Words Matter: Real Talk with Kyle Courtaway

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Kyle Courtaway has over 25 years of experience working in all areas of strategic talent management including succession planning, high potential identification, competency alignment, performance management systems, executive coaching, 360° instrumentation, intact leadership team development, and key talent development. Kyle’s previous roles have included Learning and Development Consultant, Senior Leadership and Team Development Consultant, and Organizational Development Manager at Andersen/Accenture.

Leadership isn’t just about titles or corner offices; it’s all about influence, relationships, and the conversations we have. Today, we’re diving deep into the world of leadership with our guest, Kyle Courtaway, a leadership development consultant who’s all about demystifying what it means to lead effectively. We’ll break down how your ability to connect with others and engage in meaningful dialogue can shape your leadership style and ultimately, your success. It’s like a truth bomb—once you realize that leadership is less about authority and more about building rapport, everything clicks into place. Buckle up as we explore how to build those vital relationships and have the tough conversations that can elevate your leadership game to another level!

Leadership isn't just about being in charge; it's all about influence—and that influence is built through the relationships we cultivate and the conversations we have. We dove deep into this topic with Kyle Courtaway, a seasoned leadership development consultant, who shared his journey from a confused college grad to a knowledgeable leader in organizational development. Kyle brought up some heavy-hitting concepts, like how many new leaders are thrown into the deep end without the necessary tools to swim. He emphasized that leadership is often misunderstood as a solo endeavor, when in reality, it's a team sport. During our chat, we discussed how leaders often need to unlearn old habits and pick up new ones that are more suited for their roles. Kyle also touched on the importance of having a shared vocabulary in leadership—because let's face it, everyone uses the same buzzwords but means totally different things. It’s crucial for leaders to have that precise understanding so they can truly connect and lead effectively.

We had a laugh talking about the absurdity of being promoted to lead a team just because someone is good at their job. It’s like saying, “Congrats on being a great accountant! Now, go manage a bunch of people!” This transition often leads to a lot of confusion and, frankly, a few performance improvement plans down the line. Kyle's insights on how to avoid that pitfall were golden. He explained that successful leadership requires ongoing conversations and building relationships, emphasizing that many leaders feel isolated and unsupported as they navigate their new responsibilities.

In a nutshell, if you’re stepping up to lead, you better be ready to build some serious connections and have some real conversations. We wrapped up our deep dive with some practical advice for current leaders: seek clarity in your conversations, be intentional about your relationships, and don’t be afraid to ask questions. Because at the end of the day, leadership is not just about the position; it’s about the people you influence along the way. Tune in for a whole heap of wisdom and a few laughs along the journey of leadership growth!

Takeaways:

• Leadership isn't just about making decisions; it's about building relationships and having conversations that influence others.
• Understanding your leadership style requires knowing the key partners you work with and the conversations that matter.
• Successful leaders learn to adapt and unlearn behaviors that no longer serve them in their new roles.
• Creating a supportive environment for leaders to share experiences reduces feelings of isolation and fosters peer learning opportunities.
• Effective leadership development emphasizes experiential learning, helping leaders connect with others while enhancing their relational skills.
• A metacognitive framework can help leaders reflect on their thinking, improving their decision-making and communication skills.

Links for today's show:

• Kyle's Linked In Page
• Ninth Edge's company website
• Kent's Linked In Page
• Promoted Leader Playbook

**Music for this podcast comes from the song Needle & Thread and is provided with permission by Pert' Near Sandstone. Check them out on PertNeaerSandstone.com and on all major streaming platforms.**

*Editing by Fynn Gentle / www.fynngentle.com