surgery. There’s also my identity that’s been broken, because I was the star of the class, I throw these kicks so great, and now I’m hobbling. So, very quickly, you’re two, three, four times heavier than you normally would be when you’re in your prime optimal state. If you have bad posture, alright, you’re already double-weighted, you’re already making life hard on yourself, and then someone threatens you, I’m going to go over there and punch you in the face, now there’s fear, so already I’m triple-weighted, and then they actually do punch you, so now you have to deal with pain, fear of more punches, maybe you’re already falling to the ground, and you had bad posture, and you don’t move well, I can’t even keep up with how many times your weight is being added on top of you. It doesn’t take much, and it’s very sad, really, to think about how many of us, or how often, even the best of us, walk around already double-weighted. We’re already walking around in a fight that’s two-on-one before I even see another human being. If I feel like a loser, and I feel like a victim and helpless in this world, I’m already double-weighting myself. It’s already two-on-one, if that makes sense. My soul has two problems now. I’ve got to move my body through this world, and I have to do it while I’m feeling like a helpless loser. So now if another person comes into this picture and they want to hurt me, I’m already battling my own problems, my own two-on-one, and now here comes you. That’s three-on-one right off the bat. If I have bad posture, I don’t move well, I don’t feel comfortable in my body, I also don’t like myself much, I don’t feel very competent in this world, and here comes you making threats, and you’re putting your hands on me. Four-on-one. If you have a friend, it’s getting worse. We stack the odds sometimes so heavily against us, we cannot win. We are automatically putting ourselves in situations where it’s impossible to succeed, and that’s sad. It’s so sad, and whether I’m talking about you sometimes, I mean, all of us are there sometimes. Or someone you love, and we all know this, people that you know who are their own worst enemies, their own worst enemies. Think about that phrase. They’re already beating themselves up. You don’t have to do anything to hurt their feelings or make them feel lesser than or unworthy of a better life. They’re already doing it to themselves. Everything else just piles on, and then it becomes hopeless, it seems. But hang on. Don’t turn off the video and jump off a cliff just yet. I’ve got three humble tips that I’m going to offer here that have helped me. Number one. Don’t take life so personally. It’s very easy to get pulled into drama. Even on our own. If I’m training and I hurt my wrist, tweak my wrist on the bag, I immediately feel sorry for myself. I feel like a loser. What am I doing? I should have known better. Blah, blah, blah. What about tomorrow? Now they’re going to think I’m terrible. It’s amazing how quickly you can go from optimal state to crushing self-pity, self-doubt. We can’t let that happen. We need to operate from a place of objectivity. If this calls to mind the philosophy of stoicism, so be it. Excellent. Take a big helping of stoicism. If this brings to mind some Zen concepts, being able to see things uncolored by judgment and just see things as they are, okay, then take that approach. But the point is to be able to transcend our judgments, transcend our emotions, transcend the drama and just float above the noise. Float above the chatter. That alone is freeing. Transcend to kind of float above it. You’re lighter. You can’t do that if you’re down in the trenches, down in the mud, wallowing in self-pity. You can’t float down there. So the trick here though is when you’re objective, that means you dismiss the negative aspects of your life and I would say the positive aspects of your life. I can’t allow myself to get swayed either way. That’s the exercise. That’s pure stoicism. No matter what you do in this world, there will be people who love you and love what you’re doing and people who hate you and hate what you’re doing. No matter what you do. I can’t let either one of those poles affect me. Whether you love me or hate me, my focus has to be objective to just say, I just want to be my best. I just need to know what I’ve got, what I want, and can I make it happen the best way I can? I just want to fight my best fight in this world. And to do that, I need to get the drama out of my way. Now, granted, for this tip, when I say don’t take life so personally, that’s like saying, hey, don’t be sick. Hey you, don’t be poor, be rich. Doesn’t help. So how do you do it? How do you get to this stoic state, this Zen mind? How do you get there? Very simply, I’m not a doctor or a magician. I would just say very simply, take the long view of your life. Take the wide view. See the big picture. If right now I asked you to think back to yourself when you were 20 years ago, whatever age, if you’re only 20 right now, then think back to when you were 10. What were you worried about 20 years ago? What were you worried about? Was there a bully making your life more difficult? Were you worried about asking someone out on a date? Finding a job? Passing final exams and graduating school? Getting into a martial arts school? Getting to the right school? Passing your next belt test? Being a black belt? Opening a school? What were you worried about? Take a look. You’re here. You made it. You survived. Clearly, you had the tools to get through all of that. But how much time and energy and attention did you waste with all of the worry? The worry didn’t help, I bet. The worry just takes away your energy, slows you down, and limited your actions. There’s really no positivity behind the worry. The anxiety doesn’t get you where you want to go. It only slows you down and holds you down. So break free of that. Seek objectivity. If you take it the other way, let’s go 20 years now into the future. 20 years from now, look back to where you are right now, today, and what is worrying you? 20 years from now, what are you still going to be worried about that you’re worried about today? Or, once again, will you see 20 years from now that you got through it, you survived, you succeeded, you did what you had to do? Your job is to be the best person you can be right now and fight as hard as you can for what’s right for you. That’s it. If you allow worry and anxiety and doubts, get in the way and make yourself heavier, you’re not going to go as far. So, please remember, the noise and the chatter just don’t matter. They don’t. Just focus on what you want and focus on your next move to make it happen. That’s it. Tip number two. Keep training. All along, I’ve been saying that training is a solution to all of this weight being piled on us. I’ve been saying it all along. We think about lifting weights. There we go. Forget for a moment about physical metal plates on bars that you’re lifting. I’m talking about the weight of life, the four different ways that we have weight put upon us. We want to lift those weights. We want to figure out how to manage those weights better. How do you do it? Training. To me, that’s what martial arts training is the best at. Martial arts training gives you a chance to face fear, the weight of that fear and work through it and either manage it better or remove it. Fantastic. It allows you to take on insecurity, ignorance, incompetence. I think it has it all. That’s why I love martial arts training. You can purposely put yourself in situations that add weight and then you get a chance to lift it and get better at it and get stronger and more skillful and then lighter. When you first started sparring, was it easy? No, it’s heavy. It’s dark. It can be traumatic, but you give it time. You give it effort. You keep training. And with time and effort, you develop skill. You develop knowledge. You find comfort and confidence. And that’s the point. So keep training. As a side note, please train with other people. If not all the time, sometimes. Remember, of the four categories of weight, two are just you. The other two come from someone other than you. That’s a partner. So if you’re not training with a partner, well, then you’re only getting good at two of the categories for weight-bearing. A partner fills in the other half. If you want to have the lightest journey through this world, you need to train with other people. I don’t just want to be free when I’m alone. I want to be free when I’m with somebody else, especially if they’re trying to punch me in the face. I want to feel free. Tip number three. Keep measuring. By measuring, I mean pay attention. Pay attention to what makes you feel heavier, what makes you feel stuck or frozen, and figure out why. What caused it? Who were you with? What were you doing? Where were you? Every time that you sense a change in your breathing, maybe you stop breathing or you’re starting to breathe faster, what caused that? Every time you feel a tightness in your chest or your neck or your back, what’s going on? What triggered that? Can you remove this from your environment? What if you feel queasy, nauseous, sick to your stomach? What caused this? There are clues here. It shouldn’t be a mystery. Something shrinks your body. Pay attention. What just made you feel smaller in your space? What took away your size? If you feel intimidated, you don’t feel like you can speak your mind, you don’t feel safe, you feel threatened, you feel like a loser, what just happened? Why don’t you feel worthy of what you want in this world? There are clues here. You will see patterns if you pay attention. You may already be able to identify those things. It may not be a mystery at all. So then the challenge becomes, can you remove them? Can you stop them? Can you avoid them? Get rid of them. Of course, while you’re busy measuring what makes you heavier, you should also be measuring what makes you feel lighter. When do you feel free? When do you feel creative? When are you in the flow? When do you feel weightless? If double-weighted is a problem, and even being single-weighted is part of life, naturally, well, anything we can do to feel weightless that lifts us up must be good, must be better for us, must give us more opportunity. So, pay attention to both sides. What makes you feel heavy? What makes you feel light? The fact is that we are fighting all day every day, so you should be measuring all day every day. If something is making you heavier, change it. If something is making you feel lighter, keep doing it. That’s really simple. Now, hang on. Before we wrap this up, I do have to warn you, in case you didn’t know, we all die. We all end up crushed under some weight, whatever that may be, an accident, an illness, a murder. I just want you to know, the number one takeaway, if nothing else, is you’re not alone in feeling that pressure. You’re not alone in feeling the crush of life. But as martial artists, we have this goal that we can be our best under that pressure. Under the weight, we learn how to defend ourselves and still put out our best effort to go as far as we can. Doesn’t mean we always win, but we go as far as we can with what we’ve got. Whether that weight comes from ourselves, or from life itself, or from other people. We learn to avoid carrying extra weight. We learn to unload extra weight. And if we can unload it, we learn to carry extra weight with a little more grace and maybe even a little style. Of course, we’re not just martial artists. We’re also good-hearted, kind, caring human beings. And as such, that carries its own goal. I don’t just want to be my best self. I want to help others be their best self too. So if I can learn how to lighten my load, I’ll do whatever I can to help someone else lighten their load too. And if we can do that, if all of us can do that, then not only will we have happy lives, but everyone we love will have a happy life too. All right, thanks for letting me unload all of that. Hey, if you’re a student of Tai Chi, let me know in my way off base on my thinking about double-weightedness or does some of this make sense? If you’re not a student of Tai Chi, let me know what you’re thinking anyway. I’m always curious. Maybe you’ve got a tip to help me lighten my load. Until next time, smiles up my friend. Let that smile be your shield and your sword. Keep fighting for a happy life. The post #119: Lighten Your Load – Tai Chi’s Double-Weighted Error [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Welcome to Episode #118 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “How to Get More from Your Martial Arts Practice.” You train hard… but are you getting everything you can out of your martial arts practice? Probably not! Don’t worry—in this episode, I share three practice tips that will pay you back with BIG results. At least they did for me! No, they’re not magic. No, they’re not quick ‘n’ easy. But if you’ve ever felt stuck in a rut, these might just be what you need to hear… and do! Especially if you’ve ever felt like QUITTING martial arts completely, this episode is for you! Before you walk away from all that time and effort you’ve invested in training, give these three tips a try. Heck, try even one! Yes, I believe even a little martial arts makes life a whole lot better, but sometimes if you give just a little bit more, you can get a LOT more in return! To LISTEN to “How to Get More from Your Martial Arts Practice, here’s a link. Play the audio podcast below… or download to your device. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Google Podcasts or Spotify. To WATCH the video version or READ the transcript, scroll down below. If you’d like to support this show , share the link with a friend or leave a quick review over on iTunes . Thank you! Oh—and don’t forget to sign up for free email updates so you can get new shows sent to your inbox the minute they’re released. Thanks for listening! Keep fighting for a happy life! How to Get More from Your Martial Arts Practice Here’s the video. If the player doesn’t work, click this direct link . As always, if you’d like to keep the conversation going, feel free to leave a comment here or through my Contact Page. TRANSCRIPT Hello, hello. Ando here from Happy Life Martial Arts. Welcome to episode #118 of Fight for a Happy Life , the show that believes even a little martial arts makes life a whole lot better. And I really believe that, you know, what I just said there. A little martial arts makes life a whole lot better. At least that’s how it’s worked for me so far. And that’s why I’m shocked, shocked at how many people have not gotten that message. How is it possible? Martial arts is so mainstream now. People see it everywhere. They know it’s a safe activity, relatively speaking. And they must know that it does so much to transform your life in a positive way, which is why I am shocked. Don’t tell me, well, there are millions of people participating in martial arts. Yeah, but there are billions of people on the planet. Why isn’t everyone signed up for a self-defense course or doing at least a six-month investment somewhere in some type of training? Answer me that. Anyway, you know what’s more shocking? More shocking than the number of people who don’t look into martial arts at all is the number of people who start martial arts and then quit. That blows my mind. What? You did the hardest part. You walked through the door. You signed up someplace. You started and then you stopped. Now, I’m not talking about, well, I couldn’t afford classes or I got a bad knee. Life happens. I get that. But there’s always a way to keep pushing forward a little bit to make some improvements, even if you’re just training on your own, especially in this day and age with the video. So what’s with all the quitting? If you had a business opportunity and every time you put in $1, you got $2 out, would you ever stop investing? No, either would I. So that’s where I get confused because for me, every investment I make in the martial arts definitely pays me back. Well, at least two-fold, five-fold, ten-fold. I have to make up a number there. But I feel it gives me more than I put into it. Hence, even a little martial arts makes life a whole lot better. So if you are in a rut right now in your training, or if you are not training at all, or if you feel bored by your training, or you are thinking about quitting your training, that’s what this episode is for. Today I want to give you three quick tips on how to get more out of your training so that hopefully you don’t quit. Because I do believe if you are training well, you should be getting a lot of benefits out of it. Okay, tip number one. Go full time. Go pro. Now I’m not talking about making this a career, being a professional fighter or a professional teacher. That’s not what I mean. I mean in your mindset. Stop thinking of yourself as a part timer and start thinking of yourself as a full timer. You’re always a martial artist. Make that part of who you are. I get it. In the beginning, martial arts may just be an activity, something that you try. And it’s interchangeable. It could be a yoga class you went to try or a swimming group or softball team. You just wanted to do something and you tried martial arts. But if you stay in that part time interchangeable, it’s just another activity, something to do mindset, well then it will get changed out. Eventually, you’ll get bored with it. Eventually, it’s not something that excites you anymore because you never really committed to the idea that I’m all in. I’m a full time professional martial artist. So we have to make that shift. Make the shift that it’s not just something you do, it’s who you are. I think of it a little bit like Superman. Bear with me, old school Superman. If you’re a part timer, at least the way I was when I started, I would have my normal life in my normal clothes and then you get to go to class. And when you go to class, you take off your clothes and then you put on your uniform. And there was a little mini transformation there. You put on that uniform and you start to transform into the person, maybe, that you want to be. I feel stronger, bolder, I’m getting tougher, I’m working. But then class is over and you put on your normal clothes, you go back to your normal life, and that class just kind of becomes a memory. You don’t necessarily take it with you. Now, old school Superman is a little different. Old school Superman always had his Superman uniform on underneath his Clark Kent clothes. Meaning he was always Superman, but he would play different roles and he would put on a different suit to cover that up sometimes. But make no mistake, he’s always Superman. He’s always on the hunt for when can I be of help? When can I be of service? When can I be a hero? So we should be the same way. A part time martial artist is someone who only feels great when they’re in class wearing their uniform and then goes back to an ordinary life where they don’t feel as wonderful. But a full time martial artist, a pro, you’re always a martial artist. And when you feel great in class, you take that outside into the world, you still feel great. When you feel like you’ve got some courage or some toughness, you bring that into the rest of your life because you’re a full time martial artist. So that would be my challenge to you. Make this mental shift. Don’t be an amateur martial artist. Just start thinking like a professional martial artist. Once you make that shift, meaning that you stop focusing on your martial arts style and start focusing on your lifestyle. Do you see that little switch there? It’s not the style of martial arts that you do. It’s your style of living that matters. Once you do that, you have that attitude, everything changes. The way you eat is going to change because there is no on day, off day, I’m going to go to class later, so I’m going to eat a little bit healthier, so I don’t feel sluggish. No, every day you feel like I want to be at my best, so I’m going to eat pretty clean here, I’m going to be healthy. The way you sleep, you’re not going to say, well, I worked out hard yesterday, so I’ll give myself a little extra sleep, but then tonight I’ll stay up late. No, I want to be at my best all the time, so I want to get to bed, recover, be ready for the next adventure the next day. And I’ll tell you, even my wardrobe changed, meaning that I used to have a separate part of my dresser that was just for workout clothes. I wasn’t going to class. I was going to go workout in the park or in the garage or whatever. I would have some old t-shirts, old pants, tattered, stained, ripped up, old, because I figured, well, I don’t want to wreck my good clothes. But then at some point, when I made that shift, that’s exactly the time, when I went from part time to full time in my mind, I said, why am I treating my practice time with so little respect? Why am I wearing clothes that I don’t want anyone to see me in? I wouldn’t wear these clothes anywhere else into the world. So now I have this separation in my head between, oh, there’s the training version of me, and then there’s my real me back out in the real world. I wanted to break down that barrier. And once I made that attitude shift, I threw out all the tattered clothes and realized that I wasn’t paying enough respect to the full time martial artist that I want to be, that I am. And yeah, so I got some workout clothes, nicer clothes to work out in. And that makes me feel a little bit prouder, might seem superficial, but it gets me into the, it keeps me in the mindset of being at my best. Caught that. It doesn’t change it, it keeps it going. So that as great as I feel out during my day, I feel just as great training, then I get boosted by my training, I slip right back into the world. So I highly recommend overall, go full time in your head, go pro and see if that has a trickle down effect on everything you do. Tip number two, assign yourself homework. This is very important. If you are a full time professional martial artist, and you are now, right? Did you already flip the switch? You can’t just rely on class time to reap benefits. That’s not the only place where you should be investing yourself, or pushing your limits, challenging yourself, because just do the math. That’s such a small part of your life. Let’s say you go to class three times a week, and let’s say each of those classes is an hour and a half long. Okay, so what’s that? I’m not a math guy. Is that four and a half hours? Four and a half hours of training time. That’s not much. That’s almost nothing compared to how many hours there are in a week. So why do you think there’s some magical carryover that four and a half hours of training, that’s if you’re training three times a week for an hour and a half, is going to influence everything else in your life? The scales are off. It’s very little training. Yes, I believe even a little makes your life better, but I want you to get more, because if you’re thinking about quitting, it means you’re not getting enough. That’s what we’re talking about. So I need you to start finding more ways to get more out of your class time and then more out of your out of class time. And you know me, I’m going to tell you that the whole world is your dojo. Everywhere you go is a classroom. Everyone you meet is a teacher. Everything that happens to you is a lesson. Once you take that bigger view of things, you’ll understand what I’m talking about. You’re always improving. You’re always learning. You can always be getting better. So, okay, but specifically, in class, even if you decide to ignore everything else I’m saying, at least get more out of your actual class time. Don’t be the person, if you set up a bag and you’re taking turns with someone else, you’re number three in the line, you’re going through, don’t be the person who goes up, hits the bag, and then strolls back to the end of the line, and then waits for your next turn, and then you hit the bag, and then you stroll back, and you don’t do anything. What are you doing? That will be one example of time that you can fill with extra practice. When it’s your turn to hit the bag, you hit the bag, then you shuffle back to the end of the line, you practice that combo in your head until you get to the bag. There’s no reason why you still can’t be practicing. Or don’t be that person who fills class time with small talk about movies and social events. I’m not saying don’t make friends and don’t be friendly, but if you’re going to rely on your class time as your main time for improvement, you need to be on it because you’re a professional martial artist and you came into that class for a very specific reason. Or at least by now, I hope you have specific goals for yourself. So get after it. Do a little extra practice. Don’t wait for your teacher to come over and tell you to do that. That’s a mistake. Now, outside of class, of course, I still want more. So absolutely, I would keep a journal. Keep some type of diary, some type of notebook. I’ve recommended this before, and I’m saying it again, because that’s such an easy thing to do. Before you drive home after class, or first thing you think of in the morning, or after a practice session, anytime something occurs to you, you see something on video, a crime being committed, and someone fighting, and you have a thought about it, journal it. Write it down. That’s another way to learn. It’s another way to enforce your beliefs. So it’s just a great idea to kind of keep this little running diary. And even if you have nothing to say, go back. Flip through where you’ve been in your life. Go back through some of your old thoughts. See if they still ring true. See if you have new ideas. You are in development. So keep a record of that development. I think it’s very encouraging when you may feel a little blue or feel a little unmotivated. It’s great to go back and say, Wow, I used to think that or whoa, I’ve come so far from this note. I’m a big fan of keeping the journal. I would also recommend in this idea of assigning yourself homework, don’t wait for a teacher to give you a goal. Yeah, you’re a part of a school perhaps, and so they have a curriculum and maybe there’s testing requirements. And if you’re a good student, you follow those. But don’t rely on those. You should always have a small project that you are working on, on your own. You have to take some responsibility for your development. You are your own teacher. If you think your class is unchallenging, that’s not the class’s fault. You should be adding challenges to your own practice to make it more challenging. Whatever value you’re getting from the class, great, get that. But that’s not the end of it. That doesn’t define your entire martial arts journey. It’s still up to you to figure out what do you want to get better at? What do you need to get better at? And write that down. And for me, I think the smaller and more specific goal you can craft for yourself, the better. If you just say, I want to get better at sparring, I don’t know what that means. How? I’m talking about very small goals that you can put in that journal or make a separate notebook for just for goals. Things that you can measure and check off when you’ve achieved it. If you think, you know what, from now on, I’m just going to pay attention and make sure my wrist is a little straighter. Perfect. That’s a very small thing that you can fix. I’m going to work on that alignment between my knee and my ankle so I don’t keep getting into these wonky positions with my stances and footwork. Wonderful. There are so many things you can do. I won’t go on with a hundred of them, but think about it. The smaller the better, what is something you can give yourself as a homework assignment that you can measure and monitor and check off and say, I did that. The reason you want to do that is because that gives you that little boost of happy hormones where you feel, I did that. I accomplished something. I’m getting better. There’s proof that I got better. That’s the addiction, I think, that keeps me going because I’ve figured out how to give myself assignments that I can achieve, that I feel great about that. I can celebrate that. And then I’m excited to get to the next one. That becomes my drug of choice, improvement. So give yourself homework. Don’t wait for someone else to do it for you. That’s kindergarten first grade thinking. You’re a professional. You’re a full time martial artist. It’s who you are, which means you are your own teacher. So give yourself homework. Tip number three, how to get more out of your martial arts training. This one might sound a little odd, but stay with me. Tip number three: Measure your afterglow. So afterglow meaning that great feeling you have when you work out. Have you ever finished a great workout, finished a great class, been proud of yourself, and felt, boy, I wish I could feel like this all the time. This is great. This is what I signed up for. I love this feeling right now. I’m in my body. I feel centered. I feel balanced. I feel like I know who I am. I like who I am. I like who I’m becoming. Boy, this feels great. That little buzz, that glow. Well, what happens after, though? After the workout. When I was younger and I still compartmentalized my training life over here and my other life over there, I was constantly going up and down that satisfaction scale or that glow. I would work out, feel great, feel like, yes, this is wonderful. I got everything I want, wanted out of this training. And then you take a shower, you change your clothes, go back to your job, back to your relationships, back to your business, whatever. And your neck starts getting stiffer and your legs are cooling down now. And you forgot what you were working on earlier. And now there’s other stress coming in. You’re starting to not feel as good about yourself and life happens. And your training is nowhere to be found. And the longer you go, maybe you had this great workout, you peaked optimal state, feeling great. And then maybe you haven’t trained for a day. You’ve just been free falling. And maybe two days have gone by and you haven’t really worked out. Now you’re feeling bad about yourself. All that feeling in your body and balance and blah, blah, blah. It’s all gone. It’s just, pew, evaporating. We don’t want that to happen. As full time martial artists, the goal, and this is it, this is what self defense is all about as far as I’m concerned, is first defining our optimal state. Figuring out the exercises, the styles, the whatever you need to do, the workouts to get you into that state where you feel almost invincible at your best. First figure out what that is. What’s your baseline? What does it take to get you to feel your best? Once you’ve gotten that feeling, now the challenge is to hold on to it. When life comes after you now, how can you maintain it as long as possible? Don’t get me wrong, life is tricky. So you’re going to take some hits, you’re going to take some falls, but how deep do you go? How deep is that dive off of your optimal platform? And how quickly can you regain it and come back? That, to me, is what self-defense is all about. You might feel great about yourself and someone slaps you in the face, and if that completely changes you, that’s a problem. If someone insults you, betrays you, rips you off, and that immediately puts you into a worse version of yourself, they’re winning. Self-defense means no, I’m going to defend myself, my best self. So to do that, measure how great you feel when you are at your best. Then second, pay attention to what takes that feeling away. Where are you when you don’t feel great? Who are you with when you don’t feel great? What are you doing when you don’t feel great? And all of your confidence is being chipped away, all of your joy is being chipped away. What’s happening? Because those are the things you need to change. Get away from those people, move out of that place, change what you’re doing. Sometimes you can’t, sometimes you’re stuck with this relationship, you’re stuck with this location, or at least for now you are. Okay, so then what can we do? That’s where to me micro workouts come in. If we presume that you feel great when you have a full workout, it’s time to yourself, time with your partner, boom, boom, and you’re in that zone, you’re feeling good. You’re getting the benefits that you hoped for out of martial arts. Now, as a full-time martial artist, you leave that workout, something starts to chip away at your happiness. That’s the time to have a micro workout, something that gets you back into that state as quickly as possible. Maybe it’s 10 squats. I don’t know what it’s going to be for you. Maybe it’s a minute of shadow boxing. Maybe it’s a breathing exercise. Maybe it’s a mantra. But you have to start experimenting once you realize that your glow is fading to find these little ways to perk it back up, to brighten it back up. And it’s up to you to do that. No one can tell you how to do that. I wish I could. I could say, hey, all you got to do is say, hokum pokum and you’re done. You’re going to feel great. No. If that does work, by the way, feel free to try hokum pokum. I don’t know. Probably not. But the idea is to keep your momentum going. You train hard. You challenge yourself. You reach that high. You’re proud of yourself. You start to dip. Nope, micro workout. You pull it back up. You start to dip. Life is hard. Oh, you pull it back up. And you’re just trying to stay up there as long as you can. And I believe what happens is all that hard work that you’re doing, instead of always trying to come out of the valley and come back up to the peak, the less you dip and then they add on more work, the higher you start to go. So your peak starts to rise. And that’s ultimately what we want. I don’t want to just gain an optimal state and then just hope to maintain it. I want to keep gaining. That’s idealistic, so be it. I want to keep gaining. So the only way to do that is to hold on to what you’ve got. You got to take ground, hold that ground, and then move forward. We can’t keep getting pushed back to where we started. Just as an aside, I’ll tell you, my favorite afterglow test is in the middle of the night. You ever wake up to use the bathroom or get a quick drink of water, and sometimes I’ve trained whatever I did during the day, and I wake up, and I can’t make a fist, and my back hurts, and I just feel wonky, and I bump into the wall. I have no awareness of anything. And that to me is a big clue that whatever you did during the day, here you are in this night state, and something is not carrying through. My goal is to have the best parts of me carry through all the time as a full-time martial artist, even when I’m sleeping. And yes, I sleep in clothes. I don’t even sleep in sleepwear. I always want to be at my best, ready for presentation and go. Or sometimes, when I train, I wake up in the middle of the night and I feel in my body. I feel balanced. I feel I know my place in the universe. I have no problem getting into the bathroom and back. I don’t bump into anything. It’s a very strange experience to have one great night, one bad night. But it makes me think like, well, what did I do today? Why am I so out of it sometimes and so in it other times? So, take the wake up challenge. See where your mind is at. What state are you in when you wake up in the middle of the night? It might be a big clue. All right. I hope that helps. That was three tips. Those were three tips to help you get more out of your training. I really hope that if you’re bored or you feel like you’re in a rut, you feel like you’re stuck, that you’ll heed my words. Don’t quit. Not yet. Try a couple of these things. Try one of them even. Because martial arts, I still believe, is a great investment. That dollar in will give you $10 out if you just keep believing in it. It just takes a little work. It’s not magic. So, don’t give up on this. Put a little more in, and I bet you get a whole lot more out. Okay, hope that helps. I really do believe if more good people are training in the martial arts, the better this world’s gonna be. So, go pro, give yourself homework, and measure your afterglow. That’s the formula for a successful happy life. Until next time, smiles up, my friend. Let that smile be your shield and your sword. Keep fighting for a happy life. The post #118: How to Get More from Your Martial Arts Practice [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #117 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Bad Advice in the Martial Arts.” You get a lot of advice as a martial arts student… you probably give a lot of advice, too! But is it possible that all of that good advice is actually bad advice? In this episode, I’m examining five pieces of popular advice that might not be helping anyone. In fact, these teaching clichés might be making your life harder! Here are the five suspects— Relax. Don’t use so much muscle. Leave your ego at the door. Stop doing the same technique–try something different. Don’t give up. Any of these sound familiar? 🙂 Don’t get me wrong—there are good intentions behind all of these training tips, so I’m not saying you’re a bad person for repeating them. But I am saying that there’s a right time to share these words of wisdom and a wrong time… it’s that crucial judgment that makes the difference. To LISTEN to “Bad Advice in the Martial Arts”, here’s a link. Play the audio podcast below… or download to your device. Subscribe on iTunes or Stitcher or Google Podcasts or Spotify. To WATCH the video version or READ the transcript, scroll down below. If you’d like to support this show , share the link with a friend or leave a quick review over on iTunes . Thank you! Oh—and don’t forget to sign up for free email updates so you can get new shows sent to your inbox the minute they’re released. Thanks for listening! Keep fighting for a happy life! Bad Advice in the Martial Arts Here’s the video. If the player doesn’t work, click this direct link. As always, if you’d like to keep the conversation going, feel free to leave a comment here or through my Contact Page. TRANSCRIPT Howdy, Ando here from Happy Life Martial Arts, back from a bit of a hiatus. First one in ten years, I don’t feel too bad about it. Welcome to episode #117 of Fight for a Happy Life, the show that believes even a little martial arts makes life a whole lot better. Yeah, since you’ve seen me last, I moved from Raleigh, North Carolina back to Los Angeles. We lived there almost two years, about a year and three quarters. And don’t get me wrong, I have no hate for the East Coast. I’m from there. All of my family is there. On this particular trip, I met some really great new people, some great new training partners. I learned a lot. I have nothing but nice things to say about the experience. But what can I say? I love LA. So we are back. But enough about me. Let’s talk about you. Today, I have five pieces of bad advice that you’ve probably heard in the martial arts. And now that I can tell you, I’ve trained from coast to coast. I am sure no matter what your school is or who your teacher is, you’ve heard these pieces of advice. Spoiler alert. The five pieces of advice I’m going to talk about today… Number one, relax. Number two, don’t use your muscle. Number three, leave your ego at the door. Number four, stop doing your favorite technique all the time. Do something else. And number five, don’t give up. Those are the five pieces of advice that I’m going to call bad today. Now, here’s what I mean. All advice, I think, is well-meaning, well-intended. But that doesn’t mean it’s always correct. For example, very wise words, look before you leap. Have you ever heard that? But maybe you’ve also heard, he who hesitates is lost. Now, those two pieces of advice are opposites. They have two different ideas. So which one is good and which one’s bad? It all depends on your particular situation and when you hear the advice, right? The advice that you get today may not be so good tomorrow and vice versa. So the advice that I’ve already listed here, the five pieces of advice, in some contexts is probably good advice. But not always. And I want to talk today about when that is bad advice and when you shouldn’t follow it at all. All right, makes sense. So let’s get right to it. Number one, relax. Now, I have already ranted about how I think this is a terrible piece of advice in a separate video. So I’ll put that link below if you want to go into the full, full discourse, you can find it there. But in case you haven’t seen it, I’ll sum it up very quickly. When people tell you to relax, they fail to see that your tension, if you’re tight, is a symptom of a problem. It’s not the problem itself. If you are really a concerned teacher and you see someone is tense or you feel that you are tense yourself, the question is why? Why are you tense? Why are you not relaxed? That’s what you need to figure out. I don’t think anybody walks around purposely trying to be tense. So when your teacher comes up or if you say to a student, relax, it’s like, well, no kidding, I would like to be relaxed. Why don’t you ask me why I’m not relaxed? For instance, do you like getting hit in the face? Maybe you start martial arts and you don’t want to get hit in the face. So of course you’re tense. Maybe you don’t like someone putting their arm around your neck and trying to choke you out and so you tighten up, you get tense. Those are natural reactions. So telling me to relax doesn’t help. What is good advice? Well, the solution to tension is experience. You need to get better at what you’re doing. You need to get comfortable at what is making you so tense. So as a teacher, you should be showing your students how to relax. Don’t just tell me to relax. Show me how. If that means something simple like take a breath, that’s a great first step. Take a breath that does help me relax a little bit unless I’m being choked, then no, it’s futile. Generally, it’s going to be introducing a skill, giving me a tip to show me why this isn’t so bad a situation, how to make it better, how to turn it around. And then the more you practice that, the more your tension will go away, the more comfortable you’ll feel, and suddenly, you just are relaxed. It’s not something that you pursue directly. It’s something that happens as a reward for your practice. So, get more experience, and that should solve itself. Number two, stop using your muscle. Stop using all your strength. Recently, I was in a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu class, and there was a big guy. He’s a white belt, head taller than I am, at least 50 to 70 pounds, bigger than I am, and cut. This is a weight lifting kind of guy. And when we rolled, I was moving all over him. I was tying him up. I was able to get out from under. And after we rolled, I said, you know, it’s okay for you to fight back. It’s okay for you to use what you got there. Use your muscle. And he said, oh, well, they told me not to. I answered, who told you not to? They’re just trying to make it easier on themselves, I think. With all respect to anyone who gave him that advice, you left him with nothing. It’s like saying, hey, listen, don’t use your muscle. And you don’t use your speed. I see you’re very fast. Don’t use that. Hey, I see you’re very flexible. Please don’t use that. Don’t kick me in the head. I don’t want you to use your flexibility right now. What? Hey, you seem to have really good cardio. Could you just hold your breath sometimes so we could even this out? Because I’d prefer if you were out of breath. Hey, I noticed that your eyesight seems to be pretty good. Do you mind just closing one eye while we work out? You wouldn’t say those things, right, typically? So why does muscle get such a bad rap? I don’t think that’s fair. Particularly if you look at the heights of the sport, let’s say, of Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, do you see people without muscle? No, I see people who are jacked up, people who admit to using steroids. So they have muscle, they use muscle, and oh, by the way, they also happen to have solid technique. Okay, so as a white belt, this guy came in with muscle, which is an asset. That is something we should all have, some strength. But then they told him, okay, don’t use the strength. But he had no technique to back him up. So now you have someone who doesn’t want to use their muscle because he’s being a good student, he’s doing what he’s told. But he also has no technique, so therefore, he’s a sitting duck. He’s getting trounced by an older, smaller man, simply because he doesn’t know what to do. Again, that’s a bad habit. I say if you have muscle, use it. Absolutely use it. Now, any advice I’m giving you today, I’m not saying hurt your partners, be reckless, be dangerous. No, of course not. But if you have an asset, use it. Otherwise, what’s the alternative? You’re training yourself to not use your strengths. Believe me, if you jump out at me in the middle of a parking lot with a knife, I’m with my family or alone, I’m going to use everything I have to defend myself. If I have muscle, I’m going to use every bit of it. So it doesn’t make sense for me to not use assets. That’s a terrible habit to get into. Hopefully, the goal would be like, okay, you’re brand new, you have your muscle, so of course you’re using it because that’s all you know. So maybe you’re 99% muscle and you’re 1% technique. But then a month or two goes by, maybe now you’re down to 95% muscle and 5% technique. Six months to a year, maybe you brought that down, maybe you’re 70% muscle use, and you’re relying on 30% technique. And you keep training and training until the scales tilt, and maybe you’re so good, you’re like 99% technique and you just use a very little bit of muscle just so that you can function. Well, that’s a wonderful training journey that you just went through. You figured out how to use your assets and how to succeed without a particular asset. That’s a full training experience. And again, I think if you’re in a good school, you’ll have that luxury to learn that. You will learn when to use your asset and when not to, you’ll find the limitations of your asset. Hey, I went really hard that first round using all muscle, but now I am gassed out. I can’t breathe. So now what am I going to do? Ah, now you’re forced to figure out some techniques and strategies now that your muscle has been taken away from you. That’s what good training does. It strips away your strengths at some point, strips away your assets, so you’re forced to use something else. And that’s where the training fills in. So, don’t fall into that trap. If you’ve got muscle, go ahead, bring it in. Don’t hurt anybody, but use it until you can’t. And then you’ll be able to use it more wisely. So use it and learn to use it wisely. Piece of advice number three, leave your ego at the door. I get it, I get it, but this falls into the same category as not using your muscle. For me, martial arts training should be a full body, full personality experience. So if your ego has gotten you this far in life, whatever successes you’ve had up till now, bring all those tools onto the mats. If you are a prejudicial person, you walk in saying like, well, girls can’t fight. No woman’s going to beat me. Good. Keep believing that until you run into the female who taps you out. Now, your beliefs are challenged, which is exactly what should happen in a good school. Maybe you come in arrogant. You say, well, I’m already a black belt in that style, so this style won’t be so hard. Oh, okay. Well, keep believing that. Good. And then when you find out that the tricks that work for you in that school don’t work so well in this school, then again, you’re going to have to relearn new habits. You’re going to have to start over again. Maybe you were raised as mommy’s special little person. And so you walk everywhere thinking, I’m better than you. I’m a superstar. And believe me, I’m part of all of these things. I’m prejudicial, arrogant, and a spoiled brat. And martial arts wiped that smirk right off my face. Good training will do that. It will wipe that smirk off your face. Again, so whatever your beliefs are, it makes no sense to tell someone, well, don’t believe those things. How old are you? You’ve been doing this for 18 years, you’ve been alive. Or you’ve been alive for 30 years. You’ve been alive for 50 years. And those beliefs have gotten you this far. But now try to start as a blank slate and see what happens. You’ll have nothing. You need to learn the limitations of your beliefs. You need to learn the errors in your ways. So, I say don’t leave your ego at the door. Bring it on to the mats. That’s where we can test it. That’s where we can challenge it. That’s where change happens. So bring it. Number four, stop doing your favorite technique all the time. Try something else. I think we’ve all had this experience, right? You have a partner and you already know what they’re going to do, whether you’re sparring or rolling, whatever you’re doing. It’s like they always do the same thing. So you tell them, hey, try something else. Now to me, this falls again into the same category as telling people not to use their muscle or not to bring in their ego. Now you’re telling them, hey, stop doing your favorite technique. This is a strategic criticism. I already know what you’re going to do. But again, this is tricky. When you start martial arts, you probably have some insecurities. You don’t know what you’re doing. And then you’re taught some techniques and you practice those techniques. And lo and behold, one of them perhaps starts to work for you. And once you feel something working, that insecurity is now replaced with confidence. And now that confidence that you keep repeating because it keeps working becomes your identity. You are that technique. If I’m sparring, I’m going to kick you with that roundhouse to the face because that’s my technique. That’s who I am. That’s what I do. We’re inseparable. Well, that’s fine. But again, you should not be clinging on to that high kick like a security blanket, right? When we were kids, we talked about security blankets. The little kid can’t go anywhere without their favorite blanket. They’ll cry if you take it away from them because that’s their security. The world is chaotic. They found this one piece of cloth that they can hold on to, they can control, makes them feel good. And now that’s how you can become if you cling to one particular technique all the time. Now we know at some point, you have to grow up, right? As a human being, at some point, it’s better that you learn to let go of that blanket and find your security and other attributes in your life than to have someone come finally and rip that blanket away from you when you’re 25, you’re working at a bank and someone says, what’s with the blanket? That’s enough. You’re making it’s embarrassing that you work here. No one’s going to come and ask you for a loan. Give me that blanket. You don’t want to end up in a tug of war with your security blanket out in the real world. The dojo is a place where you can bring in your security blanket and then learn to let it go because you replace it with other more lasting and universal attributes. So that may become another technique. Okay, you stop doing this technique and now you learn this other technique. But again, you don’t want to be reliant on any one or series of techniques. Your goal ultimately is to just be a confident person, knowing that you’re going to do your best no matter what the situation is and what tools you have to work with. You’re not reliant on anything. So force yourself out of that comfort zone and if you don’t do it yourself, again, I hope you’re part of a good club, a good school that forces you out of it. If you keep trying your favorite technique, there should be someone eventually who shuts it down, who takes it away from you. And I’m, by the way, I’m only speaking from my own experience. I kept pushing a certain technique. Just recently I could think of one move and I was using it for at least six weeks straight. I kept purposely putting myself into this bad position because I knew no one could do anything once I got there. I was just learning how to shield up really, really well until I met one guy who broke through and then I realized I was vulnerable and then I had to let that go. So I’m just speaking from my own experience. Let go of your security blankets before someone rips it out of your hands and you stand there crying and wetting your pants. That’s too late to start learning lessons. Don’t let that happen in the real world. Let it happen in the dojo and just be brave. You want to be a confident person, not just someone who can execute certain techniques confidently. I think that makes sense. Last one, number five. Don’t give up. Boy, so many posters, so many anthems about not giving up, being tough, get back in there. But not all the time. Not all the time. I know so many people who have spoken of a martial arts experience where they went to a school, starting martial arts, tore their shoulder, popped a knee, hurt their neck, and then gave up. And I would say that was the right thing to do at that time. Yes, you should give that up. If you keep going back to a school and you keep getting hurt, something is wrong. And it may not be you. It could be a reckless environment, the vibe there, the teacher is not supervising, the techniques themselves just aren’t for you. Not right now. So I would absolutely tell you, yes, get out of that school. Give up on that school. Perhaps you’re following a diet. You’re on the XYZ diet, trying to lose weight, good for you. Six months has gone by, you’re really not losing any weight, and worse, you’re starting to stress out because you’re counting the right number of macronutrients, you’re timing your meals the right way, you’re doing everything you think correctly, but it’s not working for you. Give up. Six months has gone by with no change, and now you’re just stressed out because maybe you’re not doing it right or you should try harder. No, maybe it’s just not for you. Give it up. Self-defense. You might say, I’m really interested in self-defense and I found this club and we do forms and we do these pad drills, but you know, we never do partner work and it’s been a couple years now and I’m starting to think that I’m not meeting my goals about feeling confident in self-defense skills. Give up. Give up that school. Now to be very, very clear, I’m not saying give up your goal. I’m saying give up that particular plan. If you’re going to a martial arts school where you keep getting hurt, don’t give up your goal of becoming a great martial artist and learning to defend yourself. Find a different school, but give up on that first one. If your diet’s not helping you become healthier and it’s just stressing you out, give it up. Don’t give up on the goal of becoming fitter and healthier. Just find another way to do it. This is tricky because I think martial artists in particular are faith-based creatures. In the beginning, again, we’re insecure. We don’t know what we’re doing. So you go out looking, you find that school or that teacher, that style that speaks to you, you feel comfortable. And I have to have faith that if I do what they are doing, what they tell me to do, that I will reach my goal. We have to have that faith to sign up at any club, right? But sometimes we forget what the goal was and we just end up stuck in a school or in a diet, or in any type of situation, where we forgot why we started. So you’ve got to always measure what’s happening. Are you getting the results that you intended? If you’re not getting the results that you wanted and what you are getting isn’t better than what you wanted, give it up. Give up. There’s no shame in that. I’ve given up more things than I can count. I’d have to sit here forever just listing all the things I’ve given up, whether it was a career path, whether it was pursuing a particular talent that I thought I had. I’ve given up certain schools, certain teachers, not with malevolence. I don’t have hate for any of them, but they just weren’t meeting my goals. They weren’t pointing me in the right direction. So I gave up. I’m not a quitter. That’s different. It’s okay to give up, just don’t quit. If the goal is worthy, give up, but don’t quit. It gets confusing. I know. All right. Well, those are the five pieces of advice. So as we wrap this up, I’ll say again, if you are feeling tense, okay, be tense. If you are using muscle and your strength, okay, use your muscle. If you’re an arrogant, egomaniacal, prejudicial student, okay, use it. If you’re using techniques that keep working, great, keep working until they don’t. And if what you’re doing, your plan is not working out, well, then give it up. Form a new one. All advice can either be bad or good. It’s truly up to your situation and to the timing when you get it. And my big message today, just remember, sometimes doing the opposite of good advice is the secret to a happy life. Okay, I hope you heard something today that was the right advice at the right time in your life. If not, hey, come back in two weeks or two years, listen again. Maybe then it will be the perfect advice at the perfect time. Until next time, smiles up my friend. Let that smile be your shield and your sword. Keep fighting for a happy life. The post #117: Bad Advice in the Martial Arts [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #116: You Got This! Confidence in the Martial Arts [Video + Podcast] 26:29
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Welcome to Episode #116 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “You Got This.” Confidence is a tricky commodity. If you have too much—trouble. If you have too little—trouble! Especially in the martial arts, place too much faith in your skills, you might wind up dead. But place NO faith in your skills, you... The post #116: You Got This! Confidence in the Martial Arts [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #115: How to Be a Good Judge in Martial Arts and Life [Video + Podcast] 30:16
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Welcome to Episode #115 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “How to Be a Good Judge.” Are you a good judge or a bad judge? In the martial arts (and in life!), I’ve definitely been both. But as I get older, I’d like to think I’m getting better at passing judgement. Whether we’re... The post #115: How to Be a Good Judge in Martial Arts and Life [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #114: Driving Without Brakes – A Warning for Martial Arts and Life 24:06
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Welcome to Episode #114 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Driving Without Brakes.” I’ve done some stupid things in my life… but driving without brakes may be the stupidest! Of course, I didn’t plan on putting myself (and everybody on the road around me!) in danger, but it also wasn’t a big surprise.... The post #114: Driving Without Brakes – A Warning for Martial Arts and Life appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #113: The First Technique in Martial Arts [Video + Podcast] 34:38
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Welcome to Episode #113 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “The First Technique in Martial Arts.” Do you remember the first technique you learned in the martial arts? Was it a jab? A block? Maybe a breakfall? Whatever it was, let me ask you—would you say it was also the most important technique?... The post #113: The First Technique in Martial Arts [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #112 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Lessons From Being Choked Out.” When I started training in the martial arts, I practiced a long list of moves to escape from chokes. No air, no problem… right? WRONG! It turned out that there’s a big difference between a “practice choke” and... The post #112: Lessons from Being Choked Out [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #111: How to Make Martial Arts Techniques Work [Video + Podcast] 33:17
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Welcome to Episode #111 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “How to Make Martial Arts Techniques Work.” You see a move. You learn a move. You try a move… …but it doesn’t work! ARGH! So frustrating. The truth is, sooner or later, we all hit a wall in our training. We all get... The post #111: How to Make Martial Arts Techniques Work [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #110 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Close Your Mind to Learn More.” We all know that a martial arts student should keep an open mind, right? But should it stay open forever? Is it possible that you can keep learning even when you close your mind to new information?... The post #110: Close Your Mind to Learn More [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #109: Panic and Pandemonium | Self-Defense in a Crowd [Video + Podcast] 31:21
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Welcome to Episode #109 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Panic and Pandemonium.” In self-defense, facing a single attacker is never easy. Now imagine defending yourself from 80,000 people! That sounds crazy, but that’s basically what happened to me. In this episode, I’ll share the story of a young, inexperienced security guard (that’s... The post #109: Panic and Pandemonium | Self-Defense in a Crowd [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #108: The Hardest Part of Self-Defense [Video + Podcast] 39:42
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Welcome to Episode #108 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “The Hardest Part of Self-Defense.” I have some bad news–the hardest part of self-defense is something you can’t change or stop. What am I talking about? Knowing how far to go when defending yourself. Here’s the problem–bad guys have a plan. They know... The post #108: The Hardest Part of Self-Defense [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #107 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “The Art of Moving Furniture.” I moved twice in the last year—first from L.A. to Raleigh and now to a new place 6 miles up the road. That means I have spent a ridiculous number of hours packing, lifting boxes, and hauling furniture.... The post #107: The Art of Moving Furniture [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #106: It’s Okay to Suck at Martial Arts [Video + Podcast] 29:17
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Welcome to Episode #106 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “It’s Okay to Suck at Martial Arts.” After almost two years of hiding out from Covid, I finally stepped outside and joined a BJJ school. Well, re-joined, actually. And guess what? I SUCK! Yup. I may only be two years older, but I’m... The post #106: It’s Okay to Suck at Martial Arts [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #105 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Waiting to Die.” My wife and I once found ourselves in a scary situation. Fortunately, we lived to tell the tale… so I’m going to tell it! Of course, you don’t need to survive a scary situation to remind you that life is... The post #105: Waiting to Die [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #104 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Participation Trophies.” Awarding trophies for participation, as opposed to the actual winning of an event, is a controversial topic. But should it be? Over the years, I’ve seen the good and the bad side of awarding participation trophies… and the crazy side! In... The post #104: Participation Trophies [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #103 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Tools Not Rules.” Is there a difference between sticking to a routine and being stuck to one? YES, absolutely! If you’ve ever felt like a failure for skipping a workout or been stressed out for missing a class, this episode is for you…... The post #103: Tools Not Rules [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #102: 3 Halloween Self-Defense Lessons [Video + Podcast] 26:44
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Welcome to Episode #102 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “3 Halloween Self-Defense Lessons.” When I was a kid, Halloween was a big deal. That’s because in our town, you were allowed to “trick or treat” for TWO nights instead of just one! Unfortunately, I learned the hard way that while life can... The post #102: 3 Halloween Self-Defense Lessons [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #101 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “You Are the Dojo.” A few years ago, I made a video called, The World Is Your Dojo. The message—that you can learn anywhere, from anyone, at any time—is still a good one. However… …it’s not the whole story! In fact, I’d say... The post #101: You Are the Dojo [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #100 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Throw the First Punch.” That’s right! We made it to Episode 100. I say “we” because if you weren’t here, I wouldn’t be here either, so thank you for your support! 🙂 In this show, I share my thoughts on two very different... The post #100: Throw the First Punch [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #99 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “You Are a Master.” Do you ever feel like a martial arts “loser”? Ever feel like you’re so far away from achieving your goals that you might be better off just giving up? STOP! I bet you’re doing just fine. In fact, I... The post #99: You Are a Master [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #98 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Tame Your Brain to Win the Game.” Are you too smart for your own good? Does overthinking get in the way of performing at your best? If you’re like me, the answer is YES! My mind is so busy judging, worrying, and arguing... The post #98: Tame Your Brain to Win the Game [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #97 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Little Pain, Big Trouble.” Pain is part of life… especially if you’re a martial artist! But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to minimize injuries and avoid trouble. Those should be your first priorities in studying self-defense, in fact! Even though I KNOW... The post #97: Little Pain, Big Trouble [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #96: Decision and Action in Self-Defense [Video + Podcast] 32:48
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Welcome to Episode #96 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Decision and Action.” It’s common in self-defense training to focus on the speed of your punches and kicks… but how fast can you make a decision and take action? Like it or not, no matter how good you are at performing your martial... The post #96: Decision and Action in Self-Defense [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #95 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Respect for McDojos.” Is your martial arts school a “McDojo”? Could that term of derision ever be a good thing? I say YES! If your school or teacher is helping you reach your goals and improve your life, then keep going! Only you... The post #95: Respect for McDojos [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #94 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Don’t Be Water, My Friend.” We’ve all heard Bruce Lee say, “Boards don’t hit back.” You probably also remember his admonishment, “Don’t think–feel.” No doubt about it… Bruce Lee was full of good advice. But that doesn’t mean I agree with everything he... The post #94: Don’t Be Water, My Friend [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #93: Cross-Training Tips for Martial Arts [Video + Podcast] 38:35
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Welcome to Episode #93 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Cross-training Tips for Martial Arts.” Actually, a better title for this episode would be, “My First Ballet Class!” That’s right! I started taking online ballet classes a few weeks ago. No, not to become a better dancer, to become a better fighter! That’s... The post #93: Cross-Training Tips for Martial Arts [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #92 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Shouting at the Moon.” Stress is a part of life… especially this year! The challenge—if we want to maximize our health and happiness—is to find effective ways to face and manage that stress. Is martial arts training one way to do that? Absolutely!... The post #92: Shouting at the Moon [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #91: The Dark Side of Self-Improvement [Video + Podcast] 33:35
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Welcome to Episode #91 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “The Dark Side of Self-Improvement.” We all want to make our lives better in some way, right? Unfortunately, it might sometimes seem that the harder we work, the more difficult and frustrating life gets! That’s because self-improvement has a bright side AND a... The post #91: The Dark Side of Self-Improvement [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #90 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “12 Tips for a Happy Life.” We all a love a list, don’t we? Well, here’s a new one for ya! To be honest, I actually compiled this list a few years ago thinking it would make a nice poster someday… and maybe... The post #90: 12 Tips for a Happy Life [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #89 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Living in a Lockdown.” The Covid-19 lockdown has changed all of our lives… but is it possible that it might be for the better? My old routine and training habits have been shattered over the last 6 months, but I’ve been happily surprised... The post #89: Living in a Lockdown [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #88 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast with special guest, Sensei Andrea Harkins. Andrea Harkins is the powerful voice behind The Martial Arts Woman—a blog that offers a female perspective on the world of martial arts. She is also a life coach, the host of her own podcast, and the... The post #88: Andrea Harkins Interview [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #87 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast with special guest, Sensei Kris Wilder. Where do I begin…? First off, Sensei Kris is the owner and chief instructor of the West Seattle Karate Academy. He’s also the host of not one, but TWO podcasts— The Back Channel Martial Arts & Life... The post #87: Kris Wilder Interview [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #86 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast with special guest, Sensei Seth Adams. Sensei Seth is a lifelong martial artist-—his first Karate teachers were his own Mom and Dad! By the age of 14, he was responsible for teaching kids classes-—a calling he still enjoys to this day. Armed with... The post #86: Seth Adams Interview [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #85 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast with special guest, Ramsey Dewey. Fighters aren’t always the best teachers… or best communicators! So, it was a special pleasure to sit down with Ramsey Dewey, an MMA coach working in Shanghai, China. That’s right! Ramsey left the USA to open his own... The post #85: Ramsey Dewey Interview [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #84 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast with special guest, Sensei Jesse Enkamp, founder of KarateByJesse.com. You already know Jesse… and you probably LOVE him! Jesse Enkamp was born into Karate family and has devoted his entire life to developing and spreading that legacy far and wide. Student, teacher, blogging... The post #84: Jesse Enkamp Interview [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #83 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast with special guest, Sensei Jaredd Wilson. Who is Jaredd Wilson? Jaredd is the host of the long-running Martial Thoughts Podcast. For martial arts junkies looking for some intelligent and entertaining conversations, you’ll want to check it out. Oh, did I mention that I... The post #83: Jaredd Wilson Interview [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #82: Are Forms and Kata a Waste of Time in Martial Arts? [Video + Podcast] 59:05
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Forms and kata… a functional, practical training tool in the martial arts or a big waste of time? Join me and special guest, Sifu Randy Brown, for a lively discussion on the pros and cons of forms training. We’ve both gone through through phases of LOTS of kata and NO kata, so I think you’ll... The post #82: Are Forms and Kata a Waste of Time in Martial Arts? [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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1 #81: The Law of the Jungle and Self-Defense [Video + Podcast] 39:11
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Welcome to Episode #81 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “The Law of the Jungle and Self-Defense.” Can a smaller, weaker animal survive an attack by a larger, stronger animal? The truth is UGLY, but I’m going to tell you anyway! If you can handle it, I’m going to examine the benefits of... The post #81: The Law of the Jungle and Self-Defense [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #80 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast with special guest, Menamy Mitanes. You can find a lot of show-offs in the martial arts… Menamy Mitanes is not one of them. But he could be! Menamy has not only earned black belts in Judo and BJJ, he is a certified instructor... The post #80: Menamy Mitanes Interview [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #79: Two Teacher Types in Martial Arts [Video + Podcast] 31:42
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Welcome to Episode #79 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Two Teacher Types.” There are two major teacher types in the martial arts. Each has pros and cons, depending on what type of student you are! In this episode, I’ll share my experiences with both teacher types and offer my advice on how... The post #79: Two Teacher Types in Martial Arts [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #78 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “My First Fight.” When I was seven years old, my babysitter set me up to fight another kid in the neighborhood. Surprise! Even though the situation was totally ridiculous, the lessons I learned from that fight have stayed with me to this day.... The post #78: My First Fight [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #77 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast with special guest, Paul Read. If you don’t follow Paul’s work as a Tai Chi instructor, you should! Many people talk about expressing themselves through their martial arts training, but Paul is one of the few who actually does! I’ve been of a... The post #77: Paul Read Interview [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #76 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast with special guest, Chris Hanson. Chris Hanson is a school teacher, father, lifelong martial artist, founder of Karate Unity… and a really nice guy! As you’ll hear, Chris is on a mission to bring the martial arts community together by training with as... The post #76: Chris Hanson Interview [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #75 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Talk to Your Body.” Question—how well do you know your body? If you’re like me, you probably think some parts are strong and healthy… but you label other parts as weak, stiff, or just plain “bad”. You gotta stop that! Whether it’s due... The post #75: Talk to Your Body [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #74 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Inspiration and Motivation.” Do your friends talk about getting into shape? Starting a business? Writing a book? Tell them to give up! Don’t worry—you’re still a good person. But you should know that there’s a right time to help and a wrong time... The post #74: Inspiration and Motivation [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #73 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Punches in Bunches.” In business, relationships, and on the mats, the biggest winners I know are also the biggest losers! That’s because the secret to success isn’t always WHAT you do, but how often you do it. But the more you do something,... The post #73: Punches in Bunches [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #72 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Are You Ready to Fight?” No, seriously… are you? If some maniac suddenly jumped on you RIGHT NOW, are you prepared to fight back? Are your muscles tight? Will your clothes hold you back? Can you flip your mindset from calm to aggressive... The post #72: Are You Ready to Fight? [Video + Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #71 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Your Special Gift.” You never know when someone will change your life forever. You also don’t know when YOU will change someone else’s life forever! Is it possible that that you are changing the world without even knowing it? In this episode, let’s... The post #71: Your Special Gift [Podcast + Video] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #70 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Catching Another Thief.” Remember back in Episode #50 when I told you the story about how my wife and I helped catch a thief? Well, it happened again! I was a bit smarter this time, but still learned a HUGE lesson that I... The post #70: Catching Another Thief! [Podcast and Video] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #69: How to Control Stress, Pain, and Fear [Podcast and Video] 18:48
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Welcome to Episode #69 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Control Stress, Pain, and Fear.” We all have a breaking point. Stress, pain, fear, and doubt will control you and steal away your freedom if you let it. So, how do you stay in control when your mind and body freeze up? I’ve... The post #69: How to Control Stress, Pain, and Fear [Podcast and Video] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #68 of the Fight for a Happy Life martial arts podcast. In this episode, we sit down with Fauzia Lala for an inspiring chat about finding your identity and accomplishing your goals. Fauzia is the founder and head instructor of Defense Ninjas, an all-women’s self-defense program based in Seattle, Washington. She’s also... The post #68: Fauzia Lala Interview [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #67 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Walk Like a Warrior.” The way you walk tells a story to the world… but is it the story you want to tell? You change yourself for the better through training in the martial arts, right? But do you leave those benefits behind... The post #67: Walk Like a Warrior [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #66 of the Fight for a Happy Life martial arts podcast. In this episode, we welcome Nick Drossos from NickDrossos.com. Nick is a fitness trainer, self-defense instructor, and life coach based in Montreal, Canada. But with nearly 100 million views on YouTube, he’s changed lives all around the world! You can find... The post #66: Nick Drossos Interview [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #65 of the Fight for a Happy Life martial arts podcast. In this episode, we welcome back Sifu Matt Ember, long-time student and teacher of Kung Fu San Soo. You’ll remember Sifu Matt from a couple of videos on this website— Self-Defense Against a Bigger, Stronger Opponent One Tip to Learn Martial... The post #65: Matt Ember Interview [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #64 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast. This episode is a wisdom-packed conversation with martial artist Ritchie Yip. Ritchie is the founder and head instructor of InFighting Training Centers based in Vancouver, BC. He also has a growing YouTube channel loaded with helpful content on fitness, kickboxing, and Brazilian Jiu... The post #64: Ritchie Yip Interview [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #63 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “True Confidence.” The secret to building confidence really isn’t a secret at all. The roots of confidence will always be preparation and experience. But… is that it? Is it possible to reach an even deeper level of faith in your capabilities… a level... The post #63: True Confidence [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #62 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast. In this episode, I had the privilege of chatting with Stephan Kesting, founder of: Grapplearts.com Self-Defense Tutorials.com and The Strenuous Life Podcast You may also recognize Stephan from some videos we’ve made together. How to Escape a Rear Naked Choke How to Take... The post #62: Stephan Kesting Interview [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #61 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “My Greatest Workout Tip!” Here it is… my greatest workout tip. It took me 48 years to figure it out, but better late than never! No matter how you choose to exercise—martial arts, yoga, weights, running—I believe this simple advice will change the... The post #61: My Greatest Workout Tip [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #60 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “I Don’t Know!” The greatest battle in the martial arts might be with your own ego. At least it is for me! Here’s an embarrassing story from my past where my ego won… and I lost because of it! To LISTEN to, “I... The post #60: I Don’t Know! [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #59 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast. In this episode, I catch up with Sifu TW Smith, owner of TW Smith’s Martial Arts Center and the host of one of my favorite martial arts programs, Kung Fu Podcasts. I can’t believe it took me so long to finally sit down... The post #59: TW Smith Interview [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #58 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast. In this episode, I catch up with Sifu Randy Brown of Randy Brown Mantis Boxing. You may remember Sifu Randy from a couple of videos we made together. In case you missed them, here are the links… Tips to Manage Distance in a... The post #58: Randy Brown Interview [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #57 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Wonder Woman and Superman.” What does it take to be a hero in today’s world? Not an easy question! Modern culture offers us a wide range of messages… and I’m sick of it! So, join me for a rant that I hope will... The post #57: Wonder Woman and Superman [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #56 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “A Religious Experience.” You never know when you might have a religious experience… or when you might be the cause of one! Join Ando in a discussion all about martial arts and reading signs from the universe. To LISTEN to, “A Religious Experience,”... The post #56: A Religious Experience [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #55 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “I Want You to Fail!” If you want to learn martial arts, then from the bottom of my heart—I want you to fail! Like it or not, failing is the only way to become a master. Unfortunately, our ego usually doesn’t agree! In... The post #55: I Want You to Fail! [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #54 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Facing a Death Threat.” What would you do if someone threatened your life? Would you be prepared to fight? Would you be able to walk away? Would you have the wisdom to know the difference between a real threat and an idle threat?... The post #54: Facing a Death Threat [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #53 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Are You a Martial Arts Zombie?” When we sign up for martial arts, we’re filled with passion and purpose. But how long does that last? One day, you find yourself showing up to class, going through motions, and have no idea if you’re... The post #53: Are You a Martial Arts Zombie? [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #52 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Martial Artists Are Weirdos.” Martial artists are not normal people… and that’s okay! In this episode, let’s take a closer look at what makes martial arts (and the people who practice them!) a little unusual. You can watch the video summary here or... The post #52: Martial Artists Are Weirdos [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #51 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast. In this episode, I sit down for an interview with Mr. Jeremy Lesniak. If you don’t know Jeremy, he is a lifelong martial artist as well as the founder of Whistlekick Sparring Gear and Apparel. Jeremy is also the host of Whistlekick Martial... The post #51: Jeremy Lesniak Interview [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #50 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Catching a Thief.” I live a pretty quiet life. So, when I got the chance to help catch a thief, I felt like Batman! In this episode, I share the story and the lessons learned about self-defense and living a happy life. To... The post #50: Catching a Thief [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #49 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Wining and Losing in the Martial Arts.” In the martial arts, winning can mean life and losing can mean death… but some martial artists seem to forget that. Or maybe just want to! In this episode, I share my thoughts on how to... The post #49: Winning and Losing in the Martial Arts [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #48: Practice Time Tips for Martial Arts Mastery [Podcast] 25:00
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Welcome to Episode #48 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Practice Time Tips for Martial Arts Mastery.” How much time do you spend practicing martial arts? Is it enough to become a master? In this episode, I share two pieces of advice to help anyone make the most of their practice time. To... The post #48: Practice Time Tips for Martial Arts Mastery [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #47 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Whining and Complaining.” Okay, I admit it—I like to talk. But if you ever catch me whining and complaining, do me a favor and slap me in the face! But before you do, give me one chance to whine and complain about people... The post #47: Whining and Complaining [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #46 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Think for Yourself.” Are you a leader or a follower? Do you go with the flow or think for yourself? Be warned—these are two very different ways to live your life. For me, only one will lead you to success in the martial... The post #46: Think for Yourself [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #45 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Self-Doubt in the Martial Arts.” Do you suck at martial arts? Do you ever feel like you’re wasting your time practicing all those fancy moves? Be warned! When it comes to success in self-defense or any part of life, doubting yourself won’t just... The post #45: Self-Doubt in the Martial Arts [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #44 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Black Belt Diet Tips.” Food can be our best friend… or our worst enemy! It took me years to figure out how to maintain a diet that would help me, not hurt me. So, if you’re interested in my journey to become a... The post #44: Black Belt Diet Tips [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #43 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “The Bully Handshake.” I got my hand crushed by a bully handshake once… and the pain taught me a lesson about self-defense and self-empowerment that I’ll never forget. Whether you train in the martial arts or not, I think you’ll find this lesson... The post #43: The Bully Handshake [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

1 #42: Relax! The Worst Advice in Martial Arts [Podcast + Video] 27:41
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Welcome to Episode #42 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Relax! The Worst Advice in Martial Arts.” We all hear about the negative effects of stress, but what about the negative effects of relaxation? Is there a dark side to taking it easy? In this episode, a story about how being “chill” almost... The post #42: Relax! The Worst Advice in Martial Arts [Podcast + Video] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #41 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Back to Basics.” What did piano lessons teach me about being a better martial artist? A lot! In this episode, I share a few tips for building a better life by doing more of less, instead of less of more! To LISTEN to,... The post #41: Back to Basics [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #40 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Change Your Pants, Change Your Life.” In this episode, I share a powerful lesson in success I learned from an unlikely teacher… a homeless man. To LISTEN to, “Change Your Pants, Change Your Life”, you can either: Play or Download the show below.... The post #40: Change Your Pants, Change Your Life! [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #39 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “The Crazy Critic.” Advice is cheap. We all get it, we all give it. But let me ask you something… Are you a smart critic or a crazy critic? Seriously—do you give good advice that improves people’s lives or bad advice that just... The post #39: The Crazy Critic [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #38 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “The Perfect Sparring Partner.” Let’s face it—if you want to be a great martial artist, you can’t train alone… you need training partners. The more, the better! But what kind of person will make you the best you can be? Hint—it may not... The post #38: The Perfect Sparring Partner [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #37 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Spirit First.” As martial artists, we all train to be smart and skilled. But when it comes to self-defense, that may not be enough to save your life! You still need fighting spirit! Inspired by the instruction of Shotokan Karate founder, Gichin Funakoshi,... The post #37: Spirit First [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #36 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Secret Techniques.” Myths, legends, and secret techniques… the martial arts are full of them. But is any of that stuff for real? Join me as I venture into the hidden chambers to decode the secret scrolls that hold the ancient formula for success... The post #36: Secret Techniques [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #35 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Can You Really Fight?” Martial artists love to debate over what works in real life and what doesn’t. But no matter what style you choose, or which techniques you believe in, there’s an even bigger question that needs to be answered— Can you... The post #35: Can You Really Fight? [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #34 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Two Big Lies in Martial Arts.” The martial arts are full of myth and mystery… and a few outright lies! In this episode, I reveal the truth behind two big lies in the martial arts. These two lies will hold you back from... The post #34: Two Big Lies In Martial Arts [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #33 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Smaller Slower Weaker.” Ever feel that you’re not big enough to stand up to the big guys? Not fast enough? Strong enough? Me, too! It’s easy to feel intimidated, frustrated, and overwhelmed… not just in a martial arts class, but in every part... The post #33: Smaller Slower Weaker [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #32 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Lazy Lying Losers.” Ask anyone if they’re trying their best and they’ll probably say yes… but are they really? As a teacher, I’d say most students do NOT try their best. As a student, I’d say most teachers do NOT try their best,... The post #32: Lazy Lying Losers [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #31 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Staring Down Success.” Choosing a goal is one thing. Accomplishing a goal is another. Life is full of distractions, complications, and obstacles. Some of them are out there… and some are inside of you! How many times have you flinched in the face... The post #31: Staring Down Success [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #30 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Ignorance and Arrogance.” Look, I’m not the world’s smartest guy. In fact, every day offers me reminders of how much I don’t know! But ignorance is something I can accept about myself. What I can’t accept, however, is arrogance. When I hear people... The post #30: Ignorance and Arrogance [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #29 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Meditation Tips.” Meditation is a powerful way to change your life, but many people turn away from meditating because they think it’s too difficult, too complex, or just too weird. I understand completely! With so many different schools of thought about meditation out... The post #29: Meditation Tips [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #28 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Lessons from Getting Beaten Up.” If you’re a dedicated martial artist, you know what it’s like to get battered, bruised, and beaten up. It may sound a little crazy, but that’s actually a good thing! Here’s the honest truth—some things in life can... The post #28: Lessons from Getting Beaten Up [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #27 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, featuring Part 2 of my interview with longtime martial artist and fighter, JD Mierzwa. If you missed Part 1 of our conversation, you can find it here: “#26: JD Mierzwa – Part 1.” Part 2 goes even deeper into the topics of violence,... The post #27: JD Mierzwa – Part 2 [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #26 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, featuring Part 1 of my interview with JD Mierzwa. JD is a former bouncer, professional kickboxer, underground street fighter, cage fighter, prison guard, and sheriff. Currently, he’s a fitness trainer and MMA coach. He also happens to be my brother! Listen in as... The post #26: JD Mierzwa – Part 1 [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #25 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “The Secret to Staying Positive.” We all know that positive thinking is critical for building a happy life. But being positive and staying positive in a world full of stress and strife is easier said than done! In this show, Ando discusses how... The post #25: The Secret to Staying Positive [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #24 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Facing Death.” Facing death is a necessary requirement to be a complete martial artist. But what may surprise you is that it’s also a requirement for living a happy life! Not sure why? Then listen in as we discuss the lessons we can... The post #24: Facing Death [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #23 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Mind and Muscle in Self-Defense.” With the popularity of combat sports like MMA and BJJ, it’s easy to think that every martial artist must also be an elite athlete. But that’s not true at all! Sure, you can get into great shape through... The post #23: Mind and Muscle in Self-Defense [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #22 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “How To Be a Master.” Many students seem to believe that just showing up to class is enough to become a master. But it’s not! The truth is even if you show up and work hard, you’re not guaranteed to become a martial... The post #22: How To Be a Master [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #21 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Just Let Go… and Win!” Holding on to your dreams can be the key to success…or the road to ruin! How can you tell when to keep fighting and when to just let go? In this episode, we break down the differences between... The post #21: Just Let Go…and Win! [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #20 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, Sparring and Self-Defense! When it comes to self-defense, complaining won’t save you. Neither will quitting. In self-defense, you have to take action to protect yourself. Well, guess what? The same is true for dealing with a bad sparring partner! This episode reveals a... The post #20: Sparring and Self-Defense [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #19 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, 7 Lessons from Bruce Lee. Bruce Lee is probably responsible for more people signing up for martial arts classes than anyone else in history. And I’m one of them! In this show, I share seven lessons from Bruce’s notebook, the Tao of Jeet... The post #19: 7 Lessons From Bruce Lee appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #18 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast with special guest, John Hackleman! In a world of posers and wanna-bes, John Hackleman is the real deal. He doesn’t just “do” martial arts, he lives martial arts. So, when I got the chance to sit down with the Pit Master himself, I... The post #18: John Hackleman Interview [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #17 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, The Language of Success. Most of us take how we communicate with the world for granted…which can lead us to failure or even put us in danger! Join Sensei Ando for a discussion on how to avoid being misunderstood and for easy ways... The post #17: The Language of Success [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #16 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, How to Get Things Done! Setting goals is one thing…finishing them is another! What keeps us from accomplishing everything we set out to do? No more stalling! No more procrastinating! Listen in as we talk about how to finish strong and how to... The post #16: How to Get Things Done [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #15 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, Injuries Are Good For You. Everyone suffers from pain and injuries. But how much you suffer is up to you! In this episode, we talk about the attitudes that hold us back when injuries and obstacles interrupt our journey to success. Is it... The post #15: Injuries Are Good For You [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #14 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, Faith in Your Fight. We all lead lives of faith of one kind or another. But how often do we put our faith to the test? Are your beliefs helping or holding you back on the road to success? In the martial arts,... The post #14: Faith In Your Fight [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #13 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, Paranoia Into Power. The world can be a scary place. You watch the news, read the headlines, and face your own strong of disappointments and disasters. Some days, the bad vibes can be so overwhelming you may not even want to leave your... The post #13: Paranoia into Power [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #12 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, The Blonde Haired Warrior. Once upon a time, I was awakened in the middle of the night by a blood-curdling scream. I ran outside to discover a young, blonde haired woman— a brave blonde haired woman— whose actions that night taught me many... The post #12: The Blonde Haired Warrior [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #11 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, Are You a One Trick Pony? You may be really good at what you do, but what happens when other people are just as good… or better? The fact is that trying your best doesn’t mean you always win. But does that mean... The post #11: Are You a One Trick Pony? [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #10 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, Greatest Self-Defense Weapon. People always ask me, “What’s the greatest self-defense weapon?” They’re always surprised when I tell them the best self-defense weapon is already in their possession, doesn’t require a permit, and never needs sharpening or reloading. So, what is it? Give... The post #10: Greatest Self-Defense Weapon [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to Episode #9 of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, Smash Through the Maze! Setting goals is simple…but reaching goals can be complicated! You might feel lost in a maze of obstacles. You might even want to give up. But before you fall to the ground and claw at the dirt to bury... The post #9: Smash Through the Maze [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to the eighth episode of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Surprise: The Way to Win.” The original meaning of the word surprise is to attack or capture suddenly. I’d call that a sucker punch! We discussed the “dark side” of surprise in Sucker Punched by Life. Now it’s time to talk about... The post #8: Surprise: The Way to Win [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to the seventh episode of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, Make Peace with Violence. Day after day, the headlines bring us stories of violence. The grief and outrage that result can be overwhelming… but it shouldn’t be! Join Sensei Ando as he discusses how violence shapes our lives and how to keep... The post #7: Make Peace with Violence [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to the sixth episode of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, The Invisible Path to Success. Do you ever feel you have nothing to show for all your hard work? Do you ever feel that successful people are just born that way? And that others, no matter how hard they try, are never... The post #6: The Invisible Path to Success [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to the fifth episode of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, Tips for the Little Guy! Ever feel like the little guy? Ever feel like you don’t have a chance against the big guys? Then this show is for you! Drawing inspiration from the humble bumblebee, Ando covers six tips and tactics to... The post #5: Tips for the Little Guy [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to the fourth episode of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, “Your Right to Fight.” No matter how smart you are, or whose advice you listen to, you’ll never be truly happy until you embrace your right to fight. This show is all about giving yourself the permission to do whatever it takes... The post #4: Your Right to Fight [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to the third episode of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, Sucker Punched By Life. In this show, we talk about — POW! — being sucker punched! No matter how much we try to eat healthy, stay fit, make smart investments, and connect with reliable people, life has a way of sneaking up... The post #3: Sucker Punched By Life [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to the second episode of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, Win Every Argument. Do you find yourself arguing with friends and family all the time? Do you avoid arguments at all costs? Do you think arguing is just a huge waste of time? Like it or not, argument is part of life.... The post #2: Win Every Argument [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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Fight for a Happy Life with Sensei Ando: Martial Arts for Everyday Life

Welcome to the first episode of the Fight for a Happy Life podcast, Are You a Fighter? In this show, I introduce myself (Hi there!) and the goal of spreading the wisdom of the martial arts to anyone and everyone. We then dive into the question of how we react when life blocks our pursuit... The post #1: Are You a Fighter? [Podcast] appeared first on Sensei Ando .…
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