How To Make Your Relationships More FUN | Tom Bilyeu and Lisa Bilyeu

Relationship Theory

In a healthy relationship communication is literally everything. When you are in pain, frustrated, excited, pissed or anxious, it’s a beautiful thing to be able to speak with your partner about anything and everything. However, there is a line and capacity you don’t want to abuse. If the majority of your conversations and interactions are negative, extra needy, or filled with complaints about everything, there are two things you should be aware of. Tom and Lisa explain why having healthy friendships outside of the relationship or marriage can be beneficial, and why it’s important that you check yourself on the negative chatter. There is no one around, not even yourself that would want to take part in a friendship or relationship where 80% of the conversations are filled with negativity. Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships. SHOW NOTES: Value of Friends | Tom on why friendships are valuable but not a necessity in relationship [0:44] Being Needy | If there’s lots of emotional needs spread it out and making effort to soothe [1:13] Negative Space | Why spending majority relationship time in negativity is a losing strategy [3:09] Do The Work | You need to do the work, focus on fixing the negativity issue an bring joy [3:51] QUOTES: “If you're spending the majority of our relationship time in a negative space [...] it's a bad fucking strategy.” Tom Bilyeu [3:10] “Find people because that shit is fun. It shouldn't be because you just focus in a negative place and your partner's like burning out.” Tom Bilyeu [5:07]