Speaking Love’s Language (LD 43; 1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

Reformed & Expository Preaching

The Ninth Commandment and the Weight of Truth

The Ninth Commandment warns against lying, gossip, slander, and twisting words. Though people often treat dishonesty as a "small sin," Scripture consistently elevates truthfulness as central to Christian love and faithfulness. The catechism emphasizes that deceptive speech is rooted in arrogance, as it often aims at putting our reputation above other people’s reputations. Bearing false witness damages community life and is contrary to God’s own nature, as God is truth.

Love as Humility, Not Arrogance

Paul’s teaching in 1 Corinthians 12–13 shows that love is not about boasting or puffing oneself up, but it is about building up the body of Christ. True love is humble, refusing to twist words, gossip, or slander to make others look bad. Instead, humility in love means choosing patience, forgiveness, and discernment within the community. Even when wronged, the Christian posture is not to keep a record of grievances to hold against people, but to act with wisdom and charitable assumptions.

Love as Moral Integrity and Faithfulness

Paul stresses that love is not rude, self-seeking, irritable, or resentful. Instead, it bears patiently, covers minor faults, and releases people from grudges. This does not excuse ongoing abuse or sin but calls for wise forgiveness that discerns repentance and its fruit. The mature Christian seeks to honor Christ first, not themselves, persevering in community life with endurance and selflessness even when relationships or personalities are difficult. Love thus reflects God’s character by pursuing what is righteous before the Lord rather than insisting on one’s own way.

Love and Truth as the Heart of Christian Witness

Ultimately, love and truth are inseparably linked. Love rejoices in truth and despises injustice or falsehood. Believers are called to speak honestly, silently overlook petty offenses, and work to build trust and hope in the community. This spirit informed love endures trials, points to the eternal reality of God’s kingdom, and reflects the very nature of God, who is identified as both love and truth. Manifesting this kind of love shows the world what it means to live as light in darkness, glorifying Christ in humility and sincerity. This is the challenge and the blessing of walking in the Spirit. We have this blessing only by Christ’s merits.