Dream Killers ...And What To Do About Them

Lovin' Myself More

1. Dreams Are Made In Secret

Dreams are meant to be a place of joy, fun, and excitement! But be wary there are dream killers at hand.

Dream killers, dream stealers, dream kidnappers, or whatever you want to call them, they exist and it is a big thing. There are individuals that try to take what's in you and destroy it, whether this be knowing or unknowing, it doesn't matter. You still have that dream and dreaming is just the beginning.

The vision is what you envision. It's in you wanting to come out and live and breathe It's what you imagined could be possible. Then you branch off into the visionary stage where you actually might journal it, or ask yourself how could it work. You might even put it on sticky notes and then comes the implementation. And then it manifested.

If you say stuck in just dreaming and imagination, you will get absolutely nowhere. This is why I am convinced that babies are made in secret because a baby has to be protected in that fragile state. You don't even get to know everything that's happing. Especially in the early months, you have no idea unless a woman tells you she is having a baby.

It's all working itself together, knitting itself together. It's doing something all the time. And then at the end, you are holding that precious life. And that's what our dreams and our imaginations are. They are precious.

Our dreams have to grow from dream to imagination from visualization to manifestation. That's how this works and then guess what? After it's manifested, you get to take care of it. It doesn't just end by just getting to the manifestation. But if you cannot get past the dream stage, you won't get to the other stages.

2. Be Careful About Who You Tell Your Dreams To

So I was talking to a friend the other day and she has, we'll say shared her dream. My friend in sharing her dream in this conversation with someone else felt more like she was being interrogated rather than celebrated. These questions were a sure sign that they didn't really get the vision.

When you're telling someone your dream and you're excited it's okay for people to ask questions, but when it becomes an interrogation that is when you need to change the subject. The lack of their faith, their confidence, their worth and value, or if they're jealous or whatever is not your problem.

So be careful and mindful when it's time to share your dream and who you share it with. You don't know really how far they believe in you or their thought process. Just because you've been hanging around this person for two months doesn't mean you should lay out your whole life dream of changing the world or becoming a clothing designer or creating something out of nothing. They are not ready for it.

3. Protect Your Dreams, Don't Defend Them

Protect the dream. Don't defend it. What's the difference? You might say isn't protecting and defending the same? You don't have to be defensive or defend it by thinking you have to prove to someone else that this dream or vision is valid. Your responsibility is to protect what you have.

Please keep it safe while it's growing, while you are nurturing it. Nobody has to give you a list of things that make you feel good about your dream. It's your dream. You protect the dream.

4. Look For The Healthy Supporters

Healthy supporters are excited. They are happy. They will promote you without you asking. Their excitement for you will even wake up their dreams. They will push you and become inspired. You're dealing with a healthy person, but if you are dealing with a hurting person the results will not be the same.

They will feel like who are you to do this or why can't they do it and not you. that. These people need healing. So listen that's why I'm talking to you about your dreams because I don't want you to turn into those people.

5. Do Not Doubt Yourself Or Your Dreams

Woulda, coulda people. I want you to be whole, complete, and happy. I want you to be at peace. Okay. We're going on to number three. Do not doubt yourself. And you're saying, well, Denise, how in the world? Can I not doubt myself? Well, I don't have the education or, you know, I'm not smart enough in that area, or nobody's really going to believe that I'm doing this, or they're going to say, who am I to think of this?

You're going to have thoughts of doubt because that's just what happens with our brain. It's always trying to keep us from moving too far, too fast to something that it thinks is dangerous. Just tell your little stuff. All is fine. All is well, I'm willing to take the risk. I'm willing to take the risk to believe in myself, to believe in my dreams, to believe in my abilities, even if I'm not sure what those abilities are, even if I don't have clarity. I'm willing to move forward.

You need your strength and you need your joy. No second-guessing yourself. And the only way to find out if it's going to work is to get out there and do it. Do it the best way that you can because success, as we know is not a straight line, it is not the perfect Instagram feed.

It is not all the best, this and the best that. It is you trying and eventually bringing the dream through the stages to get the end result of holding the manifestation in your hand.

6. Starting Something New

When we step out to do something new. When we step out to move toward the dream and someone, as we mentioned earlier, interrogates us or attacks the dream. Which may cause us to doubt ourselves. You can't go into a hole and pull away because your feelings were hurt.

Let me tell you something, you start out on something new, you have those wonderful supportive people, maybe family, maybe not, maybe friends, maybe not, but wherever you're getting that support from you are ready to go and you're pumped and trust. And do, believe me, somebody is going to come with their little silly pen and pop your balloon because of whatever they're going through.

That can cause you to pull back and say, well, you know what? I'm not dealing with people anymore. I think I will forget the dream. I'm just going to close the journal. It's okay. It's not really that important. I can keep going the way I'm going, but you can't. That's why the dream keeps coming up. That's why the desire keeps coming up.

7. Don't Go Into The Hole

Don't go to a place where you don't talk to people. You can pull away from situations and go into a hole, but what good does that do you?

You could meet the next connection that will move the dream forward. So disappointments will come. Obstacles will come and you will feel you should be moving faster than you are. And you're like, oh my God, everybody is ahead. You just keep moving.

This is your dream. This is your life. Nobody else gets to live this life for you. You are living your own life. I'm pretty passionate about this because I see us as walking around here doing everything for everybody else, and we do not fulfill the things that we need to fulfill in our lives.

So I just want to leave this with you. Watch out for the dream killers. I want to see you dream. I want to see you imagine, I want to see you materialize the things that are within you, your purpose.

Resources That May Help

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