EP 18: PLEASE RESPECT MY BOUNDARIES!!!

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Why you Should practice boundaries, and how a lack of boundary can lead to an abusive or toxic relationship.

Jane Collingwood says "setting clear boundaries is the key to ensuring relationships are mutually respectful, supportive, and caring. boundaries are a measure of self-esteem, and they set the limit for acceptable behavior from those around you.

Having no boundaries causes:

1. people to take advantage of you
2. you are in a vulnerable position at all times
3. you are taken for granted by others

Benefits of having boundaries:

1. DEVELOP SELF-RESPECT
2. YOU ARE TREATED WELL BY OTHERS
3. IT PROTECTS YOU FROM BEING EXPLOITED BY OTHERS
4. PREVENTS YOU FROM HOLDING ON TO RELATIONSHIP THAT DON’T HAVE YOUR BEST INTEREST AT HEART.

THINGS TO DO TO ESTABLISH BOUNDARIES:

1. SAY NO TO UNREASONABLE REQUESTS AND REASONABLE ONES FORM TIME TO TIME IF THEY CONFLICT WITH YOUR PLANS.
2. CHALLENGE ALL INSULTS THAT ARE MARKED AS HUMOR
3. DON’T MAKE YOURSELF AVAILABLE
4. LOOK AT WHY ARE YOU POPULAR WITH YOUR FRIENDS

HOW TO MAINTAIN YOUR NEW BOUNDARY:

1. WRITE DOWN YOUR BOUNDARIES
2. BE CONSISTENT
3. KEEP THEM SIMPLE.SUCH AS YOUR BODY, YOUR SENSE OF PERSONAL SELF, YOUR SEXUAL ORIENTATION.
4. STAY CALM
5. BE REASONABLE FOR YOUR OWN EMOTIONAL REACTIONS RATHER THAN BLAMING OTHERS.
6. IF YOU NEED TO COMPROMISE, BE FLEXIBLE, BUT TAKE IT SLOWLY, AND DON’T AGREE TO ANYTHING THAT DOESN’T FEEL RIGHT.

Go to breakthecycle.org/warning-signs to take the quiz for warning-signs. If you feel that you are in a toxic relationship or you noticed some signs but you are not sure, I want you to text, loveis to 22522 or call RAINN at 1800-656-4673 Take the healthy relationship quiz

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