Navigating Dating & Relationships When Your Sexuality or Gender is in Flux

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Are you wondering, "Do I have to tell my date that I'm queer or trans?" or "Should I tell my partner if I'm questioning my gender or sexuality?" In this episode, we dive into the fluidity of gender and sexuality in relationships with our special guest, Nicole Penrod (she/they). Nicole, an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, dating coach, and couples counselor on our team at the Relationship Center, shares their expertise in navigating these deeply personal topics.

We begin by addressing the crucial question of when and how to disclose your queer or trans identity in dating scenarios. Nicole provides thoughtful insights into the factors to consider, emphasizing personal safety and authenticity. Whether you are settled in your identity or using dating as a space to explore, this episode offers guidance on approaching disclosure in a way that feels right for you.

Moving into established relationships, we discuss the importance of sharing shifts in your gender or sexual identity with your partner. Nicole highlights the necessity of open communication and the potential pros and cons of hiding such significant aspects of yourself. We explore strategies for discussing these changes, maintaining trust, and fostering an environment of mutual support and understanding in an intimate relationship.

Nicole also covers practical ways to explore your sexuality or gender within a relationship. From engaging with community resources and media to journaling exercises and considering ethical non-monogamy, they offer a variety of tools to help you navigate your journey.

By the end of this episode, you'll understand how to handle sensitive discussions when your gender or sexuality is in flux. Nicole offers invaluable insights to help you develop the confidence to embrace your true self in your relationships.

Key Takeaways

00:00 - Intro

02:54 - Do I have to tell my date that I'm queer or trans?

26:34 - Should I tell my partner if I'm trans or queer?

43:21 - How do I explore my sexuality or gender in a relationship?

Resources and links

For full show notes with links, visit relationshipcenter.com/podcast

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Gender Stories podcast

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