What Others Think of You is None of Your Business

The Mind Takeaway Podcast

"People will always say things about you, regardless of how good a job you're doing".

In this Micro Episode, we explore What Others Think of You is None of Your Business.

Timestamps and Takeaways

01:01 We can often create stories about what others think about us, which is a common trap for leaders.

02:06 The best thing you can do is approach things with integrity, transparency, and honesty, plus not worry about trying to control what others think of you.

02:57 Think of this way: the version others create in their minds about you is not your responsibility.

03:33 Everyone is only as good as where they are at in terms of their own awareness, and we all have a different version of what we see as reality.

04:22 The common trap of trying to control the version of yourself that others experience and people will still think what they think regardless of what you do to change it.

04:52 The warning signs to look out for are: Talking yourself out of the things you would like to do, avoiding people because of what you think they think of you, and damaging relationships based not on facts but on assumptions.

06:15 People tend to talk about others when they come from feeling like they are not enough; they are fearful and feel uncomfortable being themselves.

07:29 If you show up and own what you do and are happy with your impact as a leader, that's all that matters.

08:00 If you get fearful and uncomfortable, that might be a sign to put the breaks on and notice those feelings, plus ask yourself, is that really true?

08:10 Get into dialogue with your team, and the more you do that, the fewer assumptions are made and the more trust you can build, which fosters psychological safety.

10:12 Mira shares how developing compassion towards herself gave her an awareness of the stories we often tell ourselves that is just not true.