51 - The Real Reason You Get Angry

Anger Management

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When anger flares up, it can feel like something other people cause — a disrespectful comment, a traffic jam, a partner’s forgetfulness. But what if the real reason you get angry isn’t out there, but within you?

In this revealing episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs, with help from AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, unpacks a powerful truth: your thoughts create your anger — and that means you can change it.

If you're ready to reclaim your calm and control your reactions, this episode shows you how.

Key Takeaways:

-Anger begins with your thoughts: It’s not the event, but how you interpret it — your story about what’s happening — that creates anger.

-Your reactions aren’t set in stone: Even deeply ingrained patterns of anger can be rewired through conscious awareness and consistent practice.

-The power lies in the pause: Noticing the thought before reacting gives you the chance to choose a calmer, more helpful response.

-Blame is easy — change is transformational: Shifting from “they made me angry” to “I created this feeling” is the first step toward real emotional freedom.

-You’re not powerless: You can train your mind to respond differently, build stronger relationships, and feel more in control of your emotions.

-Small steps lead to big change: Catch one thought, question one reaction, practice one pause — and you’re already breaking the cycle.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking The Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System