Advice I Wish I Told Myself

The Momentum Marketing Podcast

This is the advice that I give to my son that I wish I would give to myself. Plus an absolutely life changing mom hack that you don't wanna miss.

Hey, there, I'm Jillian Kendrick and welcome to the Momentum Marketing Podcast. I'm a mama, a wife, an entrepreneur and a three time best selling co-author. In each episode you'll get real world practical advice and strategies and maybe a parenting tip or two along the way. If you're ready to create a business that supports your family and your lifestyle, then you're in the right place.

Hey, it's Jillian and I'm so glad to have you. I have been thinking so much about this episode of the Momentum Marketing Podcast. I'm glad that you're with me. And this episode has actually been a long time coming. It's been something that I've been thinking about for a while and every time it pops up in my parenting life or in my personal life, there's that little reminder of “Oh, yeah, I need to talk about that. We need to discuss that. Ok. All right. Thanks for the hint universe. I get it now God.” And I am so excited to be here with you today before we dive in.

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Back to the topic at hand. We are talking about all of the advice that I consistently give my son that I now I'm going to give myself. My son just turned four. He actually as of this recording, he just turned four a few days ago. So we're super excited. We now have a four year old in the house, which comes with its own amazing challenges. We've been doing a lot of extra potty training. He's been doing a really good job. We're still working on a few things and he will still sit on the potty and be like I can't do it. No, I don't like this. I don't want to, I can't do it. I can't do it. And of course, not only being his mom but being an entrepreneur, being a go-getter, being the kind of person that has had to pave my own way through most of my life anyway, he and I, as of late have had a lot of conversations about what he can do, his ability, what fear means. And I try really hard not to talk to him like he's a four year old. I try not to dumb things down. Sometimes I will say stuff but use maybe simpler words or I'll use a word or two. But I do try to just talk to him intelligently and even if it flies a bit over his head, even if he doesn't understand all of it, I still talk to him as if he can fully understand me, because one day he will. And so when he has these moments where he's like, no, I'm afraid I don't like it. I'm scared. I can't do it. We talk a lot about perseverance. We talk a lot about overcoming fear. We talk a lot about the fact that at least for us in our family and our belief is that God doesn't put fear into our hearts. That's an outward worldly sort of thing. So we talk a lot about that.

We talk about doing things in the face of fear in spite of the way that you feel about it, we even talk at length about not liking something and doing it anyway, that not liking it is not an excuse to not do it. And yes, it would be very easy and sometimes it is easy for me as the mom of a four year old to say, ok, you know what buddy? It's, it's been a long day. I know this has been hard for you. Like it's ok. And sometimes I do, like I let him kind of get off easy or sometimes I say, ok, I've driven this home enough. I've pushed hard enough like we could take a break. It's ok.

But my belief is that if I'm going to be a good mom and if I'm going to prepare him for, not only how to live and exist in our home, but how to live and exist within the world, there are opportunities for me to take those lessons and teach him things that yes are way beyond what a four year old could, would like really, truly viscerally comprehend.

But I believe in doing it and giving him that gift so that when it comes time that he does understand. When it comes time that things get a whole lot harder than sitting on the potty. It won't be the first time that he hears me say it. And sure, I don't remember a whole lot from when I was four years old either. But I do remember how my parents made me feel. So I might not remember their words, but I remember that feeling that stuck with me. And then as we get older, we attach those feelings to words. And then as we get older, they embed into who we are as humans. And the lessons that we learn when we're tiny are what prepares us for moving forward. So how does this all tie into entrepreneurship? Great question. I think it's cyclical. I think that the fear, I feel, the nervousness, the anxiousness, the excitement, the dread, or even the procrastination that I feel or that I impose on myself in moments when I'm afraid or in moments that I'm not quite sure where to go or what decision to make in those moments, I revert back to the feeling that I had or the lesson that I learned or the coping mechanism that I developed as a kid to deal with this.

And now I'm not smart or bright enough to tell you exactly what that is. I'm still figuring that out on my own, but I can tell you that every time I revert every time I go back to, oh man, I don't know if I can do this. I'm really afraid and I have those moments or not often, but I definitely have them. We all do. Anyone who's successful goes through that on a regular basis when you get to that moment of chaos where you're lacking clarity and indecision sets in, there is a very primal thing that happens in our brain and in our body where we revert back to either the coping mechanism or the mental process that we learned as children on how to deal with this thing on how to move forward. And so if you did not learn a great coping mechanism or a great way to handle stress, a great way to figure out your indecision or a healthy way to accept and then overcome fear, it will consume you and you'll be left in the chaos, left in the indecision, left wondering why you can't accomplish your dreams.

So, yes, my son is only four years old. Yes, I am speaking to him in ways that he doesn't quite understand yet. But what I believe I'm teaching him to the best of my ability as an imperfect, broken, yet optimistic human being is that I want to teach him better coping mechanisms than I had. Better ways to deal with. The things that he doesn't want to do. The things that he's afraid of. The things that he doesn't know how to do and to teach him a way to cope and process and deal with those things. So that when he gets to the point and he gets to the age that he understands, it's not the first time I've told him that. And so that when he gets beyond this house, whether it's school, college professional life. I don't care if he becomes an entrepreneur or not. What I care about is that whatever it is that he wants to pursue in his life, he has the tools to not let his fear, anxiety or overwhelm cripple him from doing that thing. So we talk through a lot of well bud. I'm sorry that you don't like it. But sometimes in life we have to do things that we don't like or the best way to deal with something that you don't like doing or that you don't want to do is to just do it and get it over with. Like every time he fights me on trying to take medicine, just do it, just do it and get it over with because the more we fight and push back and fuss, the longer we are postponing the thing that we're dreading. And so if you just do it and get it over with, wash your hands of it, it's done. Sometimes that works. Sometimes it doesn't, I'll be honest, but it's no different parenting and entrepreneurship. They're really, really truly no different. Other times he and I talk about, he says, well, I can't do it. And I say, yeah, you're right. If you believe that you can't, you're absolutely right. You can’t. But you can try, we can give it a chance and then we celebrate that attempt, even if the outcome isn't the success that we were looking for in the first place. We're still celebrating his attempts. We're not saying “Oh, well, you tried and you didn't quite make it on the potty. And that's ok.” No, we're still celebrating every single attempt is the one thing I know to be absolutely true about entrepreneurship is that it is a game of iteration. You build a funnel, you have to tweak the funnel. You hire a team, you iterate on those positions or those people, you go down one path, well, that didn't work. Ok. Now, we need to pivot and its, the same thing for parenting. Parenting is the perseverance in iteration. It is. Well, I tried this with my child. Ok. That didn't work. We're gonna change our habits. We're gonna try something different. Oh, ok that worked. And what worked today might not work tomorrow or next week. So then we're gonna try something different. It is a marathon of inches and centimeters sometimes. But they're both the same. They're both exactly, exactly the same.

If you’re listening to this and you still have a kiddo that is either in diapers or you are still using a diaper genie, here’s my, absolutely life changing mom hack for you. I think I might have told this on a previous episode. But, it keeps popping up in my life. So, if you have a diaper genie, you know that those things are just, they're kind of a necessary evil and all of them smell no matter which one you get, if you get like the twisty one or you get the regular bag or this or that, like they all smell. And the one product, the only one product that I have found that actually combats that smell and helps a lot is the, and this is not an affiliate link, although it should be, maybe I should put that in. Arm & Hammer scent booster beads. You know those, scent boosters that you can throw into your laundry. They're probably terrible for your laundry machine. I have no idea, but I don't use them in our laundry. What I do is every time we change out a new bag in the diaper genie or every time we throw a new diaper into the diaper genie, we toss a few of those beads in as well. Just like a little, maybe a quarter cup or so, maybe less, just depending on how bad it is.

And I've tried other ones. I've tried some of the other brands, The Gain and the few others. But I have found that the Arm & Hammer with the baking soda. Absolutely. I prefer the crisp clean scent, but you can use whatever you want. Just make sure that it is baking soda in it. And as always, I would love to hear from you if you have any insight whatsoever. If you think that entrepreneurship and parenthood are exactly the same like I do I would love to hear from you. Email me [e-mail] and let's start a conversation.

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