Welcome to the Desire on Fire podcast! (Formerly With Pleasure) We're Aimee Batuski and Ellie Montgomerie, intimacy experts and two best friends on a mission to help YOU put pleasure first and own your feminine power. If you are ready to become a powerful agent of change, who allows your desires to lead the way as you step into a whole new world of freedom, manifestation, and ease, then you're in the right place! On this podcast we interview friends, lovers, experts, and thought leaders to r ...
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094: Gender Dynamics in Modern Relationships & on Netflix
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On this week’s podcast episode, Ellie, Rob and Aimee dive into a conversation that invites us to take a deeper look into everyday relationship dynamics. From sharing hard-earned wisdom from our own journeys, to dissecting the patterns we see playing out in the popular show "Nobody Wants This," to questionable dynamics we’ve observed on social media…
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It’s the end of an era. One year ago, we had no idea this was coming. And today, it seems like the most obvious thing in the world. The chapter of Desire on Fire is coming to an end. And with this death, comes an exciting and powerful re-birth. We have been going through such an intense metamorphosis over the last year, both personally and professi…
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Hey, beautiful souls! This week’s episode feels vulnerable, yet important, to share with all of you. I, Aimee, am letting you in on the intimate journey I’ve been on that’s led me to decide to have a cosmetic surgery procedure. I’m revealing my fears, feelings, and perspective-changes along the way, that led me to finally gifting myself something I…
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091: Baby Blessing Ceremonies— Everything you Need to Know
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Hi Desire on Fire fam! Ellie here. This week’s episode is all about celebrating new beginnings, because we're diving deep into something you may have seen us share online and wondered about: the beautiful world of baby blessing ceremonies. This episode is inspired by the baby blessing Aimee recently hosted for me, as I enter the 3rd trimester and m…
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The last 8 months have been a season of massive transformation for Ellie and her inner circle, and in this week’s solo episode, she dives deep into sharing the juicy revelations she’s been having since her second pregnancy began last fall. She shares some of the BTS of her pregnancy journey– including the wild details of the conception, and how thi…
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Hey Desire on Fire fam, Aimee here! In March I attended ISTA level 2 (a deep, shamanic, initiatory training) in Bali, and I’m finally ready to share with you about it. This training was intense, forcing me to face my protective mechanisms (especially with men), my fear of rejection, and my deep yearning to be loved, chosen, claimed and taken by a m…
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088: Beyond the Basics: Diving Deeper into Polarity (Part 2)
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Picking up where we left off in our last episode on polarity, Aimee and Ellie are diving deep into the trenches of their own journeys. We'll be sharing the nitty-gritty struggles (and the unexpected breakthroughs!) that comes from embracing your feminine energy. Forget the outdated housewife stereotype – this is about trading in the gotta-do-it-all…
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087: Mastering Polarity for Deeper Connections with Men
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The term “polarity” gets thrown around a lot… but have you ever wondered what it actually means, and why it matters?! In this episode, we break down our perspective and experience, and share examples of how our practice with empowered polarity is changing our relationships– and why we believe it’s the KEY to hot, harmonious relationships with men! …
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We’ve been cooking up something new for you. A whole new frequency. A new transmission. A new level of reality. And it’s all been Spirit-guided. The fruits of a whole lotta inner-work labor over the last year— a total death & rebirth... Shedding deeper layers of programming than we ever have before – so that we can be more ourselves, more free, liv…
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085: Unveiling the King's Code: A Deep Dive into Rob’s Story!
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This week, we have a very special, long-awaited episode for you. We sat down with Rob Montgomerie to finally get his story out into the world (this is part 1 of a multi-part series)! Up until now, Rob has been a private person, happily serving behind-the-scenes, coaching leaders of some of the most powerful companies in the world. You may not be aw…
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084: The Path to Financial Freedom with Penelope Jane Smith
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Hey there, welcome back to the Desire on Fire podcast! Today's episode is a bit of a departure from our typical topics, but an important one! This week we’re diving into talking about money, abundance, and financial freedom, topics that go hand-in-hand with living a life led by your deepest desires, and expanding into a life of abundance and fulfil…
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083: Part 2: Pulling Back the Curtain with Ellie’s Husband Rob
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Dive into an episode where vulnerability meets transformation, and authenticity challenges the status quo. Aimee and Ellie, joined by Ellie's insightful husband, Rob, peel back the layers of their personal and professional journeys, revealing the raw, unedited truths that lie beneath the surface. They touch on moments of struggle and the deep, ofte…
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082: Pulling Back the Curtain with Ellie’s Husband Rob
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We are BACK with a very special episode series for you!! If you’ve been plugged into our community for the last six months or so, you’re probably aware that we’ve been going through a major metamorphosis over here at Desire on Fire. Releasing scarcity, fear and control so we can open to being held by and receiving from the masculine on a wholeee ne…
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081: Healing + Honoring Masculinity with Jordan Candlish
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To listen to Jordan Candlish now, you might never guess he was once an ambitious ladder-climber in the corporate accounting world. To the outside world, he was the picture of success: achievement, stability, recognition. But deep down, he knew that staying in that world and doing things the way everyone else did them was actually playing small and …
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080: From Sideline Skeptic to Embracing Aliveness with Makayla Davis
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In today’s episode we sat down with our client and a college friend of Aimee’s, Makayla Davis. She’s in one of our all-time favorite photos taken at a Desire On Fire Live event. She’s crying, fully immersed in a private moment of reckoning, and she’s holding the hand of her good friend. It’s an image that perfectly encapsulates what we do and why w…
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079: How Attending the Desire on Fire Experience Transformed My Marriage with Prudence Stein-Greene
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We love to hear from our community, and we love to share stories and breakthroughs with you! This work all happens inside of real lives… and there’s no better way to understand its transformative power than hearing directly from the women who have been through our programs and events. Last year, Prudence Stein-Greene was a successful real estate ag…
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078: Recovering from Shame + Coming Home to Yourself, with Stefanos Sifandos
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Have you ever had a moment in your life when all your pain and accompanying coping mechanisms finally caught up with you? When you finally saw with total clarity that if you wanted to be able to have any kind of happiness in life, you’d have to face that pain and find healing? Our guest today is the relationship and intimacy coach Stefanos Sifandos…
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077: What’s New in Work, Love + Life in Austin with Aimee + Ellie
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We’ve taken a break from our podcast lately — not because we don’t love it, but because we realized we just needed to pull back on some aspects of the business to make room for all the change that’s been swirling around us. So today we’re back, and we’re sharing a deep-dive conversation about what’s been going on in the business, in our relationshi…
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076: Healing Religious Trauma and Creating Sexual Freedom
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One of the things that consistently brings women into the Desire On Fire community is shame. Shame around sex for sure — wanting it, knowing what you want, asking out loud for what you want (often the most difficult and vulnerable part of our journey). But it’s not just about sexual shame. It’s also about shame around all kinds of desire — for any …
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075: “Where Are All the Good Men?” with Kevin Hermann
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You know how we love to invite men onto our podcast, and today’s guest brings a ton of depth, insight, and honesty around the male perspective. Kevin Hermann is a highly skilled and experienced coach, specializing in business, leadership, and life coaching. He’s led over 25 in-person retreats (that’s a LOT of retreats!!). But so much more than all …
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074: Inner Circle Q&A Call: How to Recognize When You’re Playing Games— and Stop for Good
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We’ve got another incredible Inner Circle Q&A call for you today! As so often happens, there is a common thread that winds its way through all these powerful shares today. Whether it’s being a caretaker for an ailing family member, dealing with old patterns in your family dynamics, navigating the fear and tenderness of a new relationship, or living…
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073: How Expressing Your Anger Opens You to Real Love, with Tanai Milgram
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In her “before doing the work” life, this is what Tanai Milgram said about herself: My whole life, I was so proud that no guy ever hurt me, that I was always the one to run away or catch the asshole before he hurt me. She’d left a trail of dozens of broken hearts in her wake … but she felt more alone and angry than ever. Like a lot of girls, Tanai …
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072: Toys, Anal, and Shameless Sex with Amy Baldwin + April Lampert
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It’s not every day you hear about someone getting her start in the world of sexual education by opening up a sex shop with her mom — but if there’s one word to describe our guests today, it’s definitely “unconventional.” Amy Baldwin is a Certified Sexuality Educator with a degree in Psychology and a minor in Human Sexuality from San Francisco State…
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071: How to Stay Connected to Others as You Change + Grow
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Today we’re giving you another peek behind-the-scenes, into a call with some of our inner circle clients. And there must be something in the air, because this call definitely seemed to have a theme: navigating unknowns, holding tension in the in-between, and nurturing connection in our existing relationships as we’re changing. Here’s something that…
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070: Pleasure, Sex + Happiness at Any Age, with Laurie Handlers
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If you’ve ever felt yourself buying into the cultural idea that sexiness, play, and pleasure fizzle after a certain age … then stop everything you’re doing and listen to this episode! Today we’re thrilled to have Tantra expert and international bestselling author Laurie Handlers on the show, and what an incredible conversation this is. Laurie is fu…
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We’re doing something we’ve never done on the podcast before! We know that real sisterhood is medicine. The vulnerability, the intimacy, the no-BS reflections — this is the stuff that heals, expands, and empowers like nothing else. The Inner Circle is a paid membership for women that have been working with us for years: graduates of our Pleasure Ma…
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068: A Deep Dive with Yoni Whisperer Shaft Uddin
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Today we’re diving deep with the sexy, playful Shaft Uddin! At Desire on Fire, we always say that healing one area of your life never stays in that one area. That’s why when you work on expanding your desire, pleasure, and connection in your sex life, you find yourself with more of all of that in the rest of your life, too. You begin to see powerfu…
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We’re back after a 2-month hiatus from podcasting, blogging, promo-ing, and social media … and we’re feeling GREAT. A lot has changed in those two months. Like a LOT. For one, we (Aimee, Ellie, Rob, and Bear) left LA and are now all living together in Austin, TX. And that’s just the tip of the massive change iceberg. Throughout the last several mon…
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066: Balancing Business and a New Baby with Boss Mama Mel Wells
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If you’re an ambitious woman like our guest today (and like both Aimee and Ellie), you might know how easy it is to confuse your work with your worth. It’s so easy to get caught up in hustle and the masculine energy of go go go that we forget ourselves — our bodies, our desires, our wellbeing. The feminine path isn’t just about appreciating our ama…
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065: Deep Dive into the Erotic Blueprints with Danielle Hatton
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Have you ever wished there was a 5 Love Languages … but for sex? You know: a way to know what nourishes you in the bedroom, what turns you on (and off), what turns your partner on (and off), what would lead to the most fulfilling, most satisfying sex you could possibly have. That’s what the Erotic Blueprints deliever! When you know your erotic blue…
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064: Next Level Life, Next Level Wardrobe — a Workshop with Celebrity Stylist Elissa Williams
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Are you hiding your true personal style “in the closet”? What are you denying your true style desires — because you feel like they’re too much, or not enough, or that your body isn’t “right” enough yet to wear what you want to wear? Celebrity stylist Elissa Williams (and stylist for Aimee and Ellie at the Desire on Fire Experience!) believes fashio…
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063: All the Details of Aimee’s RelationSHIFT with Alex
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We know many of you have been following Aimee’s unconventional adventures with Alex over the last three months. From the Tantra retreat that was their first date to the 10 days in Australia that was their second, nothing about Aimee and Alex’s experience has been ordinary. Their chemistry was palpable right off the bat, their connection felt real, …
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062: Doing Less, Living Cyclically + Experiencing More “Yum” With Kate Northrup
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In our culture, we tend to think of “success” as linear, and we measure it by “more” — more money, more stuff, bigger numbers, more followers, more work. But when we look at the natural world, we don’t see linearity anywhere. It’s ALL seasons and cycles. Rest + work. Growing + birthing. Sowing + harvest. So … why do we insist on running our lives b…
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061: Unhooking From Body Judgment & Embracing Our Beauty with Danielle Hatton
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If you met Danielle, you’d see an absolutely gorgeous, vivacious woman. And if you spent any amount of time talking to her, you’d immediately notice her depth, her curiosity, and her natural healing energy. But like so many of us, she’s spent a lifetime dealing with the shadow of body insecurity — picking up on societal messages, mirroring her own …
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060: Behind-The-Scenes With Aimee And Ellie: The Highs And Lows Of Creating The Desire On Fire Experience
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One of the foundational values of the work we do, and the work we love guiding other women through, is radical honesty. And both of us have realized recently that we need to reconnect with this value when it comes to our struggles trying to “make it happen” with the upcoming Desire on Fire Live event at the end of October. Because here’s the deal: …
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059: You Haven’t ‘Lost’ Your Libido, and It’s Not More Orgasms You’re Actually Craving: Radical Honesty & Real Sexual Healing with Elena Rossi
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In her early 20s, Elena Rossi spent 7 years dealing with chronic vaginal pain, yeast infections, and UTIs. She saw 22 doctors, tried all kinds of meds and creams — and nothing was working. The pain was actually getting worse. In all her visits to doctors of all kinds, all the questions were about her body. No one ever asked her about her relationsh…
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058: How to Live Your Human Design as a Projector with Ellie & Christen Hillmer
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If you’re a Projector (or you have Projectors in your life and you want to understand/support them better) — then today’s episode is for you! In this conversation, Ellie connects with Christen Hillmer, a coach and healer who is part of Desire on Fire community. She’s a recent graduate of our Apprenticeship Program— and she also happens to be a Proj…
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057: Getting Honest About the Light & Shadow of the Body-Positivity Movement with Rinsha Ballani
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Is it possible to truly, genuinely, passionately love your body … AND also want to change it? Does desiring change mean you don’t fully accept your body? In a cultural movement that’s all about cultivating self-love, it can actually feel weird and shameful to want to change our bodies — whether it’s by losing weight, gaining weight, working out, co…
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056: Good News: You Literally Can’t F*ck This Up, With Jamie King
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In early 2020, Jamie King was a rising star — an overnight sensation in the biz marketing world, landing 6-figure months like it was nothing and living in the limelight. She was also falling apart — stretched way too thin, trying to be everything to everyone, traveling all the time, doing constant hustle + grind when what she really desired was to …
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Waiting for Bear’s arrival involved months of preparation for Ellie and her husband Rob. They had a plan for a natural birth at home, including hiring a midwife and doula, taking special birthing classes, and creating a birthing plan (complete with playlists!). Then … the birth happened. And Bear, it seems, definitely had some different ideas about…
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054: Opening Up to Conscious Non-Monogamy with Jessica Esfandiary
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Our culture often tells one story about how relationships are “supposed” to look. It can be hard for us to feel into possibilities beyond the traditional cultural understanding of monogamy. Non-monogamy is often portrayed as selfish, or as one partner caving to the wishes of the other — like the trope of the woman who begrudgingly agrees to a three…
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053: Healing Your Pussy Shame with Kara Baruzzini
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Almost no experience is so universal and so painful to women as shame about our bodies. And for millions of women, the shame about our vulvas is one of the deepest wounds we feel. Many of us have a moment where we felt that something was wrong or broken about our pussies: we didn’t look like the images we saw porn we internalized disparaging commen…
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052: Good-bye Good Girl, with Tanner and Maci Shelden
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To hear Maci Shelden talk today, you might never imagine where she was in her early 20s: playing the part, hanging out and drinking with high school and college friends, always bending over backwards for everyone, trying so hard to get it right and be a good girl. Underneath it all, she felt lonely and disconnected, like she was always pretending o…
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051: Powerful & Sexy Money-Manifesting with Gina Swire
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If you’re ready to seriously up your money-manifesting mojo, then you are going to LOVE today’s episode with the incomparable and magnetic Gina Swire! Gina is an internationally acclaimed self-love expert celebrated for her humorous and transformative speaking style and wildly popular self-love courses. And she understands — and powerfully embodies…
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050: Behind the Scenes of the Desire on Fire business — a Human Design Reading for Aimee and Ellie with Travis Day
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Things at Desire on Fire have been in HUGE flux this year. Have you felt it, too?! Ellie had her baby and took maternity leave. Aimee stepped into full-time management of the company while Ellie was away. Two new roles for both of them, both large and demanding in their own ways. They’ve also been feeling into something new in this time: there are …
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049: All the juicy details of Aimee's 7-day couples’ Tantra retreat with Alex Waters!
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A couple of weeks ago, I told you that I’d invited a guy I’d met once to join me for a 7-day tantra retreat for couples. I’d been wanting to go on another Tantra retreat for a while, and I felt so called to this retreat for couples, even though I’m not currently in a relationship. And then I felt pulled to invite Alex Waters, even though I barely k…
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048: Your feminine energy is rocket fuel for manifestation, with Kim Mellor
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My friend Kim Mellor is a total powerhouse. She’s a manifestation queen, a coach, a podcaster, a changer of lives. She was so used to harnessing her masculine side — the doer, the achiever, the get-er-done mentality. She had mastered mindset and business strategies for success. But she said she always felt like something was missing. There was a pa…
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047: Embracing Low Periods & Sobriety as a Key to Experiencing True Desire with Paige Wilhide
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We’re often conditioned to see an intense “down” — time of loss, grief, anger, struggle, jealousy, betrayal, stuck-ness — as something we need to get past as quickly as possible so we can get back to having fun and experiencing pleasure. Our culture says that feeling “up” is good and feeling “down” is bad, which can lead us to compulsive behaviors …
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046: Excavating Your Shadows with Adrian Ellison
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One of the biggest struggles of the personal/spiritual growth community right now is the tendency to trip into spiritual bypassing. The wounded parts of ourselves are too painful, so people default to nothing but “love and light!” Adrian Ellison is here to disrupt that unhealthy tendency. She’s a modern-day medicine woman out of Austin TX who under…
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045: Staying Sexy While Parenting, with Megan Lambert & James Mattingley
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Staying emotionally, physically, sexually, and spiritually intimate is challenging enough for any of us, at any time in life. But add to that mix a newborn — with the sleep deprivation, body changes, constant outflow of energy and limited inflow, and the vulnerability of needing so many new things and making so many adjustments — and the dance of i…
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