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Ep. 189 Quiet Wins

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Heidi Benjaminsen Coaching and Heidi Benjaminsen에서 제공하는 콘텐츠입니다. 에피소드, 그래픽, 팟캐스트 설명을 포함한 모든 팟캐스트 콘텐츠는 Heidi Benjaminsen Coaching and Heidi Benjaminsen 또는 해당 팟캐스트 플랫폼 파트너가 직접 업로드하고 제공합니다. 누군가가 귀하의 허락 없이 귀하의 저작물을 사용하고 있다고 생각되는 경우 여기에 설명된 절차를 따르실 수 있습니다 https://ko.player.fm/legal.

Key Points:

  • Host Heidi Benjaminsen discusses the importance of "quiet wins" - personal victories in emotional life and relationships that often go unnoticed
  • These wins build confidence and strengthen family relationships, even when others don't explicitly acknowledge them

Notable Quiet Wins Discussed:

  • Staying calm and curious during difficult conversations, especially with children
  • Not participating in gossip or spreading private information about others
  • Declining invitations/opportunities that don't align with your values or energy
  • Resisting the urge to correct or give unsolicited advice, especially to children
  • Allowing others (particularly children) to manage their own responsibilities
  • Speaking positively to yourself after failures or setbacks
  • Apologizing without casting blame on others
  • Making responsible financial decisions, even when unsexy or invisible
  • Remaining non-defensive when facing criticism or belittling comments
  • Maintaining a positive attitude after committing to help, even if reluctant
  • Disengaging from negative discussions without feeling compelled to respond
  • Being direct about important issues while maintaining professionalism
  • Avoiding guilt trips with teens/young adults when they decline family activities

Key Takeaway: While these wins may be quiet, their impact is significant - they build trust, strengthen relationships, and develop personal integrity. As Heidi emphasizes, "A confident mother is the greatest gift to her family - not a perfect mother."

Sign up for a consult call here.

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Heidi Benjaminsen Coaching and Heidi Benjaminsen에서 제공하는 콘텐츠입니다. 에피소드, 그래픽, 팟캐스트 설명을 포함한 모든 팟캐스트 콘텐츠는 Heidi Benjaminsen Coaching and Heidi Benjaminsen 또는 해당 팟캐스트 플랫폼 파트너가 직접 업로드하고 제공합니다. 누군가가 귀하의 허락 없이 귀하의 저작물을 사용하고 있다고 생각되는 경우 여기에 설명된 절차를 따르실 수 있습니다 https://ko.player.fm/legal.

Key Points:

  • Host Heidi Benjaminsen discusses the importance of "quiet wins" - personal victories in emotional life and relationships that often go unnoticed
  • These wins build confidence and strengthen family relationships, even when others don't explicitly acknowledge them

Notable Quiet Wins Discussed:

  • Staying calm and curious during difficult conversations, especially with children
  • Not participating in gossip or spreading private information about others
  • Declining invitations/opportunities that don't align with your values or energy
  • Resisting the urge to correct or give unsolicited advice, especially to children
  • Allowing others (particularly children) to manage their own responsibilities
  • Speaking positively to yourself after failures or setbacks
  • Apologizing without casting blame on others
  • Making responsible financial decisions, even when unsexy or invisible
  • Remaining non-defensive when facing criticism or belittling comments
  • Maintaining a positive attitude after committing to help, even if reluctant
  • Disengaging from negative discussions without feeling compelled to respond
  • Being direct about important issues while maintaining professionalism
  • Avoiding guilt trips with teens/young adults when they decline family activities

Key Takeaway: While these wins may be quiet, their impact is significant - they build trust, strengthen relationships, and develop personal integrity. As Heidi emphasizes, "A confident mother is the greatest gift to her family - not a perfect mother."

Sign up for a consult call here.

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