The Tough First Year of Marriage and Business with Aaron & Olivia Alba

Purpose Pro Podcast

Marriage is a lot like business.

Some days you're on top of the world, and laughs and successes abound at every turn…

Then another, you're angry and ready to give up due to a joke that went too far or a day that didn't go quite right.

Or some days, your spouse is staring at you, trying to cram that one last suitcase into the car before you are off on that road trip…

Then others, you wish you were left behind at the office or home altogether.

Or…

The list could go on.

Because whether we like it or not, relationships are messy, and life NEVER goes quite how we plan it out to.

People fail, our ideas don't pan out, those peaceful meetings turn into fights, we lose money, and we might end up sleeping on the couch.

It happens to everyone.

And I mean everyone.

So how do we gather enough to weather through the tough days and push through to the days that bear fruit?

Whether that be the white picket fence with little ones running around or having that thriving organization living out our wildest dreams.

Well, for Season 5's finale, we have a drive-in double feature on both with a special treat.

Our cohost Aaron Alba has talked a lot about hilariously bad ideas or balancing passions and work. But today, we dive through the business - marriage parallels with his favorite guest he's maybe ever had, his wife, Olivia!

Aaron and Olivia had just made it through their first year of marriage right around the time of this filming. Ironically, both had also stepped out to start their own businesses.

With so many difficult days behind them and ahead, our lead Joe and previous guest Tyler take Aaron and Olivia through the gauntlet.

How did their first year of marriage compare to "unsuccessfully" launching businesses?

What strategies did they use to lean into and onto each other instead of away?

How do you balance a full plate of responsibilities, strengths, and weaknesses while also trying to continue to choose each other? Even when it's next to "impossible."

To dive into these answers and maybe get reminded of your own first year of marriage or business, check out the episode and laugh obnoxiously with us!

Afterward, please leave a review with us and let Aaron and Olivia know how fun it was to avoid hurdles of your own from what has to be the wildest first year of marriage we've heard of!

And PS,

From our team to you, thank you for riding along with us these first 5 seasons. We so truly appreciate each and every one of you! We have had a blast and cannot wait for what's to come!

Quotes and Highlights from the Episode

-" You think you are doing the right thing, and then you realize you're not." -Aaron Alba

-" We're in this for the long haul." -Aaron Alba

"It is healthy to talk about most things, but it's not healthy to talk about everything." -Olivia Alba

19:00-"Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, but the best way to get over that

-"Sometimes the simplest, most effective things are the simplest, most effective things." -Coach Mark Rogers

-"Listen more and talk less." - Aaron Alba

-"I wouldn't tell him what was wrong, I would just be irritable. (Listen more, speak more)" -Olivia Alba

-"Sometimes the best way to step into your passion is to slow down and be honest and be vulnerable." - Aaron Alba

-"The idea of excellence was more important than actually being excellent." -Aaron Alba

-"When you romanticize or idolize perfection for yourself it puts unhealthy expectations on other people." - Aaron Alba

"Why are you expecting 30 year results in year 1?" -Eric Mejia

"To get there is going to take longer than you anticipated." -Joe Elliott

-"Trying to lead a sheep with legs only on one half of its body." -Olivia Alba

-"It's not about being right anymore." -Olivia Alba

-"In business, be Olivia … Be the person that says I'm gonna work my butt off and I'm not gonna figure it out today, and probably not tomorrow, but I know I'm going to get there." -Aaron Alba

"It's really easy to look at [your spouse or partner] and say, you're in my way." -Tyler Schuetze

-"Either you change, adapt, and maneuver or you don't last." -Tyler Schuetze

-"There is a lot of resetting … sitting down every 3 months and changing everything." -Olivia Alba

-"95% of your best is still not 100%… let's pivot a little bit [for that last 5%]." -Aaron Alba

-"True excellence comes from paddling water." -Aaron Alba

-"We just got to do today well." -Joe Elliott

Links

-Follow along with Olivia's hair business journey at @LivForHair on Instagram.

-Connect with Aaron on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/aaron-alba-b9931811b!

-Take our Purpose Quiz at PurposePro.Org to help you tap into being a better spouse and business owner!